CHOSEN
Week 7: Being Young on Purpose
Dear Mom,
First, let me say what a privilege it is for me to be able to spend this time with you and your daughter. It
truly is the joy of my life. I cannot wait to see what God has in store for all of us. For those of you who
are returning, I have missed you and looked so forward to getting started. I have prayed for you and
your girls in the meantime and am so thankful you are joining us again. For those of you who are new to
CHOSEN, WELCOME! I have anticipated your coming and have been praying for you even before I know
your name. It is our honor to have you and I pray that the Lord will reveal new and powerful things to
you and your daughter.
One thing that has really made an impact on the program is for the mothers to cover us in prayer. You
and her father have been given authority in her life, in the physical realm but also in the spiritual. When
you pray for your daughter and for our program, great things happen. Each week you will receive a brief
letter from me giving you a basic idea of our lesson for that week and providing you with some direction
in how to pray.
This week – and really this entire session of CHOSEN – I will be talking to the girls about purpose. The
idea is that we have a purpose for now, whether we are 3 years old, 10 or 35.  The Lord has plans for
our future, certainly, but He intends for us to accomplish certain things for the Kingdom today! I believe
that when these girls make a new student to their school feel welcomed, or when they invite a friend to
church, or when they include the kid who is always left out…they are living with purpose and making a
difference.
Here are some suggestions as you pray for your daughter and for CHOSEN this week:
1) Pray that the girls would understand that they have plans and purpose which the Lord has
ordained specifically for them.
Psalm 20:4; Psalm 33:11; Proverbs 16:9; Jeremiah 29:11
2) Pray that the girls would feel connected and accepted at CHOSEN. Pray that they would be
united as a group.
Psalm 133:11; Romans 15:5; Ephesians 4:3; Colossians 3:14
3) Pray that the girls would form good, godly friendships which would encourage them in their
faith.
Here are the scriptures the girls will be reading this week:
Psalm 103:5
Proverbs 20:18
Psalm 144:12
Romans 8:28
Ephesians 6:22
Thank you for your willingness to pray. Have a wonderful week!
Candy
CHOSEN
Week 8: Be an Example in Speech
Dear Mom,
Okay, now this week is a big one for us! The way we talk to one another, our speech, is sometimes a big
issue for girls. I don’t think that girls are always trying to be mean or hurtful when they talk about their
friends, or even in the way they approach us. But whether the intent is to be cruel or not, it is hurtful.
This week we are talking about how to be an example in our speech. We will discuss three areas of
speech: gossip, honoring our parents, and lying. I am going to try to communicate to the girls that what
we put into our mouths is far less harmful than what comes out of our mouths. As a mom, I know how
hard it can be when you bring up certain topics with your children and then the Lord tests us on those
very issues. So I will be praying for you, and would covet your prayers for me, as we embark on this
journey together.
Here are some suggestions for you as you pray this week:
1) Pray that gossip would be repulsive to us – that the Holy Spirit would immediately point out
gossip to us before it leaves our mouths. Pray that the Lord would give us the strength to obey
when He quickens us not to speak what is in our thoughts.
Psalm 37:30; Psalm 39:1; James 1:26
2) Pray that our daughters would not take a harsh, disrespectful tone with us, their parents. It is
important that our daughters learn to honor their parents, to express themselves and their
opinions in a positive way, and be submitted to their authority. You have all heard children
speak to their parents in an unacceptable way, and it makes everyone uncomfortable. Let’s pray
together that our daughters would be appropriate in their approach and honoring with their
speech.
3) Pray for a truthful spirit. Lying is a dangerous and difficult habit to break. I have told my own
children on more than one occasion that lying is the thing which scares me most. We parents
need to know the truth about the things our kids are dealing with. When we don’t, our
decisions become ineffective and incorrect in many cases. We cannot help our children or make
wise decisions on their behalf without accurate information. Pray that the truth would rise up in
them and roll right off their tongues.
Psalm 50:19; Psalm 25:5; Psalm 51:6
The scriptures the girls will read this week are:
2 Timothy 1:9
Psalm 71:17
Psalm 18:32-34
Psalm 27:1
Proverbs 27:2
Thank you for your prayers…you are making a difference!
