Bell Ringer #3
• Textbook page 88-90
• Do objective #2 (List the 12 ideals only)
• Then, number the 12 ideals, in the order of
importance to you, as you would teach
your child.
FAMILY LIFE EDUCATION
RELATIONSHIPS
Sexual Identity
• Sexuality - the feelings and attitudes a person
has about his/her body, sex, role, and
relationships.
• Your sexuality is influenced from birth (male or
female). Your parents influence your sex roles
by shaping your attitudes.
• Sex Role - the way a person acts and the
feelings/attitudes he/she has about being male
or female. Also includes expectations people
have for other males/females. (accepting who
one is and who one wants to be)
Nature and Purpose of Dating
• Dating is having SOCIAL plans with another
person.
• “Going Out” or “Hanging Out” are other phrases.
• Dating is a developmental task of adolescence.
One needs to develop dating skills. Parents,
many times, are examples that are followed
(neg. and pos.).
• Dating is a developmental step toward marriage.
6 Dating Standards (Used by an
Adolescent and/or Parent)
1. Background information on the person being
dated.
2. Give exact plans.
3. Arrange for safe transportation.
4. Curfew
5. Establish a code of conduct for yourself. (Selfrespect)
6. Establish a code of conduct for the person you
are dating. (Respect for others)
Dating Skills Checklist
• Should be discussed with adolescents, by
the parents, ahead of time.
• Page 119 - Read the 10 skills on the
checklist and see how many apply to your
development.
• **Discuss**
Positive/Negative Effects of T.V. or Media
Influencing Relationships
• Desensitization - the effect of reacting less
and less to the exposure of something.
• Teens who are exposed to a lot of negative
relationship qualities, begin to accept those
as common and think those qualities are
necessary for their own.
• **Discuss**
• Also desensitization comes from within the
family. (observation of one’s own parents)
Maintenance of Positive Human
Relationships
• Values, morals, and ethics are essential to the
growth and maintenance of positive human
relationships.
• Value - a principle that you follow that is
regarded as worthwhile or desirable.
• Moral - standards of right and wrong.
• Ethics - the method of right or good conduct.
Expectations of Self
• As you prepare for the responsibilities of
adulthood, you should include an evaluation of
your actions.
• You can develop self-respect if your actions are
responsible.
• Self-Respect - a high regard for oneself
because one behaves in a responsible way.
• Self-Esteem - a person’s belief about his/her
worth.
• Conceit - excessive appreciation of one’s selfworth.
Expectations cont.
• Character - a person’s use of self control
to act on responsible values. It is how you
act when nobody else is watching.
• Self-Control - the degree to which a
person regulates his/her own behavior.
Expectations of Interpersonal
Relationships
• One should have the same expectations in
a partner as they would have of
themselves.
• Relationships are not a “one-way street”.
They require give and take.
• You should not treat someone any
differently than you would want to be
treated.
Factors in Preparing for Dating
• Developing dating skills is important. These are
competencies that help a person when he/she
has a date, or plans on asking someone out.
• Having Courage to get a date
• Being up front
• Being ready for steady (handle the responsibility
of dating only one person)
• How to turn down a date
• It’s okay not to go out
• Loan or Gift (know the difference and if it needs
to be returned after a break-up)
Recognizing Harmful
Relationships
• A Harmful Relationship is; one that harms selfrespect, interferes with productivity and health,
and includes violence and/or drug misuse and
abuse.
• Some people lack self-respect. They are not
interested in the health of others. They do not
encourage others to be productive and do their
best. They relate with others in harmful ways.
10 Profiles of People Who
Relate in Harmful Ways
• The People Pleaser - one who will do
anything to be liked. Someone who
constantly seeks the approval of others.
• The Enabler - One who supports the
harmful behavior of others. They may also
contribute to the harmful ways of another
person.
10 Profiles cont.
• The Clinger - one who is needy and
dependent. Constantly turning to
someone else to feel better. Suffocates
others due to their needs.
• The Fixer - a person who tries to fix other
people’s problems. Too quick to give
advice. Takes over other people’s
responsibilities.
10 Profiles cont.
• The Distancer - One who is emotionally
unavailable. Avoids sharing feelings.
Keeps people at arm’s length.
• The Controller - One who is possessive,
jealous, and domineering. Doesn’t respect
the will of others. Demands his/her own
way.
10 Profiles cont.
• The Center - One who is self-centered.
Does the talking but not the listening.
Ignores the needs of others.
• The Abuser - One who abuses others.
Puts down others. Threatens or harms
others.
• The Liar - Does not tell the truth. Builds
relationships based on lies. Manipulates
others into the responses he/she wants.
10 Profiles cont.
• The Promise Breaker - Is unreliable.
Makes plans and cancels them without
regret. Agrees to change behaviors and
doesn’t do so.
END OF DAY 3