FACING THE CHALLENGE AND KEEPING WELL:
Health & Wellbeing Conference for Heads and
Governors
Engaging the whole child
Engaging vulnerable parents
Quick wins to support EWMH in school
Governors’ commitment through financial support
The importance and status of EWMH in school
1. Thought Shower – what does an
emotionally well school look like?
2. Thought Shower – what can hinder
emotional wellbeing?
Weaving the Golden Thread…..
Shared
commitment….
staff, parents,
Governors
Fabric of the
school – ethos,
expectation, QFT
& inclusion.
Whole
Child
Whole
School
Breaking down
barriers….
going above &
beyond
Curriculum &
social demands
resilience in
children
What is Webster Stratton Behaviour Management?
“A ‘tool box’ of strategies to maintain a respectful,
positive environment.”
Say what we want to see……FIRM BUT FAIR
Thoughts
role models
EXPERIENCE
expectations
consistency
clarity
Feelings
relationships
Behaviour
Sir John Jones “The Magic Weaving Business”
• Commitment - physical, cognitive and
EMOTIONAL.
• Passion, wisdom – righteous indignation.
• A child said “When I'm with Mrs. X it's like
standing in front of a log fire in winter.”
• “The children who need me the most are the
ones who deserve it least”.
SPS – family support, mentors, learning conversations, sofa
time, open meetings, restorative, peer support – family words.
What matters most to children?
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greet me each day
smile at me
ask about me
really listen to me
arouse my interest
challenge my thinking
show me personal loyalty
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acknowledge feelings (I can see….) no chink no chinks
be consistent – firm but fair
presence
use language of choice
stick to the script (IBPs –shared)
Rewrite the following commands into clear, respectful statements…..
Shut up
Stop running
Why don’t you put that away?
What is your coat doing there?
Tidy up now or else…
Don’t push him
How many times have I told you…..
Why is your book still on your table?
Stop annoying …………
You are always the last one ready
Stop shouting out
Don’t whine
You are a pain
Stop dawdling
Be quiet
Why are you out of your seat?
Are you stupid?
Right you are staying in all playtime
Language use….
 proximity praise – spotlight
 descriptive commentary
 coaching – academic, social, emotional
 when, then statements ….. make good choices
 CLEAR, DIRECT, EXPECT ….trust & honesty
Financial Commitment
Where from?
• Grants – pupil premium (%), sports premium (all)
• Governor support from budget – hardship fund,
subsidy, life skills, experiences (ethos), full time
family support role, car
• PTA contributions – pantomime, trips, extras (all)
• “It’s not just about academic…that follows.” WHOLE CHILD
• “ Avoid tokenism or being patronising ……” TRUST
11 before 11 …. art, music, religion, travel, nature, theatre, sport
Financial Commitment
How?
 equality & openness
 without judgement
 outside academia – what are best memories on leaving???
 bargain to improve relationships
Happy parents…positive words…feeds to children…consistency.
Meet in the middle – give and take, open challenge.
Quick wins….
Sofa time…
Stay & play…
Assemblies…
Communication….texts, verbal
Listening ear….
Pupil voice….
Up to date website… photos,
information, homework, news,
messages.
Feedback…
Individual needs… decide together
Quotes….
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Going above and beyond.
Know problems will be sorted.
There’s no messing about.
Approachability.
It’s ok to ask for help…always a solution.
“An Oasis of Tender, Loving Care.”
(Safety, respect, learning)
Motto : Respect & Pride
Elevator Pitch……
What did you learn from
the conference today?
The time it takes the
elevator to reach your exit floor to
explain….
Put it on a post it……. first actions back
at school.
Never Give Up
Nick Vujicic