Week 1: Emotional boundaries
Week 2: Financial boundaries
Week 3: Physical boundaries
Week 4: Time boundaries
GALATIANS 6:2 & 5 NIV
Carry
each other’s burdens.
Each one should carry
their own load.
IS THIS YOU?
MARK 1:35-39 NIV
35 Before
daybreak the next
morning, Jesus got up and went out
to an isolated place to pray. 36 Later
Simon and the others went out to
find him. 37 When they found him,
they said, “Everyone is looking for
you.”
38 But Jesus replied, “We must go
on to other towns as well, and I will
preach to them, too. That is why I
came.” 39 So he traveled throughout
the region of Galilee, preaching in
the synagogues and casting out
demons.
Why do you think Jesus said no to
his disciples?
HOW DID JESUS DECIDE WHAT TO SAY YES TO?
• The needs of others?
• The expectations of others?
• God’s direction.
If we try to meet every need, we will be overwhelmed.
If our goal is to meet others’ expectations, we will fail.
If I want to be here for you tomorrow,
I have be able to say no today.
HOW TO SET TIME BOUNDARIES
WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY
6 Stategies
1. DO LESS
Focus on what is most important, and do it well. “(More is
better” is a lie.)
2. TAKE OFF SOME HATS
If I’m wearing too many hats, I need to…
• Take some hats off.
• When thinking about putting on another hat, decide which hat to take off to
make room for the new on.
3. MAKE THE 3 LOVES
YOUR TOP TIME PRIORITIES
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Schedule time for God.
Schedule time for your family.
Schedule time for your church family.
Schedule time for the ministries to which
God has called you.
Honor and protect those commitments just as you would
honor a job commitment or a doctor appointment.
4. COUNT THE COST
BEFORE YOU SAY YES
28 “Suppose
one of you wants to
build a tower. Won’t you first sit
down and estimate the cost to
see if you have enough money to
complete it? 29 For if you lay the
foundation and are not able to
finish it, everyone who sees it will
ridicule you, 30 saying, ‘This
person began to build and wasn’t
able to finish.’
Luke 14:28-30 NIV
Underpromise &
overdeliver.
5. TAKE OFF THE CAPE!
Resign from being a
superhero (savior). If you
get your sense of worth
from rescuing other
people, you are harming
them and yourself.
Where are we to get our sense of worth?
Are you willing to let others go over the edge of the cliff at times? To
experience the painful consequences of bad choices?
(When we don’t, we interfere with what God is trying to teach them.)
6. YOUR DRAMA IS NOT MY DRAMA
My best gift to others in crisis is calm, faithful presence. If I get caught up in
the drama, I become part of the problem.
GALATIANS 6:2 & 5 NIV`
Carry
each other’s burdens.
Each one should carry
their own load.
TABLE SHARING
1. When was a time you did a
good job of setting a time
boundary?
2. When was a time you did a
lousy job of setting a time
boundary?
3. Which of the 6 strategies
would you like to become
better at?
Six strategies for setting
healthy tie boundaries
1. Do Less
2. Take Off Some Hats
3. Make the 3 Loves Your
Top Time Priorities
4. Count the Cost Before
You Say Yes
5. Take Off the Cape
6. Your Drama Is Not My
Drama