1
Building
on
the
Rock
–
Part
10
“Do
Not
Judge”
Matthew
7:1­5
Sunday
August
29,
2010
Kelowna
Gospel
Fellowship
Mike
Penninga
www.kgfchurch.com
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Retreat
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–
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14
Day
Journey
in
Prayer
•
Read
Matthew
7:7‐11
•
What
a
great
invitation!
Pray
Intro:
•
When
was
the
last
time
you
felt
judged?
•
Think
about
the
context,
the
circumstances.
•
What
was
going
on?
•
How
did
it
make
you
feel?
•
What
came
of
it?
•
When
was
the
last
time
you
judged
somebody
else?
•
Think
about
the
context,
the
circumstances
•
What
was
going
on?
•
How
did
it
make
you
feel?
•
What
came
of
it?
Judgmental:
•
Do
you
know
the
word
that
many
people
associate
with
Christianity?
•
Judgmental.
1
•
2
A
study
by
the
Barna
Research
group
said
that
nearly
9
out
of
10
non‐church
goers,
87
percent,
said
that
the
term
“judgmental”
accurately
describes
present
day
Christianity.
•
That’s
a
harsh
reality
to
face,
that
people
look
at
people
of
faith
and
associate
us
first
and
foremost
with
judgment.
Tony
Campolo:
•
Tony
Campolo
tells
the
story
of
meeting
a
woman
who’s
life
was
a
mess.
.
.
she
had
been
involved
in
prostitution,
lost
her
kid
in
a
custody
battle.
.
.
•
He
said
“why
don’t
you
go
to
church?”
•
Her
response
–
“Why
on
earth
would
I
go
there,
they’d
only
make
me
feel
worse.”
Known
By
Your
_______
•
Interesting
how
that
is
the
furthest
thing
from
Jesus’
mind
when
he
said
“They
will
know
you
are
my
disciples
by
your
________
Judgments?
Nope.
.
.
by
our
love.
•
So
how
did
we
get
here?
Matthew
7
•
Invite
you
to
open
your
Bibles
to
Matthew
7.
•
Have
your
message
outline
handy
in
your
bulletin.
•
This
has
been
an
incredibly
eye
opening
journey
through
the
Sermon
on
the
Mount.
•
We’ve
spent
the
summer
looking
at
this
key
teaching
of
Jesus,
Matthew
5
–
7.
•
Called
it
“Building
on
the
Rock”
because
Jesus
says
a
wise
person
hears
his
words
and
puts
them
into
practice,
like
a
wise
man
who
builds
his
house
on
the
rock.
•
So
friends,
we
are
wise
to
hear
the
words
of
Jesus
and
apply
them
to
our
lives.
2
Fall:
•
3
We
have
one
more
week
left,
next
Sunday,
and
then
we
move
into
our
fall
series
entitled
“The
Life
You
Were
Made
For”,
starting
on
September
12th,
Kickoff
Sunday.
•
Everyone
is
back
to
routines,
back
in
school,
back
from
their
holidays.
•
I
believe
this
fall
is
going
to
be
incredible
around
here.
.
.
excited
to
have
you
join
us.
Church
–
Judging
Others?
•
But
if
we
are
to
be
a
church
that
knows
Jesus
and
makes
Him
known,
then
we
need
to
wrestle
with
this
subject
of
“judging
others”
•
We
need
to
ask
the
hard
questions
and
do
some
open
heart
surgery
on
ourselves.
•
We
need
to
find
out
if
Satan
has
developed
a
stronghold
in
our
lives
in
this
area.
Most
Quoted
Verses:
•
I
find
it
interesting
that
one
of
the
most
quoted
verses
of
scriptures
is
found
right
here,
Matthew
7.
.
.
do
not
judge.
•
And
I
find
the
people
who
are
quoting
it
the
most
are
those
who
wouldn’t
claim
to
be
Christians,
from
people
who
are
tired
of
being
“judged”
•
So
what
does
the
Bible
actually
have
to
say
on
this
subject?
•
Follow
along
Matthew
7:1­5
Read:
Matthew
7:1­5
Jesus
–
Visual
Picture:
•
I
love
it
when
Jesus
paints
these
dramatic
visual
pictures.
•
Here’s
a
guy
who
comes
along
with
a
two‐by‐four
sticking
out
of
his
head,
and
he
meets
someone
else
and
says,
“Hey
man,
let
me
help
you
get
that
piece
of
sawdust
out
of
your
eyes”
3
Hypocrite:
•
Jesus
has
a
word
for
us
when
we
act
this
way.
