For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence The Enlightened Leaders Program
Individual Pre-Activity for Session 2
Cindy Wigglesworth Webinar
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Table of Contents
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Enlightened Leaders Program
Welcome and Purpose
The Vision
Cindy Wigglesworth Bio
Learning Objectives
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Personal Reflection & Assessment
Leadership Dimensions (Competencies)
Individual Pre-Activity Instructions
Spiritual Intelligence & Why It Matters
Emotional Self-Awareness
& Empathy-Building Exercise
Spiritual Intelligence Mini-Assessment
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Additional Resources
Books and Tapes
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence The Association of Unity Churches International
Welcomes you all to Session 2 of
The Enlightened Leaders Webinar series
Welcome and Purpose
Congratulations on your decision to join this spirited community of emerging leaders that
are truly committed to creating a world that works for all. You have accepted the
challenge to reach higher and draw forth the inner leader required to serve both your
ministry and your community in a bigger way.
You have embraced the truth that …
Now Is the Time and We Are the Ones!
This program is designed to support ministry credentialed leaders, board members, staff,
lay leaders, and those moving into leadership in showing up as spiritual leaders who
express their Divine purpose. The purpose of the Enlightened Leaders Program is to
create mission-focused enlightened leaders who model a way of relating to the
opportunities and challenges of ministry in a way that embodies Unity principles. They
inspire others to share their gifts and abilities in meaningful roles in the life of the
ministry and in service to the community. Being an enlightened leader is just that—being.
It is not only what you, as leaders, do and how you do it; it’s the inner source from which
you operate. Enlightened leadership comes from within.
This is your next step on a year-long journey that will enhance your skills, open your
heart, and coach you to more meaningful levels of engagement in every area of your life.
It is our privilege to share with you some of the greatest spiritual leadership minds of our
time, and provide you with tools to assess where you currently are and where you want to
go in your development.
While leadership is not an easy subject to define, we will approach the topic from the
position of leader-as-steward in terms of relationships. Enlightened leaders leave behind
them assets and a legacy of momentum and effectiveness, of civility and values. Probably
the most important element of a thriving ministry is a group of leaders who take
responsibility for future leadership. They need to identify, develop, and nurture those
qualities from all levels of the congregation. Only then can the growth of a ministry be
assured.
We hope that you enjoy the journey of self-reflection in this guide and will utilize the
tools to model and embody the principles in a new way. Take the time to center in God.
Incorporate the activities into your daily spiritual practice and we look forward to being
with you all on February 18th with Cindy Wigglesworth. After the webinar, please
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as a leadership team.
The Vision
Imagine thriving ministries in which all the leaders truly act from a place of enlightened
consciousness. They embody and model spiritual principles and core values. They take
the time to center in God with a daily spiritual practice that results in a confidence and
calmness that permeates everything they do. They live, work and breathe in the moment.
Enlightened leaders demonstrate self-awareness. They listen, observe and process their
own behavior and assumptions, and take responsibility for how their presence and
involvement make a difference. As enlightened leaders, they build trust through their
integrity and authenticity.
Enlightened leaders draw forth the shared vision and mission from the collective
community, then inspire and generate highly energized, sustained action to achieve them.
As leaders they know that they do not need to have all the answers; rather they know to
ask powerful questions and create an environment that allows the divine answers to
emerge from within others.
Enlightened leaders foster transformation. They ignite the fire of Spirit and creative flow
within people, maximizing their capacity to grow and thrive. They act as the catalyst to
help others remember who they already are. It is a gift to seek and find the treasures
within people; indeed it is a sacred privilege.
Enlightened leaders mine the treasures within others and
create environments in which others can shine and put
their gifts and passion to good use. They serve as coaches
and mentors as they inspire, guide and support people to
find and respond to their inner call to serve and take action.
They empower effective teams.
Enlightened leaders seek out and embrace change and shift
and welcome the opportunities it brings. As leaders, they
help others cope, engage and flourish as they grow through transitions. They identify
tensions and incongruities and guide their resolution. They facilitate shifts in
consciousness and perspective which liberate people to try new things and together shape
a world that works for all.
Sound good to you?! Let’s do it!
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Spiritual and Emotional Intelligence:
What Is Required for Conscious Evolution
Speaker Bio
Cindy Wigglesworth is a recognized expert in the field of spiritual
intelligence and spirituality in the workplace. She has been a
member of Unity for 23 years. Cindy recently gave the opening
keynote at the 2009 Unity People's Convention. Her topic at the
convention was “Conscious Evolution, Spiritual Intelligence, and
Unity's Role.”
