Sexual Charisma
How to Be Sexually Irresistible
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In this book, you'll learn strategies on how to become more sexually charismatic. If you use these
strategies systematically, soon you'll feel and be more sexually attractive and enhance your sexual
charisma.
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Forward
“When I was approached to write the forward to this book”… I always found it
funny that most forwards started out like that. As if the person writing the forward
had a higher intellectual level, that the writer of the book itself had to lower and
humble themselves, before the awesome presence of the other to justify the
existence of their own book. That was not the case here. Since I know Eirini
personally I was one of the first to read her book. After I read her book (several
times) I approached her. I requested of her the honor of writing the forward for her
book.
This book spoke so close to my sensibilities and addresses, what I feel is a
major problem that humanity faces. I had to ask for this honor.
Sexuality and our sexual nature has become so warped, twisted that it is more
associated with shame, jealousy plus many other negative thoughts. It is no longer
thought of as the beautiful, wonderful, basic and to the point, core part of
humanity’s being. Sexuality, our sexual nature is not shameful, the idea of what it
has been twisted into is. And that is what this book addresses and attempts to
correct. It is that, that I had to be a part of. Sexuality is beautiful and universal. It
starts at the beginning of life and endures till death. It is a true joining, a union with
another. It is a desire and a need.
Addressing the problems that I have with Eirini’s book. I don’t, in actuality, have
a problem with this book. After I understood the nature of the book. After I
translated the book to make it understood in my reality. Eirini and myself exist in
two different realities. In many areas our realities overlap and in some, co-exist,
but in many more areas, the languages are not the same. The reason for this is
our backgrounds. Eirini was raised a female in Greece and I was raised a male in
the United States. I gave my personal reality the name K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple
Stupid). I take everything I can and reduce it down to its simplest equation. That
way I can later look at the subject deeper to come to a fuller understanding.
So following is an aid, some guidelines for those who live in a similar reality to
mine, to understand this book and to get all that they can from its knowledge.
Start this book with the feeling of ‘the golden rule’. Treat others how you want
to be treated. Also, think of this line, in order to receive you must also give. This
book gets really deep and gives a lot of aids for strengthening your personal
sexuality energy level. However, at my level, the ‘golden rule’ applies. If you want
your own sexual charisma to strengthen you must also think and treat others as
much of the sexual being that you are.
To show my logic look at this precept, many feel fear at the idea of speaking in
public. In order to counter act that fear people created the idea of picturing the
audience naked. This thought is a bad aspect of sexual nature and shows again
how our sexual nature has been twisted. The idea is that if you picture the
audience naked you then make them lower beings than yourself and therefor
nothing to fear. But look at it this way; Instead of picturing the audience in a
vulnerable manner (lower than you), go ahead and picture them as sexual beings
as much as yourself, naked or clothed, your choice. Doing this creates the same
feeling of fearlessness but in a healthy manner, in equality.
Rejection. Nothing, for me anyway, was more damaging to my sexual charisma
than rejection; Till I realized what rejection was. Again, apply the golden rule. If
you want to be taken at your word then take the person who is rejecting you at their
word. They are doing you the greatest kindness that they possibly can by rejecting
you. They are only telling you that you are not right for them, nothing more than
that. Even if the person that you approached rejects you in a way that you feel is
mean hearted, it is still a kindness. Because you should know right then and there
that they are not right for you, if you have the feeling of treating others the way you
want to be treated. Let rejection fuel you not drain you of your sexual energy and
charisma.
Now for the last part of my guidelines of a K.I.S.S. philosophy and to put an end
to this forward.
Apply the realization that all acts of creation and coming together are aspects of
sexual energy and expression. This right here is the perfect example. I am as of
this moment of writing this forward, in sexual union with Eirini. Our intellects are
holding, caressing and loving each other. In this she has taken on the male role
and I the female role. She is the one that planted the seed and it is I that took that
seed and nurtured it to now give birth to an idea that is new and part her and part
me. Therefore, your act of reading this, you are entering a sexual union with me.
Was it good for you? Sorry, my childish humor coming out. It is true
nonetheless. So now, congratulations because you are all about to have sex with
Eirini!
Love each other
Some Random Asshole with an Opinion
What is Sexual Charisma Anyway?
Quick definition:
Sexual Charisma is that magic quality some lucky individuals exude that can arouse in most people a
deep attraction, the emotion that we feel when someone enters our heart and mind in a way we can’t really
explain with words.
Sexual charisma is something undefinable and yet powerful that reaches deep inside us and stirs up
emotions we dont understand and feel almost powerless to resist.
Because when we feel attraction for a sexually attractive individual, we no longer use our “logical” mind
to decide what we want. Attraction takes over and causes us to start acting and making decisions
emotionally instead of rationally.
Attraction is not logical, and attraction is something you just can’t help but feel.
How does this attraction work? What is it that draws people to each other?
Why are certain 'types' of men or women widely considered to be charismatic attractionwise more than others?
Many of us don't believe that we can be so naturally sexually magnetic that people notice
and gravitate towards us. We'd rather attribute sexual attraction to good looks, intelligence or
'chemistry'.
"Attraction revolves around beauty." That's what the media tell us, and that's what we
can tell for ourselves from the direction of men's or women's eyes on the street and in bars
and clubs.
But is that really so?
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Attraction is not about being physically beautiful.
It goes much deeper than that.
You are not sexually attracted to another human being because of how he or she looks.
You may think so, but I assure you it is by no means so and everyday experience confirms
it.
Think of all the times you've seen a man or woman that could very well be considered
attractive or that most people would consider attractive but they did nothing for you.
You acknowledge they're pretty or handsome, and yet the spark is definitely not there.
You could tell within a few minutes that their pretty/handsome face or
figure had nothing to offer to you..
Or think of all the times that you've found a voice seductive, on the radio or the internet,
without even seeing the face it belonged to.
Many people who have spent any time interacting on-line will have had the experience of
becoming sexually-attracted to someone whose picture you've never seen, just because of
the interaction that goes on.
And most people who have spent any time interacting off-line will have met people who
are truly beautiful but not in the least bit sexually attractive. You could stare at them for
hours but they'd have as much chance of turning you on as a sunset or a rosebush.
Yes, contrary to what our culture tells us, beautiful and sexy are two very different
things.
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What Sexy People Have in Common.
The aesthetic rules change all the time. A straight or crooked nose might make the
difference between a beautiful face and an ordinary face, but it is almost impossible to
remember the shape of a nose on a sexy person because you spend all your time looking at
their eyes and lips.
Sexy people's wrists, hands and the shape of their fingers can become a source of constant
distraction, whereas on merely beautiful people they can be completely overlooked. Whatever
colour and texture their skin, you become fascinated by it.
Body parts which might be considered too big or too small in other people assume their
own integral perfection and make some kind of sense in terms of visual balance in people we
are sexually attracted to. Asymmetries, scars, birthmarks, odd hair distribution, strange little
folds of flesh, visible physical impairments and other oddities can themselves become sources
of erotic delight because they're evidence of the desired person's uniqueness, their reality in
flesh.
The made-up lovers of our fantasies may be flawless, but they're always inferior to real
flesh and blood sexy people in all their glorious fleshy sexy weirdness.
Which isn't necessarily beauty.
As a guy, friend of mine, put it:
''There are tons of women that I would consider 'attractive' or 'beautiful'...but not
necessarily physically attractive to me personally in a sexual way.''
''It's tough to explain....but sometimes I see models on TV who are 'attractive' (nice faces,
they wear their clothes nicely) but there is no actual sexual attraction. I can admit that
they look nice...but I can't see myself rolling around in the sack with them...or dating
them.''
