Ventura County Professional Women’s Network VCPWN Meeting Calendar July - September 2008 Location: Wedgewood Banquet Center 5880 Olivas Park Dr. Ventura 2nd Thursdays Every Month: Networking begins at 5:30 p.m. Dinner, with networking continuing at 6:30 p.m. Program begins 7:15, adjourn 8:45 p.m. Thursday, July 10, 2008 Speaker: Marta Monahan Tomorrow isn’t Just Another Day Thursday, August 14, 2008 Speaker: Bruce Cook How Hollywood Turns Good Books into Bad Movies; plus Silent Auction: “That’s Entertainment!” Thursday, September 11, 2008 Speaker: TBD Visit us online at www.VCPWN.org to learn more Heathy Habits 101 Creating a wellness vision Pg. 3 What’s with the Airlines? Advice for traveling in these turbulent times Pg. 4 What’s in Your Handwriting? Your motivations revealed Pg. 9 Competition is Good! Leverage your unique qualities Pg. 10 Healthy Habits 101: Creating a Wellness Vision By Pam Vos Editor’s Note: This article was submitted for publication earlier this year, but didn’t quite make it to press. Since it’s always a good time to consider our health, we include it now. Enjoy! T his is my favorite time of year! It’s that time when we begin thinking of all the things we will do differently. However, as a Fitness Professional for many years, I’ve seen over and over again people who make New Year’s resolutions and never keep them. New Year’s resolutions just set you up for failure because you have not been successful in the past. This year consider creating a “Wellness Vision.” What is wellness? A definition I like is “Wellness is the condition of good physical and mental health, especially when maintained by proper diet, exercise, and life habits.” Developing Your Personal Wellness Vision In my “Forever Fit Living” Program, participants begin by developing a personal vision for themselves. A vision includes general statements that address what you wish to accomplish long term (6 months, 1 year, 5 years, etc…). Health Visions can also be included in the total picture. For example: My health vision in the next year is to improve my health, in particular reduce my cholesterol, to lower my risk of heart disease. My health vision is to quit smoking for good, take charge of my health, and feel greater wellbeing and contentment. Develop a set of 3-month behavioral goals Breaking down your goals into small, manageable steps rather than just focusing on the end result can be a breakthrough. As a guide, a vision can define… Self Image: Who do I want to be when it comes to health, fitness and wellness? Behaviors: What do I want to do consistently? (Exercise regularly, eat well, relax more…) Outcomes: What do I want to have happen? (Weight loss, greater fitness, less stress, better health…) Motivators: Why does this matter to me? (I want to feel better and be healthier; I want an ideal quality of life) This is a critical first step. Breaking down your goals into small, manageable steps rather than just focusing on the end re s u l t c a n b e a b re a k t h ro u g h . Rather than looking at the mountain ahead just focus on the first foothill. Behavioral goals should always be directly linked to your vision. For example if you want to be more energetic, be sure that the behavioral goals are designed to increase energy. A three month timeframe is best to s t a r t , l e a r n a n d m a i nt a i n a n e w s e t of b e h av i o rs . Setting three-month behavioral goals will result in the desired outcome. Examples of outcomes are: Increase cardiovascular health so that I don’t die prematurely CONTINUED PAGE 5 Examples of Wellness Visions: My wellness vision in the next 6 months is to reverse my trend of steady weight gain so that I can look better, feel younger, and wear stylish clothes. My Wellness vision is to establish healthy eating habits so that I can set a good example for my children. July - Sept 08 Page 3 So, What’s with the Airlines? by Martha Jaffe That’s a question I’ve been asked almost everyday in the past few months. My stock answer is “If I had a crystal ball and could predict what was going on with the airlines these days, I could retire right now!” Unfortunately none of us have that crystal ball, but I do have some sugestions and advice for traveling in these times. It's time to think about travel insurance In these turbulent times, it may be worthwhile to protect your trip. Buying travel insurance can’t stop the airlines from going out of business or canceling flights or losing your bags, but it can increase the compensation you are paid if any of those things happen, and it can give you some peace of mind. Travel insurance is not an issue if you’re taking a short trip or have an inexpensive ticket. However, it may be worth your while to buy insurance that covers cancelled flights, and lost, damaged or stolen bags, and helps find you a hotel room and another flight if your airline goes out of business. Travel insurance is very desirable if you have a complex itinerary such as a 3-week trip to Southeast Asia, or an expensive itinerary you paid in