YOU-OLOGY ~ The Study of YOU
YOU-OLOGY ~ The Study of YOU
BY VERONICA DRAKE
YOU-OLOGY ~ The Study of YOU
YOU-OLOGY ~ The Study of YOU!
Have you ever tried to spray a garden hose when it had a kink in it? What happens? The water
trickles out or worse yet doesn't come out at all. The pressure is on full force but the water
isn't flowing. Is this what life feels like for you? You are operating on full pressure and trying to
express life but the blockages are getting in the way and life feels unfulfilled, and
overwhelming.
In order for the water to flow freely through the hose you need to find and correct the kink in
the hose. Once you straighten out the kink the water will naturally flow. It knows its way, it's
guided to flow the course it's on. This is exactly what the Creator wants for you; to flow
naturally on your course, your destiny, your path. Are you flowing freely through life?
Think back to the last time your gas light was on in your car. Did you have a sense of security
that you were going to get to your destination? Probably not! Did you trembled and fret every
time you put your foot on the accelerator? Is that what everyday life is beginning to feel like?
Thoughts of - am I going to get where I am going? Do I even know where I want to go?
YOU-OLOGY is the study of YOU. Enjoy creating awareness, acceptance and
appreciation for who you are. By knowing who you are you will know what YOU want. Begin
to live life by design not by default!
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Module One
Personal Inventory ~
Asking yourself questions during a personal inventory is a fascinating and
revealing process. Some questions will be more difficult to process than
others. That simply means a major area of growth has been identified for
you. These questions are to help you recognize the theme of your life:
How is your life structured?
What do you put most attention on?
Are you satisfied with how your life is structured?
What’s working?
What’s not working?
What choices create the structure of your life?
What choices do you want to add/change to your life?
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Module Two
Who Are You Naturally?
To Realize: To bring into reality; make real
Realization. First you have to “know” that something is missing, off balance, not quite what it
needs to be. You need to wake up to your life. So many times people walk around oblivious to
what IS and they typically blame outside sources for their perceived “bad time”.
What are some signs that something isn’t quite right? If you are experiencing any of these
symptoms then it’s time to open your eyes to what IS. Then you have to decide what
steps to put in place to create the life you desire.
o Cranky/short tempered
o Pressured
o Impatient/rushed
o Intolerant
o Tired/always feeling runned down
o Overwhelmed
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Questions to help create the awareness around the life you are really living.
Who do I surround myself with? Do they support the highest part of me?
Am I kind?
What do I do to nurture myself?
What do I do to grow?
What are my dreams?
Have my dreams fulfilled?
What do I stand for?
What am I willing to die for? Live for?
What are my strengths?
What are my weaknesses?
What are my fears?
By contemplating on these questions you will begin to create a deeper sense of
knowing. Self analysis is the key to realization.
Jump ahead 50 years and write the story of your life. Think out of the box. Define who
you are, what traits and characteristics do you admire. Speak to your integrity and
generosity. What contributions have you made to the world, what talents have you
developed and shared over the years. Write the story you want told about you in 50
years. EGO plays no part in this exercise this is an exercise to see who you are and
you will always be. Honesty and self love will guide you as you write, I promise.
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More to Think About ~
Who are you first thing in the morning when you wake up? Describe what comes most
natural to you without even thinking?
Notice throughout your day how that natural greatness shows up. Share a few examples.
What are you most outstanding personality traits?
What personality traits would you want to tune up or release?
Who were you three years ago? Describe character, values, goals, beliefs. Etc
Who you are now?
Who do you want to become?
Who you are no longer called to be
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Module Three
VALUES
To Release: To free from something that binds, or holds back; let go
Release. Identifying the need to release what’s no longer serving you is the step to freedom.
Either you release it or you don’t it’s that simple. You will know by the checking back with the
symptoms in step one if you’ve completely released.
The Releasing process
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Embrace your greatest good (why you came here)
Define the greatest good in your reality: spiritually and energetically. There is a
force constantly at work in the universe; energy connected to our greatest
potential in any situation. What is YOUR greatest potential in this given
situation? What Soul lesson do you need to experience at this moment in
time? This “knowing” comes through your intuition. Keep your vision on your
greatest good; found at a Soul Level
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Explore perceptions
Become the “other person” and try on their version. Could there be another way
to see a situation? What did they come here to learn from this interaction?
Is it the fact that your best friend was talking about you or is it REALLY the way YOU feel
about the friend talking behind your back. Did your friend simply bump into an already
bruised area of your life?
