Girls Achieve Grapeness Spa Day
Is your chapter looking for a fun and innovative sisterhood program? Make it a BBYO Stand UP program and
help support our partners at Jewish Women International in raising awareness to end violence against women!
What?
Bring your chapter together for a unique Stand UP program in support of domestic
violence awareness. With our exclusive OPI color, “Girls Achieve Grapeness,” you will
let the world know you Stand UP to end violence against women. Use the programming
resources in this guide to help make this event your own!
Who?
 Any BBG chapter members
 Potential new members
 Brother/Sister Chapters (yes, the boys are invited too!)
Invite a survivor!
We are happy to connect you with a local organization or shelter to bring in survivors from your area to discuss
the importance of healthy relationships and safe, smart dating.
How?
 Order bottles of nail polish for your chapter on our ordering page today!
 Each bottle costs $10, with all proceeds benefitting Jewish Women International’s Girls Achieve
Grapeness campaign.
Make it a fundraiser!
 Sell our exclusive color to your mom, aunts, friends and more! This is an excellent opportunity to
engage your community in a cause you are passionate about!
When?
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month—
host your program anytime in between to show your support!
Interested? Be in touch with Rebecca Cohen at [email protected] or 202-857-6622 today!
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Identify: Who am I?
I am a Jew who wants to fight for equality and safety of women around the world. I am a person who believes that gender
equality is a human rights issue that requires my participation. I am a teenager who cares about my own well-being and
that of my peers. I never want to instill fear in someone else. Teen dating violence impacts me.
What does teen dating violence mean?
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One in three high school students have experienced sexual abuse, physical abuse, or threats of physical
abuse from a dating partner.
Nearly 1.5 million high school students in America experience physical abuse from a dating partner in a single
year.
According to a 2013 global review of available data, 35% of women worldwide have experienced either physical
and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence.
In the United States, young women between the ages of 16 and 24 experience the highest rate of intimate
partner violence, almost triple the national average.
Half of Canadian women having survived at least one incident of physical or sexual violence throughout their
lifetime.
Half of teenagers in the United States in relationships report being controlled, threatened, and pressured to do
things they did not want to do.
Only 33% of teens who are in a violent relationship ever tell anyone about the abuse.
Nearly one in four teens have been victimized through technology from a dating partner.
Teens who have witnessed domestic violence and abuse between their parents experience abuse at 50% higher
rate than those who haven’t witnesses abuse.
80% of teens know someone their age who has experienced controlling behaviors from their dating partner.
Is there violence against women in Judaism?
B’tzelem Elohim: Respecting Others
Genesis 1:26—1:28
And G-d said, "Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. They shall rule the fish of the sea, the birds of the sky,
the cattle, the whole earth, and all the creeping things that creep on earth.” And G-d created man in His image, in the
image of G-d He created him; male and female He created them. G-d blessed them and G-d said to them, "Be fertile and
increase, fill the earth and master it; and rule the fish of the sea, the birds of the sky, and all the living things that creep on
earth."
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What does this say about women and men if we are created in G-d’s image?
How should this affect our behavior towards one another?
What are the messages about equality?
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Connect: Who are we?
As a Jewish community, we will be open to conversations about dating abuse. We can help those who confide in us. It is
our responsibility to educate ourselves and our community on the dangers associated with violence.
“Violence against women and girls is a global problem; it harms women, families, communities and societies. We can
only stop it by working together. Women and men.”- Ban Ki-moon, United Nations Secretary General
What inspires you?
Domestic violence is a global issue! The UN Secretary-General’s UNiTE to End Violence against Women campaign has
proclaimed every 25th of the month as “Orange Day” – a day to take action to raise awareness and prevent violence.
Organizations around the world are coming together to empower women. NA’AMAT mobilizes battered Israeli women to
build healthy, abuse-free lives for themselves and children. The center, which serves about 1,000 women a year, aids
people from all over Israel and functions as an emergency haven for residents of Tel Aviv and Jaffa.
Started in Los Angeles, CA, Break the Cycle works to provide comprehensive dating abuse prevention programs
exclusively to young people. Whether it’s innovative violence prevention programs, hosting public campaigns or
championing effective laws and policies, they strive to inspire and support young people in preventing and escaping
unhealthy relationships.
In the UK, Refuge supports 3,000 women and children on any given day through a range of services, including refuges,
independent advocacy, community outreach and culturally specific services. Join them in lobbying the government to
ensure that domestic violence remains high on the political agenda providing a voice for women and children experiencing
domestic violence.
What can we do?
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Publically Commit! Challenge derogatory comments you hear! Don’t laugh the next time someone tells a joke
that degrades or exploits your friends. Not going along with the joke sends the message that degrading and
exploiting women is unacceptable.