full before travel and need to check in luggage. If you have a pre-existing condition, you will be covered by the travel insurance if you purchase the plan within two weeks of paying your deposit. If you have a close family member or relative who may have some impact on your travel plans, that, too, will be covered if purchased within two weeks of paying your deposit. Prices, types of travel insurance and coverage vary widely. Travel insurance policies can be issued by your travel agent and by travel suppliers and companies. The insurance policies generally cost 4 to 7 percent of the price of a pre-paid trip and the premiums are predicated upon the price of the trip and the age of the traveler. Pare down and travel light This is the new mantra for travelers of today. With one of the airlines charging $15 for the first checked bag and $25 for the second checked bag each way, your air ticket just keeps getting more and more expensive. As of this writing AA is the only airline charging for the first bag. The other airlines are charging $25 for the second bag, Southwest Airlines being the only one not charging for any baggage. Try to plan an itinerary that is direct and non-stop It may be a little more costly, but you are guaranteed you and your luggage (if you check it in) will arrive together. You also avoid the possibility of missing your connection. The airlines are reducing the number of flights and using smaller equipment and the odds of missed flights and cancelled flights are higher than ever. Travel is a mind expanding and exciting experience. What a way to see the world and experience other cultures and peoples. Always keep an open mind, carry insurance, pack light and the world is yours. Please go away! (and return so you can do it again). Martha Jaffe is a Travel Planner affiliated with Travel Planners International. For questions or comments, please email p_mjaffe@ yahoo.com. Page 4 - Focal Points Tips on Traveling Light 1. Choose a light weight carryon bag. It should be soft sided and look like a box, with no curved edges or doodads hanging on the outside. Make sure you have strong and good zippers. To be doubly safe, you can use a bright colored strap around the outside. The wheels inside the bag messes up the shape, are heavier than need be, and hold a lot less inside. If you need wheels, you’re better off getting one of those wheeled collapsible carts which only weigh 2 ½ pounds. 2. 3. Plan what you will need to bring and come up with a packing list including belts, toiletries and all the odds and ends you think you’ll need. When it’s time to pack, put everything out on the bed and then put back 50% of what you have. Be creative in choosing your clothing. Choose a color scheme so you can mix-n-match. Choose fabrics that are light weight and can be washed and hung up to dry overnight. Take only 2 pairs of shoes; a dress pair and a casual comfortable pair. Leave fine and expensive jewelry at home. Take a few pieces of costume jewelry that can work with several outfits. Bring clothes to dress in layers. Ladies, pack a few scarves to change your outfits rather than many different outfits. Remember you can always go to a laundromat and/or use the local laundry and cleaning services offered by the hotels. 4. To meet the TSA requirements of the 3-ounce limit on toiletries bring only 3 ounces of what you need and buy more (if you need it) along the way. Small sizes do last a long time if used in moderate amounts. 5. The packing process is very important. In general, it’s common sense – don’t leave any spaces. Fill your shoes with socks and a belt. Roll knit shirts and non-wrinkle fabrics. Put socks and underwear in corners and use as a core for packing shirts and slacks that can’t be rolled. The best method is to “bundle wrap” by using a small zippered pouch filled with socks and underwear and then just wrapping slacks, shirts and jacket around it. You then create a packet of clothes that fits in your suitcase. CONTINUED PAGE 5 Continued from Page 3 Lose weight so that I have more energy Increase bone density so that I reduce my risk of osteoporosis Increasing cardiovascular health, losing weight, and increasing bone density are really what you want to happen as a result of doing certain behaviors. Being realistic and doing the behavior consistently will allow you to achieve these results. Examples of 3 month behavioral goals that will lead to the above outcomes: I will do three 30 minute sessions of walking each week at 60-70% of my maximum heart rate. I will eat at least 3 vegetables and 2 fruits every day. I will do two 20-minute strength training sessions per week. It’s time to take control and experience all that you have ever hoped to accomplish. Get the help and tools you need to make a difference this year. Happy New Year! Make it great in 2008! Pam Vos, CFT, Owner of Forever Fit! in Oxnard at the Fisherman’s Wharf. As a fitness specialist and Wellness Coach, Pam has developed a 12 week program entitled “Forever Fit Living” which she teaches