Spring 2014 Ties that Bind & Bless Deepening Recovery with Reunions VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 1 CONTENTS 4 Recovery: A Family Love Story 6 Carry the Message 8 Butler Center for Research: Cognitive Processing in Addiction 11 50 Years: A Day at a Time 12 ON THE COVER On the Cover: The Art of Reunion 15 Regional Spotlight: Springbrook 16 Bright Lights 18 HazelFest 20 Celebrating Milestones How you can stay connected Join the Alumni Network Hazelden Alumni are eligible to become members of Hazelden’s Alumni Network—a closed community available only to alumni of Hazelden’s programs: • Take part in online meetings. • Find treatment peers. • Participate in discussions. • Listen to Hazelden Lectures on podcast. To login please visit: hazelden.org/web/public/alumni_fellowship.page Join the Social Community Interact with thousands of others who are maintaining or seeking lives free from addiction. Access chats, online meetings, and discussion boards that address your specific areas of interest any day, any time, from anywhere. You control your anonymity settings. Members of Hazelden’s Social Community can: • Ask for help from members with decades of experience in recovery. • Offer help to people struggling to find recovery. • Listen to podcasts. • Attend online chat meetings. • Make new friends; rekindle old friendships. All members control their own privacy settings in order to share their information with as many—or as few—members as they choose. Membership is free. hazelden.org/web/go/social 2 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org A LETTER FROM JANA K. OLSLUND Dear Alumni and Friends, I am excited to announce the integration of the Hazelden Foundation and Betty Ford Center has officially been approved by regulators, establishing the “Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation”—the largest nonprofit addiction treatment provider in the country. Throughout 2014, the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation will be working to bring together alumni from both organizations. During this planning phase we welcome your thoughts and opinions and hope you will consider participating in a focus group or survey. Your input will help guide our new organization in developing future alumni programs and services. This is an exciting time for our alumni as we have the opportunity to take the best of both organizations’ programs and combine them into one world-class offering that will set the industry standard. New and improved programs will allow alumni greater opportunities to connect and engage with fellow travelers, with newcomers, and with the organization where their journey began. We hope, with this increased engagement, that your personal recovery is strengthened and improved. We encourage you to stay connected. Take a moment to visit our new website www.hazeldenbettyford.org for further information on the merger. Please do not hesitate to contact us with any questions by emailing [email protected] or calling 877-429-5082. Both Hazelden and Betty Ford have deep-rooted traditions in providing meaningful alumni engagement. Your continued commitment and participation is what helps make the recovery experience possible for those recently completing treatment, families beginning to rebuild and those looking to reinvigorate their own recovery. Together—with Betty Ford Center and the involvement of our alumni—we can bring hope and bright new futures to even more suffering from addiction to alcohol and other drugs. Thank you for staying connected! My sincerest gratitude, Jana K. Olslund, J.D. Vice President, Philanthropy and Alumni Relations Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 3 Christopher S. “I am so excited and grateful: Recovery has given me my family back.” 4 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org F E AT U R E Recovery A Family Love Story Pronounced dead on arrival at the emergency room after a drunken driving accident hurled him 114 feet from his car, Rick Sr. of Michigan survived—and so did his alcoholism. Eleven more years of abusing alcohol passed before he got sober the first time, relapsed, and finally sought help at Hazelden Center City, Minn. So began the Hazelden legacy in the S. family. Since then, Rick’s wife, Beverlee, sons Rick, Jr. and Christopher, also received treatment at Hazelden. The path to Hazelden was the most difficult for their youngest son, Christopher. “I was 22 years old and I wanted to get sober so bad, but I didn’t trust myself to do it alone,” Christopher, now 26, recalls. “But by then, our family business entered bankruptcy after a market downturn when I was 21—and we lost everything. Broke. And here was my dad, thinking: ’When my son needs help the most, all I have left is a boat and my wife’s wedding ring.’’ And that’s what Rick Sr. offered Hazelden as payment for Christopher’s treatment. Hazelden accepted—and the transformation of the S. family began. A Family Transforms Combined, the S. family has more than 40 years of Hazelden recovery, including five sessions in the Family Program. Beverlee believes Hazelden provided the family with the education that saved them as individuals and as a family. “The vulnerability and honesty required at Hazelden for both the addict and codependent cannot be adequately described, because the process takes you down to ground zero. Recovery becomes the new language to be practiced in thought, word and deed,” says Beverlee. “I also learned that the pain is equal on both sides, which I didn’t realize during the years of active addiction.” Says Rick Sr.: “I got sober for my family—but I stay sober and found recovery for myself. We view the commitment to the program as both individual and a team sport.” He returned to school at age 54, and has found his vocation as a chemical dependency therapist. “Understanding and accepting the three C’s is a foundation of self-responsibility and became a practice in our household,” Beverlee explains. The 3 C’s are: “I can’t control the disease; I didn’t cause the disease; I can’t cure the disease of addiction.” But with fearless, moral and honest searching and a willingness to be open, a person can recover from the disease. The S. family is living witness. Adult Children in Recovery The eldest child, Rick Jr., 35, has eleven years of sobriety. A former youth semi-pro hockey player, he lives and works in Michigan as a personal fitness trainer and nutritional consultant. By his 21st birthday, he says, he was “definitely out of control and asked to attend Hazelden for inpatient treatment.” He returned to hockey, but relapsed. Meeting his future wife changed everything. “I wanted the clean and sober life more than anything to be with Angie,” he says. Rick returned to his home AA meeting and with that strong base of recovery, they married. “I always thought I would be drunk at my own wedding. By the grace of God, I wasn’t,” he says. Christopher is also a gifted hockey player who once played on the semi-pro circuit in the U.S. and Canada. He recently celebrated his fourth year of sobriety after completing