Moving Through Shame,
Fear, and Regret
Ground Yourself in the Present
Until you fully accept where you are, you can’t
move forward.
Be Here Now! Actually feel all of the feelings that come
up for you. Often, our “stuckness” happens because we
are trying to avoid these feelings, so it’s important to just
let yourself feel them.
Remember, feelings are not wrong. They are what they
are.
When you feel them, you can get them up and out, which
leaves you with a greater sense of determination and
clarity.
“Yesterday is History, Tomorrow is a Mystery, Today is
a Gift that’s why they call it the present”
Create a Vision
Get super clear on the vision you see for yourself.
Take time out of your busy life and allow your thoughts
to be quiet. Give yourself time and allow the vision to
come into light.
Focus on this vision daily.
Focusing on your vision daily allows you to align your
thoughts and actions with that vision so every part of you
can work together for your best interest.
Make the Decision
Take a look at the path you are currently on.
Then, take a look at your vision. Honestly, where
do you want to go?
Make the decision to move towards your
vision no matter what. It all starts with a
decision. Know that you can handle whatever
the journey brings you.
Get Honest
Here you are, you’ve made the decision, and you know where you
are going. What are you scared of?
Do a free form writing exercise with “Fears” written across the top.
Get real honest about what you’re afraid of.
Now, destroy it! Release those fears: out through your body, onto
the paper, and into nothingness.
Let It Go!
The physical act of releasing your fears in this way creates room so
that you can be open to more opportunities
Make it Bigger than Yourself
When you have a mission beyond yourself,
every choice you make not only affects you, but
also affects those around you and closest to
you. Each step forward becomes a little bit
easier when you think of your bigger mission.
Find the Silver Lining
Everything that brought you to this moment, all of your past choices,
all of the “stuff” that embarrasses you or fills you with regret, molded
you to become your best self.
Trust your experiences. You don’t need to feel ashamed or regretful
because of them. Learning from them is what is the most important.
Get Support
Open up to those closest to you about your new
direction. Find others who are going through the
same thing to support and guide you.
You don’t have to do anything alone! Make this
easy for yourself and seek support in every way
possible.
We all feel fear, shame, and regret—and we can
all move past them to live lives of purpose.