for small groups, employees of corporations including Pepperdine University and works with clients one on one as a coach. For questions or comments, please email [email protected]. A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song. -- Maya Angelou July - Sept 08 Page 5 Membership Counts! W e’re having a sizzling summer membership drive, with special promotions and discounts! Help us build membership by referring your friends and colleagues! Each member who brings or refers a guest to the dinner meeting will receive a FREE ticket in the 50-50 drawing, AND if that guest joins, they will get their application fee waived, and YOU will get a FREE biz card advertisement in Focal Points, plus an M & M snack dish! What a Sweet Deal! Kayte Carr Kayte Carr grew up in St. Charles, Illinois, graduated from the University of Arizona, and moved to Ventura in 1987. She currently lives in Ojai with her 5 ½ year old triplets. Her passion for the ten years before she had her own children was working with autistic and disabled children. Kayte is an Artist, working in oils, acrylics, watercolor, silk dyes, fused glass, painted furniture, murals, metal working, jewelry, soft sculpture, headdresses and costumes. She has been heavily involved for 17 years with the planning and art direction of the Ojai Mardi Gras, a benefit for local cancer victims. In her time off, Kayte likes hiking, traveling and boogie boarding. Lynn Ryder Meet Our Newest Members Beverly Nicholson Beverly Nicholson moved from Chicago to Los Angeles in 1974 to teach ballroom dancing; she never thought she’d still be here 34 years later. After a few years she moved to France for a short time and, upon returning, met husband, Lewis Nicholson, on St. Patrick’s Day in, yes, an Irish Pub in L.A. One year later they were married and bought their first house in North Hollywood. The Nicholsons have two sons: Cody, 20 years old and Christopher, 14 years old. They moved to the far west San Fernando Valley in 1999. Beverly’s hobbies are golf and travel. Golf is definitely her favorite sport. “It is one of the few you can play with your husband and kids until you’re too old to move” says Beverly, and it is played on some of the most beautiful pieces of real estate in the world. By the way do any of YOU play golf? Beverly would love to set up a women’s golf club, so contact her if you are interested. Page 6 - Focal Points Born in upstate New York, Lynn Ryder moved to the San Francisco Bay Area the same year as baseball’s Giants and considers herself a native Californian. After her marriage, she moved to Jacksonville, Florida, where, on hiatus from the seed biz, she worked as the Circulation Director for a startup weekly newspaper, the Jacksonville Business Journal. Lynn and husband, Dan, moved back to San Francisco, then to New York State, and then back to San Jose, California within their first six years of marriage. They have been back in California for 17 years and do not intend to move bodies, souls, and pets out-of-state again! Lynn enjoys condo life at the beach in Oxnard with, now “Capt. Dan” a charter captain and sailing instructor for his company, Sail Channel Islands, their two rescue dogs, Stanley Jack and Willow, and a rescue cat, Bella Abzug. Lynn’s relaxation time is spent reading, sailing, and catching up with friends and the social culture she missed during the all-consuming years of law school. In her new career, Lynn’s personal goal is to dispel the reputation that lawyers are “sharks.” Not a warrior, she views herself as a “friendly dolphin” attempting to lead her clients out of the shark-infested waters. Wendie Ludwig Wendie Ludwig was born in Redding, California. Her parents settled in Fillmore when she was four years old and, although the family left Fillmore for Ada, Oklahoma when she was 10, she’ll always call Fillmore her “hometown.” Wendie spent 10 years in Ada and graduated from Ada High School top of her class. She was an avid musician, playing clarinet during the marching band (football) season and bass clarinet during the concert season. She earned a music scholarship to East Central University, but after one season, grew restless and decided to get her education in the real world instead of a classroom! Doing Business With... The following members got to brag about all the business they’ve done with fellow members at our last 3 meetings. If you’ve done business with a member too and don’t see your name here, send us a fabulous testimonial (via e-mail) and we’ll print the best one in our next issue. Maura Raffensperger did business with Breena Maggio Breena Maggio did business with Fiona Spring Kristin Cahill did business with Marty Cohen Marty Cohen did business with Maura Raffensperger and Lisa Collier Gail Smith did business with Lisa Collier Lisa Collier did business with Tea Silvestre, Laura Parson, Denise Lawrence, and Alecia Caine About that time, Wendie’s family moved back to Fillmore. She moved with them but again, grew restless and decided to visit her Aunt Patti in Key