Hazelden, Plymouth, Minn., extended care program. He is soon to graduate from Augsburg College, where he has been part of its Step-Up Sober Dorm for students. In addition to academic success, he’s found a sober hockey team and has rediscovered the pure joy of a sport that nearly killed him with its high-performance culture. “I enjoy sports now just like I did when I was a kid—it’s so great!” Jillian is a “Normie” who works as a trainer and cross fit competitor. She relies on Twelve Step wisdom and is a dynamic participant in the recovering family. Rituals Build Relationship A joyful, strong recovery is built on rituals that connect people to each other and to sober living. Small things matter in big ways. All recovering members of the S. family attend Twelve Step meetings each week. Rick Sr. calls Beverlee when he’s in the car driving home from his AA to share thoughts the meeting sparked. Beverlee reads and journals and eagerly shares affirmations. In addition to a full load of courses to support his college psychology major, Christopher stays connected to sobriety by playing and praying hard. There’s hockey, basketball, yoga, and running every day, with prayers every night before going to sleep. “I pray for God to continue to give me the will, the desire and the want to stay sober, and thank him for every 24 hours,” he says. For Rick Jr., a strong recovery is rooted in AA meetings, Bible study and “believing in Jesus Christ. I’ve always talked about Step 3—not that I hang out there—but I love its message. I believe a higher power is out there, taking care of it all, and I believe in turning it over.” Happy, joyous and free are the promises of living a life of recovery—and the S. family members say they have come true for them. Says Christopher: “I am so excited and grateful: Recovery has given me my family back.” VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 5 Stephen S. Carrying the Message Sober living sends down anchoring roots. Recovery living grows up—branching, blooming, always seeking the garden: others in recovery with whom to form a serene and beautiful habitat of health. That’s the essential message that Stephen S. felt during his family’s Hazelden journey. His time on the Center City campus was originally spent as a member of the Family Program. Since then he has been a frequent visitor to the Renewal Center. For his family, the Twelve Step and recovery practices they developed make recovery both possible and deeply renewing. He credits Hazelden with his embracing attitude toward addiction— and growth in the garden of recovery. “I learn every time I am on the grounds and look forward to my next visit.” He is a strong believer in carrying the message because “Hazelden is an environment that is immediately calming to addict and family member alike,” he writes in an email. “As an alcoholic and father of an alcoholic, I treasure any time my schedule allows me to spend on the campus. 6 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org “My son is a former patient and is currently enrolled in the Hazelden Connection program. It is the glue that is helping him to survive his terrible illness to this date. His quality of life has been positive for the first time in decades because of this program.” Stephen S. credits Hazelden’s skilled and sensitive staff members for sparking “the immense growth in all of us.” Staff attributes he especially values are “professionalism, knowledge, strength and true caring.” What are the hallmarks of strength and caring? “She is not afraid to tell me when I need to do things differently.” For the good of the garden, the recovery habitat, truth is the sun that makes it all possible—and inspires him to carry the message. You are invited to share your story and help “carry the message” at hazelden.org/carrythemessage or call 651-292-2492. Dear Friends, In 2012 we started a campaign called “Carry the Message,” inviting Hazelden alumni to call out the caregivers or staff members who made a difference in their lives—the one person or persons they will never forget. This has triggered an outpouring of grateful testimonials and heartfelt thanks. Some former patients will never forget the driver who picked them up late at night, the nurses who were ready and waiting for them, the housekeeping staff who lent a sympathetic ear, the technicians who were there 24/7, the counselors who helped them break through to a new understanding of their disease and the possibilities that life holds. Thank you to those who shared these stories with us. What a marvelous gift your words have been to all of us at Hazelden! Share your story and help “Carry the Message”! Visit us at hazelden.org/carrythemessage or call 651-292-2492. Making a difference: Margaret Thompson Parent Professional 2 Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation “Thank you, Margaret— for your unapologetic willingness to challenge each and every one of the people whose lives you touch. It is an amazing gift. You made an extreme impact on both Xavier and me.” – ♥ Natalie “Margaret realized we each had an individual experience, and she brought the Dos and Don’ts of our and the addict’s behavior to our attention with her hard-earned knowledge, professionalism, sense of humor, and vibrancy.” – Maryland parent “She [Margaret] gave myself and my two girls (Madison and Gabby) the hope through communication and Alanon that wounds will heal. Life will look and does feel a whole lot better. I am very thankful for Hazelden. God Bless.” – Minnesota parent Revitalize your recovery With a retreat at the Dan Anderson Renewal Center Recovery is an ongoing process of transformation that requires you to continually reexamine your perceptions, attitudes, and heart. Nowhere will you find more profound or compelling opportunities to deepen or recharge your recovery than at Hazelden’s Dan Anderson Renewal Center. See what might be calling you. Big Book & 12 x 12 Study Techniques NEW Fred Holmquist 7 p.m. Friday, June 13–Noon Sunday, June 15 Join other students of the Twelve Step wisdom tradition in the serenity of Hazelden’s Center City campus for a refreshing look at the timeless wisdom—though dated language—of Alcoholics Anonymous and “Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions.” Fred will highlight the spiritual template that girds much of Bill W.’s writing, and reveal delightful consistencies that appear across his works. Running and Recovery NEW Dick Beardsley 7 p.m. Friday, June 27–Noon Sunday, June 29 Why do so many in recovery make running an integral part of their new lives? Join marathon legend Dick Beardsley to explore running and recovery. In addition to sharing his experience, strength, and hope, Dick will provide fitness/ running level assessments for participants and offer guidance about training and racing goals. With a focus on “progress, not perfection,” this exciting, experiential retreat is appropriate for beginners and lifelong runners alike. The NA Journey Continues Will Hudson 7 p.m. Friday, July 4–Noon Sunday, July 6 This retreat is ideal for anyone in Twelve Step recovery who wants to deepen his or her understanding of the extraordinary and edifying Narcotics Anonymous text. It’s a not-to-be-missed opportunity for those in the NA program as well as those who sponsor people in the program. True Happiness NEW Bill Alexander 7 p.m. Friday, July 11–Noon Sunday, July 13 Everyone wants to be happy. We look fruitlessly for happiness in people and places and things and ideas and activities. They always fail us. This pervasive state of dissatisfaction and endless longing is the path of addiction. Come and discover the path to happiness, wholeness, and freedom right where it has always been: deep within. The only key is KISS: Keep It Spiritually Simple. 