Cindy has created the only validated spiritual intelligence assessment. The language used
is faith-neutral and faith-friendly. The assessment describes how far someone has
developed on 21 different skills, based on his/her own self-assessment. The clarity and
structure she provides is powerful—allowing people to see where they are and to choose
practical steps to move forward.
Cindy is a powerful professional speaker—speaking with unusual clarity and humor
about the importance of operating from our Higher Self in the workplace and in everyday
life. She has spoken at numerous conferences and has appeared on Oprah, Houston PBS,
and numerous radio programs.
Cindy has a bachelor's and master's from Duke University. She has 20 years of experience
in human resources management with ExxonMobil and 10 years as the Founder and
President of Conscious Pursuits, Inc. Her website is www.consciouspursuits.com.
Course Description
In this module, you will learn the basics of emotional intelligence and why it is a
precursor to spiritual intelligence. You will then learn the importance of spiritual
intelligence in your life and how to develop it.
Cindy has produced a DVD set on Conscious Evolution: Where the Universe Is Going and
How to Join the Journey. In our webinar, Cindy will work through content from the
DVD—which introduces the process of human development—to what is next for
humanity and possibly for you as Unity leaders. She will specifically focus on Spiritual
Intelligence. You will learn how to “lead yourselves first” so that you may lead the way
for all.
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Learning Objectives
At the end of this webinar, you will be able to:
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Understand emotional intelligence.
Use spiritual intelligence to enhance your life.
Apply the relationship of these two intelligences to Enlightened Leadership.
Learn key exercises for developing your “EQ” and “SQ.”
Benefits of Attendance
You will:
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Understand the skills that will transform you from “average” to enlightened
leaders.
Develop your own emotional and spiritual intelligences.
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence II. Personal Reflection & Assessment
Leadership Dimensions (Competencies)
Before we could begin the process of building curriculum or selecting speakers for Enlightened Leaders, we first had to determine what leadership behaviors really contributed to a thriving ministry. We did our own extensive research. We also asked you! Through a series of focus groups, surveys, and conferences, we collected a mountain of information from our church leaders about what skills you’d like to build and how we could best support you. After sifting through the feedback and data, there were six areas (or dimensions) of behavior that began to emerge over and over. These areas became the focus for how we selected our webinar topics and support material. We expect to tie all of our content over the next three years to these primary dimensions. Key leadership dimensions are inherent attitudes and skills that combine to make up an individual’s ability to effectively perform as an enlightened leader within a truly thriving ministry. Here, we clearly articulate the Leadership Dimensions and individual actions that are critical to creating the vision for a thriving ministry in all aspects. We have included all the dimensions here for your review and many will overlap in application, but the 2009‐2010 webinar series will focus primarily on the dimensions of Change Agent and Role Model. Role Models
Self-awareness
Promotes teamwork and collaboration
Exemplifies Unity truth principles
Works from spiritual guidance
Integrity
Makes decisions based on the vision and mission
Shows empathy and warmth
Inclusive
Models humility
Exhibits visible faith
Acts from a place of enlightened consciousness
Listens, observes, and processes their own behavior and assumptions
Displays healthy patterns of self-care and work/life balance
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Developers
Continually engages in self-development and encourages others to do so
Actively seeks out others with leadership potential
Encourages others to answer the call to service/ministry
Coaches and mentors all others in a positive, consistent way
Creates a feedback rich environment, inclusive of all ideas and ages
Coaches valued people to serve as they are called
Intentionally places people in positions that play to their strengths
Rewards and celebrates accomplishments
Looks for opportunities to allow others to take leadership roles
Gives credit where credit is due
Clearly sets expectations and holds people accountable
Allows the Divine to emerge from within others
Creates alignment with teams on shared purpose and goals
Develops skills required in others for effective team performance
In Service
Exhibits a keen understanding of the human condition
Recognizes the Divine within each person
Practices consistent tithing of time, talent, and treasure
Shows caring and compassion for others
Actively seeks ways to serve, both within and outside the spiritual family
Maintains a global awareness of needs outside the ministry and offers appropriate
support readily
Change Agents
Develops a mindset of anticipation among all towards ongoing renewal and
conscious evolution
Assists people in moving past familiar patterns to create positive growth
Prepares community for change
Challenges assumptions and looks for opportunities to transform
