CLASSROOM MANAGEMENT
with RESPECT & CARE:
Give Yourself an Edge
Bryce Hedstrom
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Classroom management issues can arise when you teach with
comprehensible input (rather than grammar and forced
output).
“Sit down, shut up and do your worksheet” is no longer a
management option (and it was never a good one) because
everything has changed. With no rows, maybe a deskless
classroom, encouraging students to respond, spontaneity and
real emotional engagement all hell can break loose.
You might need a new approach to classroom management
that corresponds to the new approach to language
acquisition. A relational approach based on respect and care.
Do you ever get these thoughts the
first week or two of school?
“This year’s going to be different. This year’s going
to be better. The students are well-behaved,
enthusiastic and they really seem like me and each
other. I have plenty of energy and focus, and I have
more than enough time to get everything done.”
But… (Ominous music plays in the background)
…Don’t get fooled again!
How do you want your students to behave after the
honeymoon is over?
How are you going to plan to get what you want?
Think about it. Dwell on it until the mental picture is
clear and distinct. That mental image, along with a
few psychological insights and time-tested advice will
help you to get…
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Design a User Friendly Classroom
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Let Students Help Run the Classroom
“I just don’t have enough time
to get everything done!”
Here are two time savers:
• Students can grade papers
(Owasso v. Falvo, 2002)
• Students can put papers in order
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Take Time
To Lead Your Class Well
“Commanders didn’t have time to think. Well, Ender
would take the time, and trust his soldiers’ ability to
fight…
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Take Time
To Lead Your Class Well
“Commanders didn’t have time to think. Well, Ender
would take the time, and trust his soldiers’ ability to
fight…
…the way they fought already seemed like the only
intelligent way, the only possible way. Ender was
almost surprised that Rabbit Army didn’t know
already that they were hopelessly out of date.”
Ender’s Game, by Orson Scott Card, p. 126
THE teacher’s EDGE
Take Time
For Your Students
Use the Marriot Hotel’s 15/5 Rule:
15 feet away: Notice & Acknowledge
5 feet away: Look them in the eye and make some
kind of contact.
How is it that valets, bell hops and housekeeping
employees can get this and do it every time and we
teachers ignore our students
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Take Time
For Your Students
Greet Them
(15) Eyebrow Lift or nod &\
(5) Password or at least a greeting
Give Them Attention and Respect
(Special Person Interviews)
THE teacher’s EDGE
Take Time
For Yourself
• Model reading by actually reading
Sit in front of them and read
Rest your voice
Rest your feet & back
• Leave after school
Exercise
Read
Spend time with your family
Maintain your home, your friendships, your life
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With Classroom Jobs, From Parents
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Classroom Jobs
Involve students in running the classroom. Create jobs
that support the procedures. Save your strength, brain
power and focus for doing what only YOU can do.
• What can students do to help run the classroom?
• What can only you do?
The Teacher’s Tools: Let your students do the tasks that
do not require a college degree. Let students do the
minimum wage jobs. Save your educations, experience
and brain power for the tasks that ONLY YOU can do.
THE teacher’s EDGE
Get Help
It is Ok to Ask for Help
Help! I Need Somebody!
Asking for help is an act of hope that can grate on
our pride. You cannot do it all yourself—and there
are plenty that want to help you. You are not alone.
If you will but ask for aid, Rohan will answer.
“Hope is kindled” LOTR
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sIhnYFRu4ao
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HXW3gRpnFk
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Super Points
Get tacit support forever from parents with
SUPER POINTS!
Catch them being good.
Super Points
Catch them before they get bad.
Think Sheets
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Super Points
Catch them being good.
Points for all, not just high academic students:
Courage, Kindness, Creativity, Brilliance
Anything that impresses you.
This will transmit your values to your students
5 Super Points = 1 call home from teacher
Tell me 1) what to say (must be the truth), 2) what
day, 3) what time and 4) to whom. I will embellish
and sell it. I will make your parents proud of you.
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Consistency
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Consistency
B.F. Skinner
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Consistency
How to create a monster that will never give up
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Consistency
You must be consistent.
Either you are consistent, or you are not.
When you are not, even just once in a while, you
create monsters that never quit…
“They never attack the same place twice.
They’re testing the fences for weaknesses,
systematically. They remember.”