30th Anniversary of the Dan Anderson Renewal Center Join the Renewal Center in celebrating its 30th anniversary! Open house event is open to alumni Sunday, July 13, 2-5 p.m. VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 7 Addiction Science Cognitive Research Understanding the impact of cognitive processing in alcohol/drug addiction Through its Butler Center for Research (BCR) in Center City, Minn., the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation leverages a suite of scientific assets that no other treatment center in the world has developed. The goal is to increase evidence-based knowledge of addiction as a means to optimize treatment outcomes. Combined, the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation and the Butler Center for Research have the following integrated assets: • More than 50 years of expertise and clinical success treating addiction in inpatient and outpatient settings, tailored to individuals and families • Years of pathbreaking research from staff M.D.s and Ph.D.s probing the factors and behaviors that drive addiction and inform treatment strategies • An extensive alumni recovery community deeply committed to improving lives through their support of rational, evidencebased, scientific treatment methods • A patient population eager and willing to take part in research studies to increase knowledge of addiction and speed discovery of improved treatments A look at an ongoing investigation into the roles of attention and memory in alcohol dependence highlights this leadership position. Attention, Memory, Alcohol Dependence Consider the relapse potential in this scenario: Two sober people are riding a bus to an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, both committed to recovery. The bus route threads through a typical urban neighborhood with apartments, coffee shops, cafes, a shoe repair shop, doctors’ offices, clothing boutiques. Tucked in among the shops is a bar. The attention of one of the bus riders is immediately drawn to the bar. Her gaze locks onto its neon signs—which may cause her to become immersed mentally in past associations and memories of using that the bar sign triggers. The other bus rider’s attention passes right over the bar and drinking-related cues. Is the risk of relapse different for these two people? This is one of the questions that the Butler Center for Research’s cognitive research attempts to answer. “Evidence suggests the brains of some alcohol-dependent individuals have biases in the kinds of things they pay attention to, 8 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org and in the way they remember things, a bias that favors processing of alcohol-related cues and stimuli,’’ explains BCR Executive Director Audrey Klein, Ph.D., a specialist in experimental cognitive psychology and addiction research. Cognitive experimental research is not only well underway at BCR, it is in the vanguard of this type of inquiry. “Being part of such cuttingedge, pioneering research makes patients and alumni tremendously proud. Many of them state that they participate in our studies out of a desire to help other alcoholics suffering with the disease,” Klein says. Patient Volunteers: From Problem to Solution Among the methods Klein and her team use to study cognitive processing is a novel application of a widely-used task developed in the 1930s, the Stroop task. Based on visual identification abilities, it measures subjects’ response times while decoding visual stimuli. A typical Stroop task involves the presentation of color names on a computer screen. The names appear in a colored font that either matches or mismatches the word. For example, the word “red” appears in red font on some trials, but appears in blue font on others. The participant is asked to identify the font color of the printed word while ignoring the meaning of the word. The time it takes to name the font color is recorded in Typical Stroop task milliseconds and is called reaction time (RT). “The Stroop task creates a dilemma for the attentional system in the brain,” Klein explains. “That system appears biased to automatically attend to word meaning before attending to the physical characteristics of the word. When the word meaning and color match, attentional processing of the font color is quick and easy. When they are different, it takes the brain longer to process the font color. In essence, the Stroop task uses the length of the reaction times to shed light on what the brain is doing when presented with different types of visual information.” BUTLER CENTER FOR RESEARCH “Evidence suggests the brains of some alcohol-dependent individuals have biases in the kinds of things they pay attention to, and in the way they remember things.” VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 9 Research Update The Alcohol Stroop Task Alcohol variants of the Stroop task have been developed over the years. They present alcohol-related words (beer, wine, whiskey) and non-alcohol-related words (computer, street, building) in different font colors, then measure RTs required to name the color. “The standard finding is that alcohol-dependent individuals take significantly longer to identify the color of alcohol words. This suggests their brains are biased toward processing these stimuli,” Klein notes. The BCR team designed a novel variant of the alcohol Stroop task. Never before used with alcohol-dependent patients, it presents a colored rectangle with either an alcohol-related or a neutral word printed inside. The task is to name the color as quickly as possible while ignoring the word. RTs are recorded for each trial. Explains Klein: “The patient will be exposed to two things, the colored shape and the word. Even though the word is task-irrelevant, we predict that some patients will have trouble ignoring the alcohol words and will take much longer to color name when these words appear, compared to neutral, non-alcohol-related words. We are in the process of collecting outcomes data, and later on we can determine if patients with a strong alcohol bias are more likely to relapse.” A Brain Bias for Alcohol? Klein’s team considered the possibility that some patients would show a bias for processing alcohol words even if they were presented with a situation where they should be easy to ignore. “So on some trials, the words appeared outside the rectangle and should have been easy to ignore,” Klein says. But many patients still showed an attentional bias to the words and remembered seeing the alcohol words at a much higher level than the neutral words when given a surprise memory test. “The fact that memory for the alcohol words was so good indicates they were processed by the brain. In essence, we are some of the first researchers to show a memory as well as an attentional processing bias for alcohol words in patients with alcohol dependence.” Butler Center researchers hope that these tasks will become useful clinical tools to improve treatment outcomes and minimize relapses. Says Klein: “The opportunity to do this research is incredibly exciting because the potential for improving the lives of addicted people with science and apply findings to clinical practice is so powerful.” 