SCRIPTURE FOUNDATION
For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do
not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but
rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in
accordance with the faith God has distributed to each of
you. For just as each of us has one body with many
members, and these members do not all have the same
function, so in Christ we, though many, form one body,
and each member belongs to all the others. We have
different gifts, according to the grace given to each of
us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in
accordance with your faith; if it is serving, then serve; if
it is teaching, then teach; if it is to encourage, then give
encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it
is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it
cheerfully. Romans 12
FOCUS OF TODAY:
A long time ago Solomon was the king of Israel. He was
a very wise king. Once he said, "The tongue has the
power of life and death." That is, the words we say to
other people have a lot of power. You can use words to
make a person happy. Or, you can use words to make a
person feel sad. Solomon even went as far as saying
that words can kill! That is why the first love language is
so important.
SAY:
Know we are going to talk about each of the 5
types of love languages. After this introduction,
we will be able to take a test to see what your love
language is.
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
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Family Faith Talks Wednesday at 6:00 PM. Come, eat,
and learn!
Trunk or Treat on Wednesday, October 26. Middle
School will host a trunk!
We need Men’s Shelter volunteers for Friday evening,
November 14. Join us!
BRING TOGETHER: (Led by a HS Student) Announcements, Attendance
GAME TO BEGIN: Name Game: Choose a broad category (States, colors, boys names, girls names, bible books!).
Write one category on a card. Place the cards in the center. Have someone puck a card and read it out loud. Go
around the circle and how long you can go back and forth without repeating or running out. It can be played in a
circle or one on one with a cheering audience. If you use the cheering audience, start
out with one on one’s. When someone loses they go behind the winner as the winner
finds another winner to play. The person behind the winner cheers the winner on.
The game continues as the cheering crowd get larger and larger. If you play this way
make sure to have lots of categories.
Attached is a little ditty on how to say I love you in 100 languages. As we talk about
“love language” it’s important to keep in mind we understand what we are familiar
with, and it takes some time to get familiarity. Just like we are learning about our
“tribe” we are learning each other’s gifts.
According to Dr. Gary Chapman, people speak different
love languages. For many years, Dr. Chapman has
studied how people communicate love to each other.
And he has found that all people do not feel and receive
love in the same way. He believes that to really express
love to others, you must know their love language. It is
important to know how they most feel love. All of use
receive iand give love in each of the five ways. The five
way are: Kind words of affirmation, Quality time,
Receiving gifts, Acts of service, Physical touch. Although
we can receive and give love in all of these ways, we
each have a primary love language, one that we prefer.
We tend to give love to others in the way that we want
to receive love Sometimes that can be a disconnect.
Someone may want to do things together and the other
one would prefer a gift.
Our faith tradition teaches that words are important and
have power.
Words of Affirmation—These are kind words that lift people
up and encourage them. Actions don’t always speak louder
than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited
compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I
love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that
love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you
shattered and are not easily forgotten.
loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen
can be especially hurtful
Receiving Gifts—Don’t mistake this love language for
materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love,
thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this
language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are
known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever
was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday,
anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—
so would the absence of everyday gestures.
Acts of Service—Can vacuuming the floors really be an
expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the
burden of responsibilities weighing on an Acts of Service
person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants
to hear are, “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken
commitments, and making more work for them, tell those
with this language their feelings don’t matter.
Physical Touch—A person whose primary language is Physical
Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back,
holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder,
or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern,
care, and love
Quality Time—In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says
“I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this
type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV
off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on
standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and
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And our tribe, this Christian Community, will try to be more like Jesus every day: To know that our words have
power to conncet, heal, and spread God’s love.
LEARN: What did you learn about yourself and what ‘love language’ you are fluent in?
ASK:
If you were to think about your parents, siblings and friends, what would you think their primarily language might
be?
SAY:
If you are stumped, like about what they tend to give people. Do they give gifts, say encouraging things, give back
rubs and hugs, spend time with other, or do things for them?
SAY:
Let’s think about the love languages in our own lives. When have you be the recipient of a gift of love.
ASK:
What’s the nicest compliment you got this week?
When did you notice someone giving you their full attention and really listening to you?
When was a time that someone did something amazingly thoughtful in the past week?
When did someone help you out or surprise you by taking care of a chore that you are usually responsible for?
What’s the best hug you received this week?
End with Prayer, Hope and Wonders
Give this time in your group some thought before you begin
your time together. How might you like to end your time
together. How might you close with prayer?
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INVITE: What’s your love language?
Supplies Needed: handout, pens or pencils
Directions:
Begin with a brief discussion about how we all are uniquely made in God’s image. There is no right or wrong –
it is about self-discovery so you can become more aware of how to share God’s love with others
-For each pair of following statements, circle the one that fits you best within your relationship. If you are not
currently in a relationship, try to imagine how you would like to be treated if you were. Or think about how
you like to be treated by family members and close friends.
