YEAR OF MERCY In this Jubilee Year of Mercy, Pope Francis has invited us all to contemplate the great mystery of God’s mercy. We experience that mercy in a profound way through the Sacrament of Reconciliation. We hope that this little guide on the Sacrament of Reconciliation will be assistance to you. -Church of the Ascension I N T HIS ISSUE: 3 - INTRODUCTION TO THE SACRAMENT OF RECONCILIATION 9 - EXAMINATION 10 - HOW 6 - FORGIVNESS IS WAITING FOR YOU: 8 TIPS FOR AN AWESOME CONFESSION 8 - GENERAL AUDIENCE POPE FRANCIS OF TO GO OF CONSCIENCE TO CONFESSION 12 - CONFESSION TIMES PARISHES AT LOCAL GOD’S MERCY AT ITS BEST: An Introduction to the Sacrament of Reconciliation What is the Sacrament of Reconciliation? Did the Church make it up? Why is it necessary? The sacrament of Reconciliation is a sacrament in which the priest, as the instrument of God, forgives sins committed after Baptism, when the sinner is heartily sorry for them, sincerely confesses them, and is willing to make satisfaction for them. By his death on the Cross, Jesus Christ redeemed man from sin and from the consequences of his sin, especially from the eternal death that is sin's due. So it is not surprising that on the very day he rose from the dead, Jesus instituted the sacrament by which men's sins could be forgiven. A Power Granted by Christ It was on Easter Sunday evening that Jesus appeared to his Apostles, gathered together in the Upper Room, where they had eaten the Last Supper. As they gaped and shrank back in a mixture of fear and dawning hope, Jesus spoke to them reassuringly. Let St. John (20:19-23) tell it: Jesus came and stood in the midst and said to them, 'Peace be to you!' And when he had said this he showed them his hands and his side. The disciples therefore rejoiced at the sight of the Lord. He therefore said to them again, 'Peace be to you! As the Father has sent Me, I also send you.' When he had said this, he breathed upon them, and said to them, 'Receive the Holy Spirit; whose sins you shall forgive, they are forgiven them; and whose sins you shall retain, they are retained.' To paraphrase our Lord's words in more modern terms, what he said was this: As God, I have the power to forgive sin. I now entrust the use of that power to you. You will be My representatives. Whatever sins you forgive, I shall forgive. Whatever sins you do not forgive, I shall not forgive. Necessary after Baptism Jesus knew well that many of us would forget our brave baptismal promises and commit grave sins after our Baptism. He knew that many of us would lose the grace, the sharing-in-God's-own-life which came to us in Baptism. Since God's mercy is infinite and unwearyingly, it seems inevitable that he would provide a second chance (and a third and a fourth and a hundredth if necessary) for those who might relapse into sin. A Power of the Priesthood This power to forgive sin which Jesus conferred upon his Apostles was not, of course, to die with them; no more so than the power to change bread and wine into his Body and Blood, which he conferred upon his Apostles at the Last Supper. Jesus did not come upon earth just to save a few chosen souls, or just the people who lived on earth during the lifetime of his Apostles. Jesus came to save everybody who was willing to be saved, down to the end of time. He had you and me in mind, as well as Timothy and Titus, when he died on the Cross. It is evident then that the power to forgive sins is a part of the power of the priesthood, to be passed 3 on in the sacrament of Holy Orders from generation to generation. It is the power which every priest exercises when he raises his hand over the contrite sinner and says, "I absolve thee from thy sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen." These are called "the words of absolution." Countless Benefits It may be that at one time or another we have found the sacrament of Reconciliation a burden. Perhaps we even can remember an occasion when we said, "I wish I didn't have to go to confession." But certainly in other moments hopefully we find Reconciliation a sacrament that we love, a sacrament we would not want to be without. Just think of all that the sacrament of Reconciliation does for us! First of all, if a person has cut himself off from God by a grave and deliberate act of disobedience against God (that is, by mortal sin), the sacrament of Reconciliation reunites the soul to God; sanctifying grace is r estor ed to the soul. At the same time, the sin itself (or sins) is forgiven. J ust as dar kness disappear s fr om a r oom when the light is turned on, so too must sin disappear from the soul with the coming of sanctifying grace. When received without any mortal sin on the soul, the sacrament of Reconciliation imparts to the soul an increase in sanctifying grace. This means that there is a deepening and strengthening of