10 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org COR-12 Study of Medicationassisted Opioid Addiction Treatment in a Twelve Step Framework Hazelden leaders embarked on a new clinical initiative in January 2013 aimed at delivering more effective treatment for patients with opioid dependence. Called Comprehensive Opioid Response-12 (COR-12), it includes the use of prescription drugs Naltrexone or Suboxone, where appropriate. Because research remains a key area of focus at the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation, the Butler Center for Research (BCR) designed a pilot study involving a sample of COR-12 patients. A key aspect of this study, currently underway, involves comparing treatment outcomes of three groups of COR-12 patients, consisting of: 1. P atients taking no medications for opioid dependence. 2. P atients taking Vivitrol, an extended-release form of Naltrexone injected once a month. It is a non-addicting, anti-craving agent in the opioid antagonist class that blocks opioid receptors. 3. P atients taking Suboxone, a combination of buprenorphine and Naloxone, a partial opioid agonist. Approved by the National Institute on Drug Abuse, medication-assisted treatment (MAT) is designed to assist treatment of opioid dependence with select drugs, as opposed to relying on the abstinence-only treatment approach that requires detoxification before psychosocial therapies are started. Although the U.S. Food and Drug Administration sanctions MAT in specific circumstances overseen by specially trained providers, MAT’s reliance on pharmaceuticals is controversial to some abstinence-only advocates. Hazelden is committed to ongoing research of these medications to fully evaluate their potential. “We looked at the data on the current opioid epidemic and the results of a number of past studies, which suggest that the use of these medications can be effective in the treatment of opioid dependence. We saw the possibility for making a real difference with COR-12 in the lives of these patients,” explains Audrey Klein, Ph.D., executive director of BCR. AN INTERVIEW WITH WILLIAM C. MOYERS 50 Years A Day at a Time Terry T. owes his life to a transformation that began the moment he found himself at Hazelden following a serious car accident that should have killed him. When he showed me a frayed piece of folded paper he pulled from his wallet, I grasped that sometimes there are a few moments destined to never fade with the decades. They grow stronger. “It started with this,” he said, delicately handing the paper across the dinner table to me. “Pay to the order of Hazelden, January, 1964.” The softness of his voice faded to near silence. His eyes welled with tears. “Hazelden made it possible.” He gave away the original cancelled check long ago. Now he carries a copy recording the few hundred dollars he paid to Hazelden to help him overcome his alcoholism when he was 25 years old. A small fee for a big shot of redemption that became a wellspring, paying lifelong dividends beyond anything he had considered. “I didn’t show up with any commitment of ‘life without alcohol,’” recalls Terry. “The counselor who met me there, Al Douw, asked, ‘Do you want to quit drinking?’ and, after pausing, I said, ‘Well, I want to want to.’ Al said, ‘good enough, come on in.’” Recently, Terry and members of his family returned to Center City to share a unique moment in their journey with me and several hundred patients who were treated to a celebration that rarely occurs at Hazelden—or anywhere for that matter. Terry received his 50-year sobriety medallion. I gave it to him. In a spontaneous instant, the audience rose to its feet in unison, lifted by the sheer force of inspiration-driven hope. Even before he had begun to share his story, Terry’s half-century of sobriety told the story of what is possible when anyone who cannot stop drinking or taking drugs finally does stop and starts that essential commitment required for a life in recovery. “Willingness is the necessary magic sauce, a crack to let the light in,” Terry told the women and men in the auditorium. “I actually rationalized, before coming in, that my choices were either ‘I am crazy’ or ‘I am alcoholic’ and thought maybe I could fix being alcoholic, and so I chose that.” And the audience laughed in agreement. They could relate. Addiction is a disease of isolation. The antidote is found in the first word of the first step of those Twelve Steps that have helped millions of people find the “fix” to what ails them: WE. Not you, not her, not them, not me. But WE, the pronoun of unity, togetherness and support that, as Terry offered in his story, reminds us all that nobody is alone in the struggle to recover. In fact, it is imperative that we stick together. Or, as Benjamin Franklin is oft quoted just before signing the Declaration of Independence, “We must, indeed, all hang together, or most assuredly we will all hang separately.” Fifty years long or just a few days from the beginning, together we addicts and alcoholics improve our chances to recover by hanging out in meetings, at coffee shops and holiday parties—and at sobriety celebrations at treatment centers. In Hazelden’s storied history, this commitment of connectedness has never been stronger. The merger with the Betty Ford Center unifies two organizations long dedicated to transforming people affected by substance use disorders. Not just patients in need of treatment. But also children and families affected by addiction. Students who want to become counselors with master’s degrees. Medical professionals seeking insights about how addiction sickens their patients and recovery makes them better. Authors with personal and professional insights turned into books to share with others. School administrators and community leaders dedicated to cutting-edge prevention tools. Alumni who need an ever-present touchstone on their journey, and donors who want their generosity to have a bigger, lasting impact. This is the WE of the new Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation. Sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly, thousands of us have walked into treatment, the family program, outpatient mental health or an aftercare group convinced ours is a lonely sojourn, only to find women and