ANGER MANAGEMENT
Hilary Rife
Roger Kapes
EDUC 631 Fall 2004
ANGER MANAGEMENT
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DEFINITION
STATISTICS
TEACHER (PowerPoint)
STUDENT (PowerPoint)
VIDEO for Students
SUPPORT AVAILABLE
RESOURCES
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~ STATISTICS ~
5.5% of the Nation’s Elementary Teachers
were attacked by students!
(U.S. Dept of Education 1999-2000 school year)
10% of the Nation’s Elementary
Expulsions were for bringing firearms
to school
(U.S. Dept of Education 1998-1999 School Year)
Source: http://www.nccev.org/violence/statistics/statistics-schools.html
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Anger management does not
involve getting rid of all anger,
but using anger to enhance your
life. We can look at the purposes
of anger in both a positive and
negative light.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85
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The positive aspects of anger
are that you have increased
energy, are able to communicate
your feelings, able to problem
solve and can take charge of the
situation.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85
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The negative aspects of anger
are that you can have disruption
of your thinking, unnecessarily
defend yourself, become
aggressive and become known
as an angry person.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85
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Anger management would be
seen then as increasing the
positive aspects or functions of
anger and decreasing the
negative functions of anger.
http://www.anger-management.net/question_show.cfm?selected=85
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So now,,, you have a student
that is displaying a lot of
ANGER! Now What do you do?
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Skills needed in dealing with your anger:
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Identify a range of feelings including anger
Identify aggressive acts by self and others
Identify the potential consequences to self and others
from these aggressive acts
Identify self-destructive behavior
Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts
Identify internal cues to feelings of anger
Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger
Express anger without loss of control
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• Identify a range of • Embarrassment
feelings including • Excitement
anger:
• Disappointment
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Jealousy
Fear
Helpless
Sadness
Left-out
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• I am in charge
of my own
feelings:
1. I own my feelings.
2. It is okay to feel angry.
3. Anger is part of being human.
4. I learn how to express my
anger in helpful ways.
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• Identify
aggressive acts
shown by self
and others:
• Throw something
• Kick someone or
something
• Get in someone’s face
• Shoving, grabbing, hitting
• Break something
• Call someone names
• Give someone a dirty
look
• Silent treatment
• Get others to “gang up”
• Spread rumors
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• I choose to feel
good about
myself through
expressing my
feelings.
1. I express angry feelings in ways
that are fair to others and me.
2. I use fair words…e.g.
“I feel when you”
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• The more I learn to
take care of my
anger the more
powerful I become.
1. I need to control what I do
with my anger.
2. I control how I let my anger
out.
3. I practice cooling off.
4. I watch my thoughts.
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• Know the difference between ANGER
and AGGRESSION.
• Anger is an emotion. It is ok to be angry.
• Aggression is acting out inappropriately
and is not ok. Learn to check your
aggression and express your anger
appropriately.
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• Ways to Keep Cool:
Get exercise every day.
Eat right.
Get enough sleep.
Learn to relax.
Know your feelings.
Write about those feelings.
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• Ways to Keep Cool:
Find a quiet place.
Take a time out.
Find fun distractions.
Make good decisions about what you see and
hear.
Choose friends who make you feel good.
Learn to forgive and forget.
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• Identify potential
consequences of
your anger to
others and
yourself…what
can that mean for
you?
• Physical harm to
someone or self
• Destruction of property
• Loss of family/friends
• Loss of job
• Loss of social privileges
• Going to jail
• Getting a bad reputation
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• Identify selfdestructive
behavior…How
does that help or
hurt you?
• Negative self-talk
• Blaming everyone else
• Taking everything
personally
• Assuming
• Overeating, drinking
• Driving recklessly
• Taking drugs
• Looking for fights
• Feeling outraged
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• I stop blaming
others and
myself.
1. Blaming only keeps
people upset.
2. Blaming is a way of not
respecting people.
3. I express my feelings
and then try to work
things out.
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• Identify thoughts
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aggressive acts:
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You did that on purpose…
You wanted to hurt me…
You deserve this…
You never even asked me…
You’re being unreasonable…
You think you’re so good…
I’ll show you…
You started it…
There’s no justice…
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• Identify internal
cues to feelings
of anger:
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Stomach gets tight/upset
Heart is beating faster
Clenching fists
Feel myself getting
flushed
• Pressure on my temples
• Sweaty palms
• Clenched jaw
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• I don’t have to
hold on to my
anger.
1. I find ways to let it go
2. I talk about hurt and
angry feelings.
3. I look for someone to
discuss my anger.
4. I discuss my words and
actions that hurt others.
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• Steps to taming
anger
1. Know what pushes your
buttons.
2. Know your body’s anger
signs.
3. Stop and think!
4. Cage your rage…it’s your
choice.
5. Decide what to do.
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• I take power.
1. I stand up for myself and
others being hurt.
2. I learn to defeat negative
self-talk.
3. I feel good about
learning about myself.
4. I am strong when I use
fair and firm words
instead of fists.
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• I remember that
people are
precious.
1. I watch my thoughts, words,
and actions.
2. I stop hurting people with my
words and actions.
3. I take ownership of the
hurtful things I do and say.
4. “Bullying” hurts everyone.
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Calm down
Name the problem
Find solutions
Pick the best
solution
5. Congratulate
yourself
6. Evaluate the
solution
7. Make changes if
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• Can you identify any of the steps in
resolving conflict, controlling your
anger and avoiding aggressive
behavior?
• Well…(then click)
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Calm down
Show mutual respect
Name the problem
Find solutions
Choose the best solution
Congratulate yourself
Review the solution that was picked
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Now that YOU understand
the mechanics of Anger
Management,,, How Does
this relate to YOUR Students
in Elementary School?
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When you are ANGRY and UPSET
remember…
1-2-3 TURTLE
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1 – Go inside your shell
• THINK before you ACT
• Take a “Time Out”
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2 – Take 3 Deep Breaths
• Time to RELAX
• Calm yourself down
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3 – Walk Away
• Think of a good solution
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Good solutions other kids
have used
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Tell a teacher or an adult
Talk it out
Ask for advice
Be honest about
your feelings
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VIDEO
Student Workshop
HANDLING YOUR ANGER
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SUPPORT
AVAILABLE
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
RESOURCES
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