Introduction to Mystery method
and pick-up techniques
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What is an pick-up artist (PUA)?
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Video from TV series: The Mentalist
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The book “The Game” (by Neil Strauss)
has revealed secrets of the PUA society.
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The man “Mystery”, the creator of social
dynamics theories, is the most famous
PUA worldwide.
Mystery’s M3 model
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Three stages: Attract, comfort, seduce
Each stage also has 3 sub-stages.
The biggest mistake: most people start
from comfort, which usually leads to
normal friendship.
Once you are in the “friends zone”, it is
difficult to switch to “lovers zone”.
Being like a slave is even worse. We only
fall in love with someone we respect.
To be a PUA, you need to attract someone
from the very beginning.
Some Myths
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Being nice/interesting/intelligent can attract
the one I like. (Your talents make you
attractive only after you become attractive.)
Men/women know what they want and they
will tell you about it.
If I do what he/she asks me to do, he/she
will love me.
Being honest means I should tell everything.
Is there a fair game?
Some Dilemmas
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Dilemma 1: If I am not sure whether I like
this person (because the only thing I know
is that he/she looks good), should I still
attract him/her from the beginning?
You need to find the answer for yourself
A real PUA is able to attract someone for a
long/short term relation, and only good
memories remain even if the relation dies.
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Dilemma 2: I have a high standard. Only
very beautiful/handsome persons can
attract me. Should I lower my standard?
You don’t need to apologize for having a
standard. Do you apologize for preferring
eating Italian food rather than Korean food?
Dilemma 3: If I apply these techniques, I will
become manipulative. Why can’t I just be
myself?
Do you prepare a lot before exams, or do
you just be yourself without any preparation?
Pick-up techniques: from
conversation to contact info.
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Peacock theory: dress up, decoration, pets,
magic, showing interesting stuff.
Favor or question asking: Could you watch
my bag for me? We are taking the course:
charisma, so could you do us a favor by
telling us your opinions?
Direct and honest expression.
Surprise, cocky and funny.
Tips on getting contact info.
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Confidence: we are meant to know each
other!
Don’t ask yes/no questions, only questions
implying yes.
Directly take out your cell phone or pen,
and be ready to save/write down the
contact info.
Always have an event (performance,
concert, …) for indirect invitation.
Pick-up techniques:
important things to remember
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Attitude, attitude, attitude!
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Location, location, location! (a location
with mutual interest, e.g. certain activities,
election campaign, temples)
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Help from wings (friends who can increase
your value).
Pick-up techniques:
important things to remember
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Success-guaranteed lines do Not exist!
(But there might be an exception for girls!)
Three-second (maximally 30 seconds) rule.
Negging (negating) and potential risks.
Adding time constraint (the way to lower
the defense; super important!)
Notice how much more time you have.