3. As we heard this weekend, there are many
misconceptions about what submission means for
husbands and wives, and for Christians in general. How
would you explain biblical submission to someone based on
the following examples of Jesus?
John 13:12-17
Matthew 3:13-15
Marriage
Ephesians 5:21-33
Pastor Lanny Penwell
March 12, 2017
The Christian Marriage
I. Directions to Wives
A. What submission does not mean:
1. A husband takes the place of Christ.
“All things [are] in him, things in heaven and things on
earth.”
Ephesians 1:10
Matthew 26:47-54
2. Giving up independent thought.
4. How might our relationships look different if we were to
model the submission shown in Philippians 2:3-4?
5. Wrap up your time together in prayer for one another.
3. A wife should give up efforts to influence her
husband.
“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that
even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without
a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your
respectful and pure conduct.”
1 Peter 3:1-2
4. A wife should give in to every demand of her
husband.
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”
Ephesians 5:22
5. Being unequal in Christ.
B. What submission does mean:
1. Respect.
2. Loving sacrifice that Christ might be glorified.
3. Voluntarily acknowledging authority that is not
totally mutual.
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II. Directions to Husbands
A. What considerate leadership does not mean:
1. Harsh or domineering use of authority.
“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel,
since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your
prayers may not be hindered.”
1 Peter 3:7
2. Lesser importance for a wife.
3. Husbands always getting their own way.
QUICK REVIEW
Looking back at your notes from this week’s sermon, was
there anything that particularly caught your attention,
challenged or confused you?
MY STORY
1. The topic of love and respect often comes up when talking about meeting the biggest needs of men and women.
What actions, things, words, etc. make you feel the most
loved or respected?
2. Lanny talked about what husbands and wives can do to
make a great marriage. How did this agree with or differ
from what you learned or observed while growing up?
4. Always giving in to a wife's wishes.
5. Opting out of leadership.
B. What considerate leadership is:
1. Sacrificial love.
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and
gave himself up for her.”
Ephesians 5:25
2. Tenderness / gentleness.
3. Nurturing care.
4. Commitment.
5. A living picture of Christ's love for his church.
DIGGING DEEPER
1. Often times we’re unwilling to put others first, especially
those closest to us, when we feel they are undeserving or
aren’t living up to their end of the bargain. How do the
following verses shed light on why God was so adamant
about us sacrificially loving others?
1 Peter 3:1-2
1 Peter 3:7
1 Corinthians 9:19-23
Colossians 3:18-24
2. Why do you think people struggle demonstrating the sort
of sacrificial love seen in the verses above?