men on the same path. Not all of us stay the course like Terry T., without a stumble or slip. But as my recovery mentor Paul once admonished me when the future looked so impossible, “Remember that the best anyone has ever done is the 24 hours ahead.” Terry’s story reminds us that, strung together, 24 hours do add up. And when shared, the tally is enough to lift up the collective spirit of people in an auditorium whose transformation was once measured in days, just like Terry. Terry T. VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 11 The Art of Reunion Kilts, cows and a life of usefulness to others are the sturdy threads in the tartan weave of Eddie M.’s life that connect him to what he values most: sobriety. But it is not just any sobriety. As Eddie emphasizes, his is a “contented sobriety,” sobriety practiced in community with other addicts and AA steps to keep him honest, open, willing and seeking humility. “Arrogance has always been one my big problems,” he notes. “You could deflate my ego today and it would be back up and riding horseback tomorrow. It’s a constant struggle.” The surest antidote to ego-bound living Eddie has found is usefulness. “The quality of my sobriety is directly proportional to my usefulness to others,” he explains. “While this notion is certainly not original to me, I believe the more we all keep passing on the wisdom we pick up from others, the better off and happier we all are. That’s a great thing about attending Hazelden annual reunions—it provides a way to share what works and carry the message, as opposed to just helping me stay sober, as it did originally.” 12 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org Turning Point: Tiebout Reunion At 77, Eddie lives on a Michigan farm near Kalamazoo, where he raises prize Highland cattle and practices Big Book wisdom every day to mark his personal transformation that began Nov. 10, 1993, in Hazelden’s Tiebout Unit. It’s a community so important to him that he never misses a Tiebout reunion. “Connecting at reunions every year at Hazelden is a center of my life now—and has been for 21 years,” Eddie says. Attending his first reunion in March 1994, he met 62 alums and staff. “From Thursday to Sunday this Tiebout group worked me over pretty well and the light finally went on: I had been white-knuckling sobriety for my first few months not drinking—dry, but not sober. I was not really working the program. But by that Sunday, I finally understood something about recovery—and I wanted it,” Eddie says. He left feeling happy and optimistic about recovery, and told them all he would be back next year. It was met with the kind of ruthless honesty recovery calls forth. Said one: ‘You know, Eddie, alcoholics are great at making promises. Those of us who are sober keep them.’ Eddie got it—and accepted it. “That was a great challenge to me, and I have always loved a grand challenge.” He’s never missed a reunion. Drinking Cultures For a native Scotsman born in Kilmarnock, the home of Johnnie Walker headquarters, “the question was never, ‘Will you drink?’ It was ‘How soon can you start?’ “ Eddie recalls. He began drinking at pubs at age 16, then immigrated to the U.S. at age 21—and entered the military, which also had a robust drinking culture. Given that background, the change that began at Hazelden is profound. Recalling it threatens to leave Eddie at a loss for words— only threatens. “To make a long story endless, all I can say is it still eludes me a bit today to understand what happened and how all the goodness started,” Eddie says. “I’ve turned 180 degrees from the old Eddie. When I went to Hazelden in 1993, I had no idea what I’d gotten myself into. But my wife had died in 1989, my job seemed to be going all right but my staff were carrying the load—it was time to change.” Envisioning change that involved not ON THE COVER Eddie M. drinking alcohol was nearly impossible for him. By that time Eddie was drinking two quarts of Johnnie Walker Red a day. Because he never missed work, he believed it wasn’t a problem—despite evidence to the contrary. “The DWIs, weekends in jail, poor decisions I made, none of it seemed to indicate that quitting drinking would be good for me, which of course is crazy. Now I see that. But while most of the stories of my drinking days are strictly hearsay, since I was a blackout drinker, I can say I was committed to it. Faithful. I just kept going, though I did notice that the more I drank, the worse—and more expensive—the lawyers got. That much got through to me. I was so unmanageable that when I tried stopping drinking at lunch, I couldn’t imagine how that would work, so I stopped eating lunch and picked up the pace at cocktail hour. That’s the kind of dishonesty that drove me and made such a mess of things.” Corporate Intervention By age 57, Eddie was an accomplished and successful engineer, a corporate vice president, a spiritual and physical wreck. He weighed 305 pounds and had earned the nickname “Crash” for having crashed so many vehicles he prototyped as a transportation engineer. “We always managed to rebuild them,” he said. “The more successful I became, the more I drank.” Somehow his wife and stepchildren weathered it all. “Everyone around me was extremely tolerant of my disease—family, employer, coworkers.” The change to sober life was sparked by corporate human resource officers who themselves were sober Twelve Step members. Eddie was just one more drunk driving citation away from felony charges under Michigan law, and his employers were concerned. As a corporate officer, Eddie could not have a felony conviction and hold his position as a vice president. He was risking embarrassment and a lifestyle slide the likes of which he’d never imagined. “I had no idea what a sober drunk was, but these two human resource officers called me in to meet. They suggested this Hazelden place, and they were friendly, bright fellows and one said, ‘What do you have to lose?’ So I thought, ‘Why not?’ I needed their help in the corporate headquarters where I was a topic of conversation, that much was clear. What I didn’t realize is just how much I needed help in my life.” Rebuilding, Clean and Sober Sixteen months after treatment, Eddie retired from the high-pressure executive life. He now focuses on tending his farm and beloved cattle and sheep—and working his Twelve Step program at all times, colorful and notable as the cow farmer in the kilt. He chooses among four of the five family tartans—two formal, two for day, “although sometimes I stray”—and considers farming in them at least a two-kilt job. “Since I use the kilt so much around cattle the smell is easily absorbed by the wool. In fact, the wool will absorb any odor. I usually hang my kilt out on a clothes line to allow it to freshen,” he explains. At least once a week, Eddie drives 70 miles for fellowship and an AA meeting with inmates at the local prison. He also carries the AA message to the county jail weekly. To all, he gives of his time and energy unstintingly to talk of the deep peace and contentment sobriety brings him. Even when he’s