Starr King View
A publication of the
Starr King Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
-A Welcoming Congregation101 Fairgrounds Road
Plymouth, New Hampshire
www.starrkingfellowship.org
(603) 536-8908
The Rev. Judy Smith-Valley, Interim Minister
February 2016 Meredith Flynn, DRE
February Services at SKUUF
2015-2016 Theme: Transition Continues
February Theme: Blessed
Sundays at 9:30 am
February 7 - Imparting Hope
Rev. Dr. Judith Smith-Valley, preaching
Nancy Chaddock, Worship Associate
The tale tells us that Pandora opened a box
which contained all the troubles of the
world—gifts from the gods. Thankfully she
managed to shut it with hope trapped at the
bottom. It is hope that often helps us cope
with the torments of our lives. Pandora must
have let it out, after-all. Or is hope really one
of the evils of the world? Why would Zeus
have included it? Is Hope an elusive quality or
a blessing?
RE Children’s Chapel Downstairs
February 14 - The Sermon on the Amount
Rev. Dr. Smith-Valley, preaching
Betty Ann Trought, Worship Associate
Our Stewardship Committee is presenting a
change of focus on giving this year. Recent
research has verified that those who give generously are far more happy than those who do
not. Unitarian Universalism is a covenanting
religion where we value and share ourselves
with each other.
Chocolate Heart Communion in honor of
Valentine’s Day and Love
RE Begins Upstairs
February 21 - Bridges to Hallowed Ground
Rev. Dr. Judith Smith-Valley, preaching
Joe Kelaghan, Worship Associate
Oprah Winrey tells us that she is “where she
is because of the bridges that she has crossed.
Sojourner Truth was a bridge. Harriet Tubman was a bridge.” And others. We will explore these women and more, in honor of
Black History Month.
RE Begins Upstairs
February 28—Sensory Salvation
Paul Hazelton, Worship Leader
Kathy Hillier, Worship Associate
This will be in the secular, materialistic, scientific approach to a fulfilling and moral life
RE Begins Upstairs
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“From the Prez”…
Hello everyone,
I don’t know about everyone else, but I really
do love living in a place that experiences all
seasons. I especially enjoy those clear, sunny, brilliant blue sky days we get even if it’s
usually a bit cold.
I’d like to thank everyone that participated in
our special congregation meeting and am very
pleased that the motion passed to purchase a
new sound system for SKUUF. At our January Board meeting we invited two sets of
guests. First, Ted Vansant came and presented information about a potential solar panel
system to provide electricity to the fellowship
building. The Board approved submitting an
application to the state for a financial incentive (no penalty to do so) and will work over
the next few months to review the potential
financing. Look for the opportunity to hear
more about it at an information session in the
“adult ed” slot after services on a Sunday.
Our second guests were Katherine Hillier and
Nancy Chaddock, who came to chat with the
Board about this year’s Stewardship campaign. The kick off dinner for the campaign
is February 13 and I’ll look forward to seeing
all of you there.
I’ve been thinking a little bit about Stewardship and our own giving to SKUUF. While
Darcy and I have both been on the Board, we
understand that our donation helps “pay the
bills” for SKUUF. And while this is important, it probably isn’t the main reason we
give. We support SKUUF with an annual
pledge because we believe in this fellowship.
We enjoy the people at SKUUF and we want
to have a place where we can be part of this
wonderful community. Frankly it feels good
to know that we are supporting such a wonderful group of people that come together to
help our children learn and grow and to have
a positive impact on our community and our
world. Please join us for the Stewardship kick
-off dinner and please support our spiritual
community with an annual pledge.
Eric Hoffman
News from the
Ministerial Search
Committee
February 2016
The search committee has
been busy reviewing
packets of interested candidates and sharing
our SKUUF packet with them. The short interviews have been completed, invitations
have been sent out, and the more intensive
interview phase will begin soon! Don’t ask
any of us for the details however; we won’t
tell you a thing!
What we can tell you now though, is that
Candidating Week is scheduled for May 14
through May 22. This is a 9-10 day period
when the chosen candidate to be our next
minister (hopefully we will be successful in
our search!) will meet with members and
friends in various settings and provide the
worship on Sundays.