that divine-lifeshared by which the soul is united to God. And always, any venial sins which the penitent may have committed and for which he is truly sorry are forgiven. These are the lesser and more common sins which do not cut us off from God but still hinder, like clouds across the sun, the full flow of his grace to the soul. Crime & Punishment The restoring or the increasing of sanctifying grace and the forgiving of mortal and venial sins—is there anything else that the sacrament of Reconciliation can do for us? Yes indeed! If it is a question of mortal sin, Reconciliation wipes out the eternal punishment which is the inevitable consequence of mortal sin. It also remits at least part of the temporal punishment due to sin. The temporal punishment due to sin is simply the debt of satisfaction which I owe to God for my sins even after the sins themselves have been forgiven. It is a matter of "repairing the damage," we might say. A simple example to illustrate this would be that of an angry boy who kicks at the table leg and knocks a piece of pottery off onto the floor. "I'm sorry, Mother," he says repentantly. "I shouldn't have done that." "Well," mother says, "if you're sorry, I won't punish you. But get down and pick up the pieces, and I'll expect you to buy a new dish out of your allowance." Mother forgives the disobedience and absolves from the punishment— but she still expects her son to make satisfaction for his rebellious outburst. It is this satisfaction which we owe to God for having offended him that we term "the temporal punishment due to sin." Either we pay the debt in this life by the prayers, penances, and other good works which we perform in the state of grace, or we shall have to pay the debt in purgatory. And it is this debt which the sacrament of Reconciliation at least partially reduces, in pr opor tion to the degr ee of our sor r ow. The more fervent our condition is, the more is our debt of temporal satisfaction reduced. Restoring Lost Merits Still another effect of the sacrament of Reconciliation is that it restores to us the merits of our past good works if these have been lost by mortal sin. As we know, every good work that we perform in the state of grace and with the intention of doing it out of love for God is a meritorious work. It entitles us to an increase 4 of grace in this life and an increase of glory in heaven. Even the simplest actions—kind words spoken, thoughtful deeds performed—have this effect, not to mention prayers said, Masses offered, sacraments received. However, mortal sin wipes out this accumulated merit, much as a man might lose his life savings by one reckless gamble. God could with perfect justice allow our past merits to remain forever lost even when he forgives our sins. But in his infinite goodness he does not make us start all over again from scratch. The sacrament of Reconciliation not only forgives our mortal sins; it also restores to us the merits which we had so willfully cast away. Additional Graces to Strengthen Us Finally, besides all its other benefits, the sacrament of Reconciliation gives us the right to whatever actual graces we may need, and as we need them, in order that we may make atonement for our past sins and may conquer our future temptations. This is the special "sacramental grace" of Penance; it fortifies us against a relapse into sin. It is a spiritual medicine which strengthens as well as heals. That is why a person intent upon leading a good life will make it a practice to receive the sacrament of Reconciliation often. Frequent confession is one of the best guarantees against falling into grave sin. It would be the height of stupidity to say, "I don't need to go to confession because I haven't committed any mortal sins." All these results of the sacrament of Reconciliation—restoration or increase of sanctifying grace, forgiveness of sins, remission of punishment, restoration of merit, grace to conquer temptation—all these are possible only because of the infinite merits of Jesus Christ, which the sacrament of Reconciliation applies to our souls. Jesus on the cross already has "done our work for us". In the sacrament of Reconciliation we simply give God a chance to share with us the infinite merits of his Son. Source: Much of this text is taken from: http:// www.beginningcatholic.com/sacrament-ofreconciliation.html Even the pope goes to Reconciliation! 5 FORGIVENESS IS WAITING FOR YOU: 8 TIPS FOR AN AWESOME CONFESSION by FR. MIKE SCHMITZ I talk to a lot of people that feel like they might want to go to Confession but because it ’s been a really long time they’re afraid they’ll do something wrong. I always tell these people that the one thing you can be absolutely certain of: whenever you have the invitation or impulse to go to Confession, this is God himself inviting you. And God is inviting you to the Sacrament of Reconciliation for one reason: because He loves you and wants you to know real joy and the fullness of His love. I understand being nervous though. Here are a few tips to get you started. 