on the VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 13 road to sell cattle at livestock shows, he walks the walk he first learned at Hazelden and deepens each year with the help of his Tiebout brothers during reunions. On the way to a recent livestock show in Denver, Eddie got caught during the 1,200mile drive in the snows that buried the Middle West and plains. At times he could go only 30 m.p.h. No worries. He got there, making friends along the way—including an Amish farmer who needed a yak delivered to Indiana on the return trip. Eddie M. was just the man for the job of yak delivery: another grand challenge. “It was quite a task getting into his place, and we had to wait while they plowed a path, but all went well.” It always seems to go well these days for Eddie M. Ever since the turning point of his first Tiebout reunion, the sun of sobriety is always out, and blessings abound. Despite the record snows and winds of this frigid winter, lambing began on his farm in February, and Eddie saw a sight he’d never seen before: a perfect delivery of a lamb, completely within the “fleece” or amniotic sac, until it was fully delivered. “That is quite rare to see,” Eddie says. “Usually the front feet and nose break the membrane prior to exit. When I was a wee boy some time ago I was told if I ever saw a foal in a fleece I would always be blessed. I never did see that, but I guess I have been blessed more than I deserve and that suits me just fine.” “What I didn’t realize is just how much I needed help in my life.” 2014 Alumni Reunions Strengthen, renew and enrich your recovery at the place where you began—Hazelden. Lilly Alumni Reunion Promises Alumni Reunion Location: Location: Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 06/05/2014 Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 09/04/2014 Simmons/Lilly Primary Alumni Reunion Jellinek Alumni Reunion Location: Location: Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 06/19/2014 Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 09/18/2014 Dia Linn Alumni Reunion Silkworth Alumni Reunion Location: Location: Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 07/17/2014 Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 10/16/2014 Springbrook Alumni Reunion Florida Alumni Reunion Location: Location: Newberg, OR | Upcoming Date: 07/19/2014 Cronin Alumni Reunion Location: Center City, MN | Upcoming Date: 08/14/2014 14 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org Naples, FL | Upcoming Date: 10/17/2014 REGIONAL SPOTLIGHT Sexual Identity & Recovery Springbrook LGBTQ Programming Creates Culture of Acceptance Addressing gender and sexuality issues has always been part of modern chemical dependency treatment. Now, at Hazelden Springbrook in Newberg, Ore., probing gender and sexual identity take on renewed relevance in a new model that is yielding promising outcomes while attracting national attention. To meet the growing need of peers who identify in nontraditional gender categories, Springbrook has developed some of the most advanced, socially sensitive and focused programming anywhere with its “LGBTQ-Integrative” (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer) treatment model. Data from Springbrook’s programming is part of an academic study now under review for publishing, and will be included in a research update by Hazelden’s Butler Center for Research later this year. Treat the Person, Not the Label “We’re trying to change the experience of heterosexualtreatment culture for LGBTQ people,” explains Buster Ross, MA, CADCII, CSC, LPC-I, Hazelden Springbrook’s LGBTQ program director. “While many of the trauma issues we are addressing in treatment are the same as they are for our heterosexual and cisgender clients, we most often are working with existential issues stemming from family system and cultural rejection. To address internalized negative attitudes about self related to sexuality and gender identity, we have to create and continually foster a community of love and healing.” Ross emphasizes that an environment in which non-LGBTQ and LGBTQ people embrace each other as they are is tremendously valuable to both groups. “When we encounter clients with strongly held negative attitudes about LGBTQ people, it is often related to unresolved feelings and experiences, things they often want help in understanding. But it is important to be clear that our only expectation is that all of our clients be able to treat one another with respect in the milieu.” In just a little over three years, Springbrook has moved from having no specialized services for LGBTQ clients to having a robust program, notes Ross. Beyond the Binary Ross credits training from The PRIDE Institute’s inpatient and outpatient all-LGBTQ treatment programs and his independent study of Sexual Health at Hazelden Graduate School of Addiction Studies in Center City as major influences in shaping his approach. “Traditional treatment is gender binary. It’s kind of a radical notion to have men and women intermix in a traditional treatment model, yet it’s vital for LGBTQ people in treatment. Patients need this to establish the sense of safety that healing trauma is contingent upon. When we create opportunities to be together in mixed groups, we find it adds depth to recovery: people get something beyond acceptance. During my own training, I saw that much of what happens at PRIDE is community, so we’ve created opportunities to support its organic development at Springbrook. When there’s genuine community it makes our work easy.” In addition to attending gender-integrated group meetings and therapy sessions, Springbrook’s LGBTQ recovery program participants go off campus together to attend meetings at Portland’s Gay and Lesbian center; take part in regular movie nights; and engage in LGBTQ community-specific service opportunities. The Need for LGBTQ Programming A tailored LGBTQ recovery approach is needed not only because research suggests that non-heterosexual people may be more prone to developing drug and alcohol problems than heterosexual people, but that they have higher rates of previous detoxification and inpatient treatment episodes, trauma, and additional mental health diagnoses. Ross suggests the higher prevalence may be attributed to broader cultural issues and stressors for LGBTQ people than individual pathology. “The data we’re pulling leads me to believe that minority stress may be the primary driver of the unique issues we have been identifying. When you have a family system that rejects you, you have more stress. When you live with the fear of being ‘found out’, witnessing threats, violence, rejection, and abandonment, you have more stress. Shame and addiction further compound that stress.” Ross looks beyond genetics to developmental psychology and attachment theory for explanatory power. “Many people with addiction struggle to connect with others,” he says. “The ability to experience a broader range of intimacy becomes possible as shame is reduced. Community can do that.” Early results of this model are encouraging, generating invitations