Listens and coaches people through their past beliefs, attitudes and behaviors and
provides coping mechanisms as necessary
Assimilates information through all change initiatives to ensure understanding
Asks tough questions to move others through resistance
Manages the collective stress with spiritual guidance, prayer, and a positive
demeanor
Identifies tensions and incongruities, and guides their resolution
Understands all aspects of the operation, and considers overall impact to the
system when making changes
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Visionaries
Draws forth the vision from the collective community
Inspires and empowers the spiritual community to manifest the vision
Instills in others the desire to strive together to create a better future
Leads strategic planning to achieve vision, values, and mission
Focuses on results
Accesses people’s natural desire to make a difference and be involved
Fosters hope
Unlocks the creativity and ingenuity within the collective community
Expects and measures high performance
Generates highly energized, sustained behavior•inspires others to take action
Creates and empowers effective teams
Communicators
Listens actively and responds accordingly
Builds trust through consistent action and compassion
Gives clear direction and reinforces all communications several times through
several different mediums
Facilitates sharing of multiple perspectives and healthy disagreement
Communicates in an open and honest manner
Expresses appreciation
Appropriately confronts behavior inconsistent with core values
Actively works to improve written and oral presentation skills
Effectively influences mutually positive outcomes
Treats people of all ages and levels with respect and credibility
Seeks to enhance their own interpersonal relationships
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Individual Pre-Activity Instructions
Cindy points out in her work that we are all striving for the same goal in life. That goal is
peace and love. In order to achieve and maintain that level of consistent harmony and
happiness, we must have a common language towards understanding. The following
pages will give you insight into the new and exciting study of Spiritual and Emotional
Intelligence. You’ll have a chance to assess yourself on the scales that support the increase
of compassion, wisdom and peace, not only in your own life, but in the world. At this
time in the planet’s history, we all must act wisely.
It is important that you take the time to read the article on Spiritual Intelligence and Why
It Matters before you move on to the interactive portion of the material. It will help you to
understand the context of the exercises.
Please be as honest as possible with your answers and reflections. You will not be asked
to share your responses with anyone. Allowing yourself the time it takes up front, to dig
deep within this experience, will greatly enhance the webinar content and group activities
for you later.
On the next several pages, you will be led through a series of activities designed to
heighten your awareness of how you see yourself in respect to the Spiritual Intelligence
characteristics. This feedback will then assist you in building a strategy for taking steps in
the direction of deeper application of Conscious Evolution skills.
When we develop a better self, we create a better world. Becoming an enlightened leader
involves engagement in the process of deep change within the self, thereby inviting others
to do the same.
Choose a quiet time when you can reflect on the meaning this curriculum has for you.
Grab a pencil, perhaps a cup of tea and your comfiest chair … and enjoy getting to know
you!
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Spiritual Intelligence and Why It Matters
By Cindy Wigglesworth
Copyright © 2004 Conscious Pursuits, Inc.
The Field of “Intelligence”
In 1905 Alfred Binet and Theodore Simon developed the first modern intelligence test.
Since that time we have been debating what “intelligence” is, where it comes from, and
how to develop it.
Our “Intelligence Quotient” or “IQ” is generally thought of as our analytical or
mathematical intelligence and our linguistic intelligence (think of college entrance exams–
verbal and math components). Initially it was expected that IQ would be a strong
predictor of success in careers. In fact it has turned out to be a weak predictor of success.
IQ appears to be related to minimum standards to enter a given a profession. Once you
have chosen your career, what actually leads to success is far more complicated.
Howard Gardner opened the door to discussion of “multiple intelligences” with his book
Frames of Mind in 1983. He listed seven different types of intelligences in that book:
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Linguistic
Logical-mathematical
Musical
Bodily-kinesthetic
Spatial
Interpersonal
Intrapersonal
Gardner’s 6th and 7th intelligences would later be combined into the study of “emotional
intelligence.” In his book Intelligence Reframed, 1999, Gardner offers that one might add a
“philosophical intelligence” which would combine spiritual, moral, emotional,
transcendental, cosmic and religious intelligences.
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A Simple Model of Four Intelligences
The simplest model I use describes only four intelligences. I show them as a pyramid to
demonstrate the simplest sequence of development. I always acknowledge that this is too
simple a model. Yet it is a helpful visual aide.
