SWAMI KRITARTHANANDA PERSPECTIVE The Pros and Cons of Obedience SWAMI KRITARTHANANDA R 26 ight from our very childhood we are more than familiar with the term ‘obedience’. There is hardly a child who has not heard his parents hurling this word at him on several occasions. Our elders want us to be obedient to them, to the teacher, to the society and what not. To be a ‘nice kid’ amounts to be an obedient child. Yet, for good or evil, the term has led to no less controversy. In other words, the term ‘obedience’ has come to stand as one of the misunderstood and misrepresented concepts in the world. So a discussion in the line may perhaps help us clarify our misconceptions. we come up to others’ expectations we are praised; otherwise we are admonished. So obedience, in a sense, is a sort of a covenant, a contract with an authority. Conformity or submission to the authority is extolled as obedience, and its reverse is deplored as disobedience. Authority is not a kind of possession; it is an interpersonal relationship and, depending on mental attitudes of individuals, it has two aspects: rational authority and inhibiting authority. Both are exercised in the different types of interpersonal relationships that we are going to discuss in brief now. Obedience and authority Parent-child relationship The very word ‘obedience’ raises a question: obedience to what? ‘To an authority,’ comes the prompt answer. The authority may be our parents, teachers, elders, society, government, king, powerful persons, and so on. To complete the list, there is the authority of our conscience which functions in a covert way guiding, disciplining, and shaping our character from within through the ordeals of life. The external, overt authority fixes for us the types of obedience we are to undergo, and sets certain arbitrary norms for the continuance of a good society. These norms are called ‘values’ of life. Our conscience is also built up after the pattern of values set by the group of people we live with. All of us are bound to follow one or the other authority if we are to live with others. When This is chiefly a biological bond, starting from the umbilical cord itself. The first object outside the child’s body is the parent. His relation to the world is also established through them. Again, since the child comes out of the parent’s body, the expectations of the parents from the child are more. The parents can foster the child either through love or through strict discipline. Within a reasonable limit both the ways may imply a rational authority and obedience under such cases also comes unsolicited, in the normal course. But too much pampering or stricture may even lead to a damaging breach in the relationship. Nowadays most parents verbally say that they wish their child to be free to fulfil its potentialities. However, in practice they only want their child to achieve its potentialities Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 THE PROS AND CONS OF OBEDIENCE by remaining under their control. The anxiety which the parents develop at the idea of the child’s becoming free clearly indicates their tendency to continue their domination. This only makes the child all the more dependent and cripples him in facing the world all by himself. According to the American psychotherapist, Dr Rollo May, ‘Being merely obedient undermines the development of an individual’s ethical awareness and inner strength. By being obedient to external requirements over a long period of time, he loses his real powers of ethical, responsible choice. Strange as it sounds, then, the powers of these people to achieve goodness and the joy which goes with it are diminished.’ [Rollo May, Man’s Search for Himself; The New American Library, Inc, NY, 1st print, August 1967, p. l70] Teacher-student relationship This relationship sets in with the school going of the child, and is the first training outside the loving care of the parents. Once the student feels at home with the teacher, he starts opening himself to the discerning teacher who in his turn unravels the store of his knowledge to the pupil. In such a healthy relation obedience comes as naturally as breathing. The authority exercised by the teacher aims at the intellectual and psychic development of the disciple who realizes this truth sooner or later. Legend has it that once a student, being disgusted by the repeated scolding from the teacher for the slightest lapse, decided to murder the latter and waited in ambush for the opportunity. He overheard the dialogue between the teacher and his wife, who mildly protested the teacher’s strictness toward the student. The teacher pacified his wife by saying that it was because he loved the disciple most and did not want him to make a single false step. As the enraged student heard this, he became filled with remorse and shamefully retreated. The next morning he met his teacher and humbly enquired of the right retribution for one who bears malice against his teacher. The teacher, unable to guess the horrible consequence of his answer, naively replied, ‘Self-immolation.’ That was exactly what the student did in obedience to the teacher. This is, however, an extreme case. The general trend is that the teacher feels elated at the success of the student, and the latter’s failure dejects the teacher. Elements of love, admiration, or gratitude reign supreme in this relationship. Master-slave relationship In this case the relationship is mainly of an inhibition. The master may exploit the slave in return to the meagre food and clothing he provides for the latter, while the latter tries his best to derive the minimum of happiness from his service. This triggers off antagonism, resentment, hostility, hatred, vengeance at first opportunity. But as the antagonism of the slave leads to untold suffering and misery, in most cases the feeling of hatred gets repressed and blind admiration takes its place. Employer-employee relationship This relationship is like a contract of obedience in the form of faithfulness of the servant to the superior. If either party caters to the well-being of the other and evinces genuine human interest in the concerns of the other, this relationship may prove to be an ethical one. Problem accrues when the subordinate is ordered by the superior to do what offends the moral values of the former. Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 27 SWAMI KRITARTHANANDA Under the circumstance, the employee is left with two choices: a) to give up his service, and b) to leave the responsibility to his superior. Of course, in many instances this type of problem can be solved by a free discussion with the authority provided the latter is well disposed to that. Conjugal relationship This is mainly based on love and understanding between each other, and not on domination of one over the other, in which case divorce is the inevitable upshot. Through many a love-hate relation leading to bitter experience, couples are coming to understand that in order to establish a strong social bond through marriage and in order to perpetuate a lineage of happy and healthy progeny, a good amount of detachment has to be infused into love. Stoic obedience in the army Nowhere else is obedience so much demanded as in the army. It is the most important place wherein unquestioning obedience is the be-all and end-all of life. Each soldier is trained or even brainwashed or indoctrinated (as in the Nazi army camp during World War II) to follow what the superiors command. The question of rationality or inhibition is not allowed to raise its head. The fate of the whole lot depends solely on the discretion of the commander and any question from the subordinate is to be met with capital punishment. The fateful picture of unquestioning obedience has been graphically depicted by Lord Alfred Tennyson (1809-92) in his immortal poem The Charge of the Light Brigade. A few lines from the piece will drive home the point under discussion: 28 ‘Forward, the Light Brigade!’ Was there a man dismayed? Not though the soldier knew Some one had blundered: Their’s not to make reply, Their’s not to reason why, Their’s but to do and die: Into the valley of Death Rode the six hundred. Whereas in all other contexts obedience is just the means to a goal, in the defence army it is both. One has to either obey or die. The soldiers are like robots—not even slaves—in the hands of the commander. King-subject relationship This is one field of exercising both authority as well as submission in a wholesome way. The ideal of kingship is represented by Ràma in the Ràmàyana. The sole duty of a king is to look after the wellbeing of his subjects as if they were his own children. Even punishment can be cracked down on the outlaw for the good of the many. Moreover, the authority being conspicuous, the subjects have a voice in the court even against the king himself. In the normal relationship of this kind, both authority and obedience work in such harmony that they are hardly noticed. According to Swami Vivekananda, The subjects should, in every respect, look up to the king and stick to their king with unreserved obedience, and the king should rule them with impartial justice and look to their welfare and bear the same affection towards them as he would towards his own children. [CW 4:461] Anonymous authority There are many relationships like the above, which demonstrate rational and Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 THE PROS AND CONS OF OBEDIENCE inhibiting authority. They fall under a common denominator, ‘external authority’. If it is favourably inclined to your wellbeing, you naturally feel an obligation to obey such an external authority; if it is not, you may even raise your protest or withdraw yourself from this overt type of authority. However, there is another type of authority against which man has no power, and he is helplessly led by such queer authority. This is called by various names like anonymous, covert, invisible, alienated