to share this approach around the country. VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 15 Bright Lights Tommy R. BORN: New York City, 46 years ago SOBRIETY DAY: June 21, 1991, following treatment in 1989 at Hazelden Pioneer House in Plymouth, Minn. LIVES IN: Venice, California, where he is founder of the holistic recovery movement known as Recovery 2.0, which consists of online resources for recovery including two acclaimed on-line conferences each year. TURNING POINT: In 2003, I met my yoga teacher. I knew at once I was in the presence of something sacred and immensely powerful, and I’ve experienced a true recovery within recovery by discovering the powerful effects of my yoga and meditation practice. STAYS CONNECTED TO RECOVERY BY: The core elements of connection for me are 1. sponsoring others, 2. recovery wisdom experiences that arise from interactions while leading workshops and retreats, 3. The Path of Yoga, 4. Healing my relationship with food. I lived my childhood as one sugar event to the next. I was building weakness into my system and it primed me for other addictions. SIMPLE PLEASURE: Eating foods right out of my garden. There’s so much joy in food, organic fruits and vegetables, whole grains, really clean food. Gardening is one of the most centering activities I do. GUILTY PLEASURE: In the realm of food, of course: Hmm….a cup of really good black tea with steamed milk, and just the right amount of honey. Or one really well-made chocolate chip cookie. Not enough to trigger a slip, just a joy. MAIN MESSAGE: One of them is: if you really want to go toe to toe with addiction you have to consider your relationship with food. Another is: start a yoga practice right away. BEST ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED: Cultivate simplicity—seek it and support it in others. GO-TO SERENITY WORD OR PRACTICE: Sat Nam. It means “Truth is my identity.” 16 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org BRIGHT LIGHTS Stan R. Matina M. BORN: St. Paul, Minn., July 28, 1940 BORN: Evanston, Ill., June 2, 1976 SOBRIETY DAY: Feb. 21, 1965, at Hazelden Center City LIVES IN: Chicago, Ill. LIVES IN: Roseville, Minn. TURNING POINT: I received incredible support, guidance and strength from the Family Program as well as the Connection program. The counselors used a perfect balance of wisdom, humor and warmth in both the group and individual sessions. They knew when I was down, and they lifted my spirits with their smiles and fantastic humor. When I felt despair or helplessness, they built me up and helped me to acknowledge my own strength. TURNING POINT: For the first three years of my marriage, I was drinking to the point of blackout. I either had to do something or I’d die. I had a Twelve Step intervention. My in-laws paid for my sobriety. I’m just so grateful to them. STAYS CONNECTED TO RECOVERY BY: Daily readings. “Twenty-four Hours a Day” is a favorite. SIMPLE PLEASURE: Just being with my grandkids, playing and reading with them. We babysit them every week. GUILTY PLEASURE: I don’t feel guilty because I’m very deliberate about when I choose to have one, but I do like to have a cigar on occasion. MAIN MESSAGE: AA meetings and friendships have so much to offer. I just don’t know what I’d do without AA. It’s the “we” of AA. BEST ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED: I’ll never forget it: I was driving up to Hazelden with the man who was part of the Twelve Step call the week before. When we got there he said: “You see, Stan, there’s no fence around here. You’re here because you wanted to come here. Just remember: ‘Live one day at a time and go to AA meetings and you’ll be OK.’ I still go to three meetings a week.” GO-TO SERENITY WORD OR PRACTICE: I say a prayer I made up in connection with the Third Step. In it, I ask God to accept me for that day, and to give me the direction to follow his will. It changes a little day to day, depending on what’s on my mind. STAYS CONNECTED TO RECOVERY BY: Giving back, helping others and attending a weekly Twelve Step meeting. SIMPLE PLEASURE: Playing at the beach with my two young boys. GUILTY PLEASURE: I indulge in ice cream. I love the process of making and then slowly enjoying the perfect sundae. MAIN MESSAGE: I want to give back so the next person can discover the tools to care for themselves and to ensure that quality support is always available for those seeking help. BEST ADVICE YOU EVER RECEIVED: Slow down, live one day at a time, and to T.H.I.N.K. (is what I am about to say or do Thoughtful, Helpful, Intelligent, Necessary, and Kind?) GO-TO SERENITY WORD OR PRACTICE: “T.H.I.N.K.” WHEN I DIE…I would like it to be known that I lived one day at a time in peace, finding joy and happiness in the little things, always grateful for all the good in my life, and that I did what I could to help others see the beauty of the day. Help celebrate Stan’s 50th sobriety anniversary and those in need of patient aid by making your gift to the Stan Rydell patient aid fund at hazelden.thankyou4caring.org/donation-pages/stan-rydell-patient-aid-fund VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 17 Recovery Rocks! Second Annual HazelFest Outdoor Music Festival Celebrates Recovery Treatment works! And living the recovery lifestyle is not only possible, it’s fun! Hazelden alum Mark H. puts it this way: “Music and the celebration around it was always a part of my using life, and it’s hard to find sober music venues. So I really appreciate HazelFest. It allows the fun and celebration to continue in my life in a healthy way!” Hazelden’s vibrant, joyful, outdoor music festival is family-friendly and welcoming to all. Its goal is to celebrate recovery in all means possible—from music and dance, to delectable foods including international cuisine, to petting zoo sessions to recovery-education resources, Twelve Step meetings and recovery speakers. The event is clean and sober, goes rain or shine and will be held on Saturday, Aug. 2, at the Center City campus, from 11 a.m. to 8 p.m. Tickets are $20 in advance, $30 at the door and children 12 and under free. Tickets may be purchased in advance at hazelden.org/hazelfest. Bands, Families & Food Trucks Now in its second year, HazelFest features entertainment by performers who have strong ties to Hazelden and the recovery community. They use music, story, embodied movement and mindfulness to renew commitment, create friendships and explore deeper ways of living—clean, sober, free and full of meaning. This year’s acts include Communist Daughter, Davina and the Vagabonds, Trapper Schoepp and headlining band The Jayhawks. 