NEWSLETTER ◊ WINTER 2016
Tissue Transplant
Has Allowed Me
To Walk Again
By: Julie Dey
Julie promised her family a life
filled with great outdoor adventures
when they relocated to Utah. Little
did she know that one of those
adventures would result in her own
life-changing experience. On
Memorial Day weekend in 2013,
while riding her daughter’s dirt
bike, she was involved in a crash
that resulted in a severe injury to
her tibia. The top of her tibia was
crushed and the repair required a
talented surgeon, a titanium plate,
seven pins, and donated tissue.
Julie’s rehabilitation course was
lengthy and she spent many months
on her back, not able to walk. “I
was in pretty bad shape and the
extent of my injuries was far greater
than what we imagined.” Extensive
physical therapy helped her learn
how to walk again. Six months
after her surgery, the donated bone
implanted in her tibia had helped
produce enough bone growth that
her surgeon was able to complete
additional surgery needed to
repair her knee. By February of
the following year, Julie was back
to doing her work as a real estate
investor.
During her hospital stay, Julie
received a packet from the hospital
staff that provided information on
writing to her donor family. She
has since written to them and
thanked them for their generosity
for their gift. “Not a day goes by
that I am not filled with gratitude for
this generous gift.” Today Julie finds
herself engaged in more and more
adventures. She recently returned
from a camping trip where she
served as camp director, a job that
required her to spend many hours
a day walking and standing for
long hours. “The donated tissue
has really blessed my life. It has
allowed me to walk again. What a
miracle”.
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HEART TO HEART NEWSLETTER ◊ WINTER 2016
Julie Dey relocated to Utah, with her
family, over three years ago. She is
married and the mother of teenagers. She
works as a Real Estate Investor and enjoys
camping trips with her family.
HEALING TEARS
Dear Dr. Leary,
My husband recently passed away. It was our son’s 24th birthday. I’m not sure how to handle his
birthday next year. Our son seems fine with his Dad’s passing. His Dad had been sick off and on
for a long time.
- Kimberly
Dear Kimberly,
My sincere condolences on the recent death of your
husband. It sounds like your son may see his father’s
death as a release from a slow decline or chronic
illness, and a relief to any suffering. When there is
meaningless pain associated with continued life, it is not
uncommon to look to death as a reprieve. Nevertheless,
his life, and the support he needs. You can assist your
son best by allowing whatever feelings emerge, and
help him to express and move the grief from his body.
You know your son best, so encourage him in the way
that is most authentic for him; that might be writing a
song, running a race, or building a memorial bench.
your son’s feelings about his father’s absence in his life
It sounds like you are concerned that his next birthday
will probably surface at different times in his life. Your
celebration not be confused with the grief of his
son may miss his father most acutely during family
father’s death. Perhaps the best way to “handle” the
celebrations, life transition points, and anniversaries.
anniversaries is to acknowledge the complexity of life.
Though your son “seems fine” after his father’s recent
Talk with your son well before his next birthday and
death, your son’s grief work may ebb and flow with
ask him his feelings, his needs, and his preferences.
different intensities depending on what is happening in
These may all change year to year. You will honor him
best by listening as he finds meaning to both events.
And then you can help him commemorate both in
SUPPORT
GROUPS
ways that are most helpful to him.
THE SHARING PLACE
One of life’s lessons may be that each event is separate
www.thesharingplace.org – 801-466-6730
and distinguishable, yet when woven together can
Support for families and children 3 ½ and up
create a strong fabric for a life of compassion,
THE BRADLEY CENTER – West Jordan
empathy, and service. We can use our losses and
Support for grieving children and families
sadness to bring more joy and meaning to our lives,
www.bradleycentergrief.org – 801-302-0220
and the lives of others. Your son’s next birthday need
not be one shrouded in sadness.
Wouldn’t it be an amazing birthday if you were to
help him identify the ways his father’s life continues
to bless and strength him, and the ways that he is
carrying his father in his heart?!