And just remember, we are still talking about sex here, not love. Romantic love adds layers
and layers on top of all this, but even base sexual attraction forgives – and celebrates - very
much of what physical beauty would not.
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What is attraction then, if not just looks?
Some call it chemistry.
But is it really chemistry, when you are looking at a picture of a handsome man or pretty
woman? After all, chemistry relies on some kind of interaction, such as body movement, eye
contact, smell, tone or pitch of voice etc.
If this thing called attraction is not about looks or even chemistry, what is it about, then?
Some say it's a combination of both looks and intelligence or attitude, your personal
charisma, in other words.
True, charismatic people have a lot in common with sexually magnetic people. They both
attract attention, they both make people want to be around them.
But that is where similarities stop.
While most personally magnetic people may go ahead to become popular and gain
respect, fame and admiration (appear on TV, have lots of fans or followers etc), personal
magnetism is not enough.
You may have personal charisma but to the opposite sex you come across as simply one
they just admire or are in awe of or simply nice or fun to hang out with but not fit for the
bedroom.
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Sexual charisma is of a different flavor
Sexually charismatic people have a different set of qualities about them that makes
potential partners want to be around them and get involved with them physically and
romantically.
They exude an air of sexual energy that inspires an instinctual response in people, a
vibration of sexual energy, an ''I want to go to bed with you'' reaction. That is what makes
them sexually charismatic.
This particular charismatic energy they radiate makes potential lovers attracted to them
like bee to honey, makes people want to interact and sleep with them, even if those
charismatic people do not possess the great looks, money, intelligence or influence.
Yes, those sexually magnetic people are wrapped in a sexual aura oozing from their entire
being that makes them irresistible.
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What is their secret?
Simple.
We are all attracted to each other because of our energy.
It's all about the energy we give off, detectable even through a photograph, a voice
message or the internet.
Our energy attracts, our energy repells, not our looks.
Sometimes a strong, attractive energy is enhanced by great looks and/or intelligence
and/or personal charisma. After all, many good looking people possess most of the qualities
that are intrinsic to a sexually charismatic person (hint: it has to do with sexual confidence,
which is easily explained, since beauty attracts stares and the stares contribute to someone's
confidence.)
But this is not always the case.
More often than not, the opposite is true.
A strong, beautiful, sexually attractive energy of a person greatly enhances their physical
attributes and personal presence.
What truly people are attracted to is your energy. Your unique feminine or masculine
energy of radiance and uniqueness. Your SEXUAL vibe.
What exactly is this Sexual Vibe anyway?
Here is what scientists and surveys agree upon:
Sex appeal is roughly 20% physical attractiveness, 20% intelligence and personal
charisma and 60% the sexual energy you exude.
People with sexual charisma walk into a room and command attention without even
consciously trying. You just feel it when you're in their presence that this is someone you'd
love to be sexual with.
They have an aura or presence that seduces without them doing anything that looks
like they are trying to seduce!
Sounds yummy, right?
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Is there a way to enhance your sexual presence, to make your
sexual energy as yummy as this?
But of course.
Your 'energy', in the general way I use the word in this context, is the sum of many things,
including overall health, level of fitness, hormones, nutrition etc.
But above all, your energy is the sum of your most frequent thoughts and feelings plus
your current prevalent feeling state.
Your energy in general = physical state
+ most frequent thoughts & feelings
+ current prevalent feeling state
Can we make this energy more appealing instantly?
Like, some kind of energy makeup or magic energy cloak we put on to enhance what is
there and make us appear more attractive?
Absolutely.
You can enhance your sexy vibes by manipulating your current prevalent feeling state.
It is absolutely doable. And easy.
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How to Naturally Enhance Your Sexual Presence
As mentioned above, many people that ooze Great Sex Appeal could not be considered
beautiful or handsome in the classical sense.
They just have this Aura of being special, but no one could put a finger on what it was.
Believe it or not, people are intuitively aware of this energy.
People are very sensitive to all kinds of energy; this means they pick up on your vibe
pretty much automatically.
Humanity knows the term 'aura' and that we emit an energy field.
In fact, everything emits an energy field, even a rock, which seems unmovable to us.
Pure energy is behind everything and it creates a magnetic field around it. The more
animated the 'being', the more dissipation of energy is being emitted to those around it.
Pure energy is behind everything.
This pure energy vibrates a field around it.
Nothing is as powerful a transmitter as your very own human energy.
Some of this energy of yours, which is as personal and unique as your own fingerprints, has
to do with your thoughts, some with the words you speak, some with the energy your
individual energy centers in your body emit (called by most 'chakras', something similar to
computer data recording centers), even the clothes and colors and jewelry you wear, your
posture, your movement and many other things.
Some information is even stored in your cells and recorded from 'before time.'
However, the most overriding and by far the strongest emement in the 'flavor' of
your energy is the one created by the way you feel.
Your energy field is the most powerful feeling- and to a lesser extent, thought- conveyer
there is!
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What does your energy field communicate to those around you?
What feelings and thoughts you project and radiate, will determine how well people will
respond to you or the opinion they will form of you.
If you are, say, a needy person, you will project needy energy and individuals will pick up
on it (even if you’re not aware of it), no matter what you say or do.
Your energy will always be the defining factor of how people see you.
In other words, your 'essence' will overrule your words and your actions, because it is more
powerful and sets you up for success on all levels of your communication with the world.
We create Sexually Attractive energy not by what we say or do, but because of WHO
WE ARE and WHAT WE FEEL AND THINK!
Having a strong sexually attractive energy means your sexual attraction power is strong
and noticeable by everyone around you or intuitively felt by those that come to any form of
contact with you.
It means that you can command people’s attention without being boisterous or obnoxious.
It means people will turn their heads and listen to you. Not because you’re odd, or
offensive, but because you’re awe-mazing!
This, in turn, means that if you can have this kind of sexual magnetic energy, people will
begin to pick up on it on a subconscious level and feel attracted to you without you even
trying to impress them!
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Why is Sexual Charisma Important (even in non-sexual contexts)
This kind of sexual charm is incredibly important in life because it allows you to connect
with anyone and everyone a little deeper than just the ‘basic’, dreary pleasantries and
superficial conversation of everyday life.
It endears you to others, thereby creating a deeper connection and allowing you more
influence.
Not only this, but it attracts people to you – men, women and children alike!
Also, being sexually charming allows you to bring people joy, ecstasy, laughter, fun and to
touch their lives in a special, exciting way.
And for you?
Βeing sexually charming will help you become a very memorable man or woman; friend,
colleague, lover, coworker and member of society. All the shapes of attractiveness you can
think of.
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Do we all possess that or is it only the privilge of a few
charismatic individuals?
We all have it. It is our birthright as human beings.
It is an ancient truth that within each one of us there is a powerful reservoir of sex energy
that nature bestowed on us freely.
If you are human, then you are definitely born with it.
This sexual energy is much more than just related to the physical act of sex and it's more
than our biology.
It includes but is not limited to your sexuality and sensuality, your thoughts, desires,
longings, fantasies and experiences related to sex and sexual partners.
We all have it
Many people cannot imagine that everyone—babies, children, teens, adults, and the
elderly—are sexual beings.
Some believe that sexual activity is reserved for early and middle adulthood. Parents feel
their teenagers are sometimes too young for sexual expression. Teens often feel that adults
are too old for sexual intercourse. Sexuality, though, is much more than sexual intercourse
and humans are sexual beings throughout life.
Take sexuality in infants and toddlers for example. Children are sexual even before birth.