After the service on May 22, you, the members of SKUUF, will vote to call our next
minister. We need as many members as possible to be present for this important vote on
May 22. Mark your calendars now for this
very important time in the life of SKUUF.
Sincerely,
Jane Clay, Communications editor
Cindy Spring, Chairperson
Raymond DeRaymond
Kathy Kelsey
Mary Hazelton
Margaret Salt
Mitch Manseau
December Outreach Collection
The Generosity of our fellowship resulted in
a collection of $1,235.36 for the
Unitarian Universalist Service Committee
Guest at Your Table Program.
February 2016
From the Stewardship Committee
Dear Friends,
I’m sitting at the computer, looking out the
window --- the wind is swirling the snow
around, it’s bitter cold, and I’m cuddled in a
toasty fleece wrap; it’s chilly in our study.
I’m devoutly hoping it won’t be a day like
this on February 13 when we have our stewardship kick-off dinner!
I’m also thinking about how to best reach
each and every one of you – how to get
across our concerns, and our hopes for the
future.
Do, please, all members and friends, come to
the stewardship dinner! It’s a wonderful opportunity to be in fellowship – to meet new
folks, to enjoy seeing friends, to share a meal
you didn’t have to create. We’ll offer a brief
stewardship program, and will crown the
evening with entertainment featuring our
own Bob Gannett, Beverly Walker, and Sarah Dan Jones. Childcare will be provided
by our youth group. Please see the details
below!
In the meantime, here’s some food for
thought:
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Giving generously from the heart gives
two ways: it brings pleasure to both the
giver and receiver
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Supporting SKUUF supports the principles by which we try to live, and provides the only liberal non-creedal religious voice for many miles around
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What would it mean to your life if there
was no Starr King UU Fellowship?
Looking forward to seeing you on the 13th!
Katherine Hillier,
for the Stewardship Committee:
Nancy Chaddock, Janet Doner, Nancy
Dowey, Mimi Ford, Bob Gannett, Rev. Judith Smith-Valley
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STEWARDSHIP DINNER!!
Lasagna and all the trimmings
February 13 (Saturday) – 6:00 – 8:30 PM
FOOD! FUN! FELLOWSHIP!
Please sign-up in advance;
see the bulletin board in the hall
Or call Nancy Dowey at 801-1845
CHILDCARE PROVIDED
by our youth group; will include
Dinner / age appropriate movie / arts &
crafts/ stories
Office Hours
The Reverend Dr. Judith Smith-Valley is in
her office Wednesday and Thursday,
10:00 am - 2:00 pm and by appointment.
Cell: 781-606-1813.
Meredith Flynn, Director of Religious Education, is in her office Thursday and Friday,
8:00 am to noon, 536-8908.
Office Administrator, Lisa Olech is in the Office Tuesday through Friday
9:00 am to 1:00 pm, 536-8908.
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Religious Education NotesFebruary 2016
January was a busy month for our Coming
of Age class. They had their weekend retreat at the Dowey residence. They took
part in multicultural initiation ceremonies of
their own making. The class (which is all
girls) also had a spa evening, went snowshoeing, and spent time with their advocates. The weekend was a wonderful success. Thank you, Bill and Nancy for hosting! Thank you, to the girls that took part,
the other Coming of Age teachers for helping out, and the advocates for the added
support!
Our Arts and Crafts Sunday on January 17
was relaxing and very creative. The kids
made a great variety of projects including
painted wooden toys, “Christmas mushrooms,” dream flags, jewelry, and bird’s
nests, among other things. It was a good
reminder of how healing it can be to create
things.
This coming month in Religious Education
we have a really fun Sunday doing yoga
with Darlene Nadeau planned. This is our
“special Sunday” for the month, there are no
classes that day. It will take place on February 28. Darlene had a yoga day for the kids
two years ago, and it was a wonderful experience. There were several rambunctious
kids that under the guidance of Darlene, became relaxed and meditative- Cool!
There is Children’s Chapel on February 7.
Betty Ann Trought will be telling the kids a
story that morning from her own childhood.
We will also be learning a new song or two.
We hope to practice the songs over the next
few months during Chapel, then have the
kids perform the songs during a service in
the spring. Sarah Dan Jones has picked us
two great new songs to learn.