Candy
CHOSEN
Week 9: Be an Example in Life
Dear Mom,
We are at the halfway point for Session 2. My, how time flies when you’re having fun! I am certainly
enjoying myself and I pray you are as well! This week is one of the most important in all of the 26 weeks
of CHOSEN. Thank you for your prayers – they are life to us! 
This week we will be talking about being an example in life. As I write this letter to you, I am looking out
the window of a cabin in the Wiminouch Wilderness. I can see Pole Mountain behind me and the
headwaters of the Rio Grande before me. I met a precious woman yesterday in her 70s, who is staying
in the same place we are. She and her husband had been coming here every year since 1983. As we
looked around, she pointed out mountain peaks we should climb, all of them over 13,000 feet. She
remarked that she had climbed the tallest one 10 times, and her husband had been proud to say he had
done it 13 times – the last time in his early 70s! As she talked, I realized that her husband was now
gone. She spoke of him with a sparkle in her eye and a hint of sadness in her voice. She finally told us
he had died three years ago; however, she continues to come here each year. She had summited that
peak one more time in his honor, to place a memorial stone on the top engraved with the words, “He
communioned here with God.” We parted ways – she began hiking down to the headwaters – and I
pondered on this remarkable woman. What a zeal for life she had! She and her husband had lived life
to the full, with no regrets.
That is what I would ask that you pray for our girls today: that they would live – I mean really live – and
that they would have no regrets. Our God is a God of adventure, and our time with Him is a thrill. I am
praying that as these girls enter their 70s, they will have squeezed every ounce out of this life as an
offering to their God…and done it with a smile on their faces!
Here are some suggestions as you pray this week:
1) Pray for an adventurous, passionate spirit – that their hearts would pant fast for the things of
God.
Psalm 42:1; Job 37
2) Pray that each non-Christian young lady will come to a saving knowledge of Christ. It is not His
will that any should perish.
John 3:16; 2 Peter 3:9; Philippians 3:12
The girls’ scriptures for the week are:
Zechariah 9:16-17
Matthew 5:11-12
Matthew 5:16
Matthew 10:17-20
Hebrews 4:15-16
Keep praying….
Candy
CHOSEN
Week 10: Be an Example in Love, in Faith
Dear Mom,
Wow!! More than halfway through this session of CHOSEN! It always amazes me how quickly the time
passes. I enjoy your daughter so much. The insights these girls have and the depth of their
understanding oftentimes blows me away! Thank you for the privilege of serving your daughter…it is a
joy to me!
“Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in
speech, in life, in love, in faith, and in purity…Be diligent in these matters, give yourself wholly to them,
so that everyone may see your progress” 1Timothy 4:12, 15.
We are going to Horse Play today for our lesson. Frank and Becky Foster, the owners, do a fabulous job
of using the horses to teach us lessons. Today, the lesson is on “being an example in love and in faith.”
It is sometimes difficult to get the full essence of the lesson across to the girls using the horses, but the
idea today is that there is a difference between “love” and “like.”
Today, people talk about loving everything from ice cream to celebrities, when in reality; love is a much
bigger deal than that. Love isn’t just something one feels – an attraction or something you
communicate only by saying – love is something you do…it is an action. Faith or trust and love go hand
in hand. As a matter of fact, Psalm 85:10 tells us, “Love and faithfulness meet together….” We trust the
people we love…so we must be discerning when we determine to love a person and when we open
ourselves up for them to love us. We want to have wise hearts and to love well.
Today during our CHOSEN time, please pray:
1) That our daughters would be wise when it comes to relationships. That they would love people
the way that the Lord would have them to, but that they would not be manipulated or taken
advantage of.
Philippians 1:9
2) That they would not develop a “savior” complex…there is one Savior and His name is Christ
Jesus. I think so often sweet Christian girls get involved in unhealthy, co-dependent
relationships simply because they think it is the Christian thing to do. Our job is not to save, but
to point people to the One who can.
1 Corinthians 8:1
3) Pray that we as their parents would love them well – that we would be empathetic and
understanding while encouraging them to be mighty in their faith.