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Game warden Robert Muldoon, describing the
velociraptors in Jurassic Park
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Procedures
What do you want students to do in your
classroom?
Do they know how to do it efficiently?
Have you practiced it with them?
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Procedures
Develop & Drill
PROCEDURES ahead of time
Model
RITUALS as they come up
If you do not purposefully design, teach and drill
procedures they will develop spontaneously—and you
won’t like them.
(More on rituals later)
Why Procedures Work:
You Make it Easy to Comply
Stanley Milgram’s Experiments at Yale
Incremental Steps Get People to Go Along
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Procedures
Procedures will develop in your classroom. It is best
if YOU set up the procedures for regular activities.
What are some regular activities in your classroom?
• Someone arrives late.
• Someone sneezes.
• Someone is terrible at their job.
• Someone with a job is absent.
• There is a visitor.
• We get books from the classroom library.
• What else is done regularly in your classroom?
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Procedures
Have a standardized way of doing things. Have a
procedure for every predictable group action in your
classroom. And drill those procedures.
• What are the predictable things that always need done
in your classroom?
The Teacher’s Tools: Go sit in your classroom two weeks
before school starts and jot down notes on what needs to
be done. Leave and allow your subconscious to work.
Review and revise your notes every day until school starts.
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Rituals
What rituals do you like to develop
in your classroom every year?
Effective classroom management may best be
handled the opposite of the old
“Don’t smile before Christmas” approach.
"If soldiers are punished before they have grown attached
to you, they will not prove submissive; and unless
submissive, they will be practically useless.
"If, when soldiers have become attached to you,
punishments are not enforced, they will still be useless.
"Therefore soldiers must be treated in the first instance
with humanity, but kept under control by means of iron
discipline.“
—Sun Tzu, ancient Chinese military strategist , The Art of War
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Consequences
Have swift, calm, consistent and reasonable
consequences ready (Sun Tzu’s iron discipline).
• What are the predictable misbehaviors (even
minor ones) that will require consequences?
• You cannot ignore misbehavior. It will not go
away, it will get worse.
The Teacher’s Tools: The calmest person in a
confrontation is the winner.
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Consistency
When will you be tested on your commitment to
consistency?
You know when it will happen…
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#1 The Queen Victoria Stare
A very relaxed face is not easy to read. It can be
unnerving not knowing what the person is thinking or
feeling. This look can help let kids know you are not
playing.
#2 The Loving Look
#2 The Loving Look
From Words Can Change Your Brain
by Andrew Newberg and Mark Waldman
“It’s best to enter a conversation with an inviting
expression that conveys kindness, compassion, and
interest… this facial expression cannot be faked…
[but] it can be elicited by tapping into a pleasant
memory, particularly one that involves people you
deeply love and respect. This memory often softens
the muscles around your eyes and evokes a gentle
half smile on your face… When you look directly
into the other person’s eyes as you maintain this
loving memory they will want to engage you in
dialogue. Their facial expression will resonate with
yours.” p. 134
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Expressions
The Betari Box, Modified for Teachers
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Read and Send Body Language
Become a student of body language and use it to your
advantage.
• Use “inauthentic” accepting body language to move
students from the indifferent to the friends category.
• Make friendly body language signals part of you
habitual repertoire: eyebrows, smile, palms, body
positioning, lean in, don’t cover, mirroring.
Tip: Watch a YouTube body language video every Monday
morning during first semester until you acquire the
signals.
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Read and Send Body Language
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO CONNECT WITH STUDENTS
Four basic types of people to our primitive brain:
• Friends
• Mates
• Enemies
• Indifferent
You listen to your friends.
You attempt to seduce potential sexual partners.
You make up bad stories about your enemies (gossip).
You ignore those that do not matter.
Our job is to make our students feel that they matter to us; to move
those that feel they are in our indifferent category to feel that they are
in our friends category.
We are purposely sending off body language signals that we notice
them; that we like them, that we like them and we accept them.
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Expressions
Read and Send Body Language
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO CONNECT WITH STUDENTS
Here is how to nudge anyone into the friends category with your body language:
FACE
• Eye Brow Lift
A flash of the eyebrows shows instantly that we know each other.
It shows that I notice you and I like you. (15/5)
• Authentic Smile
Broad: with mouth, cheeks and eyes.
Full face: Cheeks lift, eyes shut a bit.