SQ EQ IQ Physical The idea of this model is that as babies we first focus on controlling our bodies. Then our
linguistic and conceptual skills develop (“IQ”) and are a key focus of our school work.
We do some early development of relationship skills, but for many of us “EQ,” or
emotional intelligence, becomes a focus area only later when we realize we need to
improve─usually based on feedback in romantic and work relationships. “SQ,” or
spiritual intelligence, typically becomes a focus later, as we begin to search for meaning
and ask, “Is this all there is?”
SQ and EQ are related to each other. I believe we need some basics of EQ to even
successfully start our spiritual growth. Some degree of emotional self-awareness and
empathy is an important foundation. Then, as our spiritual growth unfolds, there would
be a strengthening of EQ skills which would further reinforce and assist the growth of SQ
skills.
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Emotional Intelligence
Daniel Goleman popularized the phrase “Emotional Intelligence” with the publication of
his book by the same title in 1995. In his book, Goleman cites research at Bell Labs that
examined star performers, and tried to determine what distinguished them from more
average performers. It appeared that star performers had significantly stronger
relationship skills and personal networks than average performers. Harvard Business
Review published the results of the Bell Labs study in 1993. Business interest in the study
of “Emotional Intelligence” or “EQ” began in earnest.
EQ is actually a large collection of skills. Goleman and Richard Boyatzis have recently
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grouped these skills into 4 quadrants as shown below .
Self Awareness
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Other Awareness
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Emotional Self-Awareness
Accurate Self-Assessment
Self-Confidence
Self Management
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Empathy
Organizational Awareness
Service Orientation
Relationship Skills
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Emotional Self-Control
Transparency
(honest/trustworthy)
Adaptability
Achievement Orientation
Initiative
Optimism
Developing Others
Inspirational Leadership
Influence
Change Catalyst
Conflict Management
Teamwork & Collaboration
The research done by Goleman and Boyatzis shows that self-awareness skills must be
developed before the others can develop. This makes sense if you consider emotional selfawareness. If I don’t know when I am angry how can I have emotional self-control? How
can I have empathy for your anger? How can I handle conflict appropriately?
The research on EQ has left no doubt that these skills are vital for personal and business
success.
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Daniel Goleman and Richard Boyatzis, with Hay-McBrer, 2002
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Defining Spirituality and Spiritual Intelligence
What is spirituality? My definition is that “Spirituality is the innate human need to
connect with something larger than ourselves.”
But what is this “something larger than ourselves”? It is something beyond our ego-self or
constricted sense of self. It may be defined as having two components: the vertical and the
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Vertical component: something sacred, divine, timeless and placeless … a Higher
Power, Source, Ultimate Consciousness, or any other language the person prefers.
Desiring to be connected to and guided by this Source.
Horizontal component: being of service to our fellow humans and to the planet at
large.
How can we be “spiritually intelligent”? What would a “spiritually intelligent” person
look like?
Who Is a “Spiritual Leader”?
I begin many of my workshops by asking people─typically working in teams─two simple
questions.
1. Write down the spiritual leaders/teachers you have admired in your life.
2. List the character traits that caused you to admire these people.
I have done this now with thousands of people. What I find both reassuring and
fascinating is that the lists look so similar from group to group. The list typically includes
major religious figures from many traditions, global peace activists, local religious leaders,
teachers, guidance counselors, family members and spiritual writers.
The traits that caused these people to be considered “spiritual leaders” typically includes
descriptors such as: loving, kind, forgiving, peaceful, courageous, honest, generous,
persistent, faithful, wise, and inspiring.
What the consistency of the responses tells me is that we already have a general
perception of what makes someone “spiritually intelligent.” What we do not yet have is a
way of describing spiritual intelligence that is faith-neutral and specifically focused on the
skills and abilities we are trying to attain when we seek spiritual growth.
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My thanks to the 2003 International Spirit at Work Award Selection Committee for this distinction.
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Defining Spiritual Intelligence
I define spiritual intelligence as “the ability to behave with compassion and wisdom while
maintaining inner and outer peace (equanimity) regardless of the circumstances.”
Compassion and wisdom together form the manifestation of love. “Behave” is important
because it focuses on how well we maintain our center, stay calm, and actually treat
others with compassion and wisdom. The statement of “regardless of the circumstances”
shows that we can maintain our peaceful center and loving behaviors even under great
stress. This is what we admire in our spiritual leaders.
