COCKY COMEDY
CD TRACK LISTINGS
Disc 1 Tracks
1. Intro & The Elusive
Obvious
2. The Critical
Counterintuitive
3. What is Laughter?
4. Why We Laugh
5. Humor & Gender
6. The Concept Of Cocky
& Funny
7. Sense Of Humor
8. Levels & Tests
9. Cocky Comedy As A
Tool
10. Don't Laugh
Disc 2 Tracks
1. Vibing, Stickiness, &
Attraction
2. Voice Tone
3. Status Exercises
4. The Character
5. Character Exercise
6. Conversation Theory
7. Messing with Her
8. Speaking The Unspoken
9. Telling an interesting
story
Disc 3 Tracks
1. Counterproductive Cool
Guy
2. Nonverbal Cocky
Comedy
3. More Nonverbal
4. More Tools
5. The Mistakes
6. Guest: Craig
7. Questions
8. Guest: Will
9. Guest: Twenty-six
10. Joking With Friends
Disc 4 Tracks
1. Commonalities &
Tourists
2. Calibration & Questions
3. Other Programs
4. Guest: Sean
5. Nice Guy
6. Internal Voices &
Therapy
7. Changing Beliefs
8. Believing is Seeing
9. Anti-Pity Exercise
Disc 5 Tracks
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Self Image
In The Club
Cheap Date Ideas
When It Works
Cocky Comedy Tips
Mystery and Security
Girls At Parties
Humor
Body Image Exercise
Disc 6 Tracks
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Q&A & The Gift of Pain
Guest: Rich
Doubt & Mindsets
You Are The Selector
Styles & Personas
Having Fun
Comebacks
Cocky Comedy
Program Workbook
CD Audio Series
David DeAngelo
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Disc 1 .................................................................................................................................................................. 7
Introduction .................................................................................................................................................. 7
Commit to Yourself for 90 Days............................................................................................................. 8
Most Men Don’t Have the Idea................................................................................................................ 8
The Elusive Obvious and the Critical Counter-Intuitive ................................................................ 9
What Brings People Closer ..................................................................................................................... 9
Laughter: Part of the Universal Human ‘Language’...................................................................... 10
Humor, Personality and Laughter as Drugs .................................................................................... 10
The Theory and Purpose of Laughter ................................................................................................ 11
Story of Cocky Comedy.......................................................................................................................... 11
Contrast Cocky Comedy with Sense of Humor .............................................................................. 12
Cocky Comedy in a Nutshell................................................................................................................. 12
The Next Level ........................................................................................................................................... 13
The Cocky Comedy Test ........................................................................................................................ 13
Remember, it’s One Tool in Your Toolbox....................................................................................... 14
Don’t Laugh to Make Her Laugh .......................................................................................................... 14
Disc 2 ................................................................................................................................................................ 15
Vibing ........................................................................................................................................................... 15
Stickiness – What It Is, How It Applies.............................................................................................. 15
A Magic Attraction Key ........................................................................................................................... 16
Status and Comedy Don’ts.................................................................................................................... 16
The Character ............................................................................................................................................ 17
Roles/Characters ...................................................................................................................................... 17
Character Practice Exercise ................................................................................................................. 18
Conversation Theory ............................................................................................................................... 18
Normal Conversation Do’s and Don’ts.............................................................................................. 19
Messing With Her ..................................................................................................................................... 19
Speaking the Unspoken… Cocky Comedy Style ........................................................................... 20
Cocky Comedy Themes.......................................................................................................................... 20
What’s Wrong With ‘Normal’ Conversation?................................................................................... 21
Telling An Interesting Story .................................................................................................................. 21
Questions to Ask Her .............................................................................................................................. 22
Questions To Not Ask Her ..................................................................................................................... 22
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Disc 3 ................................................................................................................................................................ 23
Counter-productive Cool Guy .............................................................................................................. 23
Cute Names For Her ................................................................................................................................ 23
Non-verbal Cocky Comedy.................................................................................................................... 24
Cocky Comedy Tools .............................................................................................................................. 24
Swipe Great Jokes from Movies .......................................................................................................... 25
Calm Girls and Crazy Girls .................................................................................................................... 25
Remember the Common Mistakes ...................................................................................................... 26
