INNER BONDING DEFINITIONS
EARTHLY
THE PATH OF CONTROLLING TO PROTECT AGAINST FEAR AND AVOID RESPONSIBILITY
FOR OWN FEELINGS, BASED ON LEARNED FALSE BELIEFS OF THE WOUNDED SELF
SPIRITUAL
THE PATH OF LEARNING WITH GOD ABOUT LOVE, FEAR AND TRUTH, EVEN IN THE
FACE OF FEAR—DEVELOPING THE PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE LOVING ADULT
CHOICE
FREE WILL REGARDING OUR LIFE PATH
PURPOSE
(HEART)
OUR CONSCIOUS (SPIRITUAL) OR UNCONSCIOUS (EARTHLY) REASON FOR
BEING ON THE PLANET
DESIRES
(GUT)
WHAT BRINGS TEMPORARY COMFORT ON THE EARTHLY PATH OR DEEP
FULFILLMENT ON THE SPIRITUAL PATH
INTENT
OUR MOTIVATION IN ANY GIVEN MOMENT
PATH
PATH
(SOUL)
(MIND)
REACTION
TO FEAR
RESULTS
THE ACTION WE TAKE IN THE FACE OF FEAR AND PAIN
THE CONSEQUENCES OF OUR CHOICES
CORE SELF
•The true Self,
the essence, the
light within.
DEFINITION
•The individualized
expression of Spirit,
created in the image
of God.
•The unwounded
aspect of the soul.
•The natural Inner Child.
ACTIONS
PRIMARY
CONCERN
Spontaneously
expresses love,
compassion, curiosity,
passion,creativity and
feelings of joy
and sorrow.
How can I best express
WHO I AM and the
GIFTS God gave me.
(CHILD-ADULT)
WOUNDED SELF
LOVING ADULT
•The frightened wounded
inner child(ren) who
learned to be an
unloving adult.
•The false self/ego—
the inner critic.
•The wounded aspect
of the soul, filled with
false beliefs.
•Believes in a controlling
God or no God.
•The aspect that wants
control over others.
•God's emissary—receives
love and truth from Spirit
and puts it into action,
putting God into motion.
•Is in compassion, faith,
gratitude and surrender
to God.
•Open to learning with the
wounded self, the core
Self, God, and others.
•Sees the core Self—
Who You Really Are.
•Avoids responsibility
for own feelings of
pain, joy, safety,
worth and lovability.
•Takes responsibility for own
feelings of pain, joy & safety.
Defines own worth/lovability.
•Non-shaming & forgiving with
self and others—knows the
wounded self has good reasons
for feelings and behavior.
•Heals the false beliefs of
the wounded self through
receiving truth from Spirit
and taking loving action.
•Brings through love from
God to Inner Child—both
wounded self & core Self.
•Sets loving boundaries
for self and with others.
•Fills emptiness with
addictions; protects
against fear and pain
with addictive
controlling behavior.
•Resists surrender to
God—then feels
alone so has to
control everything to
try to feel safe.
How can I GET LOVE
and AVOID PAIN so
that I feel SAFE.
How can I best GIVE
LOVE—to myself and
to others.