.
.
Hypocrite.
•
That’s
another
word
we
as
Christians
are
often
associated
with.
•
I
love
the
actual
origins
of
the
word
“hypocrite”
•
It
comes
from
Greek
theater
days.
.
.
a
“hypocrite”
was
an
actor,
who
would
4
come
on
stage
wearing
a
mask,
and
playing
one
part,
then
go
off
stage,
grab
a
different
mask,
and
come
back
to
play
someone
else.
•
They
were
“hypocrites”.
.
.
“mask
wearers”
Don’t
Be
Mask
Wearer:
•
Jesus
says
don’t
be
a
mask
wearer.
•
Don’t
be
content
to
point
out
the
faults
and
shortcomings
in
someone
else’s
life
while
ignoring
the
glaring
issues
in
your
own.
•
Don’t
stand
as
judge
and
jury
over
someone
else’s
life
when
you
can’t
even
deal
with
the
junk
in
your
own
life.
•
I
love
the
quote
on
the
front
of
your
bulletin,
from
Thomas
a
Kempis.
•
“Be not angry that you cannot make others as you want them to be, since you
cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” Thomas à Kempis
•
D.L.
Moody
once
said,
“I have more trouble with D.L. Moody than any other man
I know.”
Face
Same
Issues:
•
The
truth
is,
we
are
often
frustrated
and
judgmental
about
issues
in
others
that
are
really
in
fact,
issues
that
we
face.
She’s
Deaf!
•
A concerned husband went to see the family doctor: "I think my wife is deaf. She
never hears me the first time I say something. In fact, I often have to repeat things
over and over again."
4
•
5
"Well," the doctor replies, "go home tonight, stand about 15 feet from her, and say
something. If she doesn't reply, move about five feet closer and say it again. Keep
doing this so we can get an idea of the severity of her deafness."
•
Sure enough, the husband goes home, and he does exactly as instructed. He stands
about 15 feet from his wife, who is standing in the kitchen, chopping some
vegetables.
•
"Honey, what's for dinner?"
•
He gets no response, so he moves about five feet closer and asks again.
•
"Honey, what's for dinner?"
•
No reply.
•
He moves five feet closer, and still no reply.
•
He gets fed up and moves right behind her—about an inch away—and asks one
final time, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
•
She replies, "For the fourth time, vegetable stew!"
Look
At
Yourself:
•
If
you
find
yourself
upset
that
someone
seems
arrogant,
or
attention
seeking,
or
greedy,
or
gossipy,
stop
for
a
moment
and
ask,
“are
these
things
evident
in
my
life?”
•
I
find
that
I
am
most
repulsed
by
the
things
in
others
that
are
the
things
in
me,
and
the
“others”
simply
present
a
mirror
that
reflects
back
the
ugliness
of
me.
Judging
Without
Knowing:
•
The
other
tendency
we
have
is
judging
without
really
knowing.
•
We
are
so
good
at
seeing
a
scenario
and
somehow
figuring
out
all
the
background
pieces.
•
We
judge
before
we
knew
all
the
facts.
Ann
Landers:
•
Advice
columnist
Ann
Landers
received
a
letter
once
from
a
grocery
store
check‐out
clerk
who
wrote
to
complain
that
she
had
seen
people
buy
“luxury”
5
6
food
items,
like
birthday
cakes
and
bags
of
shrimp,
with
their
food
stamps,
the
program
in
the
US
to
help
supplement
people
on
low
income.
•
The
writer
went
on
to
say
that
she
thought
all
those
people
on
welfare
who
treated
themselves
to
such
non‐necessities
were
"lazy
and
wasteful."
•
A
few
weeks
later
Lander's
column
was
devoted
entirely
to
people
who
had
responded
to
the
grocery
clerk.
•
One
woman
wrote:
“I
didn't
buy
a
cake,
but
I
did
buy
a
big
bag
of
shrimp
with
food
stamps.
So
what?
My
husband
had
been
working
at
a
plant
for
fifteen
years
when
it
shut
down.
The
shrimp
casserole
I
made
was
for
our
wedding
anniversary
dinner
and
lasted
three
days.
Perhaps
the
grocery
clerk
who
criticized
that
woman
would
have
a
different
view
of
life
after
walking
a
mile
in
my
shoes.”
•
Another
woman
wrote:
“I'm
the
woman
who
bought
the
$17
cake
and
paid
for
it
with
food
stamps.
I
thought
the
check‐out
woman
in
the
store
would
burn
a
hole
through
me
with
her
eyes.
