LOVING OTHERS TO ACTION
Answering before listening is both stupid and
rude. Proverbs 18:19
HOW TO LOVE OTHERS TO ACTION
Be a spiritual leader.
 Be a loveable leader.
 Be a constructive leader.
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SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP IS LOVING
Fair
 Loving
 Humble
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He has shown all you
people what is good.
And what does the
Lord require of you?
To act justly and to
love mercy and to
walk humbly with
your God.
 Micah 6:8
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FAIR LEADERSHIP
 But
the wisdom that comes from heaven is
first of all pure; then peace-loving,
considerate, submissive, full of mercy and
good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers
who sow in peace reap a harvest of
righteousness. Peacemakers who sow in peace
raise a harvest of righteousness. James 3:18
 If you can keep your head when everyone
around is losing theirs, then you can actually
help. R. Kipling
LOVING LEADERSHIP
“He had to be made like his brothers in every
way, in order that he might become a merciful
and faithful high priest in service to God, and
that he might make atonement for the sins of the
people.” Heb.2.17
 LoaTzu (tao) “The evolved leader only leads when
completely identified with the people, when their
concerns become his.”
 Maxwell “People don’t care how much you know
until they know how much you care.”
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HUMBLE LEADERSHIP
He came to
Simon Peter
who said to
him, “Lord,
are you
going wash
my feet?”
John 13:16
LOVED OR FEARED?
Commonality
 Law of Association
 Frequency of Contact
 Reciprocal Affection
 Others’ Sensibilities
 Similar Appearance
 Receiving Favor
 Humble Demeanor
 Positive Attitude
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CONSTRUCTIVE LEADERSHIP
Communic
ating that
people
matter!
Turn
around
moments
in your life
– who was
involved?
What you
say and do
matters.
CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK
When you see good
work.
 When you see poor
work.
 When you see a dead
end.
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NEVER LET GOOD WORK GO UNNOTICED
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Encourage one another daily and build each
other up, just as you are doing. 1Thes.5:11
Be immediate.
 Be specific.
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NEVER LET POOR WORK GO UNNOTICED
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“All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for
teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in
righteousness.” 2Tim.3.16
Keep it private.
 Keep it positive.
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Proceed with caring. Attitude checks needed.
NEVER LET POOR WORK GO UNNOTICED
Let the
employee
choose own
path…
How do
you think
it could
have gone
better?
What can
be done
different
next time?
NEVER LET POOR WORK GO UNNOTICED
Practical
guidance.
Sometimes
I’ll say
something
like…
What
works for
me is . . .
What has
worked for
you?
MISTAKES MEAN THEY ARE TRYING!
NEVER LET BAD HABITS GO UNNOTICED
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“Slack habits and sloppy work are as bad as
vandalism.” Pr.18:9 (Message)
Keep it private.
 Keep it positive.
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Set the tone for a difficult personal conversation.
 Be direct but gentle.
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“Be completely humble and gentle. Be patient,
bearing with one another in love.” Eph.4.2
NEVER LET BAD HABITS
Personal
Feedback.
I feel
awkward
about
this…
GO UNNOTICED
Sometimes
your body
odor is too
noticeable.
NEVER LET BAD HABITS
Avoid
Sidetracks!
GO UNNOTICED
I don’t mean
to offend,
but we need
to go
forward. I
need you to
show up
without
noticible
body odor. I
brought it
up because
it’s my job,
and I want
you to
succeed.
NEVER LET BAD HABIT GO UNNOTICED
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“Better is an open rebuke than hidden love.”
Pr.27:5
Constructive leadership means you CARE!
Caring means you NOTICE! What people do
really matters.
CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK
When you see good work.
 When you see poor work.
 When you see a dead end.
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TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
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“Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So
be earnest, and repent.” Rev.3:19
THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE
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State what you observe.
Wait for a response.
Remind them of the goal.
Ask for simple solution.
Agree together.
TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
State.
“You have
missed
three
meetings in
a row.”
No editorial
Just
behavior.
TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
Wait.
Do not be
sidetracked.
Your
relationship
is not the
issue, it’s
the
behavior.
Do not fill
in a silent
gap with
your own
material.
TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
Remind.
“We work
together as
a team, you
need to be
at the
meetings.”
Opportunity
for more
sidetracks.
TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
Ask.
“So how will
you make it
to the next
meeting?”
Everyone
has a
complex
life. Stay
true to goal.
Sorry to
hear that
but we
depend on
you too.
TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
Agree.
Mutual
clear
statement.
“So, next
Friday, you
will be at
the
meeting.”
“I’ll be at
the meeting
on Friday.”
“I hope
things work
out at …”
TURN FROM A DEAD END ROAD
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“Those whom I love, I rebuke and discipline. So
be earnest, and repent.” Rev.3:19
THE TWO MINUTE CHALLENGE
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State what you observe.
Wait for a response.
Remind them of the goal.
Ask for simple solution.
Agree together.
CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK
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When you see good work.
Immediate
 Specific
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When you see poor work.
Keep it private
 Keep it positive
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When you see a poor habit.
Set the tone.
 Be direct but gentle.
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When you see a dead end.
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Two Minute Drill. State. Wait. Remind. Ask. Agree.
LOVING OTHERS TO ACTION
Be a
spiritual
leader.
Be a
loveable
leader.
Be a
constructive
leader.