Males can have erections while still in the uterus, and some boys are born with an erection.
Infants, male and female touch and rub their genitals because it provides pleasure.
Yes, sexual urges and desires are a totally normal part of being human.
Human beings are always sexual beings, even if our sexuality does not find expression
stricly through sex, but through others forms of creativity as well.
Think of Art, Meaningful Work, Community Helping, Connection to others.
All imbued with our sexual energy, WHETHER WE ACKNOWLEDGE OR LIKE IT OR NOT.
Because our sexual energy is an inseparable part of our genetic makeup.
However, although it is our birthright and totally and completely natural, more often than
not, it is consciously suppressed and underused.
To sum it up:
We do not want to learn how to acquire sexual charisma, just how to enhance it, because
each one of us already possesses personal sexual charm within ourselves.
Some of us just haven’t developed it fully yet, still left hidden inside. Hence, what should
be done is to actually unleash sexual charisma from within, expose it to the outside world,
and make good use of it.
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Tapping into this Sexual Energy can generate greater vitality
and a field of charismatic attraction around you
Research shows that most high-profile personalities and outstanding achievers have a welldeveloped sexual nature.
They just radiate sexual energy.
A little objective observation will reveal evidence of this strange yet often overlooked fact.
Some people exude a sexual energy that naturally attracts attention to them to the
degree they can standout in a crowd. Many of them cannot identify exactly what their
attraction energy is like. They cannot explain it to themselves or the world, but it's still
there. They just sense that it sets them apart from the rest.
Set them apart how?
By its nature, the human sexual desire is the ultimate creative energy.
Arriving from deep within our most primitive genes, humanity’ desire to procreate
generates an extraordinary, often unstoppable power to express itself. And it is either
expressed as pure sexual desire directed towards other human beings or finds other creative
outlets.
When the individual can tap into this energy and use it at will, a whole set of miracles
begins to unfold.
It can make the difference between an ordinary and a charismatic person.
It can even bring you more money and wealth, success and fame. Napoleon Hill included a
whole chapter on the Mystery of Sex Energy and its importance for increasing sales as well as
its money making abilities.
Here is the equation:
-People buy from and interact with people they like and feel good around.
-A large part of what makes a person likable is their energy.
-So, when you have great energy it will make others feel great around you and interact
more with you.
You will naturally put people at ease, make them feel comfortable. The more
comfortable they feel, the more they feel able to trust you, the more you make them feel
good about being associated with you the more they will buy.
Hill's claims in a nutshell:
-sexual energy is the strongest, and most potent of all human emotions
-sexual energy can transform mediocrity into genius
-men of greatest achievement are men with highly developed sex natures
-personal magnetism is entirely related to sexual energy
Υes, sexual charisma can litterally change your life and your levels of satisfaction and
happiness you get out of it.
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The Best Well Kept Secret of The Powerful and Attractive
Have you notice that the rich and the powerful get more sex?
Have you noticed how they seem to get more sexual partners, both as casual flings and as
quality life partners?
Most people think that it's their wealth and power that attracts people, but it's the other
way round.
Actually it's their high sexual energy that attracts their wealth and power.
They usually attract their partners with their sexual energy rather than their money and
power.
But how do you get that energy, that delicious sexual energy and attractiveness that
will draw others to you like bees to honey?
You have to learn to shift your energy vibration at will.
To be able to assume the energy of a sexually charismatic person.
And it's actually easily achievable once you know how to go about it.
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How to shift your energy vibration to become more sexually
attractive
What is energy from a scientific point of view? Can it really be manipulated?
Dr. David Hawkins concluded from a 20-year study of kinesiologic calibrations that a
person’s mental state can have a profound effect on the condition of his or her body.
He created an arbitrary scale that mapped the energy of human consciousness. Any state,
attitude, or emotion that causes a person to vibrate at a frequency below 200 on the
Hawkins scale weakens the body, and from 200 to 1,000, strengthens it.
He determined the lowest emotional vibration rate to be shame. A shameful thought
weakens the person. Higher on the scale, but below 200, are guilt, apathy, grief, fear and
anxiety, craving, anger, and hate. Love, joy, and peace move up the scale, with
enlightenment at the top in the 700 to 1,000 range.
Right now, the average level of energy on Earth is around 207 — way lower than the
maximum of 1,000 of course.
Why is that so?
Our
physical bodies can easily match the energy and emotions around us.
Most of us weren’t raised to be in charge of our energetic space or to shift our mood easily.
This can lead to our taking on others’ emotions, matching the barometric pressure of the
weather or feeling the weight of the world through media reports or simply fall victim to what
happens to us on a daily basis that affects our mood in a positive or negative way.
More often than not, we unconsciously drop down to match a friend’s sullenness, or react
defensively to an obstacle on our path, or to a piece of news we've just heard.
But you can consciously choose to release other people's energy, move back into
your own energy set, and rise up to a lighter vibration.
A cool bit of Dr. Hawkins’ study is the discovery that the level of love, 500 or above,
doesn’t just have a positive effect in your own life. He identified that one person
operating at a level of 500 (love) can lift 750,000 other people above 200.
There are many ways to do this.
One way involves the mind with positive thinking and uplifting visualizations.
Another is through the body with physical adjustements such as movement, breathing,
spending time in nature etc. Even listening to soothing or upbeat music can instantly shift your
energy.
But you can also simply tune into the vibration you would like to experience and match it
with your actions.
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Now the interesting part about sexual attraction
If you can positively change what you send out, you can also change your sexual
vibration at will, making it of a higher caliber and therefore enhancing your sexual
chasisma and how others perceive you!
Without you having to do anything, you will attract more attention and the circumstances to
seduce and be seduced. Puzzle pieces will fall into place. The ways and means will present
themselves.
Ι'll be sharing with you my very own special techniques on how you can raise your own
sexual attractiveness to such an extend that people you meet will instantly feel they are in the
presence of someone special, someone they are instantly attracted to.
Ready?
Read on.
How To Tune Into the Spiritual Energy of Your Choice
Part of the ageing process means that the vibrations within you, penetrating you and around
you are slowing down.
This is ageing and it is universal and not necessarily related to human forms of life.
Organs and systems work slower and less effectively that when they were younger.
Eventually they just stop working. Our physical, electro-magnetic, magnetic and electric
systems become damaged, clogged up, numb, and much weaker than when we were young.
The chemical system, the hormone system, each cell works more and more slowly until it
barely works.
Scientists can now tell us about the rate of vibration and functioning of major organs and
systems within us. They tell us that when you have an illness or diseas the rate of vibration
lowers from the optimum high rate.
Vibration is energy and energy is alive and intelligent.
A healthy organ and system vibrates at a high rate when it is healthy, regardless of your
age.
High vibrations =vibrant health and youthfulness= higher levels of sexual
attractiveness.
In order for your sexual attractiveness tiobe soaring, it stands to reason you need a high
frequency sexual energy.because the secret to being highly seductive is to have very high
sexual vibrations.
To vibrate at a sexual energy rate - and to live long and healthy as well - you need to
keep your systems vibrating at high levels, plus a thing or two.
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A word of caution
No matter how sexually attractive one is by general consensus, there will always be people
that simply won't 'get' him or her, because they are not in tune with this particular energy
vibration this sexy individual functions in.
To help illustrate this Eva Herr gives a very powerful metaphor of a human and a toad:
''For those of you that don't understand (levels of existence), look at the difference in the
skin of a horny toad compared to the skin of a human. The human's electromagnetic field
vibrates at a much higher frequency.
Now, the higher you go up the ladder, the less of a physical body you have. The human's
electromagnetic field vibrates at a much higher frequency so it is less dense.