What
she
didn't
know
is
the
cake
was
for
my
little
girl's
birthday.
It
will
be
her
last.
She
has
bone
cancer
and
will
probably
be
gone
within
six
to
eight
months.”
Walk
A
Mile:
•
You
never
know
what
other
people
are
dealing
with.
•
It
is
true,
until
you
walk
a
mile
in
someone
else’s
shoes,
you
can’t
really
comment
on
why
they
get
the
blisters
they
do.
Mike
on
EI.
•
My
own
experience,
when
I
stepped
down
from
my
former
position
at
Willow
Park
Church,
thought
I
would
just
slide
right
into
a
“regular”
job.
•
Applied
for
10,
got
two
interviews,
no
job.
•
Had
to
apply
for
Employment
Income
with
the
Government.
•
Got
to
know
what
it
feels
like
to
be
a
number,
felt
a
bit
helpless.
•
That
was
hard
for
me
because
I
had
a
tendency
to
judge
people
who
didn’t
have
work.
•
Now
I
was
one
of
them.
•
Something
changed
inside
of
me.
6
•
7
God
did
something
in
me
that
causes
me
to
pause
before
assuming
someone’s
situation.
Renaming
It:
•
Now
some
of
you
are
sitting
there
thinking,
“I
don’t
judge
people,
I
just
point
out
their
flaws.”
•
I
believe
we
have
a
tendency
to
try
to
“rename”
something
to
make
it
more
palatable.
Society
Examples:
•
Interesting
examples
in
society.
•
After researchers in our country developed an oil from the rapeseed plant, they
still had to deal with the name.
•
So, in 1988, they changed the name to Canola oil, and sales shot up.
•
When the California prune board realized the words "prune" and "laxative" were
inextricably linked, they switched to "dried plums" in 2000.
•
People bought it, and in a documented focus group, preferred the taste of dried
plums to prunes.
Switching Names:
•
I think we like to switch the names when it comes to our judgmental attitude.
•
We
don’t
think
what
we’re
doing
is
“judging”,
we
think
we’re
holding
people
to
a
high
standard,
or
maintaining
holiness
or
correcting.
•
But
the
core
of
the
issue
is
the
same,
looking
down
on
someone
else.
Luke
18
–
Parable:
‐
Example
in
Luke
–
18,
parable
of
the
tax
collector
&
the
Pharisee.
Read
Luke
18:9­14
Judgment
&
Pride:
•
Judgment
is
tied
up
with
pride,
a
belief
that
we
are
better
than
someone
else.
7
8
•
And
sometimes
we
judge
because
we
want
to
increase
our
self‐approval
rating.
•
We
look
down
on
someone
else
because
in
so
doing,
it
makes
us
look
better.
•
We
think
“I
would
never
do
that.
.
.
say
that.
.
.
become
addicted
to
that.
.
.”
•
And
inside
us,
we
think
we
are
somehow
a
better
person.
Dangerous
–
Easier
to
Save?
•
That’s
so
dangerous,
because
that
can
lead
to
thoughts
that
somehow,
I
was
easier
to
save.
•
Somehow,
it
cost
God
less
to
deal
with
Mike
Penninga
than
with
Jim
or
Susie
or
Todd
or
Dianne.
•
And
that
is
sick.
•
That’s
why,
we
need
to
come
to
grips
with
the
truth
of
our
own
depravity,
the
depth
of
our
own
sin,
and
the
costliness
or
our
salvation.
•
When
we
do
that,
we
won’t
be
putting
ourselves
above
anybody,
and
judgment
is
replaced
with
love.
John
8
–
Adulterous
Woman:
•
Jesus
drew
this
point
out
in
a
powerful
way,
John
8,
story
of
the
woman
caught
in
adultery.
•
Famous
story
Jesus’
Example:
•
She
was
guilty,
caught
in
the
act.
•
But
Jesus
didn’t
judge.
.
.
he
forgave.
•
And
he
reminded
others
that
they
were
in
no
place
to
stand
in
judgment
over
her.
•
Whoever
is
without
sin
should
chuck
the
first
rock.
•
Everyone
left.
•
Beautiful
words.
.
.
.
Where
are
they?
Has
no
one
condemned
you.
•
No
one
sir.
•
Then
neither
do
I
condemn
you.
.
.
Go
now,
and
leave
your
life
of
sin.
•
Jesus
didn’t
condemn,
but
he
did
call
her
to
a
higher
standard.
8
9
•
And
I
think
people
receive
that
second
piece
when
the
first
piece
is
there.