Cocky Comedy for Attractive, Physically Confident Men ........................................................... 26
Building Trust ............................................................................................................................................ 27
Building Trust Continued....................................................................................................................... 27
Craig.............................................................................................................................................................. 28
Will................................................................................................................................................................. 29
Twenty-six................................................................................................................................................... 30
Disc 4 ................................................................................................................................................................ 30
Twenty-six Continued ............................................................................................................................. 30
Sean .............................................................................................................................................................. 31
Disc 5 ................................................................................................................................................................ 31
Sean Continued......................................................................................................................................... 31
Disc 6 ................................................................................................................................................................ 31
Sean Continued......................................................................................................................................... 31
Richard......................................................................................................................................................... 32
Suggested Reading List ............................................................................................................................. 33
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Disc One
Introduction
• We're talking about conversation skills here, and we're going to focus
on Cocky Comedy
• The purpose of your conversation, as we're going to address it in this
program, is to create Attraction
• It might be to start a conversation and spark the attraction, increase
sexual tension, amplify attraction that's present... but it's all focused
around ATTRACTION
• There's no point in being funny if you only come across as a goofy
dork
• If you want to be funny, get a joke book
• If you want to learn how to make a woman feel attraction for you by
the way you talk to her and communicate with her, then focus what
you're going to learn on CREATING AND AMPLIFYING ATTRACTION
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Commit To Yourself for 90 Days
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Make a commitment to yourself and your success
Spend an hour per day with these materials... every
day... for the next 90 days
Form a success habit by working on this area every
single day
Take a moment and picture yourself applying what
you learn every day for the next 90 days... and
imagine the benefits you'll get
See a picture of your outcome in your mind... see
yourself enjoying using what you're about to learn
Most Men Don't Have The Idea Of
"Personality Triggered Attraction" In
Their Paradigm
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Most men have never considered or featured the idea that
women can feel a similar powerful, emotional and physical
response us guys recognize as "attraction" (but for very
different reasons than most men feel it for most women)
One of the reasons why many men respond well to the concept
of "Attraction Isn't A Choice" is that it triggers this realization
that they must change their communication if they want to
trigger attraction in women (instead of trying to logically
convince)
If you don't even have something in your paradigm or model
of the world, you can't see it or even perceive it
Once you get the concept in your mind, and know how to look
for it, you often see it all around you
Begin watching for clues that "Personality Triggered Attraction'
exists, and then consider the idea that it's the primary way
that Attraction is triggered in women... and let's talk about
some
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The Elusive Obvious and the Critical
Counter-Intuitive
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What we were about to talk about is "obvious" - obvious, that
is, if you know to look for it
It's been happening right in front of you all your life, but
you've just never noticed it
When you believe things are one way, your mind can prevent
you from seeing anything other than what you believe
Once you master the materials we're going to cover, you will
be able to perform magic right out on the open, for all to see...
and they'll never know what you're doing... and even
explaining it won't help them to see it... because they won't
believe it
The Critical Counter-Intuitive is a name I've given to the
concept of key situations where "going against the herd" is
both unusually important and exactly opposite of what most
people would do "naturally"
Stock investing – amateur mistakes, short-term spending vs.
long-term investing, eating little vs. eating a lot, etc.
What Brings People Closer
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There's a big difference between what SHOULD bring people
closer together and what DOES bring people closer together...
and you must shift your paradigm to see this
SHOULD
•Similarity
•"Respectful
distance"
•Commonality
•Rapport
•Compliments
DOES
•Emotions
•Physical play
•Mystery
•Challenge
•Unpredictability
•Teasing/busting
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Disc One
Laughter: Part of the Universal Human
‘Language’
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Before we get into the how-to's of Cocky Comedy, let's talk
about one of the basic components: Laughter (and what it is)
There are several universal ‘language components’ that all
humans from all cultures and backgrounds seem to use
One is crying in response to grief and loss
Another is yelling or screaming in response to fear or danger
And another is laughter
Laughter is the universal bonding communication, and RARELY
is it in response to something FUNNY
Humor, Personality and Laughter as
Drugs
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I read an interesting piece by Richard Dawkins of "The Selfish
Gene" fame... in his more recent book "Unweaving The
Rainbow"
He suggested that one way of possibly thinking of a male bird's
song of courtship is that it's like a drug (or, if you prefer, that
it triggers the release of drugs) in the female bird's
mental/emotional system
Is it possible that a certain type of MALE HUMAN ‘song’ is
capable of generating the same response in a female human?