Slow: It is not instant. It grows for three seconds and is held for
only three seconds. Smiling too quickly, smiling only with the
mouth or smiling for too long is fake; it shows insincerity,
untrustworthiness.
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO CONNECT WITH STUDENTS
HANDS
• Hand Placement
Hands in pockets = Nonchalance, too cool: I don’t care
Hands covering stomach, chest = Hiding something,
blocking, I don’t trust you, you don’t trust me.
• Hand Position
Palms up = No weapons. We are friends, inviting
Palms down = Authoritative, not as friendly.
Pointing = Demeaning, people tend to react negatively.
• Hands Not Covering Stomach
Nothing to hide; you can trust me; I am open to you; I am
not a predator and I don’t think you are one either.
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO CONNECT WITH STUDENTS
BODY
• Controlled Movement
No fast movements with arms or body
How does a male lion move it’s head?
• Body Positioning
45 degrees = friendly
180 degrees = confrontational
• Mirroring
Subtle mirroring builds trust; it pulls people in
VOICE
• Tone of Voice
Inviting, friendly sounds, not harsh, not too fast
USE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE TO CONNECT WITH STUDENTS
• Our natural tendency is to associate only with our
friends.
• So we actually need to be more inauthentic. We need
to consciously send out messages that we like and
accept our students.
• Starter Exercise: Go up to someone that you have
ignored and act like their friend. Ask them about their
ideas.
• If we do not do this we will miss out and so will they.
• Do not act as if your were indifferent. You are no longer
cool, you are warm, open and inviting.
• Start now.
Maslow’s Hierarchy Tweeked by
Matthew Lieberman (Social)
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Design a User-Friendly Classroom
Make It Flow & Let Them Move
From the TED Talk by
Sir Ken Robinson on ADHD
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Design a User-Friendly Classroom
Make it Flow & Let them Move
Get students up and moving.
• How can you incorporate movement into lessons?
• How can you allow students to move when they
need to move?
The Teacher’s Tools: Do not try to contain a
squirrely kid’s energy. Let him move. Direct his
energy. Find ways to use it. Recruit him.
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Greetings & Goodbyes Rituals
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Greeting & Goodbyes
Start and End with Respect Rituals
• If you are having trouble with discipline, start
with the bookends of the class period, the
beginning and the end, and work your way
towards the middle for either end a bit at a
time.
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Start with a greeting ritual
End with a goodbye ritual
Begin with a routine
End with a routine
THE Teacher’s EDGE
Greetings & Goodbyes
• Greeting Ritual:
Password
• Goodbye (Dismissal) Ritual:
—¿Clase?
Class?
—¿Sí, señor?
Yes, sir?
—Gracias por aprender.
Thank you for learning.
—Gracias por enseñarnos. Thank you for teaching us.
—Mi placer. Hasta mañana. My pleasure. Until tomorrow.
Why Using a Password Works:
You are asking for a small favor
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Engage
Contact Every Student
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Engage
Rapport
Find a way to make contact with every student,
every day.
• How can you show each student that you notice
him/her? (Attention)
• How can you show each student that you are
listening? (Respect)
The Teacher’s Tools: You are looking for the lean in.
When you connect, they lean in. You can feel it. You
can see it.
START RIGHT AWAY,
START DURING THE HONEYMOON PERIOD OR
LOSE THE OPPORTUNITY FOR ANOTHER YEAR
Don Juan Manuel (1282-1348, Toledo, Spain), El
Conde Lucanor XXXV:
"Si al principio no te muestras como eres, no
podrás hacerlo cuando tu quisieres."
"If at first you do not show yourself as you are,
you will not be able to do it when you want to."
Bonus Edge #1:
Get Them Good at Learning
Teach your students what a good learner looks like
and how to think about their own learning.
Take time to explicitly teach your students:
• What good learners do.
• What happens in the brain when we learn.
The Teacher’s Tools: Read and study these books
Mindset by Carol Dweck &
The Talent Code by Daniel Coyle.
Bonus Edge #2:
Enterprises
Give students a vision of how they can use their
skills and knowledge beyond the classroom.
• Involve them in the local, national and world
community with real, worthwhile projects.
• Give them a bigger vision of themselves.
The Teacher’s Tools: Go to kiva.org (micro
financing) or pulsera.org (hand made products) to
involve your students in real world help and contact
with native speakers in other countries that need
help.