Challenge Gender Roles and Stereotypes. Ask men and women to become a part of the solution together. On
Saturday, September 20 UN Women Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson kick-started the HeForShe campaign,
a solidarity movement for gender equality. On October 2, Seattle Seahawks’ quarterback Russell Wilson
introduced the Pass the Peace campaign to raise awareness and funds for victims of domestic violence.
Educate Yourself. Learning about the various types of violence experienced by women will help you recognize
violence if it happens to you or someone close to you. Learn what resources are available within your community
for victims of violence.
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Improve: For whom are we responsible?
Your chapter can make a difference! You have power and responsibility to be strong advocates for safe smart dating.
You can empower the global community to stand up against the violence.
How can we help?
AZA and BBG programs and meetings are a great place to unite together as a movement. Think about how you can
incorporate meaningful discussion and awareness as a group. The possibilities are endless! Here are a few ideas on
how to incorporate your support for this cause in your weekly meetings:
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Girls Achieve Grapeness Spa Day: Enjoy a relaxing day of pampering while spreading
awareness for dating abuse and domestic violence with Jewish Women International and OPI’s
exclusive purple color, “Girls Achieve Grapeness.” Invite partners from your local community to
co-host the event with you and bring in survivors of dating abuse and domestic violence.
Looking to order our exclusive color “Girls Achieve Grapeness” for your chapter?
Fill out the order form here.
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Walk a Mile in Her Shoes: Know guys who are having difficulty understanding what it’s like
from a woman’s perspective? Host a fun-walk for Alephs to wear high-heels and attempt to
physically walk a mile in a woman’s shoes. Pick up shoes from your local thrift store (or take
some from mom’s closet!) and plan a walk with your chapter to raise awareness for violence
against women.
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Spend the Day at a Women’s Shelter: Take your OPI nail polish with you and spend time getting to know local
women and children at a local shelter who’ve survived abuse. Polish each other’s nails as you hear stories and
form relationships with people in your community.
Midnight Walk: Host a nighttime walk to raise awareness about violence against women. As entry to the walk,
have members bring items to donate to survivors of domestic violence.
Care Packages: Many battered women’s shelters are in secret locations and volunteering on-site is not an option,
so contact a local shelter and see if there are items—think comfort and personal care—that you can collect for
them. Set up boxes in common areas to collect these items and then spend a night after a meeting putting
together shelter care packages.
Be An Advocate: A woman in a domestic violence situation that includes a gun is 500% more likely to be killed.
In states that require a background check for every handgun sale, 38% fewer women are shot to death by
intimate partners. As a chapter, sign JWI’s petition to urge Congress to expand the background check system to
keep firearms out of the hands of dangerous individuals like domestic abusers. Take it a step further and set up
an in-person meeting with your congressman.
Paint the Town Purple: Host a theme meeting where everyone wears purple to raise awareness for dating abuse
and domestic violence. Have your brother chapter do the same! Decorate with purple balloons and hand out
cards with statistics to spread awareness. Bring in some purple snacks to munch on and you’re all set! This is an
excellent opportunity to have a meaningful discussion about the role domestic violence and dating abuse may
play in your lives.
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Programming Resources
Looking for more help in building out your program? Check out these resources for tons of great ideas!
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Gender in the Media: Challenge the way media portrays gender roles through this interactive group activity.
Think through depictions of power and control in ads dating back to the 1920s through today. For more resources
on gender roles and norms, check out this workshop from JWI.
Quiz of the Day: Discover how you communicate in your relationships with this communication quiz and learn
how to share your boundaries after this boundaries quiz.
Healthy Relationships: JWI has put together a set of activities on creating healthy relationships with your peers
including building self-awareness, setting and communicating boundaries.
Call Out Cards: That’s Not Cool provides tools to help you draw your digital line about what is, or is not, okay in
your relationships. Check out their dating Call Out Cards here.
#LikeAGirl: Join the fight to make sure that girls everywhere keep their confidence throughout puberty and
beyond, and making a start by showing them that doing it #LikeAGirl is an awesome thing with this video.
Purple Ribbon Campaign: Check out these myths and facts about violence against women from the Purple
Ribbon Campaign in Canada.
#GirlsCan: COVERGIRL is about encouraging girls to embrace challenges, break those barriers and turn "can't"
into "can" with this video.
It’s Time to Talk: Break the Cycle’s Love is Not Abuse campaign presents No More Silence It’s Time to Talk.
With conversation starters and loads of helpful hints, this is a great tool to help spread the word about healthy
dating and relationships.
Power and Control Wheel: Lead a discussion using Break the Cycle and National Domestic Violence Hotline’s
Power and Control Wheel. Each spoke contains examples and a video demonstrating one of the forms of abuse.
Ask what would be the best way to handle each of the situations portrayed, and then check out their tips.
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