Please be sure and check our wonderful
website and facebook page for updated in-
formation about RE activities. Thank you
for your continued support of our Religious
Education program.
Warmly,
Meredith Flynn, DRE
Transition Team
The Transition Team was appointed by the
Board to work with Judy during her twoyear interim ministry. Our major goals are to
encourage input from members of the congregation about concerns they have with the
interim ministry, to support the interim minister in the remaining tasks of the interim
period, and to prepare the congregation for
the change from interim to settled ministry.
We meet monthly with the interim minister
to accomplish these goals.
Members of the Transition Team are available to answer questions and hear comments
about the transition process. Please contact
one of us (Nancy Chaddock, Paul Hazelton,
Joe Kelaghan, Mary Tierney, and Gary
Walker).
Lay Pastoral Care
Under the guidance of the Rev. Dr. Judith
Smith-Valley, the Lay Pastoral Care Associates are here for you. When you have a
pastoral care need or know of a need in our
Starr King family, please contact Judy or
one of the associates listed here.
Jay Apicelli
Brian Haskins
Linda Haskins
Deedie Kriebel
Amy MacDonald
Darlene Nadeau
Mary Tierney
Bill Trought
Stew Weldon
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Soundbites
The New Year has started out with a bang! I am so happy that the fellowship approved the
purchase of a new sound system, and I appreciate the work of Bill Dowey and the Board for
their due diligence!
On January 22, I was honored to be the feature performer at the monthly coffee house held by
the Plymouth United Church of Christ. They were celebrating their twenty-fourth year as an
“Open and Affirming Congregation” (akin to the UU Welcoming Congregation, of which
SKUUF is a member) - the first in New Hampshire to be recognized as such. It was a great
evening, where I told my story in song as an openly gay religious professional. The SKUUF
singers joined me to perform Fred Small’s “Everything Possible,” which will be our anthem on
February 14. My hope is to continue this relationship with the UCC congregation in Plymouth,
and further our connections. Thanks to all who participated and/or attended.
As we prepare for the upcoming months at SKUUF, I have been working with our DRE, Meredith Flynn, in choosing several songs that our kids can learn in RE, and then sing for us in the
upcoming months. We are thinking that featuring our young singers during Candidating week
in May is a great idea!! It is so great to have collaboration with all of the staff at SKUUF.
I also found out that two of our younger SKUUF members have been chosen to participate in
the UU Children’s Choir, held every three years in conjunction with the UUMN (Musician’s
Network) conference in Madison, Wisconsin, July 19-24. This group of 50 or so “tween”
singers will be housed at the University of Wisconsin, and attend “choir camp,” consisting of
daily worship, rehearsals, a service project, workshops and just plain fun! It costs over $50,000
to run the Children’s Choir, and my hope is that we at SKUUF can take up an offering to present to the UUMN for support of this amazing opportunity. Congratulations to Molly Lu and
Laurel McKellar for being accepted to be part of the choir (it is an auditioned entry), and I
look forward to working with them both in helping to learn their music, and being part of the
adult UUMN conference, where the children will join us in worship, workshop and a concert! For more information, see uumn.org
Finally, I will be traveling to Chicago February 1-3 to be part of a planning team in creating
the resources for the Fahs Collaborative annual Celebration Sunday. This is an online free
worship packet to model a high quality multigenerational representation honoring the role of
religious education in religious life. I will be joined by a minister and a DRE at Meadville
Lombard Theological Seminary to begin this work, with the expectation of having the resource
available online by June 2016. To see last year’s service, and learn more about the
Fahs Collaborative, see www.thefahscollaborative.com/ and click on Sophia Fahs Worship
Packet.
In song,
Sarah Dan
February Dates:
THURSDAY REHEARSALS: Every week, except for February 4.
SUNDAY SINGS: February 14 and 21. Will Gunn will be our musician on February 7.
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SKUUF Annual Auction
Saturday, March 12—starting at 6:00 pm
Goods and Services from around the World and around the Corner
Silent and live auctions, raffles, cash bar & snacks, entertainment, friends and fun!
We need your help! Most of the auction proceeds come from goods and services donated by
members and friends. Making the auction a fun and fulfilling experience requires many hands.