This does not mean that the horny toad does not have consciousness, but that its
consciousness is within a different dimension. That is why a horny toad and a human cannot
communicate. You will not teach a horny toad to respond to YOUR intellectual stimulus, but
YOU can OBSERVE the frequency of the consciousness of the horny toad' existence.
See how I say "observe"? Observe is all you can do, you cannot interact on an intellectual
level. For interacting would be frustrating for you and yet go completely unnoticed by the
horny toad. That is about as simple explanation as I can give to describe the difference in
dimensions and distinct, separate universes.'
That is also the reason why many people cannot see eye to eye. They reside in different
dimensions. When people reside at different dimensions, they exist at different levels of
consciousness. That is why it is like talking to a telephone pole when you talk to some people.
And why some people think you are a know it all.
The person at a lower vibration does not experience what the person of the higher vibration
experiences, but the person at the higher vibration knows what the person of lower vibration
experiences. "Been there and done that, lol". In essence, one knows what the other does not
and the one that does not, does not know it. It is funny actually to watch the interaction,
knowing both.''
In other words people who operate at different frequency levels cannot even communicate
properly, because, as Herr said, they reside in different dimensions, in different worlds.
This means that if you raise your sexual vibration to higher levels, you will certainly become
more sexually charismatic to most, but not all.
The lower some people's sexual vibration, the less they'll get you. They might even feel a
certain antipathy towards you, because your vibration and theirs simply 'clash'.
This is perfectly OK, because, come to think of it, this is a group of people you'd rather not
consider as sexual partners, as their energy is so sexually low that it means trouble or frigidity
in bed anyway.
But lets concentrate on you.
How you can become more sexually attractive by using your underused or underutilised
energy reserves within yourself
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How to shift your energy vibration to become charismatic
So we agree that our physical world is made up of energy vibrating at different rates.
And that we can change our life and our future by changing our vibration energy.
How?
BY choosing today to emit the powerful vibrations of love, joy and confidence and be
the awesome sexually desirable being you were meant to be.
How to go about it.
The truth is that you have everything you need within you right NOW to be more than
enough. Sexy enough, smart enough, poised enough, beautiful enough – all of it.
And you have access to this power within me right now, TODAY.
Not tomorrow, or next month, or next year. But right now, TODAY.
Doesn’t that feel nice?
Lets get into the specifics.
How To create Your Very Own
Personal Sexual-Charisma-Exuding-Energy Cloak
To change the soup of vibrational frequencies you emit so that you cloak yourself in an
energy coat of sexual charisma, you need to:
-either change your entire personality and become a person who fells, thinks, acts
differently to your current state of being, in other words a total personal transformation
(which takes years of adjustement or an enlightenment moment, both an unattainable
feat for most of us)
-or simply adjust either instantly or gradually and constantly your vibration to match the
desired Sexually Attractive Vibration you wish to emit.
Meaning, to tap into this energy whenever you need an instant boost.
Or choose to increase its intensity by constantly practicing it.
Or both (my personal favorite).
The cloac metaphor is a pretty good one to help illustrate this.
You want to be able to slip into this magnificent Cloak of Sexiness just as easily as
you'd slip into a sexy outfit.
How is that possible?
You certainly cannot buy such a cloak from a retailers shop.
You need to create it yourself.
To simplify this, think of all the charismatically attractive people you know.
If you were asked to identify the particular elements that make up their general sexually
attractive persona, you'd agree that, individual variations aside, all of them have five things
in common.
Or, to put it in other words, they vibrate at distinclty characteristic frequencies that make
up their distinct sexually attractive aura.
Τhey may not even be aware of those elements and or be able to put them into words.
Nevertheless they are identifiable and even measurable.
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The Vibrational States of Sexual Charisma
Without further ado, here is your menu of vibrational states that make up the vibrations of a
highly sexually charismatic man or woman:
1. Vibration of Sexual Confidence
2. Vibration of Authenticity
3. Vibration of Happiness
4. Vibration of Playfulness
5. Changing Vibrations frequently
Our aim is to combine them all in you in a unique vibrational flavor, so that you exude
your very own sweetly seductive aura that will transform you into a sexually charismatic
man or woman.
And we can do this in two ways:
A/ the Quick Fix Method of putting on the vibrational cloak of sexiness instantly like a
cloak through visualization
B/ the Getting The Feeling Method of accessing the vibrational state through evocation
of the right feeling state that will kead to the appropriate actions
-combine both for better results but you can alternate between each if it suits your mood in a
particular moment or occasion.
Now on to the specifics of both methods.
The Quick Fix of Sexiness Technique or
How To Put On Your Invisible Cloak Of Sexual Charisma
(I hate the word visualisation because to some, me included, it smacks of new age jargon. I
prefer the word 'awareness alignment instead. You can call it anything you wish. The point is,
no matter how you label it, it still works beautifully).
The technique:
Close your eyes and tune into yourself.
This means to focus your energy and awareness into the center of your chest, next to your
heart.
Play with moving off this center by bringing all of your energy and awareness into your
forehead (where we often get lost in analyzing things) and notice what this feels like. Then
simply move your energy and awareness back into the center of your chest, next to your
heart. Notice how calm and peaceful this is.
Now decide what particular mood, tone or energy vibration you would like to experience.
(choose from the menu of states that constitute Sexiness mentioned below or simply add one
of your own that makes sense to you).
To help you achieve the vibrational frequency you wish and get a better feeling of what
state you are aiming at, identify the desired state you wish to bring on with a particular
color of your choice.
Each color has its own vibrational frequency. This is why a sunny autumn day with
brilliant colors will lift your spirits, or wearing certain colored clothes may affect your
mood. So each one of the above discussed qualities of sexual charisma can be identified
with a particular color.
Sit with your eyes closed and ask your body what color, say, Playfulness can be identified
with.
Now SEE yourself being surrounded by a magnificent bright light of the color you have
chosen.
Remember that to recreate the feeling of a particular feeling state for you means to re-create
the experience in as many senses as you can. This means to see the light, feel it blinding you,
feel the light, give it a sensation or gentle warmth or refreshing coolness.
You can even hear it, give it a sound or the fuzzy static you hear on television or radio.
You do not need to give it a taste or a smell but you absolutely can if it helps you.
Now enhance this light with as many charismatic qualities you'd love to possess.
(I suggest starting off with just one, whichever feels right for you, first).
Bring a large ball filled with this color down into your head and body. Or imagine stepping
into a column of energy flowing with this color. Feel the essence of it fill every cell of your body
and notice what happens to your mood and energy.
Now feel the energy of this color traveling up through your chest to your entire body
where it pools and builds up. Absorb all this colourful light/energy into yourself and all
parts of your body. You can imagine you are a sponge or even a magnet pulling everything
in. Make it all go into a tight compact ball in your abdomen.
When you feel you cannot make it grow any bigger, begin to make it glow more intensely.
Imagine and feel your energy flowing in your body, down your arms and legs.
Learn to be comfortable with it for a day or two, then go on to the next one and add that as
well. Or you can simply add all four of them in one go. Just remember to add one at a time
or it won’t be as effective.)
Now, on to more practical tips on how to go about achieving each of the five vibrational
states that make up the components of sexual charisma.
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The Five Vibrational States of Sexual Charisma
1. Vibration of Sexual Confidence
Our generation is right now so hung up on looking sexy, feeling sexy and of course
delivering “power performances” in the bedroom. We spend so much money on plastic
surgery, designer clothes and the gym. We also spend so much time peering though sex
manuals, mastering seduction techniques and on pornographic scavenger hunts.