Correcting
Others:
•
See
Jesus
didn’t
say
we
should
not
be
concerned
when
people
are
going
the
wrong
direction.
•
Jesus
clearly
calls
us
to
expose
false
teachers
(later
in
this
chapter,
next
week’s
topic)
•
And
Paul
says
that
we
should
exercise
church
discipline
(1
Corinthians
5)
•
But
the
overall
principle
is
that
God
is
the
final
judge,
not
us.
•
And
there
is
something
that
has
to
take
place
in
our
lives
first.
•
We
have
to
first
remove
the
plank
in
our
eye
so
we
can
see
clearly
to
remove
the
speck
in
others.
•
We
have
to
allow
ourselves
to
go
through
open‐heart
surgery
first,
before
we
can
speak
to
others
about
what
open
heart
surgery
can
do
to
them.
Muppets:
•
Another
visual
to
get
our
heads
around
this.
•
Remember
these
guys?
•
(Show
pictures
of
Muppets
in
balcony)
•
These
two
guys,
Statler
&
Waldorf,
sat
in
the
balcony,
basically
dropping
judgment
on
everybody
else.
•
Granted
it
was
funny,
that
from
their
perch,
they
knew
best
how
to
run
the
show.
In
Us?
•
But
I
wonder
if
there
is
a
bit
of
Statler
&
Waldorf
in
you?
•
I
know
there
is
in
me.
•
I
know
it’s
easy
for
me
to
drop
pronouncements
from
high,
thinking
I
know
better,
would
do
better.
•
But
that
is
arrogant.
•
And
it
never
achieves
the
goal
we
would
hope
it
to.
•
If
we
really
want
someone
to
change,
it
doesn’t
happen
this
way.
9
10
Impactful
Voices:
•
Look
at
your
own
life.
•
Who
do
you
find
has
the
ability
to
really
speak
into
your
life,
to
call
you
on
your
junk,
to
correct
you,
to
help
you
identify
the
two
by
four
or
speck
in
your
eye?
•
I
find
the
people
who
impact
me
the
most
are
not
the
balcony
critics,
but
those
individuals
who
are
living
their
lives
openly
before
God,
willing
for
God
to
do
heart
surgery
on
them,
and
then
sharing
out
of
their
own
journey
truth
that
might
impact
me.
Example
–
Bob
Gibson
•
Just
a
practical,
tangible
example.
•
Example
–
Bob
Gibson,
commenting
on
my
leadership
/
preaching
around
KGF.
•
First,
he
has
relationship.
.
.
it’s
not
a
“launch
the
grenade
and
run”
•
Second,
he
has
tact,
and
says
it
in
a
nice
way.
•
Third,
he
has
love
–
he
prays
for
me,
encourages
me,
builds
me
up,
and
also
corrects
me.
•
So
what
he
says
sticks.
Closing
Story
–
Bill
@
Church
•
I
wanted
to
close
this
morning
with
a
story
about
a
guy
named
“Bill”
•
Bill
had
wild
hair,
wore
a
t‐shirt
with
holes
in
it,
jeans
and
no
shoes.
•
This
was
literally
his
wardrobe
for
his
entire
four
years
of
college.
•
Bill
is
brilliant,
kinda
esoteric
and
very
very
bright.
•
He
became
a
Christian
while
attending
college.
•
Across
the
street
from
the
campus
is
a
well‐dressed,
very
conservative
church.
•
They
want
to
develop
a
ministry
to
students,
but
are
not
sure
how
to
go
about
it.
10
•
11
One
day
Bill
decides
to
go
there.
He
walks
in
with
no
shoes,
jeans,
his
t‐shirt,
and
wild
hair.
•
The
service
has
already
started,
and
so
Bill
starts
down
the
aisle
looking
for
a
seat.
•
The
church
is
completely
packed,
and
he
can’t
find
a
seat.
•
No
one
moves
over,
but
people
are
beginning
to
look
uncomfortable.
•
Bill
gets
closer
and
closer
and
closer
to
the
pulpit,
and
when
he
realizes
there
are
no
seats,
he
just
squats
down
right
on
the
carpet.
•
Although
this
is
perfectly
acceptable
behavior
at
a
college
fellowship,
this
has
never
happened
in
this
church
before!
•
By
now,
the
people
are
really
uptight,
and
the
tension
in
the
air
is
thick.
•
About
this
time,
the
minister
realizes
that
from
way
at
the
back
of
the
church,
a
deacon
is
slowly
making
his
way
toward
Bill.
•
Now
the
deacon
is
in
his
eighties,
has
silver‐gray
hair,
a
three‐piece
suit,
and
a
pocket
watch.