Don’t think you have anything to donate? Please consider these possibilities (but you
don’t need to limit yourself to these—use your imagination!).
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Gift basket (wine, gourmet, new baby, spa, gardening, etc.)
Ski passes, theater or athletic tickets, memberships to local tourist sites/
organizations, etc.
Boat trips, family outings, etc.
Take over coffee hour duties
Hotel accommodations or use of vacation home or condo
Host a dinner/lunch/tea party, etc.
Services (carpentry, gardening, lessons, relaxation and beauty appointments, airport transportation, etc.)
Back-woods goodies (manure, cord wood, plants, growing equipment, supplies,
etc.)
Monthly cookie/bread/soup, etc. delivery for a time period you specify
Babysitting, pet sitting, plant/house sitting, etc.
Fine art, jewelry, crafts. Etc.
Slightly used or antique furniture
New camera, stereo, IPod or other electronics
Make a monetary donation and we will purchase the perfect item!!!
Contact Danni Simon ([email protected]) or Louise Randall ([email protected])
to make donations or if you have questions.
If you want to donate items or services, provide Danni or Louise with the following information on the forms printed on pages 7 and 8.
Want to help?? Consider the following possibilities and let Louise or
Danni know what you would like to do:
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Friday afternoon setup on March 11
Soliciting donations from local businesses
Prepare and deliver auction foods
Clean up after the auction
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Please fill out one form per donation
Return this completed form to Louise Randall or Danni Simon (or the Fellowship) by March 1.
You may also email it to Louise at [email protected] or Danni at [email protected]
Donor info (name, address, phone, email): _________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Suggested Title (Short, catchy phrase): ____________________________________________
Detailed Description (as it should be listed in the catalogue): ___________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
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Expiration Date for redemption of service (if other than March 2017): ——————————
Value: ______________________________________________________________________
Please fill out one form per donation
Return this completed form to Louise Randall or Danni Simon (or the Fellowship) by March 1.
You may also email it to Louise at [email protected] or Danni at [email protected]
Donor info (name, address, phone, email): _________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Suggested Title (Short, catchy phrase): ____________________________________________
Detailed Description (as it should be listed in the catalogue): ___________________________
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Expiration Date for redemption of service (if other than March 2017): ——————————
Value: ______________________________________________________________________
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Please fill out one form per donation
Return this completed form to Louise Randall or Danni Simon (or the Fellowship) by March 1.
You may also email it to Louise at [email protected] or Danni at [email protected]
Donor info (name, address, phone, email): _________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Suggested Title (Short, catchy phrase): ____________________________________________
Detailed Description (as it should be listed in the catalogue): ___________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
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Expiration Date for redemption of service (if other than March 2017): ——————————
Value: ______________________________________________________________________
Please fill out one form per donation
Return this completed form to Louise Randall or Danni Simon (or the Fellowship) by March 1.
You may also email it to Louise at [email protected] or Danni at [email protected]
Donor info (name, address, phone, email): _________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
Suggested Title (Short, catchy phrase): ____________________________________________
Detailed Description (as it should be listed in the catalogue): ___________________________
____________________________________________________________________________
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Expiration Date for redemption of service (if other than March 2017): ——————————
Value: ______________________________________________________________________
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Wise Women in Training
February Outreach
Wise Women in Training is a women’s study
group which meets to discuss issues related
to women and aging. Members share experiences, questions and concerns about improving their lives while optimizing their happiness. Generally this group is recommended
for any women over fifty years of age but
younger women are welcome. Questions
may be researched and discussed by various
members.
The Pemi Youth Center
Meetings are usually held on the second and
fourth Wednesdays of each month from
10:30 am to 12:00 noon in the upstairs Conference Room area at SKUUF. This month
we will meet on February 10 and 24.
Please direct questions to Betty Ann Trought
786-9342 or [email protected].
Betty Ann Trought
Newsletter Deadline
The deadline for the March Newsletter is
Tuesday, February 23. Please send all items,
to Barbara Avery at:
[email protected], or call 745-8845.
Men’s Group
The men’s group meeting for February 7,
2016 has been cancelled because of the Super Bowl. Men will be men and boys will be
boys!
The only gathering in February will be on
February 21 from 6:00 to 8:00 pm in the upstairs conference room at SKUUF.