But ironically we are not looking any “sexier” just more plastic. We are not getting any more
“sexually charismatic” just more manipulative. Our bedroom performances are not getting
“better” just more mechanical. And our lives are not getting any “happier” just more empty.
Today's modern man and woman has yet to understand that sexual energy is the essence
of sexual confidence and not all the other superficial, manipulative mechanical stuff. By
simply giving yourself the permission to generate enough sexual energy without being
embarrassed, ashamed or consumed by it you can have the sexual charisma that is yet
beyond your wildest imagination.
While we may not have much control over the kind of body, nose, lips, eye color or height
handed down to us by genetics, we can learn to charge our entire bodies with sexual
confidence and achieve the same (or even higher) level of sex appeal as those who got it
(figuratively and literally) from the genes.
Your aim is to be giving yourself the permission to generate “pure sexual energy” one that
is not attached to or distracted by a judge-mental attitude, inhibitions, neediness,
insecurities, anger, long-simmering resentments, emotional wounds, memories of painful
humiliations, confusions, jealousies, fears of inadequacy, rejection or failure, distrust,
control and conflict, self-doubt, confusion and shame.
Easily said than done, right?
Not at all.
You just need to possess one quality:
-If you are a woman, give men your total, absolute acceptance.
-If you are a man, give a woman your total, absolute positive attention.
Here is why.
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Women first
Why give men your total, absolute appreciation?
Why is acceptance of men an integral part of being a sexually charismatic woman? Most
women simply don’t understand how important appreciation is to a man.
Accept men and you're half way to become a sexually charismatic female.
''Just that? You're kidding me?'' you wonder.
No, I don’t.
Let me explain.
Men get their juice from appreciation
Men crave for acceptance from women.
They crave to be liked and admired for what they are. They crave it more, yes even more
than sex itself. If you give a man appreciation and approval regularly nothing else matters
much to them. They would leap tall buildings, stop speding trains or become heroes just to
win the appreciation of the woman they desire.
But they rarely get it from women nowadays. (Let's not get into the why's or the should's or
the politically correct jargon please, not here).
Men enjoy feeling appreciated because it will make them want to do more good stuff for
the woman they desire, while feeling great doing them. It satisfies their primal instinct of
being a warrior hero who succeeds by their own hard work and efforts. So when you do give
appreciation to them, you stand out as a woman of value. You push their buttons in the most
pleasant way imaginable.
Then, all sorts of attention and attraction from them comes pouring your way. Which, in
turn, boost your sexual confidence immensely. Which in turn, boosts your sexual charisma
immensely.
Accepting men equals more sexual charm for you as a woman
Try it out for yourself. See if it works miracles or not.
You can start by accepting ALL men. Acknowledge their presence and their existence,
appreciate the small things or big things they do for you. I don’t care if he’s a gorgeous
hunk or the guy making you a sandwitch, your taxi driver or your soul mate – it doesn’t
matter, accept all men from all walks of life.
I can’t say enough about appreciation. Men need it, they thrive on it, and they are drawn
to those that appreciate what they have to offer. The more you appreciate them, the more
you will be lavished with their attention in return.
Do it consistently so that it becomes second nature to you.
Once you give men an energy of acceptance (which really means admiration of their good
qualities, of their masculinity itself), you will be pleasantly surprised at how more sexually
confident you'll be getting as male attention starts pouring back to you.
So here is what I want you to do:
I want you to get into the Vibration of Sexual Confidence aka Acceptance of Men
state.
(You can use the color visualization technique mentioned above first if you wish)
Next, go out and about your day as usual.
But as you go about it, I want you to be in a peak state of acceptance of all men.
I don’t mean for you to be jumping up and down on the spot like a crazy person when a
man does something for you or crosses your path, I mean for you to be in this great state of
acceptance and appreciation of all men.
The best way I can recommend you do this is by remembering about all the times a man
did something nice for you, a favor, kind or courteous gesture, a great night in bed, an
enjoyable moment or a gift. It could be a past boyfriend, friend, acquaintance or coworker,
it doesnt matter. If you had a good relationship with your father and/or your brother(s),
think of all the blessings they have brought into your life.
As you do this, allow your heart to be filled with gratitude and appreciation of the
blessings you have received from this man. Concentrate on your heart and imagine it
pulsating with appreciation and gratitude, surrounded by a beautiful pink light. Now go on
and remember another nice thing a man did for you in the past, then another etc.
And the reason I want you to remember all those blessings men brought into your life
is because that puts you in a state of acceptance of men that instantly makes you come
across as more attractive and sexually confident in the eyes of all men!
They may not be able to rasionally explain it, but they feel it anyway, because their
subconscious is picking on that vibe of men acceptance and appreciation they so crave from
women. Then all you have to do is go out and about and get a different kind of ‘feedback’
to the energy you’re used to giving out on a day-to-day basis.
Bitter Woman Energy Versus Appreciative Woman Energy
What kind of feedback do you think the average, not so sexually attractive woman gets?
Not much. Maybe a few looks, if she is physically gorgeous. But most men are repelled by
the energy of non-appreciation or non-acceptance they get from some women.
By giving out this new vibe, you get to see just how well true radiance of acceptance and
appreciation works to attract men (a new kind of feedback), and in the future, you’ll also
remember that your radiance is what is rewarded by men, not your closed up, ''embittered
woman on a mission to put men in their proper place'' type of energy.
And I want you to practice living in your unique feminine energy. Walk down the street or
walk into a place, and make genuine eye contact with different men. As you make eye
contact, I want you to respond to the situation with your full appreciation and acceptance.
So, you may smile warmly and genuinely, or stop, make eye contact, and smile and say
“Thank You” if the situation calls for it (for example, if you’re buying something and a man
is serving you).
Appreciate anything that any man does for you, a small favor, a gesture of courtecy, an
admiring look, and make a conscious effort to actually feel and notice the energy exchange
between you and every man you interact with.
If you’ve resisted this energy in the past, you will feel it in your body. Let yourself feel
good, and allow his masculine energy to be there.
More importantly, practice receiving a man's energy.
In turn you will likely start to realize exactly how attractive you REALLY are in their eyes
when you are doing this.
So as you receive and exchange energy from men, let yourself be open to them by
showing, whether through words or actions, or a facial expression – your appreciation for
them.
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Men, your turn now
Give women your total, absolute positive attention and you're half way to become a
sexually charismatic male.
''But I am giving women my attention'', you're protesting. ''All the time.And it either
doesn't work or it backfires.''
Most men simply don’t understand how important positive attention is to a woman, any
woman, at any age. Plus, they either dont do it right, or are easily put off by a woman's
attitude and so they fail to give her what she needs most from them.
Let me explain.
Women crave for positive attention from men. They crave to be looked at and admired
and oggled at, even if they indignantly deny it, even if they believe it is politically incorrent
to admit it, even if they rationally try to convince themselves it shouldn't be so. It is
ingrained in our genes to be noticed, to attract attention of the male.
And although women seem to be fighting tooth and nail - especially in the workplace- for
their right to be noticed for other positive qualities and not just their femininity, they need
this kind of attention more than ever.
Why do women crave for male attention?
It's in our biology. Women are set up to receive a man's energy emotionally, spiritually,
mentally and physically. Our bodies and minds and hearts are biologically designed to
receive from a male. Procreation-wise, no receiving means no offspring for us. As women
we need to be filled up with a man's energy and attention regularly.
''Ok this is really a hard one for me to understand especially since I don't need a lot of
attention'', said a male friend of mine when I pointed this out to him.