authority. In this case nobody makes any demand on you openly, yet you feel propelled by it. The main factors worth mention under this category are public opinion, the market, economic necessities, common sense, and so on. The anonymous authority casts its spell on its subject in the form of conformity or adjustment to the common trend, which is only another name for obedience. It implies a helpless merging of one’s self into the group just for his happy survival. Man groans under its tyranny because such conformity only strangulates his creative urge, his genius. Man feels imprisoned in his social mores. On the opposite pole stands the internal authority of conscience, sense of values, power of judgement, strength of character, individual creative urge, etc. When the inhibitions of authority—external or anonymous—assail man, the only antidote is to obey the internal authority, that is, to listen to the ‘still small voice’ of one’s conscience. Obedience in religious context In the religious sphere, obedience has more dimensions than in worldly level. Religious obedience implies a voluntary submission to a specifically religious authority—be it a principle, law, a divine being, or God. Unconditional obedience to an ancient custom, priestly enactment, or the ordinances of some sacred books is emphasized in almost all world religions. This obedience may originate from fear, religious convention, hope of reward, belief in the real excellence of the law, or trust in the authority. The important point to note here is that obedience in religious context always implies that the person in question is either spiritually dependent or immature. A person is free to obey or disobey a particular principle or deity; but he cannot question its authority which is taken for granted as a matter of fact. In Hinduism, the word obedience is replaced by shraddhà, which is explained as a deep faith in both the words of the scripture and the guru. Besides, obedience or adherence to set rules applies only to the novitiate and not to the spiritually advanced souls. Obedience in the Hindu context may act as a means of spiritual discipline. In the Judeo-Christian tradition, the importance of obedience is demonstrated by condemning Adam and Eve for disobeying the commandment of God in the Genesis. The very fact that disobedience is sin points to the covenant of God imposed on humanity. In recent time, a part of the Christian world consisting of eminent psychologists, sociologists, etc, and even an elevated personality like Swami Vivekananda has started asserting that the very fact of original disobedience need not be called sin. On the contrary, disobedience is the condition for man’s self-awareness, for his capacity to choose for himself instead of helplessly depending on another being Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 29 SWAMI KRITARTHANANDA called God. The fall of Adam and Eve from Eden did not corrupt man in the least; rather, it paved the way for man’s progress toward freedom. Some scholars go to the extent of saying that it was only because man was expelled from Eden that he was able to make his own history, to develop his human powers, and to attain a new harmony. [Vide Erich Fromm, The Heart of Man, Harper & Row Publishers, Inc, 1st Perennial Library edition, 1971, pp. 10-11] By obedience, the New Testament means to follow in the footsteps of Jesus Christ, His Sermon on the Mount, to recognize Him as Master, and to submit to those who represent Him here below. Obedience finds expression in letters of the apostle St. Paul to the Romans and Corinthians, but nowhere in the teachings of Jesus Christ himself—the preacher of love. The Nazarene, with his mature sense of life, preached: ‘Blessed are the meek,’ ‘Blessed are the peace-makers,’ ‘Do unto others as ye would that others do unto you,’ ‘The kingdom of heaven is within you.’ These sermons do not, in the least, remind man of his first ancestor’s disobedience. much less the helplessness of modern man. On the contrary, these words point to the fact that man can save himself only by growing into the fullness of his powers and knowledge. In Buddhism obedience means the observance of the corporate rules of the Sangha (monastic organization). Here the master-disciple relation has been less emphasized; but each of the new recruit is put under the care and tutelage of an elder monk. As a reason to the establishment of the Sangha, the Buddha pointed out: ‘A man that stands alone, having decided to obey the truth, may be weak and slip back into his old 30 ways. Therefore, stand ye together, assist one another, and strengthen one another’s efforts.’ [Paul Carus, The Gospel of Buddha, National Book Trust, India, New Delhi, 3rd Indian edition, October 1971, p. 51] He also insisted on the obedience to the laws of righteousness. [Ibid. p. 136] At the same time, he bade his disciples in his farewell address to be lamps unto themselves; to rely on themselves and not on external help. [Ibid. p. 211] The Islamic dictum requires unquestioning obedience to the Quran; but simultaneously it leaves enough room for the exercise of reasoning, known as ijtihdd, which means exerting oneself. Here also, provision is kept for obedience to one’s spiritual mentor called pir. Confucianism makes filial relationship a paradigm for obedience of all kinds. Obedience should be held fast to as if the master-disciple relation is a spiritual parentage. The disciple is supposed to undergo a period of religious tutelage and this requires the unquestioning obedience of a child. Thus far we have discussed the place of obedience in some of the world religions. We now proceed to focus our attention on the implication of obedience in monastic organizations and in monastic life. Obedience in monastic organization The very words ‘monastic organization’ point to a spiritual abbey of renunciates who work for the same ideal. As already shown, in various religious contexts obedience forms the very foundation of all religious communities, lay or monastic alike. But whereas in some religious contexts unquestioning obedience is demanded, some of the religions also advocate the Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 THE PROS AND CONS OF OBEDIENCE coexistence of obedience and freedom. This point is noteworthy for, it is due to the wrong understanding of these two apparently contradictory terms that most of the problems relating to obedience crop up. First of all, one point needs clarification here. Obedience and slavery or bondage are not synonymous terms. One can be as free within his own world as sky while being obedient to his superiors or certain laws, injunctions, values, or authority. A monastic organization is established with the aim of standing as a bulwark for its members to attain a spiritual goal, enlightenment, or freedom. The disciplines of obedience, chastity, etc imposed on its members are means to attain that goal. No member can claim himself to be an exception to those impositions which are rather selfdisciplinary. Conflicts come only when the seniors in power assert themselves in exploiting others by using various chicaneries in the name of religion or its proponent, and more often than not with the help of casuistry. Such attempts are chiefly aimed at making robots of the juniors and subordinates. In such attempts the superiors reduce themselves to the level of company bosses who like to have slaves rather than employees. To use a fitting simile of a renowned satiric-humorist poet of Bengal, those seniors want ‘a couple of snakes without fangs, claws, eyes, horns, with simple food habits (no extravagance) and no trouble.’ As a matter of fact, far from struggling for the welfare of the organization, such people run after the petty aims of their individual life like name, fame, power, money, etc. Another point is that in a spiritual organization obedience is imposed on those who are supposed to be spiritually in their nonage. There need not be any restriction for the advanced soul, or precisely, the spiritually mature soul. Still they punctiliously hold fast to the injunctions of obedience as a blazing example for the novitiates. In an organization where the elders or the persons wielding the wand of authority live up to their sermons themselves, obedience for the juniors becomes as smooth as the flow of the southern wind. Disobedience raises its ugly head due to several reasons. For one thing, it happens when the confidence of the youngsters on the elders wanes due to laxity on the latter’s side in regard to adherence to discipline. For another thing, purposeful disobedience is indicative of a strong protest on the part of the junior against the authority due to some desideratum in the management or policy. For yet another thing, disobedience is caused by a deep sense of guilt feeling within one’s being due to a conflict between an ideal and conscience. A fitting example of it, though not related to monastic organizations, is Claude Eatherly, the person who gave the signal to drop the bomb at Hiroshima. He was not told beforehand what the bomb would do. But after witnessing the whole episode he was cut to the quick with contrition. As an atonement for this sinful act, he started committing all sorts of civil disobedience with a view to drawing attention of the authority and to be sent behind the bar. [Cf. Bertrand Russell, Has Man A Future? Penguin Books Ltd, Middlesex, 1st edition 1961, p. 4l] In a less dramatic way, the monastic members, after realizing their inability to hold on to a high ideal which they chose in the flower of youth in a fit of inchoate inspiration, start disobeying the authority on various pretexts. Also, when Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 31 SWAMI KRITARTHANANDA they observe their respected superior preaching high ideal in public while committing the most wretched, unmonastic, heinous crimes in private, the sense of values ingrained in the juniors gets shattered and