Unlike other traits,
it’s not an action or attitude.
It’s a process.
What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it?
How do I cultivate it?
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A process of
the way we view
someone or something that has happened
WRONGDOING
REACTION OR RESULT
DECISION TO FORGIVE
FORGIVENESS REVISITED
AGAIN
AGAIN
What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it ?
How do I cultivate it?
What if I refuse to forgive?
Remain tied to past hurts
Frequent feelings of anger or hostility
Chronic depression or emotional pain
Unable to change or move on
What if I choose to forgive?
Freedom from resentment and anger
Reduced depression, anxiety, pain
Improved relationships
Psychological well-being _
What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it ?
How do I cultivate it?
Do I wait for him to ask for forgiveness?
Do I have to say the words “I forgive you”?
Indirect – an internal decision to let it go and
move on in the relationship
Direct – verbal and/or nonverbal statement of forgiveness,
a deliberate act of generosity toward the wrongdoer
Conditional – a mutual agreement to move on
if and only if the wrongdoer meets your demands
What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it ?
How do I cultivate it?
How did these people forgive?
The Amish community
The Rwandan woman
whose family was
murdered
Deborah, whose
husband cheated
on her
What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it ?
How do I cultivate it?
When do you forgive?
How do you forgive?
What do you say?
What do you do?
How do you act?
What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it ?
How do I cultivate it?
Acknowledge the common humanity in all of us
that leads us to act selfishly or make mistakes
We are all capable of offending others.
We are all capable of granting forgiveness.
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What is it?
What is the result?
How do I communicate it ?
How do I cultivate it?