And is it possible that the combination of this male human
‘song’ with LAUGHTER tends to release a powerful COMPOUND
of drugs inside a woman?
I think so...
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Theory and Purpose of Laughter
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Laughter serves a social function
Most laughter isn't in response to something funny (key)
Various research has shown that people are between ten and
thirty times as likely to laugh when they're in the presence of
others
In other words, we don't laugh very much when we're ALONE
(we're more likely to talk to ourselves than laugh when alone)
Research also shows that higher status people can tend to
make more jokes than lower status people (this should be
extended to why it's OK to be constantly bagging on her or
making jokes, even though she's not... as long as she's
LAUGHING)
So why do people laugh? What's the meaning of laughter?
Story of Cocky Comedy
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Greg and Cocky & Funny
Cocky Comedy is easier to remember and more clear
Think of Howard Stern, David Letterman, Triumph The Insult
Comic Dog... these are MASTERS of Cocky Comedy
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Contrast Cocky Comedy with Sense of
Humor
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It's common wisdom that making a girl laugh is an important
part of making her like you. To this end, many guys do their
best to make jokes... [more]. In contrast, Cocky Comedy is
about something very different. Laughter is good, but it’s more
a signal that you're actually on the right track, rather than the
ultimate objective. The point of Cocky Comedy is
ATTRACTION. Comedy is to create, then release tension.
Cocky Comedy is about creating tension, then releasing it a
little, then creating MORE tension... and building more and
more toward a crescendo. The ‘release’ never quite comes (so
to speak)
Sense Of Humor
Make her laugh
Make her think you're funny
Make her "like" you
Get her approval
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Cocky Comedy
Make her feel ATTRACTION
Make her desire more
Make her WANT you
Make her feel something toward
you that she can't control
Cocky Comedy in a Nutshell
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Why the combination?
1. Women aren't attracted to lower status men
2. The cocky element implies high status
3. If you can make a woman laugh at something you say that's
busting on her, or extremely arrogant, you've achieved a
magical accomplishment
The comedy element keeps you out of the "jerk/a-hole"
category, and creates an amazing connection... if you can
make someone laugh, you're "in" with them
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The Next Level
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Even more powerful than her laughing at a Cocky & Funny
joke you've made while you're not laughing... is her FRIENDS
laughing at the comment you've made
Finally, the pinnacle of Cocky Comedy is when her friends are
laughing at a joke you've made about HER (while you're not
laughing, of course)
Like dynamite, these are very powerful and dangerous... use
them wisely and carefully, and they will increase your success
with women dramatically
The Cocky Comedy Test
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Before we get into what to do right, let's talk about what many
guys do WRONG:
Stilted, nervous, unnatural, uncomfortable conversation and
gestures
Trying to get her approval or make her like you
Apologizing or seeming like you're apologetic for anything
Having an agenda instead of enjoying the moment
If it's Cocky Comedy, then it is both ARROGANT and FUNNY
If she isn't SMILING and LAUGHING often, then what you're
doing isn't Cocky Comedy
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Remember, its One Tool in Your
Toolbox
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The mistake of thinking that Cocky Comedy is everything, or
that ANYTHING is everything when it comes to meeting
women
This idea is a key, but it's not everything
Don't rely on Cocky Comedy to create attraction all by itself
You must overcome your insecurities, polish up your
personality quirks, learn to control your body language, and
many other things if you want to really take advantage of the
power that this technique and way of thinking offers
Don't Laugh To Make Her Laugh
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Humans often (or even usually) laugh or smile in response to
hearing others laugh... even when what's being laughed at
isn't funny (or sometimes even known)
If we want to make another person laugh (in other words, if
we try to make someone else show give us approval) we often
laugh ourselves (when a high-status person laughs at
something, others start laughing automatically... even if they
don't know what that something is yet... then, when they find
