4. Think Win-­‐Win: I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others’ Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives Thinking Win-­‐Win is the belief that everyone can win. It’s not you or me—it’s both of us. Working with your child to come up with a solution will help you both be happier in the situation and work through the conflict better each time. 1) Gather old toys that your child may no longer want. Have them donate these to a local charity. Discuss how this is a win-­‐win for them and another child. 2) Community Service: Have your family participate in a community service event and discuss afterwards. Local Ways to Volunteer & Give Back: •
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Special Abilities of North Texas
Teen Volunteer Opportunities at Lewisville Library
CCA Lewisville Christian Community Action
Books for Soldiers
Subscriptions for Soldiers
Denton County Non-Profits that Benefit Families & Children
Valentines for Veterans
3) Think of an ongoing conflict you tend to have with your child (homework, cleaning his or her room, feeding the dog) and then discuss a win-­‐win solution to the conflict. Brainstorm solutions together. Venn Diagram LOSE-­‐WIN You give in, but you feel like a doormat WIN-­‐WIN WIN-­‐LOSE You may win, but the relationship doesn’t Emotional Bank accounts: The quality of the relationship you have with others. Do I kee
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