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TRANSITION
'^^''^Parallelism
S o m e d a y , w h e n m y c h i l d r e n are g r o w n a n d g o n e , I h o p e
it's t h e d a n c i n g t h e y w i l l r e m e m b e r , n o t t h e anger. N o w
let's l o o k a t s u p p r e s s i n g a n g e r i n a h e a l t h y w a y .
M a i n Point
I I . A n o t h e r w a y t o c o n t r o l a n g e r is t o s u p p r e s s i t a n d
use t h e e n e r g y i n a p o s i t i v e w a y .
A. Dr. George Rhoades, a psychotherapist and
author, w h o developed a n anger management
p r o g r a m , says " W e n e e d t o l e a r n h o w t o h a v e
h u m o r i n o u r lives." ( R h o a d e s 2 )
1. H o p e f u l l y , y o u e x p e r i e n c e d h o w l a u g h t e r is
contagious.
2. L a u g h t e r is a gift, d o n ' t be a f r a i d t o use i t .
B. I w a n t to tell y o u about a n anger t u r n e d i n t o
laughter experience I had w i t h m y children.
1. W e w e r e a t C h u c k l e Cheeses i n F o r t W a y n e
a n d I was suppose t o f o l l o w m y b r o t h e r - i n l a w t o h i s sister's h o u s e .
2. I c o u l d h a v e b e e n a n g r y because I w a s t e d
t i m e a n d gas m o n e y f o l l o w i n g t h e w r o n g car.
b u t I saw the h u m o r i n the s i t u a t i o n a n d
started laughing uncontrollably!
Sub Point
**Extended
example
TRANSITION
^^Parallelism
**Internal
Summary
S o m e d a y , w h e n m y c h i l d r e n are g r o w n a n d g o n e , I h o p e
it's t h e l a u g h t e r t h e y r e m e m b e r , n o t t h e anger.
E x p r e s s i n g a n d s u p p r e s s i n g are t w o o f t h e w a y s t o
c o n t r o l anger, n o w lets l o o k a t c a l m i n g .
Main Point
I I I . A n o t h e r w a y t o express a n g e r is t o c a l m y o u r s e l f
down.
A. T h e A m e r i c a n Psychological Association
r e c o m m e n d s " r e l a x a t i o n " as a s t r a t e g y t o k e e p
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a n g e r a t bay. ( A m e r i c a n 4 )
1. D e e p b r e a t h i n g is a g o o d w a y t o c a l m d o w n .
.
2. V i s u a l i z i n g a calm, relaxing experience can
help calm y o u d o w n .
B . W h e n m y c h i l d r e n s t a r t f i g h t i n g i n t h e car.
I m a k e t h e m c a l m d o w n a n d say s o m e t h i n g n i c e
a b o u t e v e r y o n e i n t h e car.
I . I f t h e y t r y t o b e f u n n y a n d say s o m e t h i n g
r u d e , I m a k e t h e m say t w o n i c e t h i n g s a b o u t
the person.
2. B y t h e t i m e w e get t o w h e r e w e are g o i n g , w e
are c a l m e d d o w n a n d u s u a l l y l a u g h i n g .
Sub P o i n t
**Brief
example
'^'^Parallelism
S o m e d a y , w h e n m y c h i l d r e n are g r o w n a n d g o n e , I h o p e
it's t h e p o s i t i v e a f f i r m a t i o n s t h e y r e m e m b e r , n o t t h e
anger.
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