1. Get a good examination of conscience. Sometimes I find that adults don’t know what to say in Reconciliation because the last time they went was when “I sassed back to my parents” was the biggest thing they had to confess. Because they haven’t actually examined their conscience as an adult, they are often completely oblivious to the “grown up” sins in their life. A good examination of conscience can be a helpful tool to prepare for a good Confession. 2. It’s okay to bring in a list. After you’ve made an examination of conscience, it can sometimes help people if they write down all of the sins they want to confess. There are even great apps on smartphones that help with this. I’ve heard people tell me that they have had priests tell them not to bring in a list to assist them in making a good Confession. The reasoning is, apparently, “You wouldn’t bring in a list if you were talking with your mother, would you?” I get that. But we make lists when it is important that we remember things. We make a list when going to the grocery store because it is important that we get everything for supper. The same is true for Confession. If it helps you to bring in a list, go ahead and bring in a list. If the priest tells you to stop reading from your list, you can tell him that you will once he stops reading his homilies from the pulpit (or the announcements, whichever applies). Just be warned, if you do that, you may have to confess being snarky (but that’s a venial sin at worst). 3. It’s okay to interrupt the priest. I’ve had many people tell me that they weren’t done with their Confession when the priest started talking and gave them absolution, or that they remembered something after they had already started making their Act of Contrition. The question races through one’s mind: “Can I interrupt him? I’m not done!” Be assured, it is no problem. The priest is there to be a vehicle of God’s love for you, and if he mistakenly thought that you were done, it is OK to let him know that there is more you need to say. He would much rather you be at peace and say everything you have to say than to be able to offer his own advice. Just say, “Father, I’m sorry, but I forgot to mention…” Boom. Simple. And it’s done. 4. You don’t have to tell “the story of the sin.” At the same time, keep in mind that we are only required to confess each mortal sin in number and kind. That means I simply have to “name the sin” and any relevant details. For example, there is a difference between saying, “I took something home from work that wasn’t mine” and “I’ve been stealing things from work most every week for the past six months.” There are things that affect the weight of the sin, as well. I have a priest friend from Kenya who likes to say, “Don’t say, ‘Father, I stole a rope,’ and neglect to mention that there was a cow attached to the rope!” It might feel like you are rushing if you simply name the sin. I understand that, and you don’t need to rush. But there is something beautifully humble about simply confessing the sin without “dressing it up” with a story. 5. You don’t have to confess anyone else’s sins. 6 While few people come to Confession in order to talk about someone else’s sins, it happens. In most cases, this is because there is some hurt involved, a spouse is cruel or one’s children have been hurtful. In those cases, I understand needing to give Jesus the pain you have experienced, but the main purpose of Confession is to reveal one’s own sins, not someone else’s. 6. If a priest tells you that something isn ’t a sin (that you know is a sin), confess it anyway. It is very frustrating and confusing when you know that something is a sin (it was on the reliable examination of conscience, for crying out loud!), and the priest tells you that, in his opinion, that isn’t a sin. You don’t need to panic or give in to confusion, and you don ’t need to argue with the priest. Just know that you confessed it the best as you could and let Jesus take care of it. 7. Don’t worry if you “forget your lines.” “I can’t go to Confession! I don’t know how to start! I don’t know my Act of Contrition!” If you blank on how to go to Confession, just let the priest know. He is there as a representative of God ’s love and patience. Plus, he went to school for this. Even if you don’t know how it’s supposed to go, he can walk you through it. 8. You can tell the priest how many people are behind you in line. That’s just a nice thing to do if you think of it. He might be going slowly because he isn ’t aware that there are 20 more people in line and only 15 minutes to go. All of this is simply meant to help with some of the human issues that