Name:________________________________________________________ Log for the week of:_____________________________________
Day 5: Forgiveness
Day 6: Selflessness
The definition of forgiveness is “to let go of resentment.”
The definition of selflessness is “to meet the needs of others.”
People who are forgiving develop the skill (habit) of accepting limitations in
others and the capacity to tolerate imperfection. They develop the skill of
letting go of the resentment that often lingers when people let them down.
Forgiveness involves going to people and communicating assertively how
what they have done has affected you, dealing with it, and then letting go
of any lingering resentment. It is hard to do when pride and feelings have
been hurt. But know that resentment destroys the human personality.
-from The World’s Most Powerful Leadership Principle, by James C. Hunter
The will to serve and sacrifice for others, the willingness to set aside our wants
and needs in seeking the greatest good for others – this is what it means to
be selfless. The Law of the Harvest states that people reap what they sow; in
other words, you serve me, I’ll serve you. Selfless people sow service and
sacrifice; they extend themselves for others and seek their greatest good. In
return, they reap the harvest of influence. Selfless people are servants, not
slaves, because they meet the legitimate needs of others, not their wants.
We Dare you to…
Think of someone at school who has hurt you. Go out of your way to smile
and say hello to that person, every time you see them. And mean it! Just be
the bigger person, I guarantee it’ll feel better.
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
-Mahatma Gandhi
“To be wronged is nothing, unless you continue to remember it.” -Confucius
“When you hold a grudge, you want someone else’s sorrow to reflect your
level of hurt but the two rarely meet.” -Steve Maraboli
We Dare you to…
Open the door today for someone you know, and for someone you don’t
know.
“No one is useless in the world who lightens the load of another.”
-Charles Dickens
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at
least don't hurt them.” -Dalai Lama XIV
Day 7: Honesty
Day 8: Humility
My dictionary defines honesty as “being free from deception.”
Humility can be defined as “displaying an absence of pride, arrogance or
pretense; behaving authentically.”
Few would disagree that honesty and integrity are essential qualities of
character that a leader must possess. Surveys have shown for decades that
these are the qualities of character people most want in their leader.
If you do not believe that these qualities are essential to leadership, just ask
yourself this question: Do you have good relationships with people you do
not trust? Are those the people who inspire you?
-from The World’s Most Powerful Leadership Principle, by James C. Hunter
We Dare you to…
Isolate one area of division (division is when you’re not being totally true and
honest) in your life and reflect about the issue and what needs to happen for
healing to occur. Take one step today to make that healing happen. You
could reflect with a conversation, writing a letter, a journal entry…
I am not being honest with myself when it comes to ______________________;
it’s not working right now and I need to fix it.
Humble people are able to keep things in perspective. They are willing to be
open and vulnerable because they have their egos under control and do
not operate from delusions of grandeur, believing they are indispensible.
They do not take themselves too seriously and are able to laugh at
themselves and the world. They are quick to give credit to others and do not
seek out credit and adulation for themselves; they are secure in who and
what they are. They do not have all the answers, are okay with that, and are
wide open to contrary opinion. And, as a wise mystic once said, “If we
could see ourselves for what we really are, we would be very humble
indeed.”
We Dare you to…
Apologize to someone today. Remember that an apology is not an
admission of guilt or wrongdoing. It’s an acknowledgement that you’re
willing to do better next time.
“The more you lose yourself in something bigger than itself,
the more ebergy you will have.” -Norman Vincent Peale
Daily Reflections
Monday
What I did:
Friday Reflection Questions
Name:
Reflect on what has happened over the first nine days of your leadership dare – answer the questions below.
How did it go? If you didn’t
complete the dare, why not?
How did people react to you when you completed the tasks in the dares?
Tuesday
What I did:
How did YOU react when you completed the tasks in the dares?
How did it go? If you didn’t
complete the dare, why not?
Wednesday
What I did:
What proved to be the hardest thing you had to do in completing the dares?
How did it go? If you didn’t
complete the dare, why not?
What do you think of yourself after the first 8 days? What is different?
Thursday
What I did:
How did it go? If you didn’t
complete the dare, why not?
Total Dares Attempted:
Total Dares Completed:
Is there a word you’re hoping to revisit? Which one, and why?
“The place to improve the world is first in one’s own heart and head
and hands, and then work outward from there.”
-Robert Pirsig
How you’ll be assessed:
You’ll be graded on your participation and reflection during the Character Dare weeks.
Every day at the end of the day (think of it as a before bedtime reflection), you’ll need to reflect upon what you did that day to attempt the
character dare and how it relates to leadership. Your answers should be in complete sentences with as much detail as you can fit. Remember, this is
your time to learn from your experiences, that’s what reflection is for!
On Fridays, you’ll need to answer the Reflection Questions and your teacher will give you the first five minutes in class to take care of this. After that,
you’ll turn your weekly log in!
YOUR TEACHER
WILL COMPLETE
THIS SECTION
Self-Reflection
and Assessment
4
3
Everything for a 3 plus:
 Friday Reflection Questions are
thoughtfully answered with
connections to what it means to be a
leader in our school and greater
community (family, clubs, other
organizations, etc.)

STUDENT TO
COMPELTE THIS
SECTION

THIS WILL NOT
AFFECT YOUR
GRADE it’s just for
YOU

I completed all dares
AND
2
Daily Reflections are
completed each day (one
sentence)
AND

1
Daily Reflections are
completed
inconsistently

Friday
Reflections are
missing or
incomplete.

I read the daily
dares but did
not attempt
any, nor reflect.
OR

Friday Reflection Questions
are completed thoughtfully
(what I did, how did it or if
you did not complete the
dare why not)

Friday Reflection
Questions lack
personalized
explanations

I attempted all dares

I attempted at least 1
daily dare
AND
AND
Practicing the
Character Trait
I thoughtfully reflected on all dares

I reflected on all dares
daily, whether I successfully
completed them or not

I reflected on the daily
dares I attempted, and
explained why I chose
not to complete the
others
DISCLAIMER: Working on your personal character can bring up emotions that you weren’t expecting. If you need to talk to someone, Mr.
Willis, Ms. Neil, or Ms. Zahn will find a time for you. Our McKnight Counselors Ms. Simpson-Verger, Ms. Kellogg, or Mr. Roper would love to
talk to you.
------ REMEMBER IT IS ABOUT YOUR GROWTH, NOT ABOUT A GRADE -----