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Eliminate distractions
Simplify your thoughts. Gain clarity and grace by eliminating mind chatter. Practice meditation
and connecting to Source
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Engage your Soul
Tune in to your intuition (the quiet voice or subtle pang inside of you) and ask what you need to
do to live Soul- fully at this given moment in time. Simply ask yourself who would I be without
this thought?
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The Intuitive Voice Method
How to access your unique inner voice.
When you follow this recipe you will feel instant change happen. You will begin to desire time with
yourself and solitude will bring you happiness. Answers appear and what grows inside of you feels
softer, kinder, and more manageable.
Get Quiet – place yourself in surroundings that are soothing and hold special meaning to you.
Take inventory – Identify the one issue that is the loudest; one issue that keeps you awake at night
or follows you throughout your day. Gently release the others. Imagine you are packing them away
on a shelf or tying them to a balloon that is carrying them far away for now. No worries they will return
you are not ignoring them forever.
Drop Inside – Simple ask yourself what wants to be revealed with regard to issue you identified –
what does it want to say to you? Allow yourself not to censor what you are feeling and thinking.
Become the observer – Allow yourself to “sit with” the feeling/ thought. Be mindful of how it shows
up in your actions/behaviors. Just watch, do not become overwhelmed with the thought. You are
merely an observer
Practice acceptance – allow whatever is there to be there; treat it as if it were your friend (in reality it
is). When we judge or avoid what IS we create more of the same. Allow whatever is presenting itself
to simple be. Talk to the feeling like you would your best friend. Be compassion, understanding, and
accepting of what you are feeling. No running, no excuses.. just accept and allow.
After you experience the shift (it doesn’t feel so heavy) ask what your next course of action should
be. Be mindful to really surrender to the process. This inner voice will never cause panic or make
you feel afraid. If those feelings come in simply ask them to leave. Breathe through it and shift them
out. Don’t wait one more minute. Try this process today and begin to experience the joy you were
meant to experience.
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Following are some examples of values. Identify your top five. Use those top five to help you
answer next set of questions. This list is simply a guideline please use all words you feel
connected to.
Truth
Friendship
Knowledge
Achievement
Generosity
Love
Altruism
Happiness
Loyalty
Charity
Health
Pleasure
Cooperation
Honesty
Positive attitude
Creativity
Honor
Power
Dignity
Hope
Recognition
Economic
Humility
Relationships
Emotional Well-being
Independence
Respect
Equality
Inner peace
Safety
Excellence
Integrity
Self-worth
Faith
Joy
Service
Family
Justice
Simplicity
Freedom
Kindness
Trust
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What are my values at this stage in my life?
What do I need now that I never needed before?
What do I no longer need?
What do I need to do now?
What do I no longer need to do?
My Vision of Who I AM
PURPOSE:
To create your own personal vision statement using your intuition.
Step #1: Identify Your Actions/Values
Time: no more than 5 minutes
In “identify your actions,” select action words (verbs) that will be incorporated into your vision
statement.
Every vision requires action and action words are verbs. Select 3 verbs that most inspire you. Let
your intuition be your guide.
Step #2: Identify Your Core Values
Time: no more than 5 minutes
Values are the foundation of our behavior. They define what is most important to us. Our values
are the driving force behind our decisions, our work, and our relationships. Discovering your
values can be an invaluable tool in finding your purpose. Our actions are driven by our values.
Select 3 values. Take a moment and check in with your intuitive Self. Would you be willing to
devote your life to these values? What is at the core of your being?
Step #3: Connecting Value & Action
Time: no more than five minutes
During this portion of the activity, you will determine how well your chosen actions and values
function together in a vision statement.
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Now that you have selected your values and your actions, it is important to see if they are
compatible. Combine each action with your chosen values to see if they “make sense” when
working together in a sentence or phrase.
In the event that one or more verbs do not make sense when paired with the core values, it is
important to determine which of the two words is more “true” to who you are. Keep that word, set
aside the other, and identify a stronger word to replace it. One of the alternate words you selected
may be a better choice. It is important to identify what it is about the word that you like. Does is
represent what you really want to do?
Step #4: Identify Your Cause
Time: no more than five minutes
In the “identify your cause” phase of the activity, you are challenged to identify the causes to which
you are committed.
YOUR Cause
To create a strong vision statement, it is important to have a sense of clarity on whom you really
want to serve, inspire, learn from, and impact in a positive way. Pick the 3 causes that most
appeal to you.
Step #5: Putting it all Together
Time: no more than five minutes
Now that you have identified your actions, values and passions(cause), it’s time to pull it all
together into a vision statement. Your vision is the sum of these three components: verbs,
values, and cause.