out what it is, they tend to laugh even more)
Don't laugh unconsciously or consciously to break tension, or
to try to make her laugh
Make a picture in your mind of a guy laughing in order to
break tension, and the woman looking around for some kind of
distraction so she can pretend that the guy she's with isn't as
much of a dork as he seems to be... then DON'T DO THAT
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Vibing
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Picture in your mind a situation where a man and a woman are
‘VIBING’ — They're both in tune with each other, and they're
feeling chemistry... and enjoying it
It's a combination of both people knowing how to
communicate on a ‘Sexual’ level plus the signaling of interest
or enjoyment of the other knowing the lingo
Knowing that you don't know how to get these types of
responses from women triggers many guys to avoid ‘flirting’ at
all... because they don't want to face the subtle rejection they
experience when a woman doesn't ‘vibe’ back at them
This concept that I'm calling ‘vibing’ is HIGHLY addictive... it's
like a strong drug... you can become psychologically addicted
from the first little taste
When you understand this dynamic, how to start it, and how to
keep it going with women, it becomes incredibly powerful
You can give her a little at a time, and by not giving it all at
once, you make her want mare and more
Stickiness — What It Is, How It Applies
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Stickiness - the web term
In order to be ‘sticky’, you must:
- Get her attention
- Keep her interest
- Differentiate yourself quickly from any other men that are
present
- Increase her curiosity and make her wonder what's coming
next
- Make her want more
- Make her feel attraction
- Increase her attraction to you by being challenging,
mysterious, unpredictable
- She drops something
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A Magic Attraction Key
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Female genes reward male status with mating opportunities
Remember the formula. Male Status = Mating Opportunities
Regardless of looks, age, income, etc., you can always send
'honest signals' that communicate higher status than HER (See
my Mastery Program for an in-depth education)
Laughter serves a social function_. people laugh to get
approval and bond most of the time... humor is on a small
fraction of the puzzle
When you can make a woman laugh, but not laugh yourself,
she's seeking approval and you're NOT
If you can use Cocky Comedy to make her laugh, you are
compounding many powerful forces into one incredibly focused
moment communicating high status overtly with your arrogant
p comment, making her laugh (which is her seeking social
acceptance), and not laughing yourself (which you are high
status and don't need d her approval)... all of which, together,
create and amplify attraction
When you use Cocky Comedy to make a woman laugh while
not laughing yourself, you're on the right track
Status and Comedy Don'ts
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Don't use self-deprecating humor constantly
Don't communicate that you think you're a dumb-ass
Don't joke about having bad luck, being a klutz, or not being
successful
Don't put yourself down to seem overly ‘humble’
Don't look at her every time you say something to see how
she's responding
If she responds well to you not paying attention after you've
busted on her, TURN IT UP and pay LESS attention
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The Character
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The humor actually flows more from the character, the
responses, and the natural Interaction than from ‘jokes’
In order to make this concept work, you must BELIEVE It and
act congruently
This will not work If you approach this tentatively and ‘try’ it...
on the contrary, it will actually backfire
Most funny people are not TRYING to be funny you'll notice...
and they're usually not seeking approval... they're being the
CHARACTER
The Character is where 90% of the humor flows from
Roles/Characters
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Fake / assume position of authority
She's 'Just trying to get me into bed"
What's in it for me
Cold in a funny way
High maintenance chicks
Making fun of wussy / clingy guys
Imitating her
Sarcastically encouraging her bad / unhealthy behavior
You're always on her mind, she's always pursuing you
She needs adult supervision / modem medical science cant
explain
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Character Practice Exercise
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Imagine a particular type of character that you could work with
Some examples:
-A neurotically emotional, impatient, disapproving parent
-An overly-confident ‘player’ or ‘playboy’ (think The Ladies
Man)
-A high-maintenance woman
How would each CHARACTER react to the following?...