Largo, Florida. A two-week visit turned into a four-year “fun-in-the-sun” party! She lived on several boats; didn’t own a pair of long pants or a car; and was as tan as she’ll ever be! It was at this time that she worked for Marine Resources Education Facility, a program to teach school kids about marine life. About five years ago, she switched from administrative to sales. Fiona Spring did business with Barbara Marquis and Maura Raffensperger When Wendie was 26, she met and fell in love with Richard Ludwig, her husband of 15 years. They met through mutual friends and it was love at first sight! Wendie has a stepson, John, who is now 26. Wendie and Richard love to travel and hang out with family and friends. Her hobbies are reading, photography, and travel. Shirley Lorraine did business with Susan MacRae Nancy Gregg did business with Gale Smith Sheila Lowe did business with Lisa Collier Susanne Lammot did business with Charlotte Gesling Tea Silvestre did business with Marty Cohen Charlotte Gesling did business with Susanne Lammot and Lisa Collier Carol Powell did business with Pam Vos Mary Gabriels did business with Lisa Collier Martha Jaffe did business with Barbara Marquis, Mariah Ingraham and Lisa Burton Sue Gary did business with Martha Jaffe Tessa Weeks did business with Martha Jaffe Nancy Chaconas did business with Barbara Marquis From Our Public Relations Director, Barbara Marquis Mariah Ingram did business with Shu Ping Li and Sue Gary I am an interior decorator and my company is Marquis Interiors. This new term will be my second year serving as Director of Public Relations. My goal is to publicize the meetings, special events and acknowledgments. My committee members visit other networking and business/ social groups to educate the public about this wonderful organization. We also maintain a scrapbook documenting the meetings and events for the year. Our membership is on a definite upward growth mode and I am excited about the coming year. We are also looking for a Club Photographer, so if you have the skills and would like to volunteer, please contact either myself, or Tea Silvestre. Joyce Sherwood did business with Mariah Ingram July - Sept 08 Page 7 Introducing the 2008-09 Board of Directors President Carol Powell Immediate Past President Lisa Ross President – Elect Sheila Lowe Director of Membership Jim Nicoll Director of Finance Rita Frayer Executive Secretary Denise Lawrence Director of Hospitality Pam DuBiel Director of Public Relations Barbara Marquis Director of Networking Alison Balter Director of Special Events Laura Parson Focal Points Editor Tea Silvestre Member-at-Large Laureen Lazzaro Recording Secretary Phyllis Brown What does your handwriting tell about YOU? by Sheila Lowe, CG, B.S. Psy. I f you don’t think your handwriting reveals anything about you, just write a couple of paragraphs about something that really ticked you off. As you feel the feelings again, you’ll be able to see changes in your handwriting – the pressure may become heavier, the letters larger and slanted more to the right than normal. Handwriting changes temporarily to accommodate mood, and more permanently over time as the writer’s experiences change her. Either way, handwriting reflects personality traits. If a letter comes in the mail, you undoubtedly recognize the writing on the envelope as your mom’s, your husband or boyfriend’s, or your best friend’s. That’s because their own unique personalities are reflected in the way that they write. In fact, your handwriting tells on you in dozens of ways! One of the many facets of personality revealed through handwriting is what motivates you. Psychologist, Abraham Maslow discovered that humans are all motivated by a series of different needs, which progress in complexity up a scale. The most basic needs, the physiological needs for food, air, water, sleep, sex, have to be satisfied before we can move up to the next level, which is for safety and security. After all, if we aren’t fulfilling our needs for food or sleep, how can we think about anything else? Once we’ve eaten, we begin to address our safety and security needs. These include not only the outside environment, but also safety inside our own homes, in our personal relationships. The next level is the need for love and belonging, or affiliation – like membership in VCPWN. Everyone needs to feel loved and appreciated by friends and significant others. Having met those needs, we can seek the next level, which is esteem, or the need to be admired and appreciated. That may be accomplished through recognition at work or through material goods, such as a big house and an expensive car. Finally, Maslow said that once the lower needs are attained, we feel free to strive for what he called self-actualization. At this level (which not everyone attains), we reach out for more spiritual goals, such as enlightenment, aesthetic experiences, greater knowledge of God, etc. Your handwriting tells a lot about which needs level is the strongest motivator for you, personally. For