Spend the next few minutes reflecting upon what you have done thus far and think about what you
really want to be about. What purpose do you have for your life? Listen to the “still, small voice”
within and, using your verbs, values and cause, try to articulate what your heart is saying.
Pulling it together
Vision = Verbs + Core Value(s) + Clans(s)
Review the verbs, core value(s), and clans you have selected—listen to your inner voice. What is
your heart saying to you? Based on what you “hear,” use the equation above [Vision = Verbs +
Core Values(s) + Clan(s)] to write a 1-2 sentence vision statement.
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One “test” of a good vision statement is to determine if it is inspiring, exciting, clear, true, and
engaging. As you read through the statement you have written mentally respond to the following
questions:
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Is it you?
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Is it true?
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Does it make sense?
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Is it inspiring?
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Does it excite you?
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Does it excite others? (ASK others for feedback!)
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Would you be willing to dedicate your life to this and only this?
FINAL STEP: Final Statement
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Module Four
RELATIONSHIPS
All relationships are work. But the relationship that takes the most work is the one you have with
yourself. We don’t typically think about having a relationship with ourselves in the way we think
about traditional relationships that we have with other people and that is exactly why I create this
program. I cannot emphasis enough how important the relationship with yourself is. One of my
favorite sayings is, everywhere you go there you are!
Who do I want in my life?
What do I bring to my current relationship?
Is this a relationship that empowers me?
Do I empower this person or enable them?
Do I value this individual in my life fully and completely? How do I show it?
Do I want to nurture this relationship and if so, what will that require?
Does this person value me? How do they show me?
Does this relationship require hard work or does it bring me great delight?
Does this relationship support my highest and greatest good? Share examples.
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Module Five
SELF CARE
What do I value about myself?
What am I doing to take care of myself?
What kind of people am I surrounding myself with?
If I had no fears what one thing would I like to accomplish in my lifetime?
I value my health and as a result
What gifts do I possess that I have kept hidden?
What you are willing to do today to live outside the box.
Reverence: A feeling of profound awe and respect and often love - honor
or respect felt or shown
Reverence = Self Care. Reverence is to recognize and honor the presence of the sacred in
everything. Being grateful is a way to show respect or honor to your higher power. Having
an attitude of gratitude or how I may serve supports reverence. Show appreciation for
WHAT IS by accepting WHAT IS.
Set aside quiet time to commune with your higher power. Your mind has so many thoughts
and it is nearly impossible to shut it all off. Do not be hard on yourself. Focusing on your
breathing is a classic way to get your mind silent; if a thought floats in simply ask it to leave
and return to conscious breathing. Ask that a state of mental relaxation becomes you. If you
are hard on yourself you completely defeat the purpose of this exercise. Love and honor
exactly where you are; simply allow yourself the gift of acceptance. Release any negative
thoughts through breath and take in thoughts or joy and kindness through the breath.
When you practice stillness you will begin enjoying communion with your Creator in only the
way that you can. Remember, there is no right or wrong way to have a relationship with
Source.
This story comes from the Buddhist teachings and describes beautifully the stilling the mind.
It is said that a most intelligent man once came to the Zen Master Nannin seeking
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answers to the mystery of life. Being a professor of philosophy, the man's queries about
God and meditation were endless. The master listened in silence.
When the man had temporarily exhausted his requests, the master said, "You look tired.
Having climbed this high mountain and traveled to this far away place. Come and rest, while
I prepare you tea." Although his mind boiled with questions, the professor waited while
the tea brewed. As its rich aroma filled the room the Master said, "Be
patient. Don't be in such a hurry. Who knows? Even by drinking tea, your
questions may be answered."
At this the professor began to doubt the wisdom of the teacher. He began
wondering if his entire journey had been a waste of time. This man seems
mad, he thought. What do my questions about God and the divine have to
do with tea? Yet the professor was indeed tired, as the master had
perceived, and if he was soon to descend this mount he needed
refreshment.
The Master brought the kettle, poured the tea in the cup and the tea
started overflowing into the saucer. The professor was startled by the
clumsiness and amazed when the master continued to allow the tea to
flow until the saucer also was filled. Just one more drop and the tea would
start flowing onto the table and the floor. The professor exclaimed, "Stop!
What are you doing! Can't you see the cup is full and the saucer is full?"
Nannin replied, "That is the exact condition you find yourself in.
"Your mind is so full of questions that even if I answer, you don't have any space to receive
the wisdom. Since you entered this palace, your questions have overflowed. This small
abode is filled with your questions. "Return from whence you came, empty your cup and then
come. If you are to fulfill your desire to know the great mysteries of life, you must first create
a space for them to enter."