CANARY GARDEN
Helping children in their grief process
www.canarygarden.org – 801-960-2684
CARING CONNECTIONS
Salt Lake City, Midvale, and Orem
To register, call 801-585-9522
www.nursing.utah.edu/caring-connections
Love lives on,
Lani
SUPPORT GROUP - SUICIDE
Group for loved ones who have experienced loss
through suicide
Riverton IHC Hospital
Dr. Leary is a psychologist and certified grief therapist
Bluffdale Conference Room (4th Floor)
who consults with LifeNet Health. Her responses
4th Wednesday of every month
reflect her professional opinion to general questions.
Begins at 7:00 pm
Individuals struggling with complicated grief are
encouraged to seek the care of a professional.
Call Larry Eggett - 801-254-8613
Grief Support in Price
Group for Parents who have lost children
On Facebook under “Good Grief”
2nd Monday of the month at 6:30 pm
Castle Heights Elemenary School
HEART AND SOUL SURVIVORS
(Suicide) Contact Charn Burton — 801-372-3523
2nd Thursday of the month at 7:00 pm
IHC Northwest Plaza, 1134 N. 500 W., Provo
Walk-ins welcome
GRIEVING PARTNERS
Support Group/Vernal area
Wednesdays from 5:30 pm to 7:30 pm
Upstairs multi-purpose room
For more information, call Carolyn Henry
Basin Clinic - 435-789-1165
POEMS
To My Brother
Our mother wrote to you
before you were born a
note you might open at
some later date in case
she should not be there to
tell you what was in her
mind about wanting you
when she had not seen you
Dash For Donation
“Save the Date”
For more information go to yesutah.org or yesidaho.org
that was before
my time and it
never turned out like that
you never saw the letter
and she never saw you
who were perfect they said
and dead within minutes
that far ahead
of me and always
looking the other way
and I would be the one
to open the letter
after she was gone
and you had answered it
without a word
before I was there
to find out about you
unseen elder
you perfect one
firstborn.
Author:
W.S. Merwin
The Heart to Heart Newsletter...
is available at www.idslife.org
as a downloadable pdf.
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WITH LOVE
JANUARY µ FEBRUARY µ MARCH
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1/27/56 -6/5/12
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1/4/81 -5/26/08
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2/27/53 -10/1/09
Courtney Behney
2/5/84 -4/17/15
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2/4/72 -3/10/08
Elijah Daniel Bray
2/28/99 -1/31/14
Cliff Brown
2/10/56 -5/11/14
Samuel Cahoon
2/4/90 -11/8/11
Kurt Cates
2/24/62 - 12/16/08
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2/27/63- 8/23/08
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2/16/64 -2/10/94
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2/20/83 - 3/18/07
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3/18/75 -4/11/15
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3/12/72 -6/10/90
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2/12/86 -5/30/98
Doug Ryan Gardner
2/21/74 -9/16/02
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3/28/45 -2/12/05
Anthony Parker Greer
2/23/87-3/19/11
Jeremy Hadley
1/5/85 -1/10/14
Justen Eric Hale
2/2/90 -10/1/06
Shannon Leah Hamilton
2/26/91 -3/10/15
Jordan W. Hatch
2/23/66 -11/21/12
Matthew R. Haycock
3/20/72-5/23/10
Justin James Heil
1/6/76 -2/6/99
Benito Hernandez
3/8/56 -11/5/09
Crystal A. Hunter
3/4/64 -10/15/14
Amy Lyn Huntington
2/13/78 -3/14/90
Sara Lyn Huska
2/15/79 -5/29/93
Dwayne Marlin Johnson
3/16/59 -3/30/15
Scott Wesley Jones
3/26/96 -1/27/15
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2/4/50 -11/8/04
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2/3/66 -7/18/05
J. Ray Merkley
3/17/42 -5/12/08
William (Bill) Peters
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1/12/38 -7/20/11
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1/2/49 -12/8/06
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