Personality Plus
Understanding Others By
Understanding Yourself
Prepared by:
Susan Moffat
Extension Educator
Cleveland County
Discover the person you’ve
always wanted to be!
• When we know who we are and why
we act like we do, we begin to
understand our inner self and learn
how to get along better with others.
There is only one YOU!
• No two people are
alike
• It’s what’s
underneath
that counts
• Each person is
unique
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Examine your
strengths and your
weaknesses
• Accentuate positives
& eliminate
negatives
• Realize that
different does not
mean wrong
A Look at Your Personality
• Emotions
• As a Parent
• At Work
• As a Friend
Personality Profile
• Place an X in front of the ONE word
that most applies in each row.
• If in doubt, ask a friend, spouse or
co-worker.
• Add the strengths and weaknesses
together for a combined total.
Personality Profile
• Your personality profile is the highest
combined total of the four profiles
Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy, and
Phlegmatic.
• You may be strong in more than one
area.
Four Personality Types:
• Sanquine—Fun & Popular
• Melancholy--Perfectionist
• Choleric—Born Leaders
• Phlegmatic--Peaceful
Popular Sanquine Strengths
The Extrovert * The Talker * The Optimist
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Seem exciting
Friendly and fun
Love people
Outgoing
Expect the best
Good temperament
Talkative, storyteller
Life of the party
Memory for color
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Hold on to listener
Good on stage
Enthusiastic
Expressive
Volunteer for jobs
Creative & colorful
Inspire and charm
Make friends easily
Always a child
Perfect Melancholy Strengths
The Introvert * The Thinker * The Pessimist
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Deep, thoughtful,
Analytical
Serious & purposeful
Intellectual, genius
Talented & creative
Detail oriented
Lists, charts, graphs
Orderly & organized
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Neat & tidy
Perfectionist
High standards
Economical
Compassionate
Seek ideal mate
Deep Concern for
others
Powerful Choleric Personality
The Extrovert * The Doer * The Optimist
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Born leader
Need for change
Strong-willed
Decisive
Can run anything
Goal oriented
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Organizes well
Delegates work
Thrives on opposition
Little need for friends
Is usually right
Excels in emergencies
Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality
The Introvert * The Watcher * The Pessimist
• All purpose person
• Low-key
personality
• Easygoing
• Cool, calm,
collected
• Patient, well
balanced
• Reconciled to life
• Mediates problems
• Gets along well
with others
• Has many friends
• Good listener
• Has administrative
ability
Positives Carried to Extremes
Become Negatives
• Popular Sanquines are constantly talking,
monopolizing, interrupting and straying from the
truth.
• Perfect Melancholy’s analytical thinking creates
moodiness & depression.
• Powerful Choleric’s leadership can appear to be
bossy and controlling.
• Peaceful Phlegmatic’s easygoing nature leads others
to think they are indecisive and indifferent.
Organize the Popular Sanguine
Problems:
Solutions:
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Talks too much
Self-Centered
Doesn’t follow
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Do not think they
have faults
Talk half as much
Watch for boredom
Condense comments
Stop exaggerating
Learn to Listen
Be sensitive to others
Organize the Popular Sanguine
Some more…
more…
Problems:
Solutions:
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• Pull life together
• Grow up
• Avoid filling in the
gaps
• Put others first
• Make lists
Poor memory
Disorganized
Immature
Fickle
Loses car and kids
Cheer Up the Melancholy
Problems:
Solutions:
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Think they are
perfect
Take things
personally
Get Depressed
Procrastinate
Put unrealistic
demands on self
Low self image
Make self cheerful
Avoid negative thinking
Don’t be easily hurt
Look for positives
Don’t be own worst enemy
Relax standards
Find insecurities and
correct them
Tone Down the Choleric
Problems:
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Never has a fault
Compulsive worker
Pressures others
Must be in control
Cannot tolerate
weakness
Lacks patience
Wants to correct
others
Solutions:
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Learn to relax
Avoid Guilt
Take off pressure
Respond to other leaders
Stop looking down
Admit faults, apologize
Practice patience
Stop arguing
Keep advice to self
Motivate
Phlegmatics
Problems:
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Not exciting
Resist Change
Appear lazy
Procrastinate
Stubborn
Communication
Will of iron
Pessimistic
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Get Enthused
Try something new
Accept responsibility
Do it today
Open up
Motivate yourself
Learn to communicate
Set goals & make rewards
Natural Blends
Popular Sanquine/Powerful Choleric
Both
Outgoing
Optimistic
Outspoken
Sanquine talks
for Pleasure
Choleric talks
for Business
Greatest
potential for
Leadership
Can direct
others and
make them
enjoy the work
Natural Blends
Perfect Melancholy/Peaceful Phlegmatic
Both are:
introverted
pessimistic
soft-spoken
Makes the
greatest
educators
Melancholy's
love to study
and research
Phlegmatics get
along and
presents well
Complementary Blends
Powerful Choleric/Perfect Melancholy
Makes good
business
leadership
Choleric:
Leadership
drive and goals
Melancholy:
Analytical
detail-conscious
scheduled
Be sucessful
no matter
how long it
takes
Complementary Blends
Popular Sanquine/ Peaceful Phlegmatic
Makes
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best
friends
Takes it easy,
and has fun.
Warm & relaxed
Best for
dealing with
people but poor
with money
Good in
personnel, civic
work and as
parents
Opposites
Popular Sanquine/ Perfect Melancholy
Powerful Choleric/Peaceful Phlegmatic
The Introvert/ Extrovert
Optimistic/Pessimistic
natures & outlooks
Sanquine/Melancholy
most emotional
One wants to party
and the other cancels the plans
Choleric/Phlegmatic
deal with conflict to work
or not to work
Phlegmatic wants to
take it easy, the Choleric
feels guilty if not
producing
How to Get Along With Others
The Popular Sanquine Personality
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Recognize their inability to follow through.
Realize they talk without thinking first.
Realize they like variety and flexibility.
Help them to keep from accepting more.
Don’t expect them to be on time.
Praise them for everything they accomplish.
Remember they are controlled by circumstances
Bring them presents, they like new toys.
Accept that they will make fun of what would
be embarrassing for others.
• Realize they mean well.
The Perfect Melancholy Personality
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Know that they are very sensitive and get hurt.
Realize they are programmed to be pessimistic.
Learn to deal with depression.
Compliment them sincerely and lovingly.
Accept that they like to be quiet sometimes.
Try to keep a reasonable schedule.
Realize that neatness is a necessity.
Help them not to become slaves to family.
The Powerful Choleric Personality
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Recognize they are born leaders.
Insist on two-way conversation.
Know that they do not mean to hurt.
Don’t push your luck.
Try to divide areas of responsibility.
Realize that they are not compassionate.
Know that they are always right.
The Peaceful Phlegmatic Personality
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Realize they need direct motivation.
Help them set goals and give them rewards.
Don’t expect enthusiasm.
Realize that putting things off is their way of
having quiet control.
Force them to make decisions.
Don’t heap all the blame on them.
Encourage them to accept responsibilities.
Appreciate their even dispositions.
Make a Personal Plan:
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Understand basic temperament
Admit your weaknesses
Assess your strengths
Evaluate your weaknesses
Seek other opinions
Plan your steps for Personal
Improvement
• Ask family members for help