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Stilling your mind is essential for communion. It is very difficult to have communion, to
have a conversation, whether it is with God or a friend, when there is no time of stilling
your mind. For communion, there must be a time of receiving what the other has to give.
Stilling the mind is essential to those seeking the revelation of God. This is ultimately
what we strive for when we practice meditation. This is WHY we meditate. Guidance,
wisdom.
We call ourselves human beings when in reality we are spiritual beings.
You are a soul and your essence is spirit. You begin to know and live this
truth as you reveal God in your consciousness and your life. Meditation is
the time and space you make daily for God in your life.
There are many purposes for meditation.
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Once of them is greater awareness of who you are and your
purpose for existence.
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To be able to experience complete joy and peace is a reason to meditate.
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To have a greater sense of caring about yourself and other people is also a
reason to meditate.
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To revitalize your mind, your body, and your spirit is a benefit of meditation.
Your prayers are an integral part of your well-being. Every religion in the world has some
form of prayer that is taught. Prayer is the capacity to state what you desire. Meditation is
the skilled, stilling of the mind to receive an answer.
There is another story I'd like to share with you about prayer that I found
personally, as a teacher, insightful, and perhaps you will derive inspiration as well.
It is said that one of the great spiritual Masters, Moses, once came upon a man
who was praying. The man's prayer sounded so strange that Moses stopped.
As he listened, he realized the man's prayer was insulting to God. "Let me come close
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to you," the man prayed, "and I promise to clean your body when it is dirty. If lice are
there, I will take them away. And I am a good shoemaker. I will make you perfect
shoes. "Nobody looks after your needs Lord. I will make sure your needs are met. If
you fall ill, I will serve you and bring to you what will cleanse you of sickness. I know
how to cook and I will prepare lavish feasts of nourishment for you."
Enraged, Moses interrupted the man shouting, "Stop! Stop! You heresy.
What are you saying? That God has lice on his body? That God's clothes
are dirty and that you will clean them? That God can be ill and have need for
food that you will cook for him? Who taught you this prayer?"
Stunned, the man tearfully replied, "No one taught me this prayer. I have
not learned it from anywhere. I am very poor and I am very uneducated
and I don't know how to pray. I have made it up from the thing I know.
"Life troubles me very much, so it must trouble God. Sometimes the food I
find is not very good and my stomach aches. God must also suffer in this
way sometimes. This is just my own experience that has become my
prayer, but if you know the right prayer please teach me."
Filled with compassion, Moses taught the man the right prayer. The man bowed
down to Moses, thanking him as tears of deep gratitude flowed from his eyes. The
man departed and Moses was very pleased at this opportunity to help another to see
his error and learn the correct way to pray.
While Moses slept, God appeared to him in a dream. His voice filled with anger, God
said, "I sent you there to bring people closer to me but now you have thrown away one
of my greatest lovers. This right prayer you have taught him will keep him from me. He
will now only repeat the words you have told him. "Those words will be a barrier
between his spirit and mine. It is not a prayer at all."Prayer has nothing to do with law.
Prayer is the love. Love is a law onto itself. It needs no other law. "Know that my
servant, with love comes grace. With love comes truth. Truth is the liberation of the
spirit."Your prayers are important in meditation. Prayer is a very personal process and
one that is never done incorrectly. What matters is that your prayer comes from your
heart. Take a few moments and write what’s in your heart at this very moment.
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I’d like to invite you to take a few moments to gather all your thoughts and imagine yourself
packing them gently away in a box on a shelf. Remind yourself they will be safe there and if you
choose to you may go back and get them later.
Find a comfortable place to sit and begin to call your attention to your breath.
Focus on two words: JUST & THIS
On the inhale say the word JUST and on the exhale say the word THIS
JUST … THIS…JUST…THIS…JUST..THIS….
After about 10 minutes turn your awareness to your heart and ask yourself 2 questions:
WHO AM I?
WHAT DO I WANT?
Be open to receive whatever comes forth.
In closing The only real way to find your voice is to dig deep into who you know yourself to be. Most people
are so busy running around just trying to keep up with the "story" of who they are they never take
time to look for their truth.
All the work I do focuses on helping you feel better emotionally, physically and spiritually.. I know
firsthand they are all tied together.. if one is off they're all off. I have experienced the effects of a
well dissected and re-assembled life and while it was difficult to see the truth at time I am certainly
all the better for having done it.
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Many blessings,
Veronica