- She accidentally touches your ass
- She drops something
- She asks you to buy her a drink
Use this exercise when you're interacting with women
Conversation Theory
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Most guys approach conversations with women the way they
approach dates
They think that there's a set of rules and a way of doing things
that must govern their behavior
Instead of relaxing, making funny comments, and generally
acting almost TOO comfortable, they act stilted, tentative, and
almost formal
Most men want a woman to feel some kind of ‘interest’ or
"attraction" toward him... but they usually wind up doing and
saying things that cause the opposite feelings
Instead of making conversations interesting, fun,
unpredictable, and emotionally interesting, they make
conversations boring, predictable, and bland
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Normal Conversation Do's and Don'ts
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Don't get ‘too serious’ too soon
Wait until you've gone on a few dates before you let things get
too heavy
Focus the conversation on FUN instead of an objective
Don't worry about finding commonality, common goals, etc.
Logic is the enemy
Messing With Her
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The ‘I'm messing with you’ interaction change… It has a
different vibe
When you mess with one of your friends, but you ‘sound’
serious, how does your friend know that you're messing with
them?
Being "overly serious" or ‘overly harsh’ or ‘over reacting’... so
it's OBVIOUS that you're playing
The problem Is that most people don't do this stuff with
STRANGERS... and ESPECIALLY women that they don't know...
women that they're attracted to most of all
Its critical that you switch the conversation from a ‘normal’
mode into a 'different vibe’ ... and that you do this QUICKLY...
don't let the conversation stay too normal for too long before
switching It Up
Transitioning to the ‘I’m Messing With You’ vibe:
- Take something she said and twist it in a funny way
- Complain about something in an "over serious way
- Give an over-exaggerated compliment that can't he real,
but seem way too serious
- Accuse her of stepping over the line and trying to pick you
up in some way
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Speaking the Unspoken... Cocky Comedy
Style
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If a woman is hitting you, pushing you, or acting ‘fake mad’,
say "You love me"... if she questions your comment, say "You
just hit me... like a little girl on the playground hitting a boy
she likes... YOU LOVE ME, AND ITS OBVIOUS"
Venice with Craig: "You know, I can't believe it... I did all that
flirting with you when I walked in, we had the fun little vibe,
and you didn't even come over here to visit and hint that you
liked me... I feel unloved"
These require some self-assurance... and COCKINESS
Cocky Comedy Themes
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Male/female stereotypes
Neurotic common relationship dysfunctions
Common Neurotic personality characteristics
Exasperation, etc
Reframing
Grabbing a word from her and riffing on it
Neurotic attention to detail
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What's Wrong With ‘Normal’
Conversation?
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‘Normal’ conversation is characterized by the routine, boring
subjects that most people talk about unconsciously all day,
every day
The weather, sports, jobs, cars,
Some women will get upset at you for ‘avoiding’ them or being
‘evasive'… it will happen... its the risk of being different
Gary Halbert, the famous marketing genius, says (my
paraphrase), ‘that if you don't piss anyone off, you're not
doing a good job of communicating your message’
Telling an Interesting Story
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Elements that make things interesting
Tiny details that paint mental pictures
Funny, uncomfortable situations that naturally make people
laugh
Tension and release
Conflict that resolves itself in a strange way
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Questions to Ask Her
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‘What's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened on
a date?’
‘Which is the superior gender?’
‘What's the craziest thing you've ever done?’
Questions To Not Ask Her
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‘What do you do?’
‘What kind of car do you have?’
‘Where do you live?’
‘Do you have any pets?’
‘Do you want kids?’
‘What are your views on religion, politics, abortion?’
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Counter-Productive Cool-Guy
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Don't imply that because you've achieved some milestone or
because you have some affiliation or money, etc. that she
SHOULD like you
It's obvious when a person thinks that because they have
some quality or accomplishment that they're "entitled" to
something
Don't assume that because you have money, or a nice car, or
whatever that a woman should just roll onto her back with her
legs in the air• The attorney at Spago w/date
Cute Names for Her
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Come up with a cute name for her that's bath accurate cute,
and somewhat antagonistic
A few standards:
- Dork
- Brat (Note: this one may be becoming too popular now)
- Dude
- Playa
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Non-Verbal Cocky Comedy
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When you use a gesture or face or tone of voice that makes
fun of her, and she laughs, do it again later... and look for
opportunities to use it
Push her into things physically as you're walking
Billy: Sighing loudly as if embarrassed, shaking your head,
throwing hands up
Thumb wrestle, knee squeeze, tickle, pull hair
Handing her something and not letting go/not grabbing
something she's handing you
Swat her
Stealing food or taking the ‘big piece
What else can you think of?