many people have with confession. I know that there are more that I haven’t mentioned. Just remember, the fact that you are even thinking about going to Confession is a sign that God is inviting you there, and who would want to turn down a personal invitation from God? Source: www.lifeteen.com/blog 7 GENERAL AUDIENCE OF FEBRUARY 19, 2014 POPE FRANCIS Dear Brothers and Sisters, Good morning! celebration of this Sacrament, the priest represents not only God but also the whole community, who sees itself Through the Sacraments of Christian Initiation — in the weakness of each of its members, who listens and Baptism, Confirmation and the Eucharist — man receives is moved by his repentance, and who is reconciled with new life in Christ. Now, we all know that we carry this him, which cheers him up and accompanies him on the life “in earthen vessels” (2 Cor 4:7), we are still subject path of conversion and human and Christian growth. One to temptation, suffering, and death and, because of sin, might say: I confess only to God. Yes, you can say to we may even lose this new life. That is why the Lord God “forgive me” and say your sins, but our sins are also Jesus willed that the Church continue his saving work committed against the brethren, and against the Church. even to her own members, especially through the That is why it is necessary to ask pardon of the Church, Sacrament of Reconciliation and the Anointing of the and of the brethren in the person of the priest. “But Sick, which can be united under the heading of Father, I am ashamed ...”. Shame is also good, it is “Sacraments of Healing”. The Sacrament of healthy to feel a little shame, because being ashamed is Reconciliation is a Sacrament of healing. When I go to salutary. In my country when a person feels no shame, we confession, it is in order to be healed, to heal my soul, to say that he is “shameless”; a “sin verguenza”. But shame heal my heart and to be healed of some wrongdoing. The too does good, because it makes us more humble, and the biblical icon which best expresses them in their deep priest receives this confession with love and tenderness bond is the episode of the forgiving and healing of the and forgives us on God’s behalf. Also from a human paralytic, where the Lord Jesus is revealed at the same point of view, in order to unburden oneself, it is good to time as the physician of souls and of bodies (cf. Mk 2:1 - talk with a brother and tell the priest these things which 12; Mt 9:1-8; Lk 5:17-26). are weighing so much on my heart. And one feels that one is unburdening oneself before God, with the Church, with 1. The Sacrament of Penance and Reconciliation his brother. Do not be afraid of Confession! When one is flows directly from the Paschal Mystery. In fact, on the in line to go to Confession, one feels all these things, evening of Easter the Lord appeared to the disciples, who even shame, but then when one finishes Confession one were locked in the Upper Room, and after addressing leaves free, grand, beautiful, forgiven, candid, happy. them with the greeting, “Peace be with you!”, he breathed This is the beauty of Confession! I would like to ask you on them and said: “Receive the Holy Spirit. If you forgive — but don’t say it aloud, everyone respond in his heart: the sins of any, they are forgiven” (Jn 20:21-23). This when was the last time you made your confession? passage reveals to us the most profound dynamic Everyone think about it ... Two days, two weeks, two contained in this Sacrament. years, twenty years, forty years? Everyone count, everyone say ‘when was the last time I went to First, the fact that the forgiveness of our sins is confession?’. And if much time has passed, do not lose not something we can give ourselves. I cannot say: I another day. Go, the priest will be good. Jesus is there, forgive my sins. Forgiveness is asked for, is asked of and Jesus is more benevolent than priests, Jesus receives another, and in Confession we ask for forgiveness from you, he receives you with so much love. Be courageous Jesus. Forgiveness is not the fruit of our own efforts but and go to Confession! rather a gift, it is a gift of the Holy Spirit who fills us with the wellspring of mercy and of grace that flows 3. Dear friends, celebrating the Sacrament of unceasingly from the open heart of the Crucified and Reconciliation means being enfolded in a warm embrace: Risen Christ. Secondly, it reminds us that we can truly be it is the embrace of the Father ’s infinite mercy. Let us at peace only if we allow ourselves to be reconciled, in recall that beautiful, beautiful parable of the son who left the Lord Jesus, with the Father and with the brethren. his home with the money of his inheritance. He wasted all And we have all felt this in our hearts, when we have the money and then, when he had nothing left, he decided