Yolanda Yes
YOLANDA YES
Thank you for taking our DeStress to Success Quiz to
determine your Unique Stress Profile. Based on your
answers, we have determined that you are a "Yolanda
Yes".
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According to developmental psychologist Erik Erickson,
successful completion of his Stages of Psychosocial
Development, results in a healthy personality ego and
characteristics to deal with crises. Please note that an
inability to successfully complete any stage typically results
in an unhealthy personality ego or sense of self. Hence, an
unclear sense of self produces your Unique Stress Profile.
Ages 35-40 question their identity, asking the question, “Who
Am I” and “How do I Leave a Mark in the World?” “What is
My Purpose?”
Ages 40-45 pose the thought, “I’m Not Missing Out! It’s My
Turn!”
Ages 45-50 declare, “What’s Next?” “What to Do Now?”
Erickson’s psychosocial stage for ages 18-40 is called
Intimacy versus Isolation. In this stage, one will share
themselves more intimately, and explore long-term
relationships. Completing this stage successfully results in a
sense of commitment and safety in relationships. However,
inability to successfully complete this stage results in
avoidance, isolation, loneliness, and depression.
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Erickson’s psychosocial stage for ages 40-65 is called
Generativity versus Stagnation. In this stage, one will
establish their careers, raise children, and become involved
in community organizations and activities. One would feel
very productive and feel accomplished in their endeavors,
and desire to give back. However, failure to complete this
stage successfully, results in stagnation and feeling
unproductive.
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Results
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You are a Yes person! You find it difficult to let go of
responsibilities or allow others to help you. You do not want
to feel like a burden to others, or believe that everyone has
more important obligations to attend to, so you opt to take on
everyone else’s work. This is at your expense. You find it
difficult getting your own things done, but you do not
complain or tell others about your problems. You do not ask
for help. You tend to suffer in silence. You do not want
others to be burdened or inconvenienced by your problems,
so you tend to keep things to yourself.
Additionally, you do not respect your own boundaries and
wonder why others are still passing work and responsibilities
to you when you think they see you struggling trying to
manage everything. You believe you cannot say no
because others are depending on you and you have to keep
the image of being a diligent happy helper up.
Unfortunately, you have created a monster.
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Yolanda YES Characteristics
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 The word NO is barely in her vocabulary.
 Is generally a peacemaker.
 Dislikes conflict and discord, so she takes
on the responsibilities.
 Challenged with delegating responsibility
to others.
 Overextends herself for the sake of peace
and harmony.
 Is challenged with getting her own
personal things done.
 Overall a pleaser and appeaser.
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DeStress to Success
Strategies
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Say No to what are impacting your boundaries. In other
words, listen to your inner self. If you are feeling
uncomfortable and anxiety is raised, it means that your
boundaries are being compromised. When you are at peace,
confident, and certain with something, you go with it. Show
the same courtesy to your own boundaries.
There is a difference of risk taking and compromising
boundaries. When you are uncomfortable, yet see this is the
only way to get to your goals for growth’s sake, then take
risks. If the feelings of discomfort are insurmountable with
taking that risk creates too much doubt, pulverizes your
confidence, and has you shaking your head no, then that is
your inner self-saying NO! *smile*. When the time is right, it
will feel right.
Explore what is the urgency driving to make moves when
you are still too doubtful and shaking your head no to move
forward.
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