they start deliberately disobeying the authority. The problem of conformity to the majority is much relevant in this context. Those who are too weak to follow the voice of their conscience generally give up the struggle sooner and continue with their ‘unconditional obedience’ to the commands of the authority, however whimsical it may appear. This is known as conformity to the group or majority. Such people choose their personal comfort and ambition in preference to a life of rigorous selfdiscipline. Their idea of freedom is the ability to enjoy as they like. But in such cases they remain obedient to the authority at the cost of their real freedom. Real freedom is the ability to choose between the opposite poles like the better and the worse, between the preferable (shreyah) and the pleasurable (preyah), between independence and dependence, at the critical moment of need. This ability, again, comes from an awareness of what constitutes good or evil, of the unconscious desires, of the consequences of the choice. One who wants freedom while continuing in an organization must be careful to keep himself aloof from the opinion of the majority and tread the path—though thorny—of conscientious judgement. Only then can one remain as free as sky while being as faithful as a dog. In this context, Swami Turiyananda, a disciple of Sri Ramakrishna, made a signal comment: ‘In matters of opinion, float with the current; in matters of principle, stand as firm as a rock.’ 32 Holy Mother on obedience Obedience to a principle or one’s spiritual teacher (guru) can be made unconditional without much trouble. The problem comes when authorized superiors other than the spiritual teacher come inbetween with all their casuistry to make a slave of the innocent aspirant. Even sometimes the spiritual teacher also, out of his earthly, base desires, exploits the innocent disciple. One has to be on guard against such atrocities. Once two American ladies approached the Holy Mother, Sri Sarada Devi, with the question that when the spiritual teacher belongs to the opposite sex, how far one should obey him in all matters. Now, as a matter of fact, the spiritual teacher of the Holy Mother was none other than her own husband, Sri Ramakrishna. Hence she was never assailed by such a problem in her life. Yet she gave a bold answer: ‘In spiritual matters alone you should follow your teacher’s instructions unconditionally, but not in worldly matters.’ This was an epochal answer that set at naught all chances of exploitation or manipulation in the name of spiritual ministration. As we gather from her life story, she would straightaway disobey, refuse, or at least express disapproval of some of the instructions of Sri Ramakrishna on worldly matters which seemed unjustified to her. Once Sri Ramakrishna, a great taskmaster to his monastic disciples in the making, came to know that a disciple had taken two or three extra pieces of bread at supper. This being far beyond what he had stipulated for the latter earlier, he forbade the Holy Mother Sarada Devi to do so in future. But she was not a person to be ordered around Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 THE PROS AND CONS OF OBEDIENCE concerning such matters and replied to the Master sharply: ‘Why are you worrying just because he has eaten two extra pieces of bread? I am looking after these children. I do not want you to criticize them about food.’ Reminiscing about such incidents at Dakshineswar, the Holy Mother once said to Yogin-Ma: ‘Can a person obey every word of another human being?’ She never hesitated to speak the blunt truth to her husband when the occasion demanded it. At one time the kitchen at Kamarpukur badly needed repair and the Master was asked to pay the expense. But he said, ‘We do not live there; let them somehow manage it.’ ‘How selfish!’, Sarada Devi said at once. [Nikhilananda, Holy Mother, RamakrishnaVivekananda Centre, New York, 2nd printing, 1982, pp. 72-3] On another occasion, when she was asked by Sri Ramakrishna to be a little parsimonious in the matter of giving away things to the devotees, her motherly feeling of charity got hurt. She abruptly left the room, leaving Sri Ramakrishna in great distress at her rigid silence. Another incident from her life also stands out to show how uncompromising she was in points of crisis. Shy as she was, she always advocated direct, clear discussion in preference to hearsay or false perception. At the time Sri Ramakrishna was severely ill with cancer and had to be shifted temporarily to a rented house at Shyampukur, Calcutta, for the facility of treatment and nursing. The Holy Mother continued to live at Dakshineswar. One day, Golap-Ma, the loquacious and tactless lady devotee of Sri Ramakrishna passed a flippant remark that the Master had probably left Dakshineswar because he was annoyed with his wife. This greatly upset the Holy Mother so much so that she at once walked all the distance from Dakshineswar to Shyampukur to ask the Master