Here are the CHOSEN scriptures for the week:
Isaiah 30:18
Psalm 91:4
John 3:16
Deuteronomy 6:5-9
Ephesians 6:1-3
All my love,
Candy
CHOSEN
Week 11: Be an Example in Purity
Dear Mom,
Well we are entering our fifth week for this session, and we have covered some exciting topics and some
difficult ones. I think this week’s lesson could fall into both categories.
Our lesson this week is focused on how to be an example in purity. I think our culture itself is in direct
opposition to our daughters’ purity. They are bombarded on every side with wrong ideas about their
bodies, thoughts and speech, and certainly with relation to their sexuality and purity. The enemy has
chosen an attack on purity as one of his favorite tools against our kids, and we must take the battle
seriously.
Here are some suggestions as you pray this week:
1) Pray that the girls will be pure in their thoughts. A very important lesson for Christians to learn
is how to take their thoughts captive. Each of our action begins with a thought, whether good
or bad. Let’s pray that we can effectively teach our daughters how to take authority over their
wrong thoughts and replace them with thoughts which honor Christ.
Romans 12:1-2; 1 Corinthians 10:5; 1 Corinthians 2:16
2) Pray for purity in their hearts and emotions. I am so thankful that the Lord has given them the
power to control themselves, and that when their hormones want to act up; they have authority
to stand against them! Pray for control over their emotions so they can be alert and steadfast,
ready in all situations.
Jeremiah 17:9; 2 Timothy 1:7
3) Pray for purity with their bodies. Pray for purity in their health and eating habits, for purity in
the way they dress, and purity in that they wait for sexual activity until marriage.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
I want to encourage you as a mom. This is difficult, but please help hold your daughter accountable to
be pure. It is so important for you to monitor her and give her insight and direction about her attitude,
thought life and sexuality. You are the number one woman in her life and though we know these topics
are not easy, you have been equipped for every good work and you can do it. For her sake you have to.
The scriptures the girls will be reading this week are:
Proverbs 17:17
Proverbs 16:28
Psalm 45:10-11
Romans 14:13
Psalm 37:3
Thank you for being a mother who is active in the life of her daughter. You encourage me.
My love,
Candy
CHOSEN
Week 12: So That Everyone Will See Your Progress
Dear Mom,
First, let me say to you – thank you! It is no small task, in our busy schedules, to get your daughter here
each week. I do think it will pay off for us, though. I think that they are doing a great job of being young
on purpose! I am believing that this group of girls will not wait until tomorrow to make a difference.
They will be an example now, today and they will begin to change their own worlds. God is alive and
active in them and when we realize that the Holy Spirit of God lives in us, there is nothing that is
impossible!
I want to encourage you to help them maintain the habits they have started. The girls have done such a
great job memorizing scripture and doing their journals. There is no trick to this. The entire Word of
God is valuable and useful to us. Any scripture is a good one to memorize. Any passage provides an
opportunity to journal or jot down a prayer to God. They have been practicing these things for the past
six weeks, and I am encouraging them not to stop now! Their relationship and intimacy with the Father
is the goal, and that will continue to grow and develop as long as they are diligent!
I would like to close with a prayer for your daughter, and you can rest assured that many mornings in my
office I will be offering a prayer much like this one for that sweet girl as well!
“Oh Lord, though I am never quite ready for it to end…I am so proud of all that this sweet thing has
accomplished! I know that if I beam with pride, your face must ache from so much grinning! Lord, we
love you with everything that we have and everything that we are. I believe that this generation of kids
is going to blow all of our minds. This will be the generation who turns the tide and sees the great
harvest. I pray that these young ladies would believe you, that they would take you at your word and
that their passion for you would be an encouragement to the rest of us, Lord. Make them strong, make
them compassionate, make them faithful and, Lord, make them bold. I think that you show them favor
and influence and that they will be mighty warriors in your Kingdom.
It is my great pleasure to serve you, Father. I do remember from whence you saved me. I could never
thank you enough. Thank you for not leaving me on the sidelines. I want to be in the game!
I love you, Lord! Amen!”
Okay, my sweet friend…carry on! It’s going to be worth it!
Much love,
Candy