Based on this definition, I have created a list of skills which I believe represents the skills
of Spiritual Intelligence. They are:
Spiritual Intelligence (SQ) Skills
Higher-Self/Ego-self Awareness
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Awareness of own worldview
Awareness of life purpose (mission)
Awareness of values hierarchy
Complexity of inner thought
Awareness of Ego self/Higher Self
Universal Awareness
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Awareness of interconnectedness of all life
Awareness of worldviews of others
Breadth of time perception
Awareness of limitations/power of human
perception
10. Awareness of Spiritual laws
11. Experience of transcendent oneness
Higher-Self/Ego-self Mastery
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Commitment to spiritual growth
Keeping Higher Self in charge
Living your purpose and values
Sustaining your faith
Seeking guidance from Spirit
Social Mastery/Spiritual Presence
17. A wise and effective spiritual
teacher/mentor
18. A wise and effective change agent
19. Makes compassionate and wise decisions
20. A calming, healing presence
21. Being aligned with the ebb and flow of life
Each of these skills has been described in five levels of skill proficiency. Level 0 is implied,
and means that the person has not begun to develop that skill. Level 5 is the highest level
we measure with our online self-assessment. No skill or level is considered “required.”
And even at Level 5 a person is not considered “finished” as there is always room to
grow.
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Skill 5: Awareness of Higher Self/Ego self
Level 1
Can communicate understanding of the nature of Ego self─including its
origin and the purpose it serves in spiritual development.
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Demonstrates ability to observe personal Ego in operation and comment
on what seems to trigger Ego eruptions.
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Demonstrates awareness of and ability to periodically "listen to" Spirit
or Higher Self as a separate voice from Ego self.
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Hears the voice of Spirit or Higher Self clearly and understands the
"multiple voices" that Ego self can have. Gives authority to voice of
Higher Self in important decisions.
Highest Level
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Spirit or Higher Self voice is clear and consistent. Ego self is present and
is a joyful advisor to Higher Self. There is no longer a struggle between
the two voices. Rather there is a sense of only “one voice” … the Higher
Self (Authentic Self, Spirit) voice.
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What Good Is the Study of SQ?
Religious beliefs have often divided our planet and caused war. My first goal is to create a
language that enables us to discuss these concepts without being limited to the language of
any one faith tradition. I hope to create an SQ language─with clear definitions (showing
synonyms from many belief systems)─that helps to create understanding among the
peoples of our planet.
My second goal is to create a competency-based language that helps people assess where
they are and where they want to go in their own spiritual development. Based on our beta
pilot of 549 people, it seems clear the Conscious Pursuits, Inc. (CPI) SQ assessment
instrument does in fact accomplish this second goal.
Finally, the development of SQ will not only benefit individuals, it will also benefit their
families, communities, and the companies they work for. My third goal is that the faithneutral language of competencies will make SQ acceptable for discussion in the workplace
─the place where most of us spend most of our time. This will hopefully lead to support
for individual and group SQ growth─creating more meaningful work, improved products
and services, and ensuring responsible corporate behavior.
In the end we are alike in our suffering, our hopes, and our joys. We are all striving to
reach the same goals: peace and love. Perhaps with a more neutral language for SQ, we
can see our commonality and work together towards getting there.
---------------------------For further information on the CPI SQ Assessment please go to the Conscious Pursuits® website
at www.consciouspursuits.com or email Cindy at [email protected].
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Copyright © 2009 Conscious Pursuits, Inc.
In our actions with others, we are making emotional bank account deposits and
withdrawals. To be an Enlightened Leader you need to be sure you have many more
deposits than withdrawals.
Typical “deposits” include: compliments; praise; helping someone when you are not
required to do so; keeping promises; delivering work on time; high-quality work; going
“above and beyond” the requirements; anticipating what someone needs; showing
appropriate sensitivity to people’s personal life; smiling and saying “hello.” Some deposits
are large (giving up something you wanted to do to help someone else when they are in a
bind) and some are small (offering to get someone else coffee while you get some for
yourself).
Typical “withdrawals” include: criticism (especially if done in front of others); breaking
promises; being late to meetings; being late on projects or deadlines; poor-quality work;
ignoring people’s personal life; failing to say hello; rudeness; lack of eye contact; poor
body language that looks like you are bored/disgusted/etc.; brushing aside people’s
questions; talking about people behind their backs; betraying a confidence. Some
withdrawals are small and some are huge.