Bill Trought
The Pemi Youth Center (PYC) is a local notfor-profit organization serving as an after
school and empowerment program for youth
ages 10-17. The Center provides enriching
after school programming Monday through
Friday during the hours of 2:30-5:30 pm. All
program components are offered at absolutely
no cost to youth and families. Youth engage
in homework help, mentoring, art workshops,
recreational games, empowerment groups,
substance abuse prevention, community
based service learning, STEM activities, a
collaborative program with the Squam Lakes
Natural Science Center, and much more! In
addition, youth participants assist staff in
cooking a daily meal, and all youth have the
opportunity to eat dinner before going home.
Most importantly, youth participants are supported and are reminded on a daily basis of
just how much they are loved. Staff and volunteers work hard to inspire, encourage, and
support young minds and hearts, so that our
young people have the ability to dream beyond perceived limitations.
We have enjoyed a steady increase in participation and are currently serving more youth
participants than ever. We wish to extend our
sincere gratitude for Starr King Unitarian
Universalist Fellowship’s powerful support
and generosity. The Pemi Youth Center is a
special place for all of us who are involved.
In this space we celebrate the beauty of both
individual uniqueness and the unity that we
share. Thank you for being a part of our family and for helping us to lift up the youth of
our community.
Jessica Dutille, Executive Director
Wear Your Name Tag
It Helps Everyone
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February Activities 2016
Breakfast Club - Friday, February 5 at 8:30
am at the PSU dining hall on High Street in
Plymouth. Meet with fellow SKUUFers in
an informal setting on the first Friday of the
month. Wide variety of food. Breakfast
cards can be purchased for $99 for 20,
which are transferrable. Individual breakfasts are $8 each, and there is a special senior rate. Parking for the Breakfast Club has
been arranged through PSU security in
Commuter Lot #301 on the first Friday of
each month. Please contact Deedie for a
parking permit to place in the front window
of your car during these mornings only. If
anyone has an idea for an activity following
breakfast, please contact Deedie
at [email protected].
Stewardship Dinner – February 13 at 6:00
pm at SKUUF. The Stewardship Committee
invites you to dinner! Enjoy the entertainment, friends, and fellowship. Childcare
provided. Please sign up in advance. Look
for the sign up table during coffee hour after
the service on Sunday, or find it on the bulletin board. Don’t be left out of the fun!
Second Sunday Hike –
Sunday, February 14 at
noon. The group will
leave from the lower
parking lot at
SKUUF. All are welcome, including children
who are experienced hikers. We will do what has
become our traditional
family friendly February hike to The Flume
followed by food and drinks at The Station.
As for all hikes, please let Mitch
([email protected]) know that you
want to play so that he can advise you by email of any changes.
Other Area Events that
you might want to attend.
Wentworth Square Dance – Friday, February 5 from 8:00 – 10:30 pm. Join fellow
SKUUFers for a fun evening of square
dancing at the Old Wentworth Town Hall.
This is an opportunity for young and all to
join in on the fun! The price is $7 adults/
$4 children/$15 family with no advance
tickets required. There are polkas, waltzes, usually a reel, and a variety of square
dances. Wear comfortable shoes and
clothes, and prepare to have some good,
old fashioned, country fun!
Saul O. Sidore Lecture Series. Tuesday,
February 23 at 7 pm at the Silver Center
For the Arts PSU. This year’s topic is
Freedom Versus Security. The subject for
this session is The Government-Corporate
Surveillance Complex. “Influential forces such as corporate wealth and government power are moving the US to a permanent war footing through decisions and
actions that the public never considered,
debated, or approved. Beatrice Edwards,
Executive Director of the Government Accountability Project is presenting. Smith
Recital Hall. All Sidore lectures are free
and open to the public. Each talk is followed by a reception with light refreshments. Advance reservations are recommended. Call 603-535-ARTS.
Mitch Manseau and Deedie Kriebel
Co-chairs
Play Bridge
Thursday Afternoons at SKUUF
If you are a bridge player
interested in the Thursday
afternoon bridge game at
Starr King Fellowship,
please see Anna Wilken.
