The Importance of Self Acceptance #6077
People have wanted to fit in since the day time began more than likely. Everyone
wants to feel like they are liked and wanted. After all, who wants to be left out or
the last to be picked to be on the team? So, on one side of the brain, we know
that we are all unique and different in our own way….and on the other side is this
extraordinary need to fit in….and not be different. Today, more than ever it
seems, people will do almost anything to fit in. And yet, according to more than a
decade of research by Brene Brown, PhD and author of The Gifts of Imperfection,
fitting in is not belonging. Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of
belonging can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because
believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic,
vulnerable and imperfect. When you don’t have that…..when you don’t accept
yourself as you are…..people have a tendency to hustle for the worthiness they
already possess. They become chameleons – acting this way and doing that when
with one group….and something entirely different when in different company.
We shape-shift. A sense of belonging and acceptance can come from your
parents, but even if you don’t get it from Mom and Dad, we have to create it for
ourselves as adults – or our lives will be spent feeling like we’re standing outside
of the big human party. This is Time Out with M’Liss. Copyright 2014, M’Liss
Long.