Generally it takes many deposits to balance out one withdrawal. Some
withdrawals are so bad they are permanent disrupters and no amount of deposits will
even things up and restore trust.
Essentially trust depends on us showing concern and care for others. This means making
emotional bank account deposits and avoiding withdrawals as much as we can (and
apologizing sincerely when we make a mistake).
The challenge is that emotional bank account deposits can vary from person to person.
Withdrawals can vary as well. For example, most people in the US like to be praised, and
like to be praised in public as well as in private. But for a few people in the US, and for
many people in other cultures, it is considered inappropriate to seek to stand out, and
getting praised in public is uncomfortable. You might mean to make a deposit and
unintentionally make a withdrawal.
Enlightened Leaders (High EQ) know how to discern what is a deposit or withdrawal for
different people. In this exercise consider one person with whom you work and
you would like to have a better relationship. Then answer the following
questions:
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1. What does this person do to me that I consider a “withdrawal”?
2. What does this person do to me that I consider a “deposit”?
3. Is there an action they are taking toward me that they might think is a deposit but
which I don’t like?
Now role reverse:
1. What do I do to this person that he/she might consider a withdrawal?
2. What do I do for this person that I think is a deposit?
3. Is it possible that actions I am taking to make deposits might actually be felt as a
withdrawal by this person?
Finally, what can I do differently to shift this relationship in a more positive direction?
19 For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Spiritual Intelligence Mini-Assessment
Copyright © 2000-2010 Conscious Pursuits, Inc.
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Put a check mark (√ ) to the right of each level you think describes a skill you
exercise consistently, considering your behaviors over the last few months.
These levels build on each other so you cannot skip over a level. Please do not
check “4” if you cannot consistently do “3.”
Based on reading the descriptions, decide the level you wish you were at and mark
that level with a star ( ), or circle the number.
If your current level and your desired level are the same, that is great! For most of
us, however, we have room to improve! ☺
Skills per CPI SQ Assessment Model and levels of skill attainment
(LEVEL 5 is highest and is rare)
Skill #5 Awareness of voices of Ego self and Spirit Self
Lvl 1
I have a basic understanding that an ego self exists. I
realize that how it reacts to things is a result of my
personal experiences since birth, including the influence of
my family and my culture.
Lvl 2
I can observe my own Ego in operation. I notice when it
gets “upset.” I know the kinds of things that cause my Ego
to get agitated. I am especially aware of the “hot buttons”
or “quick triggers” of my Ego.
Lvl 3
I can distinguish the voice of my Spirit Self (Higher Self).
This may be a “felt sense” in the body, or an auditory or
visual experience, or a combination. I may not hear it
often, but I know it when I do. I am learning to listen to it.
Lvl 4
I hear the voice of my Spirit Self (Higher Self) pretty much
all the time. And I can now identify that my Ego self has
more than one “voice.” It can be scared, critical, angry, etc.
When my Ego is triggered, I immediately seek to hear what
Spirit has to say. Spirit voice is in charge in all important
decisions.
Lvl 5
My Spirit Self voice is in charge virtually all the time. Ego
is now in joyful service to Spirit. I no longer feel a “tug of
war” between these two parts of my self.
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you wish you were able to do.
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Skill #7 Awareness of the worldviews of others
Lvl 1
I am accepting of (patient with) differing viewpoints.
(implies openness)
Lvl 2
I am very curious about other worldviews and seek to
understand them. I am a "perpetual student" of
worldviews─in a humble way that has no Ego in it.
Lvl 3
I can deeply grasp other people's perspective, both their
thoughts and feelings, even in a conflict.
Lvl 4
I am able to understand the commonality of hopes and
fears which underlie different worldviews, while not losing
ability to chose a worldview for myself (which is needed to
operate in this world).
Lvl 5
I am profoundly trusted by all parties because they feel
understood. I hold my own worldview with deep
commitment (born from intense personal inquiry) yet I
don’t cling to that worldview. I am ready to revise it
anytime wisdom shows a better way.
21 For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Checkmark levels you consistently achieve. Place a star next to ones
you wish you were able to do.
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Skill #9 Awareness of limitations/powers of human perception
Lvl 1
I understand that our five physical senses do not tell us
everything that is real (e.g. x-rays).