Cocky Comedy Tools
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The ‘I know something that you don't know’ smile
The sly smile
Whining baby talk to mock whining
Interrupting repeatedly in sequence, then silence
Seem to go along with / comply with / request, then turn and
twist and ask for something in return
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Swipe Great Jokes from Movies
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If you collect great one-liners and comebacks from movies,
you can increase your "charm factor" rapidly
The fantastic thing about movie lines: When you use one, you
always sound charming...
If she doesn't recognize the line, she'll just laugh and think
you're clever
If she does recognize the line, she'll laugh because you called
up a funny quote at just the right time
Even better: If she doesn't laugh, you can MAKE FUN of her
and accuse her of being socially inept and out of touch with her
culture because she hasn't seen the OBVIOUSLY IMPORTANT
movie
Examples: Bud Fox (How are you today? Guilty/Sin lines)
Keep a ‘swipe file’ handy, and review it often
Calm Girls and Crazy Girls
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Treat a calm, reserved, conservative girl as if you know that
secretly she's a wild and crazy party girl
Treat a wild, crazy, spastic girl as if you know that secretly
she's a calm, reserved, conservative, boring girl
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Remember the Common Mistakes...
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Too much funny... goofy, dorky,
Too much cocky... A-hole, jerk, insecure Not actually being
funny
Mistaking a put-down for being Cocky
Doing it to impress or show off
Physically looking for approval or a reaction after you make a
comment or gesture
Cocky Comedy for Attractive, Physically
Confident Men
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If you're one of the guys who should thank his parents for
getting together and giving you ‘good genes’... and you look
like Brad Pitt or a sports model, then it's important that you
remember something about Cocky Comedy
Women very often assume that tall, good-looking, physically
confident men are arrogant and stuck on themselves
It's important to communicate that you're NOT one of those
guys who's completely stuck on himself FIRST... and THEN
start transitioning into Cocky Comedy
But remember, just because you need to ease in with the
Cocky Comedy does NOT mean to act like a Wuss or
communicate lower status... never do these things
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Seminar Slides
Disc Three
Building Trust
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In the bonus book "Bridges" that came along with my original
book "Double Your Dating", you probably remember me
mentioning that a key step with a woman is her feeling enough
trust to be alone with you
This involves her feeling some level of comfort, etc. and the
general feeling that you're not a creepy person that's going to
try to take advantage of her as soon as you're alone
In order to do this, you're going to have to have some "normal
conversation"
I don't talk very much about this topic in other places, because
it’s a bit complex...
Guys ask "Do I use Cocky Comedy all the time? Should I stop
at some point?" etc.
Answer: I TELL guys to really dial it up, because I know that
most of the time that if I tell them to really pour it on, they'll
do just enough to make things interesting for a woman...
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Building Trust Cont.
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There are many opportunities to throw in a little "normal
conversation"
I prefer to do this when something in the environment
naturally leads into it...
Examples:
— You're ordering a cup of coffee with her, and you ask her
what she wants in a serious way, then order like a "normal
person"
- You're walking down the sidewalk, and you want to switch to
her walking on the Inside._ you say, in a serious tone "Here"
as you casually move her inside by gently guiding her elbow
- If she's overly Insistent about asking you ‘serious’ questions,
answer them all in one quick sentence "I'm 27, I was born In
Ohio, I went to college at NYU, I got a 3.82 GPA, I now have
a job and pay my own bills. I love my mother, and I go to
the dentist every six months"
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Will
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Twenty-six
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Sean
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Richard
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Suggested Reading List
The Barmaid's Brain
By Jay Ingram
Laughter
By Robert R. Provine
Exuberance
By Kay Redfield Jamison
Impro
By Keith Johnstone
Comedy Writing Secrets
By Melvin Helitzer
Interaction Ritual
By Erving Goffman
Behavior in Public Places
By Erving Goffman
Unweaving the Rainbow
By Richard Dawkins
Contact Information
Sean Stephenson
mailto:[email protected]
Twenty-six
mailto:[email protected]
Will
mailto:[email protected]
http://www.seanstephenson.com
http://www.realsocialdynamics.com
http://www.youaresoinmyway.com
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