OBEDIENCE
vs
RESPONSIBILITY
Union Elementary
Kathy Sanders
Title I ILT
Jeanne & Johnny
Obedience
Responsible
Obedience vs.
Responsibility
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Obedience: the child is expected to do what
he/she is told.
The decision and motivation come from outside the
child.
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Responsibility: Involves the child’s acceptance of
the task and motivation for finishing the job.
Components of Responsibility
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Understanding a task
(Make sure you are clear in what is expected)
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Acceptance of the task
(need to be clear of if this is a choice)
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Ability to motivate
(needs to shift from external to internal)
3 Things Parents Can Do to Help
their Children become Responsible
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Teach your child the ability to make decisions
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Teach your child to problem solve
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Let them experience consequences
Responsible Students are
Self-Motivated
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Shift from External to Internal motivation
Introduce long term goals
Believe in the goal
Divide task into small steps
Help Your Child Develop Special Talents
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Dreams are motivating
Encourage your child to become self-disciplined
Encourage a talent but not force
Children 10 yrs. and younger need parents to help
them practice & study
Provide appropriate rewards
“The best predictor of personal and
professional success is the parents’ wisdom in
guiding the development of those talents.
Nurture Your Child’s Desire to Learn
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Create a Home with Standards
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Regular routines
Regular Conversations
Family Meetings
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Discuss values and solve problems
Share successes
You are the Model
Be a model learner
 Show your Child that Learning Can be Fun
 Stay Involved in Your Child’s School
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Habits of Highly Responsible Students!
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They set Goals!
They plan their time!
They study every day!
They are prepared! (Have tools they need)
They keep their commitments!
They are self-discipline!
The Secrets of Success
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5 Steps to Help Accomplish Nearly Anything
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1.Make a conscious decision to do something -- 25%
2. Decide when they will be done
--40%
3. Plan
--50%
4. Commit & tell Someone
--65%
5. Set a Goal (short- term)
--95%
Results of Conferences
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Identify an area that needs improvement!
See Handouts
21 Days
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Experts say that if we repeat an action every
day for just 21 days, it is likely to become
automatic!
I Can is More Important than IQ
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Visualize Success
Read About Successful People
Encourage to “do their best”
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THANK You for Coming!