with tears in her eyes if she had really offended him. Sri Ramakrishna understood the gravity of the situation, nullified the baseless complaint, and sent her back after duly pacifying her. Many tragedies take place in our life due to misconceptions caused by outside agents. Instead of going for a clarification through direct discussion, we withdraw ourselves out of deep hatred toward the person; or we exercise studied neglect in order to ‘teach him a lesson’, thus paving the way for a wide breach in relationship. Sri Ramakrishna on obedience Besides many other sterling qualities of head and heart, Sri Ramakrishna was a spiritual teacher nonpareil. He was capable of moulding the lives of his disciples at will like a lump of clay. He could easily demand unquestioning obedience from his disciples. The disciples also placed their full trust and confidence on the Master, and there never was any hitch in the master-disciple relationship. Yet Sri Ramakrishna always put spirituality head and shoulders above obedience. In this context he gave his view citing from the pages of our hoary legends. The words bear mention here: There is no harm in disobeying your elders for the sake of God. For Ràma’s sake Bharat did not obey his mother Kaikeyi, The gopis did not obey their husbands when they were forbidden to visit Krishna. Prahlàda disobeyed his father for God. Vali disregarded the words of Shukràchàrya, his teacher, in order to please God. Bibhishana went against the wishes of Ràvana, his elder brother, to please Ràma. But you must obey your elders in all other things. [‘M’, The Gospel of Sri Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016 33 SWAMI KRITARTHANANDA Ramakrishna, Red Letter Edition, R. K. Math, Chennai, 2000, pp. 722-23.] This is nothing but an endorsement of the statement of the Holy Mother in her brief reply to the foreign ladies as mentioned above. Swami Vivekananda on obedience The keen readership of Swamiji’s life clearly knows how passionate Swamiji was with the idea of organization. It was because his study of India revealed the only way to her regeneration as organized way of doing work. Quoting a popular Sanskrit saying, Swamiji used to say, when blades of grass are twined into a rope, the latter is strong enough to hold back even a wild elephant. [CW 9:99] During his first visit to America once Swamiji expressed to his host Mrs Lyon that he had had the greatest temptation of his life in America. On being teased by the lady, Swamiji said it was the organizing acumen of America that fascinated him. Now, the secret of success in organized work is unwavering obedience to the ideal. So he wrote to his brother disciple Swami Shivananda after his return from America: ‘The work cannot succeed unless there is perfect obedience to the authority of the Order and sacrifice of individual views for the sake of the Order.’ [CW 9:99] Again: ‘In India the one thing we lack is the power of combination, organization, the first secret of which is obedience.’ [CW 5:107] He also emphasized the necessity of loyalty to the work undertaken, loyalty to the leader, and loyalty to the organization. ‘But,’ at the same time Swamiji also warned, ‘the leader must command respect and obedience by his character.’ [Swami Nikhilananda, Vivekananda : A Biography, p. 165] In this regard he said in an unequivocal tone: ‘Obedience and respect cannot be enforced by word of command; neither can they be exacted. It depends upon the man, upon his loving nature and exalted character. None can resist true love and greatness.’ [His Eastern and Western Disciples, The Life of Swami Vivekananda, Vol. 2, p. 569] All this discussion opens our eyes to the truth inherent in the idea of obedience. It also enjoins on us to harmonize the apparently conflicting ideas, namely freedom and obedience. One can be outwardly obedient while maintaining an inward freedom and poise. Moreover, man’s freedom has to be realized not by breaking away from an established order but rather by exercising his inherent right. Should there be antagonism between the convictions of an individual and the course of action demanded of him, he must be at liberty to state his views openly. Similarly, the authority claiming his obedience must be prepared to set forth the other side, and must not fall back upon any arbitrary dictum or ancient convention. In conclusion let us repeatedly remind ourselves of the alarm raised by Swamiji: ‘I disagree with the idea that freedom is obedience to the laws of nature. According to the history of human progress, it is disobedience to nature that has constituted that progress. This life is a tremendous assertion of freedom; and this obedience to law, carried far enough, would make us simply matter—either in society, or in politics, or in religion.’ [CW 5:286] * Swami Kritarthananda is a monk of the Ramakrishna Order, Belur Math. 34 Bulletin of the Ramakrishna Mission Institute of Culture August 2016
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