Lv l2
I understand the value of the sixth sense (intuition) in
accessing other parts of “what is real.”
Lvl 3
I understand that we help to create the experiences in our
lives through our beliefs/thoughts (expectations,
interpretations) and responses.
Lvl 4
I see this in-the-body life experience as both an illusion
and a reality. I am able to access the deepest reality by
occasional transcendent moments (can be experienced in
prayer, meditation, walks in nature, etc.).
Lvl 5
I am consistently able to access Universal knowledge and
use my five physical senses. I am guided by a profound
inner knowing, a connectedness I cannot really explain.
Skill #13 Keeping Higher Self/Spirit Self in charge
Lvl 1
I can identify when Ego has been agitated (made upset).
Lvl 2
I am unhappy with how Ego handles things. I want to find
another way to handle events.
Lvl 3
I understand and can occasionally remember to use the
skills I have learned to activate my Higher Self and have it
take over from my Ego self.
Lvl 4
I am consistently able to activate Higher Self and interrupt
“ego moments.” Successful in keeping “Spirit in the
driver’s seat” most of the time.
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Lvl 5
Spirit Self or Higher Self “muscle” has been developed by
consistent daily practice for a long time. It is now a habit.
Spirit is in charge, even in profoundly trying times and/or
when “group think” pressures for an Ego-response.
Checkmark levels you consistently achieve. Place a star next to ones
you wish you were able to do.
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Skill #16 Seeking guidance from Higher Self/Spirit
Lvl 1
I seek guidance on how to live a good life from authority
figures and external sources such as sacred texts, ethics
philosophers.
Lvl 2
I ask for help from Higher Self/Spirit Self, Higher Power:
“What should I do?”
Lvl 3
I question external guidance and debate issues internally
and/or externally to achieve personal wisdom about what
is “right behavior” in any situation. I may get angry at
authorities, including God/Higher Power.
Lvl 4
I have developed a strong inner guidance system─a sense
of when I am “on purpose” or “in the flow of Spirit” and
when I am not.
Lvl 5
I have an increasing sense of effortless alignment with
Spirit. My “inner guidance system” is so well developed
and my alignment so well practiced that most of the time
staying aligned is just part of who I am. I live in a feeling of
surrender or transformation of ego self to serve Higher
Self/Spirit.
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Today
Skill #19 Makes compassionate and wise decisions
Lvl 1
I am able to make decisions which are compassionate
toward Self/self. Maintaining intention to develop and
grow, but not berating self for not "being enlightened" yet!
Lvl 2
I am able to be compassionate toward children, spouses,
relatives and friends who are not working on their own
growth in a manner or speed I might wish they were. Able
to let them grow as they will. Knowing that I can't really
know what is the highest and best for every person.
Lvl 3
I am able to be compassionate toward those who feel they
are my enemy or who act to harm me. I set healthy
boundaries around behaviors but don't hate the person
acting out. I use power wisely, carefully, and with loving
intent.
Lvl 4
Universal and Self/self awareness is so strong that a
decision always factors in the pain and suffering of other
beings. Yet I am not paralyzed by this awareness. I take
balanced actions that honor all beings.
Lvl 5
Universal awareness and strong connection with Spirit Self
means that inner guidance is strongly and clearly felt. With
steady Self mastery, that inner guidance is translated in
wise and compassionate action which seems to flow
through me from Source.
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Please note: This is just a sample of the concepts of Spiritual Intelligence and is not a
validated instrument. To take the complete assessment, contact a certified coach (list
available on www.consciouspursuits.com) or purchase an assessment on the website by
clicking on Spiritual Intelligence on the main menu bar or going to Products/Assessment,
or go directly to www.consciouspursuits.com/Products/ProdDesc.aspx?ProdID=1014.
24 For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence Applying What You Just Learned About Yourself
Upon review of your scores on the self-assessment, consider what you checked as being a
consistent behavior for you, and what you put a star next to as your goal. Each level
builds on the one before it. If you are consistently at “level 3” and want to be at level 5 for
a skill, you will to work on levels 4 and 5 to get to 5. Be sure you have not skipped over
level 1 or level 2. All parts are needed to get to the top.
Reflect on the areas that you’d like to develop further. Write suggested actions you might
take underneath the Skills below that you’d like to put more energy into. Review the
Leadership Dimensions for desired behaviors you might want to include. Your answers
can serve as a catalyst for supporting your own personal SQ Leadership Development
Plan. The purpose of the assessment and reflection is to support you in gently beginning
the shift from where you are to where you want to be, toward a more enlightened
approach to managing your day and modeling enlightened leadership.