And he continued: ''I’ll be the first to admit that I'm not the most attentive guy. I know that's
something I'll have to work on. What I don't understand is why someone would need to have
another person’s attention so much to be fulfilled in a relationship.''
The answer is in the biological makeup of human nature...
For women biologically hooking up with a man means giving birth and afterward nursing
and nurturing a tiny dependent being who will need nurturing for the next 18 years.
A woman's built-in "radar" therefore is seeking a man who will BE THERE to give love and
support to both her and any offspring. She must feel secure enough to have sex with and rely
on her man to be supportive during pregnancy and afterward. And the gauging system she
instinctively uses to make sure she will get that from a man is the quality and quantity of a
man's attention she gets.
Even in the age of birth control pills and contraceptives this holds true because a woman
takes a big chance and risks her health, independence and future on a loving relationship
with a man. She must make sure he will be there for her.
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So what does giving a woman active attention mean?
Women crave male attention. So when you do give it to them, you stand out. You push
their buttons in the most pleasant way possible.
Actually even bitchiness in women stems from her anger of not getting any or enough of
male attention. Behind anger is always fear. Fear of not getting enough of this kind of energy
she craves and is biologically designed to receive.
But men rarely know how to go about giving her that attention.
Most men think that just because women are always the focus of their minds and stares and
jokes or phantasies, they are already giving them too much of their attention.
But that is not at all the attention a woman needs or craves. The attention described above
is passive and actually directed inwardly, towards men's minds or bodies, towards the
workings of their own inner world. It's passive and self centered. What women need and want
is active attention.
If you are a man think about yourself for a moment and many of your guy friends. Most of
them probably see a woman they'd like to meet and sit back saying "Wow, she's beautiful, I
would love to get a piece of that", or "I'd do anything to be with her", or they fantasize about
what they'd like to do with her but they rarely ever make a move! It's safe to say that the
mass majority of men behave in this manner.
Yes, most men are not brave or determined enough when it comes to actively giving their
attention to women.
They fear women. They desire them, but fear her rejection.
So they sit back and hope some woman will come along and fall on their lap so they can
then lavish attention on her. Sadly, it rarely, if ever, works this way. So few men will
actually be bold enough to approach a woman (especially one they dontn't know), strike up a
conversation, and give her the attention she needs.
Lavishing active attention on a woman can give her the feeling she has been "Swept off
her feet". This is what giving a woman energetic attention means! However, very few men
actually do this out of fear of rejection.
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How can you give a woman positive attention?
Giving active attention to a woman means giving her the feeling that you cherish her.
What does the word "cherish" mean? The opposite of cherish is "to neglect." Some words you may find in the dictionary to
define cherish are: "to hold or treat as dear; to care for tenderly; giving affection, care, or to shelter something; treating
something as valuable; to nourish with care; to promote, increase, or strengthen; to foster a hope."
Aim to do exactly that with women. Cherish their feminine side.
If you teach yourself to do that on a consistent basis, all sorts of positive feedback from
women will come pouring your way. Which, in turn, will boost your sexual confidence
immensely. Which in turn, will boost your sexual charisma immensely.
Try it out for yourself. See if it works miracles or not.
You can start by giving your full attention to ALL women. Admire their feminine charm in
a tasteful, non-threatening but nevertheless confident and dauntless way. I don’t care if
she’s a gorgeous model or the girl at the supermarket till, your waitress or your soul mate –
it doesn’t matter, accept all women from all walks of life.
Do it consistently so that it becomes second nature to you.
Once you give women your energy of active attention (which really means cherishing their
femininity itself), you will be very surprised how much positive feednack you'll be getting
from them and how more sexually confident you'll be getting as a result from this.
Here I can almost hear the objections of some of you:
''If giving a woman active attention makes a man sexually charismatic, how come it's the
'bad boy' type of man that always gets chicks swooning over him? Doesn't the opposite hold
true? Doesn’t withholding attention from a woman make her crave more?''
It is true that some people confuse a “bad boy” quality with sexiness, because of the media
stereotype and/or some real life experience that seems to point towards that direction.
But you see nothing could be further from the truth.
The 'bad boy type ' man is not one that gives no or little attention to women, contrary to
evidence of this. In fact, a 'bad boy' is someone who is master at offering to women tons of
active attention.
Except the attention he is is giving to them is of the negative kind.
Here is what I mean.
The 'bad boy' guy usually does those two things:
First, he starts off by offering women loads and loads of active attention such as the one
described above, until the woman is hooked and addicted to it, then skillfully and artfully
withdraws it, stops giving it to her, until she is left trembling with the shakes for some more of
the attention he got her addicted to, begging, demanding or or even humiliating herself to him
to get some more.
Then he might give her some more positive or negative active attention-verbal and
emotional abuse and the like included to it- and she, addicted and attention-starved as she is,
reckons that even negative attention is better than no attention at all so she puts up with it.
Until he cunningly withdraws his attention again and the vicious circle starts all over again.
So you see, the bad boy guy is a master manipulator of using a woman's need for active
attention for his own twisted benefit.
Although some women and especially younger and immature girls tend to date and fall for
the bad boys in the beginning, women always prefer a guy who knows how to give a
woman positive active attention in the long run. Women eventually outgrow the bad boy
phase. As fun and addictive bad boys may be with their negative positive attention games and
what not, nice guys who know how to give to a woman the right kind of attention she craves for
always finish first.
It is always the nice, sexy guys that capture our hearts in the end. They treat us right and
know what kind of attention -and how much!- a woman really needs.
The nice guys actually care about a woman's feelings, which is the biggest turn on there is.
They are genuinely interested in women. They are fiancés and husbands material.
Again, a word of caution:
Women enjoy being the focus of your attention but when you give them too much
attention, this is borderline obsessive or downright ridiculous.
Think of attention, compliments, smiles and admiration like FIREWOOD.
A little at a time is perfect, but if you put it all on at once, you’re going to burn the house
down and destroy everything.
When you give a woman too much attention, you are communicating that you’re
OBSESSED.
Learn to know the difference. BE DISCERNING.
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I want you to get into the Vibration of Sexual Confidence aka Giving Women Active
Attention State.
The best way I can recommend you do this is by relaxing and staying confident while you
think of how much you enjoy being around women.
When you are tense or nervous, you're more prone to coming across as prim and uptight or
indifferent and boring. This is a turn-off for most women. Staying calm allows you to fully
enjoy a woman's company, be sexually confident, and show her the real you.
Staying confident around women is hard for some men or boys, but try to imagine that the
women you're trying to interact with are just friends. You wouldn't be nervous around a
friend, so why be nervous around those other women? If you're confident and relaxed, you'll
come across sexually confident too.
As you do this, allow your mind to be filled with images of sexy girls or women you either
know personally or have admired online etc. Concentrate on how much you like being
around women and of all the times you had a great time with them, made them enjoy
themselves and your company, gave them a great sexual experience etc.
And the reason I want you to remember all those moments when you were fun to be
around women in your life is because that puts you in a state of being sexually confident
that instantly makes you come across as more attractive in the eyes of all women. They
may not be able to rasionally explain it, but they'll feel it anyway, because their
subconscious will pick on that vibe. Then all you have to do is go out and about and get a
different kind of ‘feedback’ to the energy you’re used to giving out on a day-to-day basis.
Now you are ready to give women your active attention and then their attention will be
yours in no time.
And I want you to practice living in your confident male energy. Walk down the street or
walk into a place, and make genuine eye contact with different women, both the ones you
feel attracted to and the ones you don't. As you make eye contact, I want you to respond to
the situation by giving to those women your active full attention.
So, when you talk to or interact with a woman, give her your full attention.
