Social Health
Relationship- a bond or
connection between
people
If we don’t need people then why…
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basketball 5 on 5
 Is facebook so popular
 Can you not live without your cell phone
for one day
 Do girls go to the bathroom in groups
 Do we have parties
 Do we have family reunions
Communication Skills
 Communication-
process of sharing
information, thoughts, and feelings with
others.
 There are 3 basic skills associated with
effective communication;
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Speaking
Listening
Body language
Did you know?
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About 45% of a person’s communication time is
spent listening
About 30% is spent speaking
Reading can on average take up to 16% of a
person’s communication time
Writing accounts for an average of 9% of all time
spent communicating
It has been estimated that 85% of what you
learn is learned through listening
“The only difference between you today and
you in 10 years are the people you meet and
the books you read.”
Speaking Skills
“A fool looks to be wise if he remains silent”
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Why do you talk?
 Things to remember:
 Talking is saying what you know
 Think before you speak (Talking is not an accident, cussing)
 “I” message is a statement that expresses your feelings, but
does not blame or judge the other person.
 Not what you say it’s how you say it
 Read Body Language
 You will never rise above your words
“The character of a man is known from his
conversations.”
-Menander (342 BC - 292 BC)
 Define PRIDE
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Excessive self esteem; conceit; arrogance
 Define HUMBLE
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modest: modest and unassuming in attitude and behavior
respectful: feeling or showing respect and deference
toward other people
PRIDEFUL people talk too much and don’t listen
enough, think they are always right because they
don’t have enough confidence to be wrong
 HUMBLE people listen and learn, they are confident
enough to admit they don’t know everything
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Which are you?
Listening skills
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Active listening- actually listening
 How do you know if somebody is listening
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Look at the person talking
Don’t interrupt
Encourage the speaker
Ask questions
Summarize
Empathize
Don’t steer the conversation onto your problems
“Friends are those rare people who ask
how we are and then wait to hear the
answer.”
Ed Cunningham
What about TEXTING?
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average teen sends and receives
about 3,500 texts per month
•How could texting impact
your ability to communicate?
Nonverbal Communication
 Body
language- nonverbal communication
through gestures, facial expressions, and
behaviors
 Mixed messages- Mouth says one thing
and your body says something else
“What you do speaks so loud that I cannot
hear what you say.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
Communication Practice
 Using
the sheet of questions, practice the
skills we discussed today.
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Making eye contact, sincerity, listening,
DON’T INTERUPT, give feedback, connect
with the person speaking, don’t rush
 Stay
with your partner until I tell you to
switch, only do one section of questions
per partner
Relationships
 Types:
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Casual
• Talk to in class
• Sit by them at games
Close
• Biggest influence on your Decisions
• ”You will never rise above your friends”
• “Show me a man’s friends and I’ll tell
you their future”
10 Thoughts about Good Friends
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Friends are few
Friends are selfless
Friends listen
Friends love unconditionally
Friends are available for advice
Friends are honest
Friends encourage
Friends are sensitive to your emotions
Friends are loyal
Friends accept you
Peer Pressure- the control and influence the
people your age may have on you.
 Based purely on need for acceptance
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Positive- If you do the right thing it may give
somebody else the courage to say NO
Negative- Nobody wants to be the dumbest person
in the room.
Types of Manipulation (sneaky or
dishonest ways to get what you want)
•Mocking , Bargaining, Bribing,
Guilt trips, Blackmail, Flattery
Responding to Negative
Peer Pressure
 Passive-
give in to everybody, just to try
and be accepted and fit in
 Aggressive- overly forceful, hostile,
attacking in approach- immature approach
 Assertive- standing up for your beliefs in
firm mature way
Refusal Skills
 Just
say ‘NO’
 Establish a reputation
 Avoid tempting situations
 Don’t compromise
 Don’t sacrifice long-term success for shortterm fun
 Know your answer before your asked
 Never make decisions on the WEEKENDS!
“Just Say No” Assignment
 Working
with one other person or
by yourself, you will come up with
a slogan to replace “Just Say No”.
For example, “Fear Beer” or
“Pass on Grass”. Slogans will be
presented at the end of the hour.
Types of Relationships Cont.
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Platonic
• Opposite sex but not dating
Good side
• Learn about the opposite sex without
dating
• Gives a chance to ease into dating
• Gives you a different perspective
 Negative Side
• Viewed differently by guys and girls
• Leaves people vulnerable for
manipulation
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Dating
Why date???
 Acceptance
 Learn about opposite sex
 Fun
 Learn how to communicate in a
relationship
 Learn from mistakes now
 Learn what to expect
 Learn what love is or is not
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Dangers of Dating
 Lust gets in the way
 Leads to confusion over what love
really is
 Immaturity leads to poor
relationships (jealousy, lying,
yelling, abuse, possessive)
 Poor relationships leaves scars for
future relationships (emotional
damage)
 Lose friendships
 Damage family relationships
Who should you date?
 Someone
that’s hot
 Respect your values
 Similar values
 Mature
 Around same age
 Similar interest
 Similar goals
 Someone that makes you better
Who should you not date?
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Immature
Jealous
Abusive (verbally, physically, mentally)
Someone you’re trying to change
Control freak
Someone that is negative
Someone with a bad history
Insecure
Someone that you have to justify dating
Every kind of Addiction begins with
similar self-deception.
“This won’t hurt anybody”
 “I’ll only do it once”
 “I’ll be careful”
 “I can handle it”
 “I can quit whenever I
want”
 “It’s no big deal”
 “I’ll be safe”
 “I’m not stupid about it”
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“I’m not doing anything
wrong”
 “People do it all the time”
 “I’m not hurting anyone”
 “Nobody’s going to find
out”
 “Nothing bad is going to
happen”
 “All my friends are doing
it”
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Surface level: What it means:
Guys need
respect
Guys would rather feel unloved than
inadequate or disrespected
Guys are
insecure
Guys worry that if they are found out
for who they really are no one would
care about them
Guys are
visual
All guys struggle with keeping eyes
where they need to be
Guys are out
for one thing
Guys are physical and struggle to
keep there bodies under control
Guys are
tough
The tougher a guy acts the more
insecure they are
Imagine you are sitting in class, and a
new girl with a great body sits down a
few desks over from you. What is your
reaction to her?
I openly stare at her – 13%
I’m drawn to look at her and I sneak a
peak or glance at her from the corner of
my eye – 52%
I can’t help noticing her, but I try to stop
myself from looking. – 30%
Nothing happens, it doesn’t affect – 4%
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imagine that the same hot girl goes to
the front of the class to give a report.
She’s all business, but is wearing clothes
that accentuate her figure. If you’re not
careful, would there be a possibility that
you would picture her naked either now or
later?
 Yes, almost definitely (and even this
survey question risks raising images in my
mind — 39%
 Yes, possibly – 46%
 No, that would never occur to me – 15%
Compliments
 Acknowledging
a
person’s self worth
 Difference between
compliment and
sexual harassment
 Stay out of the
STRIKE ZONE
Receiving a Compliment
 Don’t
get embarrassed
 Don’t downplay
 Don’t ignore
 Don’t redirect attention
 Don’t argue or fight
 Just Say THANK YOU
Assignment
Write 3 paragraphs about dating.
1st paragraph is WHY you date
 2nd What qualities do you expect
in someone you date
3rd is about What you will not
tolerate in somebody you date