18 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org August 2, 2014 HazelFest 2014 Line Up: • Davina and the Vagabonds • Communist Daughter • Trapper Schoepp NOW ANNOUNCING HEADLINING BAND: The Jayhawks The event attracts more than 40 recovery-focused exhibitors selling items such as recovery jewelry, artwork, and services for attendees. As a family-friendly event, HazelFest offers children’s activities such as face painting, a petting zoo (though not just for kids—this may be your chance to get in touch with your inner llama), games and artwork. There will also be 10 unique food trucks carrying an assortment of international menu items to satisfy even the most discriminating nosh standards. Details and Decorum To maximize the chances that the most people have the most and safest fun, please meet these expectations: • Each person brings only one lawn chair or beach blanket. • Leave pets at home—unless certified as a service or therapy animal with valid documentation on hand. Pets are not permitted onsite, or in the parking lot. • Agree to have your bags and backpacks checked as you enter the gates. • Don’t bring coolers, cans, bottles or outside food through the gates. • Don’t use a chaise or tanning lounger or playpen; instead, use a camp chair or stroller. • Don’t record in video or sound any of the day’s events; it invites bad juju because it violates artists’ intellectual property rights. • Don’t bring skateboards, bicycles or beach games; these invite bad fractures. • Accept that no refunds, exchanges or rain checks are given after June 1, 2014. 2014 Upcoming Events: Hazelden Chicago Awards Benefit Held at the Radisson Blu Aqua Hotel in Chicago Location: Chicago, IL Upcoming Date: 05/20/2014 Women in Recovery Hear the stories of AA’s pioneering women, reconnect with yourself and your light, and discuss issues that emerge for women finding a new life: body image, boundaries, self-care, intimacy. Location: Center City, MN Upcoming Date: 05/30/2014 Recovery Cup Golf and Tennis Tournament Join us in playing 18 holes or a round of tennis at one of the highest-ranked courses in the United States! Location: Dellwood, MN Upcoming Date: 06/23/2014 Springbrook Ice Cream Social Please join us for a light-hearted evening of fellowship, food, and fun. Location: Newberg, OR Upcoming Date: 07/18/2014 Coastal Recovery Retreat Weekend Hazelden Alumni Relations invites you to a recovery retreat weekend on the beautiful Oregon coast. Join us for a weekend of fellowship, fun and spiritual renewal. Location: Newport, OR Upcoming Date: 09/19/2014 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 19 Celebrating Milestones …sharing our joys and sorrows DAVID K. SUSIE S. LAUREL B. I went from a successful career with 10 years of sobriety to a relapse that lasted 10 years. The relapse spiraled down to DUIs, loss of my license for five years, jail for one year, and permanent disability as my dual diagnosis left me unemployable. After eight years on SSD I began to stabilize after being hospitalized 31 times. With the right med combo, complete abstinence of all alcohol and other drugs, meetings, sponsorship, steps, home group, therapists and psychiatrist, I now have been sober again for 10 years, at the top of my career, and happy with six children. My recovery has brought me more and more life success. Don’t let anyone write you off, we don’t shoot our wounded. So many wonderful things have happened since I left Dia Linn in 2000. About a year after I returned home from treatment, I entered nursing school. A few years later I graduated with my BSN, and was #1 in my class. I passed Boards and got a full-time RN job in the Emergency Department of a large regional hospital, where I remain employed today, eight years later. During these years my husband’s business skyrocketed, our son graduated from high school, college, and medical school. He was married about 6 months ago and I remember and cherished every moment of his wedding. Our daughter found her way into the rooms at 26, and she recently celebrated a year of glorious sobriety. My children and I have a wonderful relationship that I could never have imagined before July 25, 2000, when I walked into Hazelden. I am a Hazelden alumna. I marked my twoyear milestone of sobriety on Jan 21, 2014. I was in treatment on the Simmons and Lilly units, and moved on to sober living in April of 2012 at the Holly House and Come Straight Home, Inc. I am happy to report that I am thriving in recovery. Thank you Hazelden, for giving me my life back! ROB S. I wrote a book dealing with Twelve Steps and I am now working on a new book. I wouldn’t have done that if I was too busy drinking! GARY C. On Oct. 23 2013 I made it to three years clean and sober! ELIZABETH W. I have received so much in my recovery and I had everything removed in my life to get this simple program! MELANIE R. I was an inpatient in August of 1997—and have been clean and sober since then! In order to tell this story I had to use the pronoun “I,” but my thanks, praise, and all the credit goes to the one without whom none of this would have happened!!!!!! My heartfelt thanks goes to Hazelden for the lifesaving treatment I received. ANTHONY A. Three years ago I was at Hazelden Oregon. Since then I have returned to my weight of 185, 50 pounds less than I weighed when I left. My personal milestone is I ran the Chicago Marathon this past year in 5 hours and 13 minutes. Three years ago I was in a very bad state of mind and physical wellbeing. I worked very hard on my program, my mind, and physical goals. I can honestly say without Hazelden I may have not survived. SCOTT B. Some milestones since I left Hazelden. • I’ve maintained sobriety. • I have been gainfully employed in my field since July of 2011. • July of 2012, I met my current wife online (she is from northern China). • Oct of 2012, traveled to China, to meet her in person. It was an amazing experience. • June of 2013 moved to Norfolk VA, after living in MN my whole life. • Sept of 2013, travel to Shaanxi, China to marry the girl of my dreams. Turns out the Promises do come true. I’ve tried to keep the same mindset I had when I left Jellinek. The stress management techniques I learned while at Jellinek have proven to be very helpful. Also trying to follow the steps in day-to-day living has been key to keeping me honest and open with myself and others. Share what milestones you are celebrating! Send us an email at [email protected] hazelden.org 800-257-7800 We invite you to call us with questions. We are available 24 hours a day. The Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation helps people reclaim their lives from the disease of addiction. It is the nation’s largest nonprofit treatment provider, with a legacy that began in 1949 and includes the 1982 founding of the Betty Ford Center. With 15 sites in California, Minnesota, Oregon, Illinois, New York, Florida, Massachusetts, Colorado and Texas, the foundation offers recovery solutions nationwide and across the entire continuum of care for youth and adults. It includes the largest recovery publishing house in the country, a fully accredited graduate school of addiction studies, an addiction research center, an education arm for medical professionals and a unique children’s program, and is the nation’s leader in advocacy and policy for treatment and recovery. Learn more at hazeldenbettyford.org. © 2014 Hazelden Foundation Hazelden and the Hazelden logo are registered trademarks of the Hazelden Foundation. 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