Listen carefully and attentively to what she says. Try to notice small things about her,
her outfit details, her make up, her mannerisms. Mentally make a note of anything you like
about her. Try to guess the mood she is in. Do all this in a relaxed manner, like a game you
are playing with yourself. Smile to her, warmly and genuinely. She'll sense your attention is
focused on her and warm up towards you.
So as you give women your active attention and receive their attention in return, let your fun,
authentic, confident masculine side take over and show her, whether through words or actions,
or facial expression – that you cherish her feminine side.
Remember, being charismatic attraction-wise is all about an energy; your unique
masculine or feminine, radiance and authenticity.
Βonus reading: Read my special report How to feel sexy all the time at all ages
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2. Vibration of Authenticity
People respond to you when they can feel your authenticity.
They are instantly drawn to you.
And the best way to do that is to
a/be spontaneous
b/stop being a validation seeking addict
c/be in your 'you' energy
a/being spontaneous
When you are being spontaneous you’re usually not acting from your conditioning; you’re going to be
authentic, and you’re going to be responding to whatever situation comes up with a “you” energy, and this
will draw not just men or women to you – but men or women who actually appreciate and love you for
YOU.
Share your beliefs. Talk about your values. Be candid. Reveal your challenges. Share
yourself. If you have an accent, talk with an accent proudly and unashamedly. If you’re a
clerk, wear your conservative suit unashamedly. If you’re a family person, talk about your
kids to your heart's content. There is no formula; you just have to let a little of you shine
through.
Authenticity is about letting people “see” you, and you have to be consistent. While you
naturally adapt your message to the one you're interacting with, you should not be a
chameleon or adapt your persona, but, instead, be yourself and tailor your message to each
audience’s unique interests.
The best advice in absolutely any situation is to be you.
If you have a hearty laugh, then laugh. If you love flip-flops, wear them. If you would
rather play computer games than exercise, then play computer games and proudly tell the
world about it.
Some don’t care about it of course – in which case, it’s a good thing, because your
authenticity will repel the partners you don’t want in your life. They probably wouldn’t
make a great companion and lover to you anyway.
Authenticity is real hard in today's conformity reining world. If being yourself doesn’t feel a
little terrifying, you’re not doing it right
b/ stop being a validation seeking addict
Another thing which saps our authenticity is validation seeking.
Looking for reactions and cues from others on how you should be means that you are
constantly giving away your power.
Everyone wants the approval of others. It is a natural human desire. However, if we take
it too far, we allow our lives to be controlled by our efforts to gain this approval. We give
up our choices, opinions, likes, dislikes, even our own values.
We let our thoughts and feelings be dictated by others, and lose touch with our own true
selves. We may go along with whatever others around us are saying, or doing, or allow
ourselves to be dominated, coerced, or manipulated. Whenever we ignore our individual
wants and needs and let other people choose for us, we are hurting ourselves.
How can you start changing this seeking approval addiction?
A good rule of thumb for stop seeking approval and dance to your own beat is this: .
-Write your own rulebook
I mean, literally. Go write your very own 'Rulebook of Being Me' Manual.
That's right, go write it all down. What it means being you. Code of ethics, attitude
towards life, work and play, social manners, eating, flirting, having fun patters, write down
everything. Just writing all down will give you a better understanding of yourself and make
you less prone to follow or adjust to other people's expectations of you.
-Practice Radical Honesty
Now it's time to remove the filters between what you think and what you say.
Can you really speak your mind? Try it.
Think out loud for an hour when you're by yourself, and make it a point to say whatever pops
into your mind, no matter how random, dirty, or stupid it might be. It's a good warm-up
exercise, and you should do it regularly, just to reinforce the direct connection between brain
and mouth. Try doing it with a friend (perhaps explain to them what you're doing, and invite
them to do it too, like a game). And eventually, try doing it around everyone!
Warning:
How honest is too honest? In the honesty business, there’s a fine line between radical and
reckless. Reckless honesty is the result of pushing the authenticity envelope so far that you
shoot yourself in the foot. The border between radical and reckless must be patrolled by your
intuition. Sometimes that line is obvious, but sometimes it’s not.
c/ being in your 'you' energy
Being in a vibrational state of authenticity is as easy and as hard as it sounds. It means
scaring yourself out of your comfort zone on a continual basis, and listening to your inner
council to guide you through the tough spots.
It means being in your 'you' energy on a consistent basis.
So, what I mean by a “you” energy is an energy that is uniquely yours, a part of your DNA.
That energy that comes across when you are truly being yourself.
Being yourself requires no other rules but to just stay whoever you are, wherever you are,
and whenever it is.
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3.
Vibration of Happiness
Happiness is the next secret to sexiness.
Happiness is Sexy.
Sexiness adds spark to life. It’s the frosting on the cake of personal charisma and
attractiveness. It’s the James Bondness of living. It is the appeal others have. It is
attraction and an alluring “something” about a person.
We’ve all known people who at first glance made us tremble a bit. Then, after getting to
know them better, we’ve scratched our heads and wondered what we ever saw in them.
True sexiness, the new sexiness, is much more than the length of a leg or the width of the
shoulders. It is in the soul of the person radiating from a much more profound place than
skin level.
How?
Happy people are confident and confident is sexy. Confident people are sexy. They are
not cocky and show-offy, but know their strengths, build upon them, and appreciate them.
(see the Vibration of Confidence above)
Stagnation and misery is unattractive. Happy people are kind, loving people. Love and
kindness is such a sexy thing. Think about hate and selfishness and unkindness and the rest
of love’s antonyms: Not very attractive qualities at all.
Happy people laugh often. Laughter, as a matter of fact, is one of the sexiest qualities a
person can have. The cranky and irritable don’t make for very sexy company.
Happy people are passionate about everything. Passion and purpose are ‘sexiness’
personified. Sexy people love life and love people and love what they spend their time
doing. You may know people who are impassioned by nothing, who sit around and waste
ungodly amounts of time. Are they sexy? Not at all.
Happy people don’t whine or complain. Neither do sexy people. They see the best and
are proactive. They don’t sit around whining about why things never work out for them.
They decide what needs to be done and they do it. They don’t see life as something others
do to them. They engage it and make something of it. Whiners and complainers don’t do
much else than whine and complain. If you want sexy, stay away from whiners and
complainers!
Habitually put yourself in to a state (mood) of the high energy of happiness.
This isn’t about just being happy, this is about putting yourself in a great state so that you
can operate from that state of resourcefulness.
When you present yourself to the world as a happy man or woman with plenty of internal
resources (esteem for yourself, and a zest for life), you have juicy, seductive, and nurturing
energy to give out, even if you don’t notice it yourself.
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4. Vibration of Playfulness
One of the most underrated qualities of sexual charisma is playfulness.
Among the possible characteristic that both men and women seemed to highly value the
ones that showed an ability to have fun.
The results published in The American Journal of Play show that men rated “sense of
humor” first among all the traits, with “fun loving” and “playful” coming in at third and
fifth, respectively. (“Kind and understanding” came in second). Similarly, women ranked
“kind and understanding” first followed by “sense of humor,” “fun loving” and “playful” in
second, third and fourth. So what does this say about the qualities we're all looking in a
potential partner? We all just wanna have fun, of course!
“Just as birds display bright plumage or coloration, men may attract women by showing
off expensive cars or clothing. In the same vein, playfulness in a male may signal to females
that he is nonaggressive and less likely to harm them or their offspring. A woman’s
playfulness, on the other hand, may signal her youth and fertility,” said Garry Chick,
professor and head of the Department of Recreation, Park and Tourism Management. “Our
results suggest that adult playfulness may result from sexual selection and signal positive
qualities to potential long-term mates.”