1. Skill 5─Awareness of voices of Ego self and Spirit Self
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2. Skill 7─Awareness of the worldviews of others
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3. Skill 9─Awareness of limitations/powers of human perception
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4. Skill 13─Keeping Higher Self/Spirit Self in charge
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5. Skill 16─Seeking guidance from Higher Self/Spirit
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6. Skill 19─Makes compassionate and wise decisions
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Books & Websites
RELATED TO EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
• Daniel Goleman: All of his books and articles are good–including the first one
Emotional Intelligence, Working with Emotional Intelligence, and the recent books
Destructive Emotions and Primal Leadership. Check out his articles, and those by
his co-researcher Richard Boyatzis, at Harvard Business Review online
http://hbr.org/magazine
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www.eiconsortium.org a website packed with free reports and lots of information
about Emotional Intelligence
RELATED TO SPIRITUAL INTELLIGENCE
• “A Bird with Two Wings”
This definition of love as compassion and wisdom comes from the East. For a
Buddhist explanation of this, see: www.buddhanet.net/e-learning/qanda07.htm.
For a Daoist explanation: www.taoism.net/theway/wisdom.htm.
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The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
Cindy will reference this book in the Webinar post-work. It was a formative book
for her, helping her to really understand what love is, and what it is not. Highly
recommended.
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Spiritual Intelligence by Cindy Wigglesworth
Free articles at www.consciouspursuits.com under Articles.
The CPI Spiritual Intelligence Assessment is available for purchase. This skillsbased, faith-neutral assessment generates an approximately 20-page detailed report.
Also, sign up for Cindy’s newsletter on the home page. Find out about training
events, TV, and radio appearances, etc.
•
The Farther Reaches of Human Nature by Abraham Maslow
Maslow discusses the “self-transcenders” as those people who have moved beyond
self-actualization to being dedicated to service and who demonstrate behaviors and
traits we might now call “spiritual intelligence.”
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For February 18, 2010 session Speaker: Cindy Wigglesworth Topic: Spiritual Intelligence •
Noniolent Communication and Speak Peace in a World of Conflict by Marshall
Rosenberg
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The I of the Storm by Gary Simmons
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The Art and Practice of Living With No One and Nothing Against You by Gary
Simmons and Rima Bonario
•
www.heartmath.org HeartMath: A science-based approach to increasing
brain/heart coherence and the impacts that come from that. Their Freeze Framer
biofeedback tool allows people to bring their heart/brain patterns into coherence
and reduce stress, be more productive, and improve personal relationships and
physical health.
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Holosync meditation technology, www.centerpointe.com
RELATED TO INTEGRAL THEORY, SPIRAL DYNAMICS, CONSCIOUS EVOLUTION AND
SPIRITUALITY
• Spiral Dynamics by Dr. Clare Graves
The originator of the theory he called “the emergent double-helix model of adult
bio-psycho-social systems development,” now called Spiral Dynamics. For more on
Dr. Graves go to www.clarewgraves.com.
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Spiral Dynamics Integral (SDi) by Dr. Don Beck
www.spiraldynamics.net Don’s site: resource for training events, articles, etc.
www.wie.org/j22/beck.asp?sd=1 article; very popular and excellent summary of
SDi
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www.spiraldynamicsgroup.com The website for the larger community of people
trained by Don Beck with additional information
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www.enlightennext.org Home page for EnlightenNext, a magazine that is very
popular with Integral Theory/SDi folks since Don Beck, Barbara Marx Hubbard,
and Ken Wilber are often featured. The website is packed with archives, articles
that expand on the magazine, and audio interviews with thought leaders. Join
“WIE unbound” and download the interviews to listen at your convenience on an
MP3 player or on audio CD!
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Integral Psychology by Ken Wilber
Of special note are the great summary charts which show comparable
developmental stages as described by various psychological theories, including
Spiral Dynamics, and world religions.
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www.integrallife.com for audio interviews and recordings, video, articles, etc. Join
and download the interviews to listen at your convenience!
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www.soundstrue.com for audiotapes and CDs, interviews with Ken Wilber and
explanations of Integral Theory. Sounds True features a great list of recordings on
world religions, philosophy, etc. that you may find fascinating.
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