someone who is stuck at the most basic level of life, where their focus is on finding their next meal, the handwriting tends to be large in overall size, slow and careful, sticking close to the school copybook they learned in childhood. Those whose needs revolve mainly around love and belonging have handwriting that is rounded on the bottom and open on top. The rounded quality reminds us of little open mouths, saying “feed me, feed me, give me love.” In Bill Clinton’s handwriting, the lower loops form soft angles. Lower loops correspond to the subconscious, or hidden aspects of personality, and in this case, suggest hidden hostility towards women. security needs. Look for letters that stick close to the baseline of writing. These writers need to feel solid ground beneath their feet, to know there is money in the bank and extra food in the pantry. Those who are motivated by their esteem needs make very tall capitals that dwarf the lower case letters. They see themselves as larger than life, and need to be noticed. There may also be large lower loops, which hold the energy and stamina required to meet their needs. Interestingly, in the handwriting of the selfactualized person, nothing stands out. The writing is well-balanced and simplified, with the natural ebb and flow of good rhythm. The writer does not feel the need to push herself forward or grab the limelight and impress people. She’s happy with who she is. A more squared-looking script that is also rounded, but closed on top, is made by those who are motivated by safety and CONTINUED PAGE 11 July - Sept 08 Page 9 Competition is Good! by Deborah Gallant I work with many people who have been noodling around with the idea of starting their own business for some time before they meet me – some for years and years. Each person has their own reasons for not acting on the idea… but one thing I hear a lot is: “there are other people already doing this.” And I say “So what?” Unless you are a true pioneer like Henry Ford or Neil Armstrong, it’s likely that someone else already does what you want to do. This is GOOD. These other businesses have proven (usually) that there is a sustainable business model for your idea. If people pay them more than it costs to deliver the product or service, they’ve proven the validity of your concept. Unless your idea requires exclusivity (you wouldn’t want to open a coffee/Internet cafe in the same shopping center as Starbucks), the market can probably sustain more than one of whatever it is. seems that everyone I meet is a coach. But I know I am different. A business coach, not a life coach. A business coach with an expertise in the Internet. The right clients get the difference. It’s not always easy to figure out what it is that makes you different. I’ve met easily a dozen real estate agents who all tell me “they want to be my real estate agent for life.” I’m not sure what that means…or even that I WANT a real estate agent for life. I feel loyalty to the realtor who helped us find our home here because she listened to our needs and steered us to our ideal home in ONE day of house hunting. Banks spend a lot of marketing dollars trying to distinguish themselves from one another. I use my bank because the manager there knows me by name and goes the extra mile. She understands what I need as a customer and provides it. It’s not always easy to figure out what it is that makes you different. The trick is to objectively understand your competitors. How do they position themselves? What are their strengths/weaknesses? Where is there an opportunity they are not pursuing, how can you be different? The difference must be real. This is the difference between FEATURES and BENEFITS. What customer need can you satisfy in a way that is valued and someone will pay you for? My Lifework Catalyst business is certainly not the only coaching business in Southern California. Some days it Would it really be ideal to have no competition? Imagine your kids’ soccer team arriving for a tournament game and the other team didn’t show. Instead, they win by default and play a scrimmage against themselves. What is the quality of play? Having worthy opponents pushes you to perform better! And if your idea is TOO unique, you’ve got a lot of work ahead: One of my clients sold high-end software for years and every time she had to first help customers identify their need for her product, educate them on the benefits…and then work on the sale itself. For most of us, it will be more than enough to carve out a unique niche within our area and be the absolute best at that one thing. By specializing, you become the only one who can meet that unique need, competing, but not head-on. Fear not competition, embrace it! Deborah Gallant is the Business Coach Who Gets the Internet. She is also the founder of Web Power Tools, a do-it-yourself website builder that lets professional service f irms build and maintain their own sites. For more info: www.webpowertools.com Page 10 - Focal Points “Wind Beneath My Wings” award to be