gone to confession with a soul weighed down and with a to return home, not as a son but as a servant. His heart little sadness; and when we receive Jesus ’ forgiveness we was filled with so much guilt and shame. The surprise feel at peace, with that peace of soul which is so came when he began to speak, to ask for forgiveness, his beautiful, and which only Jesus can give, only Him. father did not let him speak, he embraced him, he kissed him, and he began to make merry. But I am telling you: 2. Over time, the celebration of this Sacrament each time we go to confession, God embraces us. God has passed from a public form — because at first it was rejoices! Let us go forward on this road. May God bless made publicly — to a personal one, to the confidential you! form of Confession. This however does not entail losing the ecclesial matrix that constitutes its vital context. In fact, the Christian community is the place where the Spirit is made present, who renews hearts in the love of God and makes all of the brethren one thing in Christ Jesus. That is why it is not enough to ask the Lord for forgiveness in one’s own mind and heart, but why instead it is necessary humbly and trustingly to confess one’s sins to a minister of the Church. In the 8 AN EXAMINATION OF CONSCIENCE BASED ON THE 10 COMMANDEMTNS Have I doubted in matters of faith? murmured against God because of adversity? despaired of His mercy? Have I believed in or consulted fortune tellers? Have I taken part in non-Catholic worship? Have I recommended myself regularly to God? Neglected my morning or evening prayers? Omitted my religious obligations because of human respect? Presumed upon God's mercy in committing sin? Have I read books or papers opposed to the Church and her teachings? Did I make use of superstitious practices; such as believing in dreams, and charms, and the like? Have I spoken irreverently of persons (priests or religious), places (e.g, the Church), or things (the sacred vessels) which especially represent God? Have I used the name of God or the saints with irreverence? Have I sworn (which means calling upon God to witness the truth of what I say) without a good reason, or falsely? Have I cursed (the calling down of some evil on a person, place, or thing)? Blasphemed (used insulting language to express contempt for God), the saints, or holy things? Did I miss Mass on Sunday or a Holy Day of Obligation? Have I done unnecessary servile work or been responsible for others doing it on these days? in public office, by promoting the common welfare? As an employer, by being considerate of the employees? Have I been the occasion of another's sin through my bad example in word or deed? Have I been guilty of fighting, anger, hatred, revenge, or drunkenness? Did I refuse to speak to others? to forgive them? Did I use provoking language? and 9. Did I take pleasure in impure thoughts or desires? Say impure things? Listen to impure conversations? Did I touch others or let others touch me in an impure manner? Commit an impure act alone or with others? Want to look at impure things or pictures? Go to bad places? movies that were bad? Read bad books? Go with impure companions? Teach others to commit sins of impurity? and 10. Have I stolen anything? If so, of what value, and did I return the stolen goods? Have I been unjust in buying or selling? Have I damaged the property of others? accepted or kept stolen goods? paid my just debts as soon as possible? Has my daily work merited its pay check? Have I desired to steal anything or to damage my neighbor's property? Did I tell lies? Have I been guilty of rash judgment (believing something harmful to another's character without sufficient reason)? detraction (without a good Have I been obedient to my parents and lawful superiors? Have I shown disrespect toward their God- reason, making known the hidden faults of another)? given authority? Have I deceived them? Have I been a calumny (by lying, injuring the good name of good citizen by voting? Have I shown respect toward another)? aged parents? Have I used my authority over inferiors properly? As a parent, by good example in the home and by sending the children to a Catholic school? As a person 7 DEADLY SINS Lust Gluttony Greed Sloth Wrath Envy Pride 5 PRECEPTS OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH 1. Attend Mass on Sundays and on Holy Days of obligation 2. Go to confession at least once a year 3. Receive the Eucharist at least during the Easter season 4. Observe the days of fasting and abstinence 5. Help provide for the needs of the Church 9 HOW TO GO TO THE SACRAMENT OF RECONCILIATION FROM THE BUSTED HALO Before You Go… Examine your conscience, that is, reflect on what sins you have committed. To guide you, just Google “examination of conscience” and you’ll find many resources to help you. It’s even alright to