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Uncommittee
Uncommittee is making a knitted blanket for
the auction. We hope to complete a quilt also. Creative hands are needed! We meet
every third Sunday at 11:00 am downstairs at
SKUUF.
For more information see Gigi
Estes or Virginia Miller
Hospitality
Please sign up for one or more dates. If no
one signs up for a date there will be only
coffee. The sign up sheets are in the foyer,
or contact Nancy Dowey at [email protected].
Fundraising that costs you no
additional money!
As you know the purchase of a Hannaford
card to use for grocery shopping costs you no
additional money but helps SKUUF raise
funds. SKUUF receives 5% of our total order in bonus cards and when we sell these we
have a clear profit. In addition, purchase of
Hannaford gift cards is always in good taste
and you can use the SKUUF Hannaford program to purchase gift cards to give as
thoughtful gifts.
Remember to bring your checkbook and stop
at the Hannaford Gift Card table during coffee hour to pre-purchase your cards or purchase a bonus card. We hope to have more
pre-activated cards available soon. Remember these cards can be used in any Hannaford
store regardless of location. See Betty Ann
Trought, Kathy Hillier or anyone sitting at
Card Table during after service reception if
you have any questions. If you would like to
join our small group to help, please call Betty
Ann Trought at 786-9342 or contact [email protected].
Betty Ann Trought
There is always someone experienced in the
kitchen to help each Sunday.
February 7 - Linda Smith, Lissa Mascio
February 14 - Board
February 21 - Allison Estes Brown
Another Volunteer needed
February 28 - Barbara Spike
Another Volunteer needed
March 6 - Two Volunteers needed
March 13 - Two Volunteers needed
March 20 - Brian and Linda Haskins
Another Volunteer needed
March 27 - Ted Vansant/Nancy Voorhis
Rebecca Noel/Paul Phillips
April 3 - Meredith and Stephen Flynn
Jessica and John Marunowski
April 10 - Two Volunteers needed
Flowers for the Sanctuary
The Flower Sign-up sheet is in the foyer.
Let’s each sign up for a Sunday and it will be
filled! Flowers or a green plant are a great
way to honor an occasion or a special person.
Nancy Dowey
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About Membership in Starr King Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
What it Means to be a Member
Membership is open to all individuals sixteen years and older regardless of race, creed, national origin,
gender or sexual orientation who are in harmony with the visions, goals and principles of Starr King
Unitarian Universalist Fellowship.
You are invited to become a member by participating in a Path to Membership orientation or by meeting with the Minister to review the benefits and responsibilities of membership. All new members sign
the official Membership Record book witnessed by the Minister or a Membership Committee Chair.
Members are entitled to the services of the Minister and the use of the sanctuary for Rites of Passage
(weddings, dedications, memorial services, etc.) at no cost. Members are eligible to serve in elected
officer positions and serve as committee chairs. Members have the privilege of full voting rights.
Membership is maintained by active participation in the Fellowship, by supporting the annual Stewardship Drive and/or contributing service toward the Fellowship.
What it Means to be a Friend
A Friend of SKUUF is an individual in harmony with the visions, goals and principles of SKUUF who
chooses not to sign the Membership Record Book. A Friend may participate in any and all Fellowship
activities but does not receive Rites of Passage services without a fee, is not eligible to vote or serve as
an elected officer or committee chair.
For More Information About Membership
If you are considering becoming a Member of our Fellowship, desire more information about Path to
Membership Orientation or would like to speak with the Minister please contact
Barbara Lambert or Mary Tierney, co-chairs.
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Starr King Unitarian Universalist Fellowship
PO Box 337
Plymouth, New Hampshire 03264
Interim Minister: Rev. Judy Smith Valley
Office Administrator: Lisa Olech
[email protected]
Office: (603) 536-8908
Website—www.starrkingfellowship.org
Governing Board
Pres.: Eric Hoffman
Vice Pres.: Susan Jacobs
Treasurer: Bob Clay
Secretary: Olivia Saunders
Trustees:
Bill Trought
Allison Estes-Browne
Jessica Fleming
Mission Statement
Starr King Unitarian Universalist Fellowship is a multigenerational, welcoming congregation where different beliefs come together in common covenant. We work together
in our fellowship, our community, and our world to nurture justice, respect, and love.