•
A
Godly
man
–
very
elegant,
very
dignified,
very
together.
•
He
walks
with
a
cane,
and
as
he
starts
walking
toward
this
boy,
everyone
is
saying
to
themselves,
“You
can’t
blame
him
for
what
he’s
going
to
do.
How
can
you
expect
a
man
of
his
age
and
of
his
background
to
understand
some
college
kid
on
the
floor?”
•
It
takes
a
long
time
for
the
man
to
reach
the
boy.
•
The
church
is
utterly
silent
except
for
the
clicking
of
the
man’s
cane.
•
All
eyes
are
focused
on
him;
you
can’t
even
hear
anyone
breathing.
•
The
people
are
thinking
“The
minister
can’t
even
preach
the
sermon
until
the
deacon
does
what
he
has
to
do.”
•
And
now
they
see
this
elderly
man
drop
his
cane
on
the
floor.
•
With
great
difficulty,
he
lowers
himself
and
he
sits
down
next
to
Bill
and
worships
with
him
so
he
won’t
be
alone.
•
Everyone
chokes
up
with
emotion.
•
When
the
minister
gains
control,
he
says,
“What
I’m
about
to
preach,
you
will
never
remember.
What
you
have
just
seen,
you
will
never
forget.”
11
12
Jesus
Stepped
Out
of
Heaven:
•
The
reason
that
story
is
so
powerful
is
because
that
is
exactly
what
Jesus
did
for
us.
•
He
didn’t
judge
us,
but
came
alongside
us.
•
He
stepped
out
of
heaven
to
come
down
to
be
with
us
so
we
wouldn’t
be
alone.
•
He
sacrificed
his
dignity
so
that
we
could
become
a
friend
of
God.
•
And
that
is
what
this
table
represents.
•
Think
of
who
Jesus
was
hardest
on?
•
Not
the
sinners.
.
.
those
are
the
ones
who
were
attracted
to
him,
who
he
hung
out
with.
•
Jesus
was
hardest
on
the
religious
folk
who
thought
they
were
better
than
others.
•
It
was
that
judging
spirit
that
Jesus
was
coming
against?
Matthew
9:10­13
Later,
Matthew
invited
Jesus
and
his
disciples
to
his
home
as
dinner
guests,
along
with
many
tax
collectors
and
other
disreputable
sinners.
But
when
the
Pharisees
saw
this,
they
asked
his
disciples,
“Why
does
your
teacher
eat
with
such
scum?”
When
Jesus
heard
this,
he
said,
“Healthy
people
don’t
need
a
doctor—sick
people
do.”
Then
he
added,
“Now
go
and
learn
the
meaning
of
this
Scripture:
‘I
want
you
to
show
mercy,
not
offer
sacrifices.’
For
I
have
come
to
call
not
those
who
think
they
are
righteous,
but
those
who
know
they
are
sinners.”
•
This
table
is
not
for
those
who
think
they
are
righteous,
but
those
who
know
they
are
sinners.
•
That’s
why
Jesus
came.
Servers
&
Josh
/
Worship
Team
•
Going
to
invite
those
who
are
serving
this
morning
to
join
me
up
front.
•
Josh
and
the
team
are
going
to
come
back
as
well.
12
13
•
On
the
night
that
he
was
betrayed,
Jesus
took
bread,
broke
it
and
said
“This
is
my
body
which
is
broken
for
you.
.
.
eat
this
in
remembrance
of
me.
•
In
the
same
way,
after
the
supper,
Jesus
took
the
cup
and
said
“This
is
the
cup
of
the
new
covenant,
in
my
blood.
.
.drink
this
in
remembrance
of
me.”
•
The
Bible
calls
us
to
examine
our
hearts
before
taking
part
the
Lord’s
Supper,
and
so
as
you
receive
the
bread
and
the
cup,
would
you
reflect
on
the
words
of
today’s
passage.
.
.
ask
God
if
there
is
a
judgmental
spirit
in
you
that
needs
to
be
broken
away.
•
When
we
have
all
received
the
elements,
I
will
lead
us
in
taking
them
together.
Distribute.
Pray.
Benediction:
&
Closing
Announcements
‐
Prayer
at
Front
‐
Retirees
&
Seniors
Meeting
–
11:30am
Fireside
Room
‐
Pictorial
Directory
photos
–
Brown
Room
‐
Baptism
/
Membership
Class
–
Tonight,
7pm
‐
14
Day
Journey
in
Prayer.
May the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy
Spirit be with you all. 2 Corinthians 13:14
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