“Heart and Soul” Discernment Covenant
Believing that
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each person has something important and valuable to contribute to our conversation, and
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we learn by listening, sharing, and reflecting with open minds and open hearts,
we promise that, during our time together, we will to our best
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be fully present and engaged;
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listen attentively, carefully, and respectfully;
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avoid interrupting and engaging in cross-talk or side conversations;
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remember that our purpose is shared discernment, not problem-solving;
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be open to new insights about ourselves and aware of resistance within ourselves;
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value our differences and the diversity of opinion among us;
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focus on gaining a greater understanding of others’ perspectives and experiences;
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assume good intent on the part of others and not judge them by what they say;
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share openly, honestly, and deeply from our own hearts and experiences;
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use “I” statements and not speak for others;
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speak up (say “ouch”) if we feel hurt by something that is said or done;
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be mindful of how others are feeling;
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be responsible for the consequences and impact of what we say or do;
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not take more than our fair share of the available time; and
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respect the structure and schedule of the process.