Character First Lesson
Discretion
Today we will be talking about Discretion and why this is an important Godly
character trait that we should all strive to possess!
Game Time: Think of a game that would show Discretion. Example – The Phone
game – the first person whispers something into the ear of the next and they
whisper it to the next, through the whole class. The last person stands and says
what he thinks the beginning statement was – shows how words can get twisted
very fast.
Determining the Definition
Questions to ask the group:
What does Discretion mean to you?
Would you consider yourself a person who uses discretion?
Have a group discussion on examples of people using discretion and example
of people who have not or do not.
Dictionary Definition of Discretion The quality of being discreet, especially with reference to one's own actions or speech; prudence or
decorum:.
** Broadcasters must exercise particular care because their words reach many listeners, but
many individuals overlook the significance of everyday words and actions.
A discreet person thinks through situations and considers the consequences in order to avoid
making unwise decisions. A discreet person recognizes the effects words, actions, and attitudes
have on others.
Would you consider yourself a discreet person? Do you just say whatever you
think or feel, or do you first think before you speak?
What are some examples in the world today that show people lacking
discretion?
What are examples of people using discretion?
Adapted from Character First – Advanced Student Guide Series 2, No. 9
Life Example of Discretion
Bad examples in society:
Justin Bieber – He has great influence over people and many look up to him, but lately videos
have surfaced of him being videotaped using many racial slurs and putting others down. Not a
great example of being discreet.
Good examples in society:
Police discretion - refers to the judgment officers use in the field, whether it be taking
someone to jail for a minor offense or letting someone go after a stern lecture. An example of
police discretion is in a situation whereby a domestic situation between a couple that is
otherwise law abiding is resolved by escorting one party away, instead of making an arrest.
Discretion is practised in situations where the people or facts involved don't necessarily line up
with the law.
Everyday we are confronted with situations that require us to use discretion:
*Someone telling us a secret – do we tell others? * How we dress? Do we show discretion or
let it all hang out ? * If someone hurts us, do we yell at them in front of others or wait til we
are alone. * Do we think before we speak?
How are you with discretion?
Biblical Example
Wisdom from Above
(To Prepare Read Proverbs 3 focusing on Vs. 21-27)
Background Story: Share with everyone what the proverbs were, Wise sayings and scriptures to
align our life with.
Read to the group Proverbs 3: 21 - 27
How do these verses show that Discretion is important to have?
What benefits come from having Discretion?
Have a group discussion on ways we can be more Discreet.
Adapted from Character First – Advanced Student Guide Series 2, No. 9
Application
Now you get the opportunity to show Discretion in your life. Think before you speak and
encourage others to do the same. Think about your actions and how you live and align your life
with God’s word and with discretion and a bounty of blessings will come from it!
Practical applications to show Discretion in your life:
1.
Consider Consequences – Actions have consequences. Consider the effects your actions
can have upon others. While you cannot foresee all the consequences, you can evaluate
situations and make the best possible decision.
2. Choose Words Carefully – Whether thoughtless, humorous, malicious, or kind, words
have a profound impact on relationships. Passing comments can encourage others or
communicate rudeness. Consider what you want to say and choose words that convey
the right message.
3. Practice Good Manners – Good manners communicate respect for others and provide a
common understanding of how people should behave in social settings. Observe how
others act, and make adjustments when needed.
4. Learn from Mistakes – A discreet person evaluates situations and recognizes what
contributes to failures. This allows a person to avoid unnecessary conflicts and resolve
situations in the future. Rather than wishing you could erase a mistake, learn how to
avoid repeating it.
5. Avoid Trouble – Friends and entertainment influence your point of view and habits.
Seeking pleasure or escape with those who do not value good character can lead to
compromising situations. When pressured to do wrong, decline and walk away.
Remember: You are the Light of the World so let your Light
Shine through your Discretion!
Adapted from Character First – Advanced Student Guide Series 2, No. 9