Val Maty, MA, LCPC
Associate Director of Family Ministry
Diocese of Joliet
OPENING PRAYER:
Role of the Father and Mother…
 Intimate relationship with
God the Father & the ability
to transmit this relationship
to his children.
 Love for one another
reflected in loving actions.
 Love for all children.
 Father & Mother teach all
children to pray.
(catholicexchange.com;
Fr. Ed Broom, OMV)
 Prayer:
Blessing at meals, at mass,
rosary.
Role of the Father and Mother…
 Respect all children; provide
for their needs.
 Set boundaries and provide a
good example .
 Share your faith and values
with your children.
 Teach children to contribute;
and to act responsibly.
Role of the Children…
 Honor Father & Mother
 Obey parents
 Respect parents and siblings
 Listen to one another
CCC (Catechism of the Catholic
Church)
Parenting Styles:
Parenting Styles
What can help?
Boundaries:
 A line that should not be
crossed.
 A limit that is put in place.
Testing Boundaries (Examples):
Teens:
Young Child:
 A 13-year old openly refuses to
 A 5-year old kicks the back of
complete his/her chores &
states that they are “unfair”.
Later, he/she requests a ride
to the movies with friends.
 A 16-year old sends you a text
telling you that they will be
sleeping over at a friend’s
house. The text says: “John’s
Mom will take me to school
in the AM”. You do not know
the parents.
your seat while you are
driving because he/she did
not get to play on their I-Pad
before school.
 An 8-year old screams at you
in public and tells you that
you are MEAN because you
will not buy the item they
desire at the video game
store.
Testing Boundaries (Examples)
Teens
Young Child
 A 15-year old boy posts the X-
 Your (2) children, Ages 8 & 10
BOX you bought for the home
on Facebook. He tells you that
he can use the $ to buy a ‘new’
system when it sells.
 Your 14-year wants a tattoo, she
tells you her friend has one and
her parents are “COOL” with it.
She tells you she wants to
express herself in this way and
reminds you that you always
support her and self-expression.
are playing a video game.
Screaming and hitting soon
ensue and when you enter the
room you find snacks and drink
items all over the room.
 You are playing a board game
with your 4-year old. He/she
notices they are not winning
and proceeds to “swipe” the
board pieces right off the
board then stomps off.
HOW MIGHT YOU RESPOND?????
SMALL GROUP: OPEN DISCUSSION
TIME…