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How to learn from a former relationship
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Hi Carolyn:
My question is in rrference to
breaking up on a healthy and
positive note in order to be able
to grow and learn from a former
relationship. OK, I've managed
to do that (well, er, Tm trying)...
but he completely has not. I
broke it off for good, then we
saw each other at a mutual
friend's party less than a week
after. I ended our break-up conversation by saying to him.
"Take care, beat of luck and I
wish you well." His response:
"111 try." Anyway, at the party he
was as sweet as blueberry pie to
my (not mutual) friends, offering to help one of them move
into her new house, complimenting another on how nice
she looks, etc. (He never complimented me while we were dating.) Although I realize these
are very nice gestures. I am
angry because he was downright rude to me. What are your
thoughts?
-Virginia
Before we get into his
motives, how about we tackle
those pesky life toxins of yours
with tai chi, a shot of wheatgrass juice, some gently
TELL ME
ABOUT IT
CAROLYN HAX
strummed zither music?
You just dumped him. l think
it's safe to assume that his
motives for any bizarre or
unpleasant behavior are to hiul
you back because you just
dumped him.
Your decision to be civil and
bloom and grow was yours to
make, and of course it's always
the right one. But it stops being
right the minute it crosses over
into your deciding how he's supposed to behave. He's wounded.
He's taking it like an ill-tempered juvenile. Pocket a lesson
in grace: Let it go.
Dear Carolyn:
I've been dating a woman for
about eight months whom I
think I could spend my life with.
The issue is that she not only
comes from a bunch of money,
but she lives a very lavish
lifestyle — lots of parties, vacations, etc. I work really hard just
to pay my bills and enjoy my
simple, quiet life.
I don't know how to tell her
without hurting her feelings
that I dont want to do (and cant
afford!) all those things. In her
last relationship, the man was
very jealous of her friends. Vm
not. I just want to pay my rent
and have time alone with her.
—Broke and In Love
Unless your \^sa bill is
amonohth and your poker face
Mount Rushmorian, I think the
issue might be that an ei^lmonth socialite sweetie hasnt
clued in that she's dating a
financially challenged homebody. Time to cut off the champagne.
Why dont you ask her how
she feels? Surely your differences have presented themselves in the normal course of
things — say, when she's at
swell parties solo and jetting
spa-ward without you. She
might love you because of your
quieter traits. Stop feeling inferior. Besides, if you cant be honest with each other about what
you want — what you dream
about and will settle for — forget the rest of your life. Forget
the rest of the month.
Before you ask her, thouВЈ^,
• Ask children to make lists
of their wishes based on priority. For older children, ask
them to create a wish list
based on budgetary limitations.
"Do you remember what
holiday gifts you received last
year," Kidwell asks. "If you're
For such a small word,
"should" bears a whole lot of
freight Your boyfriend should
punt this friend. The maUdous,
parasitic friend should suffer
the consequences of his actions.
Your boyfriend should have
more respect fin- you. You should
walk if your boyfnend wont
show you that respect Those
are the perfect-world shoulds.
Now the real-world shoulds: Old
friends should look the other
way when one of their ranks
indulges old quirks, sometimes
even malicious and parasitic
ones. These ancient group relationships are compUcated, and
few would survive without a lot
of looking the other way.
As his victim, you should feel
free to have nothing to do with
him.
As the girlfriend, you should
be outraged that your boyfriend
even initially believed the
rumors from his known-liar
friend. That one, I'm not sure Td
get past.
Write to "Tkll Me About It,"
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Survive holidays witliout going broke
"Balancing family, financial
and other demands during the
holidays can snowball into big
stress," said Mike Kidwell,
vice president and co-founder
of Myvesta.org, a non-profit
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problems, Myvesta.org is offering a free publication called
"Survive the Holidays Without
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"The common trap people
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iyiyvesta.org survey found that
holiday shoppers will spend
$1,220 this year, up ,45% from
last year's $841.
""There are four major categories that explain overspending: guilt, competitiveness, hving out childhood fantasies
through our children and compensating for a previous emotional injury. There are ways
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Kidwell suggests:
• Think of the holidays as a
season, rather than a build up
to a single event that ends
with lots of presents.
• Have your family sit
d6wn and agree on the kind of
holiday experience everyone
wants.
be relentlessly blunt with yourself. Will spending time alone
with her on a compromise
schedule — say, a couple or few
days a week — be enou^ for
you? She is who she is, and that
has to guide what you expect.
DearCandyn:
My boyfriend of six years has
a friend who was spreading
rumors that I was sleeping
around. Fve been faithful, and
my boyfriend now knows that
this guy was lying.
My problem is I dont want to
be in the company of this socalled friend, but my boyfriend
and all his friends say I should
just forget about it because they
all know how their friend lies
about eveiything. Well, I dont
think I should foi^t about it
-RJUP.
like most people you don't, but
you do remember where you
were and who you were with.
Keep that in mind as you
make plans and shopping Lists
for this holiday season."
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of the free publication at
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his entire power source and it
woiirad great for him. I just
plugged mine into the dgaiette
receptacle. I did have alligator
clips to use to hook up directly
to a battery but I was only trying it out with a small load. If
you are thinking about an auxiliary power source for any
recreational activity, look into
inverters.
Dont expect to run laige
appliances or heaters on one of
the pocket inverters but for
small stuff they are worth the
reasonable price. Mine will
handle 300 watts and has a
safety shutroflF if the battery
goes below a certain level. It
cost me around $40 on sale at a
local tool warehouse.
I do wish everyone a very
happy holiday. Make a few
calls to fi-iends this week and
wish them a happy holiday
and suggest they plan on a day
this next year to have some
fun on the lake. Then mark
your calendar and give them a
call.
Until next time...keep your
bilge dry.
stores are fiill of bargains and I
have already put in my wish to
Santa for an auxiliary power
station. I crossed ofif Uie GPS
receiver If I ever do get lost I
will just call my friend Frank
Beers on my marine radio. He
is always on the lake and I am
Bvre he will find me and lead
me back to shore. (Hope he
reads this column).
One item I saw I might
decide I just can't do without is
a hand-held depth finder. It
looks just like a flashlight and
according to the instructions
you just put the &t)nt end into
the water and a lighted display
shows the depth. It's not too
practical for larger rigs that sit
more than an arm's length fix)m
the surface of the water, but
convenient if you have a dingy
or small fishing boat. Just toss
it in your tackle box. Hununm
... where is my pencil and that
Santa list?
I did try out my inverter
during the boat parade and it
worked perfectly I used it for
the star on my radio antenna
and for a spotlight inside the
boat to illuminate Woodsy Owl
and my crew. Found out
Henderson skipper
Steve
Metcalfe used am inverter for
Eicher, a long-time valley residenl, considefs himself a part-time boater
and fisherman. His e-mail address is
[email protected]
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Under the current plan,
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wildfires in the low desert to
wild land fire use in specific
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one time.
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on boats.
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I had also received my annumoney is being spent that is
al lake use form the first week
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of this month and sent that
a part-time boater like myself
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could see a lot of things that
Golden Age Passport number I
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everything going smoothly.
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The number of the Fee
your boat.
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but it is easier for me to underbe made in a courteous manstand the word left. Anyway
ner. If yaa-iiave complaints I
there will be instructions for
suggest writirig a letter.
each decal so read it carefully
As you read this, Christmas
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