presented at November Meeting I t’s time again for you to nominate the most deserving person in your life for this meaningful award. This is your chance to acknowledge that person in your life who has seen you through the toughest— or sweetest—of times. To be considered for this award, please submit your entries to Lisa Ross at [email protected] by October 15. In essay format, please describe why this person deserves to be called “ The Wind Beneath Your Wings.” To enter, you must be a member of VCPWN. The nominees do not need to be members. The winner will read her (or his) entry at the November meeting, From Our Special Events Director, Laura Parson I’ve been the owner of Data-Girl Business Services for over 10 years. I enjoy helping people get their bookkeeping straightened out. I must enjoy it, as I’ve been in that field since 1978. This will be my second year on the VCPWN Board. Last year, I had great fun being the Director of Hospitality. I met a lot of wonderful people and enjoyed the position very much. This year I look forward to being the Director of Special Events. My goal, in addition to continuing our great Silent Auctions, is to bring back a variety of fun Special Events to VCPWN. I’m full of enthusiasm for my new position and can’t wait to get started. Continued from page 9 One system of handwriting analysis examines things like how you dot your i’s and cross your t’s. Another system, called gestalt graphology, looks at handwriting as a whole, which is comprised of three “pictures.” These are the way the writing is arranged on the page (space), the way the writing looks (form), and the way the writing “moves” on the paper (movement). There are actually thousands of variables in handwriting, all working together to produce the picture that is you. But while your handwriting tells a lot about you, don’t worry, it can’t tell everything – people are just too complex. Some things that handwriting cannot conclusively reveal are your chronological age (but emotional age is something else); your gender (only how masculine or feminine), and which hand you write with. Handwriting cannot tell the future, but the past is fair game. And since past behavior is often a predictor of future behavior . . . Well, you get the idea. Handwriting analysis is a complex study based on scientific principles, which takes years of serious study. After nearly 40 years in the field, Sheila Lowe is still learning. The author of the The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Handwriting Analysis, Handwriting of the Famous & Infamous, and the Handwriting Analyzer software, Sheila is court-qualified as a handwriting expert and serves an international clientele. www.sheilalowe.com. Next Issue: Blow Your Horn returns! (Send your submissions in today!) July - Sept 08 Page 11 Ventura County Professional Women’s Network Post Office Box 6329 Oxnard, California 93031 (866)275-4134 www.vcpwn.org Speaking iinn July... Marta Monahan, an acclaimed leader in personal development and international etiquette, assists individuals and organizations to attain their greatest potential and to shine in their endeavors. She is the author of the book Your Bouquet of Beautiful Things: Giving the Gift of You (Vittorio Media, May 2008.) Her last book The Courage To Be Brilliant: How Five Acts Of Improvement A Day Will Make You Shine (Vittorio Media, 2003) received a prestigious Independent Publisher Award and was also published by Random House in German. Clients include leaders in business, politics, and entertainment. Recent corporate clients include executives from NBC Studios, The Walt Disney Company, Barbara Barry Home, and Century 21. She recently gave the keynote address for The Economist Magazine Leadership Forum in Singapore and presents anti-violence programs for school children in New York and California. Ms. Monahan is a native of El Salvador and now resides in Los Angeles. For more information visit www. MartaMonahan.com. Don’t miss her speak -- sign up today for our July 10th meeting! 2008-09 Board of Directors Directory President Carol Powell 805-443-5900 [email protected] Executive Secretary Denise Lawrence 805-236-8135 [email protected] Member-at-Large Laureen Lazzaro 805-708-5944 [email protected] Immediate Past President Lisa Ross 805-368-6737 [email protected] Director of Hospitality Pam DuBiel 805-750-0062 [email protected] Director of Special Events Laura Parson 805-642-8890 [email protected] President – Elect Sheila Lowe 805-658-0109 [email protected] Director of Public Relations Barbara Marquis 805-796-1946 [email protected] Recording Secretary Phyllis Brown 805-984-1277 [email protected] Director of Membership Jim Nicoll 805-642-1775 [email protected] Director of Networking Alison Balter 805-491-0111 [email protected] Director of Finance Rita Frayer 805-914-9376 [email protected] Focal Points Editor Tea Silvestre 805-658-8196 [email protected] Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. — Helen Keller
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