Play may be fun and healthy, but it’s not especially popular with most adults.
Even though it is intensely pleasurable, eases our burdens, brings forth optimism, society
values hard work and extreme competitiveness which lends itself to the disintegration of
true joy found through play.
If and when adults engage in play, it is through competitive sports, expensive technology,
or structured activities. There are rules to our play; rules that extinquish creativity that is
vital to working through anxiety and stress.
When we were children, our play did not require planning, extensive rules, waivers,
expensive equipment, leagues, corporate sponsors or overuse of alcohol to enjoy. We
danced, acted out plays, drew. We threw tea parties, swam, swung, played tag, ran,
laughed, played pretend with costumes, sticks that magically turned into swords.
Get courageous with sexual playfulness!
Playfulness helps build and foster intimacy.
Playfulness works because it is a non verbal way to communicate feelings.
Playing with someone allows for deep connections. When we play, our walls come
down. Our defenses fall. We feel less threatened as the emotional intensity decreases.
We’re activating a part of our brains that we don’t use much in the grown-up world: the one
that doesn’t care about deadlines or mortgages or how much we weigh, the one that doesn’t
care how we look to others.
Τhe basics of
being playful
What happens when you are playful is that it gets others to be more playful as well.
Here is how to do this:
a/ Do not easily take offense.
Just. Dont. Do. It.
It immediately transforms you into a tight-assed douchebag.
Knowing how to set limits and respect yourself enough so as not to let others diminish
your worth is one thing, being a douchbag who won’t take the slightest hint of a joke is
another.
And the best way to practice doing this that I know of is self sarcasm and self directed
sense of humor.
So practice!
b/ Become comfortable with being sexually suggestive
The problem with being sexually suggestive is that lots of people nowadays think it equals
sexual joking which to them equals sexual harassment.
It is not. When done tastefully, tactfully and cleverly and in the right context, it can
inject fun, warmth and playfulness in any conversation or interaction without being rude,
blatant or offensive.
Think 'subtle' here.
Obviously everyone is different, but being a natural, playful communicator is about
observing and connecting in that present moment.
When it comes to how to talk playfully, and suggestively without being crude or too
obvious or offensive, you've got to trust your gut, observe and take your hint from the
person you're interacting with.
There is a fine line between cool and creepy.
Do not cross it.
c/ Use your playful tone of voice
You’ve got to have fun in your voice, and you can do that by practicing your voice tone.
You have to get your voice to convey that teasing, playful quality, and you have to be able
to have fun doing this, and be animated when you do it. Playfullness equals animation.
So get your voice tone up or down a bit and be playful!
A sidenote on tone of voice:
It’s a known fact that both women and men are turned on by powerful voices.
Most people, men and women alike, have soft voices.
But people are always turned on by whatever they’re not. Women are turned on by men
whose voices command attention and are delivered strongly and men are turn on by women
with husky, slow, flirtatious voices that convey sexuality and playfulness.
So if you’re soft or weak spoken or if people say “What?” a lot when you speak, it means
that your voice is too soft spoken. If your voice is too soft-spoken, then you are not going to
create that powerful attraction you want to create with potential partners.
When you have a really strong, sensual voice, you create that powerful attraction
immediately when you meet a man or woman because you have a commanding energy.
So if you are currently too soft-spoken, how do you change that?
One thing you need to do is record your voice and listen to it. When you hear it, ask
yourself whether you would stop if someone spoke to you in that tone of voice.
Listen to your voice and to the way it sounds. Does it sound strong? Does it sound
commanding? Does it sound clear? Are you able to hear and understand every word?
Practice lowering it down a bit. Make it more sensual and commanding. You'll be
surprised at the responses you'll get.
And another practical suggestion that I've kept for last:
Οne of the best exercises to become more playful is to go and play with children!
-----------------------------------------------------------------------5. Change Vibrations frequently
The truth about why so many people, men especially, simply don’t want to commit to just
one partner?
Here is why: most people are completely and utterly BORING.
They’re always the same person. Being yourself is one thing, being your boring old self
day in, day out, is another
Let us be honest here: both sexes can be really boring to be in a relationship with,
especially when you’ve been together for a while.
The reason for why so many men and women are boring to be with in a relationship is that in
our society, most of us become one-dimensional people, and are always the same kind of
person, because we BELIEVE that we are only one kind of person.
And we are encouraged to be like that at school, and often by our family and
peers. People always feel better when they label us and limit us to one identity. For example:
we are the loud one, the quiet one, the ’gentle, kind-hearted’ one, the weird one. The daring
one. The ‘smart’ one. The ‘elegant’ one.
And often, if we do something that’s slightly different than what we normally do, people
or our “friends”, go: “you’ve CHANGED“. (in that negative tone, like changing is the most
evil thing in the world).
And as a result, it’s incredibly hard and feels unnatural to be other than what they expect
us to be.
But the truth is, you are never one dimensional.
The truth is that you are a lot more than just that!
You are both black and white. You are both feminine and masculine. You are both a
dreamer and down-to-earth.
Once you accept and become familiar with ALL parts of yourself, you will find that
potential sexual partners are lining up to get to know you.
Why?
Because this way, they never get bored with being with just one type of person they might
grow tired of!
Do Different Daily
What if you woke up in a different person's body every single day?
Impossible?
Try it out.
Wake up in a different person's mind every single day. Think about not just what you'd like to
DO the next day, but how you'd like to BE.
Each night decide beforehand what you would like to be like, personality-wise, for the
next day. Your subconscious will pick up on it and it will be easier to step into the person
with those very qualities and traits that are characteristic to that persona throughout the
next day.
Try it. It's fun, it's easy and it's life changing!
Here is my personal menu of traits or alternative personas I love switching into for a
change, just to give you a few ideas:
I call it,
Menu of Magical Me's
- Strong
- Laid- back
- Mystical
-Wild
-Alluring
-Story-teller
-Fairy of Optimism
-Goal-oriented
-Charming
-Intuitive
-Organised freak
-Powerhouse of enthusiasm
-Prosperous
-Passion-lit
-Exceptional
-Sensual
-Child-like
-Powerful mANIFESTOR
-Se- e-xy!
And a few more I'm not ready to hare with the world....
But I think you got the idea.
Now go write your very own persinal menu of You's!
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Afterthoughts
Our superficial culture honors the young and thin. It worshipps the tall and full-lipped and
big-bosomed for women and the muscular and handsome and macho as the epitome of sexy.
But that’s a woefully shallow brand of sexiness. That’s a standard of sexy that is only skin
deep, lacking substance and depth; it misses the point of true and enduring sexiness and
sexual charisma.
After all, youth eventually fades to gray, our thin parts plump and our plump parts thin,
foreheads wrinkle and skin sags.
On the other hand, intelligence deepens, wisdom expands, experience accumulates,
character lifts, hearts are softened and uplifted and intellect grows to magical proportions
with time.
Sexiness can therefore no longer be held hostage to a superficial culture addicted to a
superficial and plastic image of youth and glamour.
It’s time to take back the very notion of sexiness and sexual charisma and cultivate the
true qualities that makes us irresistible to potential partners.
It’s time, in a word, to establish Sexual Charisma as the new standard of sexy.
Sexual Charisma does not always come naturally, at least for the majority of people.
For most of us it takes conscious cultivation of the traits and characteristics that make up
a sexually charismatic persona.
But it is definitely worth the effort!
Here's to a more Sexually Attractive and Charismatic YOU!
Go have fun with your newfound charisma!
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