make a list to bring with you to confession if that helps. When You Go… 1. Introduction. When you come before the priest, begin by making the Sign of the Cross (praying the words out loud), and continue by saying, “Bless me, Father, I have sinned. It has been (how long) since my last confession. These are my sins...” 2. Confession. List the sins you have committed that came to mind when doing your examination of conscience. Don’t be too general (like, “I haven’t been a good person”), but a lot of detail is not necessary either (you don’t need to tell the whole story of how a sin came about). If you’re not sure if something is a sin is, just ask the priest. This isn’t counseling, so unless you ask, the priest likely won’t give you advice. He’ll just move on to… 3. Penance. The priest will suggest something for you to do or pray as a response to God’s mercy. You’ll have to remember what this is and do it after the confession is over, so pay attention. 4. Contrition. The priest will then ask you to pray your “Act of Contrition,” demonstrating your sorrow for your sins. This needs to be prayed out loud for the priest to hear, but need not adhere exactly to one formula. Here are two examples (choose the one that suits you best) : ACT OF CONTRITION My God, I am sorry for my sins with all my heart. In choosing to do wrong and failing to do good, I have sinned against You whom I should love above all things. I firmly intend, with your help, to do penance, to sin no more, and to avoid whatever leads me to sin. Our Savior Jesus Christ suffered and died for us. In his name, my God, have mercy. OR: O my God, I am heartily sorry for having offended you and I detest all my sins, because I dread the loss of heaven and the pains of hell; but most of all because they offend you, my God, who are all good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve with the help of your grace, to confess my sins, to do penance, and to amend my life. Amen. 5. Absolution. Don’t get up to leave after that prayer, because the best part is yet to come: the priest will extend his hands in your direction and he will pray the Prayer of Absolution: “God, the 10 of Mercies, through the death and resurrection of his Son, has reconciled the world to himself and Father sent the Holy Spirit among us for the forgiveness of sins. Through the ministry of the Church, may God grant you pardon and peace. And I absolve you from your sins in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.” You respond: Amen. 6. Conclusion. The priest will then likely say something like, “God has freed you from your sin. Go in Peace.” To which you can respond: “Thanks be to God.” After You Leave… Don’t forget to do your penance. If it is saying certain prayers, it’s best to do it right away in the church before you forget. Summary of How to Go to Confession (Take this with you to Confession...it’s okay, really) Jesus continues his healing ministry through the sacraments. The Sacrament of Reconciliation is a wellspring of grace and an encounter of God’s forgiveness and abundant mercy. Whether it’s been one week or 20 years come and encounter the face of mercy through this wonderful sacrament. Here are the steps when going to Reconciliation/Confession: 1) Begin by making the Sign of the Cross. 2) Confess your sins. How to start: “Bless me, father, for I have sinned. It has been ___ (weeks/months/years) since my last confession and these are my sins…” 3) Receive counsel and a penance from the priest. 4) Recite an act of contrition as printed or in your own words. O my God, I am sorry for having offended you, and I detest all my sins, because I dread the loss of heaven, and the pains of hell; but most of all because they offend you, my God, Who are all good and deserving of all my love. I firmly resolve, with the help of your grace, to confess my sins, to do penance, and to amend my life. Amen. 5) The priest will pray the Prayer of Absolution and then say “your sins are forgiven, go in peace.” An appropriate response is “Thanks be to God.” 6) Leave the confessional and do your penance. 11 CONFESSION TIMES AT LOCAL PARISHES Note: Confession times are subject to change. Church of the Ascension Holy Trinity Tues: 6:15-6:45am, 11:30-11:55am Wed: 6:30pm Thurs: 7:00pm Sat.: 2:45-3:45pm Sat: 3:30-4:15pm Church of the Nativity Prince of Peace Sat.: 3:30-4:30pm Wed.: Noon-1:00pm Sat.: 3:30-4:30pm Curé of Ars Sat: 2:30-3:30pm Sun: 4:30-5:30pm St. Michael the Archangel Wed.: 7:15 to 8:05am Holy Cross Wed: 5:30-6:30pm Sat: 7:15 to 8:05am, 3:30 to 4:50 pm Sun: 3:30pm to 4:50pm Sat: 3:30-4:30pm Holy Spirit St. Paul in Olathe Tues: 5:15-5:45pm Wed.: 6:00-7:00pm (@ St. Paul’s) Sat: 2:30-3:30pm Sat.: 3:30-4:30pm (@ St. James Academy) During Lent, most parishes have confessions at 6pm on Wednesday evenings
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