• Conflict is a normal and necessary part of healthy
relationships. After all, two people can’t be expected to
agree on everything at all times.
• When conflict is mismanaged, it can harm the
relationship. But when handled in a respectful and
positive way, conflict provides an opportunity for
growth, ultimately strengthening the bond between
two people.
• Conflict arises from differences. It occurs whenever
people disagree over their values, motivations,
perceptions, ideas, or desires.
INTRODUCTION
In community (BCBP), you have a
diversity of attitudes, opinions, traits and
backgrounds.
People with different
attitudes can cause conflicts and
misunderstandings, leading to difficulties
in relationships.
Guidelines on Conflict Resolution
 Make an effort to preserve the unity which has the
Spirit as its origin and peace as its binding force.
Eph4:1-3 “ I plead with you to live a life worthy of the calling
you have received, with perfect humility, meekness, and
patience, bearing with one another lovingly. Make every effort to
preserve the unity which has the Spirit as its origin and peace as
its binding force
Eph 4:25-27 “See to it, then, that you put an end to lying; let
everyone speak the truth to his neighbor, for we are members
of one another. If you are angry, let it be without sin. The sun
must not go down on your wrath; do not give the devil a
chance to work on you”.
Guidelines on Conflict Resolution
 Put away any hostility, quarreling and bad temper.
Eph 4:25-27 “See to it, then, that you put an end to lying; let
everyone speak the truth to his neighbor, for we are members of
one another. If you are angry, let it be without sin. The sun must
not go down on your wrath; do not give the devil a chance to
work on you”
Eph 4:31
“Get rid of all bitterness, all passion and anger, harsh
words, slander, and malice of every kind”.
Guidelines on Conflict Resolution
 Go and make peace with your brother or sister;
avoid bringing in others, but go directly and try to
resolve it among yourselves
Mt 18:15,16
“If your brother should commit some wrong
against you, go and point out his fault , but keep it between the
two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over.
 If reconciliation is needed, take the initiative to
patch things up
Mt 5:23,24
“If you bring your gift to the altar and there recall
that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift at the
altar, go first to be reconciled with your brother and then come
offer your gift “.
HOW TO WORK OUT
DIFFICULTIES
A. If the issue is a matter of right or wrong, we needed
the wisdom of the Spirit to discern who is right or
wrong. If you find difficulty with this, suggest you
bring in your leader.
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Whoever is at fault should immediately apologize.
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Whoever is in the right should accept the other’s apology and
discuss the reason that brought about this issue to avoid similar
misunderstandings in the future.
HOW TO WORK OUT
DIFFICULTIES
B. If the issue is not a matter of who is right or wrong,
but rather which is better or how it can be
improved, speak directly to the one concerned.
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If he proves his point, agree to the change and thank him for it.
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If it is not clear-cut matter and you don’t agree, bring it up to a
leader. However, if this can be avoided by all means try to
come to terms between the two of you. It is a lot easier to
accept responsibility and apologize if a third party is not
around.
HOW TO WORK OUT
DIFFICULTIES
C. If the issue is just a matter of preference, trivial
matters, mannerisms, then be a brother or sister
by acceding to his way.
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Give up wanting things your way.
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A way by which one practices humility.
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Becoming sensitive to how good brothers and sisters do things.
HOW TO WORK OUT
DIFFICULTIES
D. Personal Conflicts
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Conflicts and disagreements may simply be over-sensitiveness.
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Mannerisms that rub you the wrong way.
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Pettiness that can easily be overlooked.
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One way to overlook these trivial things is by going over the
person’s assets and qualities. When you realize his overall good
qualities, you will find easy to overlook the petty little things he or
she does.
LOVE FOR EACH OTHER
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If there is love and patience among brothers ,
things will always work out. (Rom 8:28)
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Those whom the Lord has called he predestined to
share in his love (Rom 8:29)
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Pray for each other.
HOW TO WORK OUT CONFLICTS
(Fairly and Peacefully)
1.
STOP . . .
before you lose control of your temper and make the conflict worse.
2. SAY . . .
what you feel is the problem. What is causing the disagreement?
What do you want?
3. LISTEN . . .
to the other person's ideas and feelings.
4. THINK . . .
of solutions that will satisfy both of you.
If you still can't agree, ask someone else to help you work it out.