1.
I like to receive encouraging or affirming notes A
I like to be hugged E
2.
I like to spend one-to-one time with close friends B
I feel loved when someone gives me practical help D
3.
I like it when people give me gifts C
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones B
4.
I feel loved when people do things to help me D
I feel loved when people give me a reassuring hand shake or hug E
5.
I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts their arm around me E
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I admire or love C
6.
I like to go places with friends or loved ones B
I like to high-five or slap around with friends who are special to me E
7.
Visible symbols of love (such as gifts) are important to me C
I feel loved when people affirm me A
8.
I like to sit close to people I enjoy being around E
I like it when people tell me I’m attractive/handsome A
9.
I like to spend time with friends and loved ones B
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones C
10. Words of acceptance are important to me A
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me D
11. I like being together and doing things with friends & loved ones B
I like it when kind words are spoken to me A
12. What someone does affects me far more than what they say D
Hugs make me feel connected and valued E
13. I value praise and try to avoid criticism A
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift C
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14. I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together B
I feel closer to friends & loved ones when we wrestle, hug or shake hands E
15. I like for people to complement my achievements A
I know people love me when they do things for me they don’t enjoy doing D
16. I like for people to cross the street to shake hands or hug when they see me E
I like when people listen to me & show genuine interest in what I’m saying B
17. I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects D
I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones C
18. I like for people to complement my appearance A
I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings B
19. I feel secure when a special person is physically close to me E
Acts of service make me feel loved D
20. I appreciate the many things that special people do for me D
I like to receive gifts that special people make for me C
21. I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention B
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does some act to serve me D
22. I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift C
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words A
23. I know a person is thinking of me when they give me a gift C
I feel loved when a person helps me with my chores or tasks D
24. I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me B
I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift C
25. I like knowing loved ones are concern enough to help with my daily tasks D
I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me B
26. I don’t mind the “kiss-hello‟ with friends I am close to E
Receiving a gift given for no special reason excites me C
27. I like to be told that I am appreciated A
I like for a person to look at me when they are talking B
28. Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me C
I feel good when a friend or loved one hugs or touches me E
29. I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested D
I feel loved when I am told how much I am appreciated A
30. I need physical contact with people everyday E
I need words of encouragement and affirmation everyday A
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Now go through your quiz again and count how many “A, B, C, D and Es” you circled and place the number in
below.
TOTALS:
A: ________ B: ________ C: ________ D: ________ E: ________
Which letter has your highest score? That is your primary love language:
•A = Words of Affirmation
•B = Quality Time
•C = Receiving Gifts
•D = Acts of Service
•E = Physical Touch
"I Love You" in 100 languages
Say I love you in Afrikaans ... Ek het jou lief
Say I love you in Albanian ... Te dua
Say I love you in Arabic ... Ana behibak (to male)
Say I love you in Arabic ... Ana behibek (to female)
Say I love you in Armenian ... Yes kez sirumen
Say I love you in Bambara ... M'bi fe
Say I love you in Bangla ... Aamee tuma ke bhalo
baashi
Say I love you in Belarusian ... Ya tabe kahayu
Say I love you in Bisaya ... Nahigugma ako kanimo
Say I love you in Bulgarian ... Obicham te
Say I love you in Cambodian ... Bung Srorlagn Oun (to
female)
Say I love you in Cambodian ... Oun Srorlagn Bung (to
male)
Say I love you in Cantonese/Chinese ... Ngo oiy ney a
Say I love you in Catalan ... T'estimo
Say I love you in Cheyenne ... Ne mohotatse
Say I love you in Chichewa ... Ndimakukonda
Say I love you in Corsican ... Ti tengu caru (to male)
Say I love you in Creol ... Mi aime jou
Say I love you in Croatian ... Volim te
Say I love you in Czech ... Miluji te
Say I love you in Danish ... Jeg Elsker Dig
Say I love you in Dutch ... Ik hou van jou
Say I love you in English ... I love you
Say I love you in Esperanto ... Mi amas vi
Say I love you in Estonian ... Ma armastan sind
Say I love you in Ethiopian ... Ewedishalehu : male/
female to female
Say I love you in Ethiopian ... Ewedihalehu: male/
female to male.
Say I love you in Faroese ... Eg elski teg
Say I love you in Farsi ... Doset daram
Say I love you in Filipino ... Mahal kita
Say I love you in Finnish ... Mina rakastan sinua
Say I love you in French ... Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Say I love you in Gaelic ... Ta gra agam ort
Say I love you in Georgian ... Mikvarhar
Say I love you in German ... Ich liebe dich
Say I love you in Greek ... S'agapo
Say I love you in Gujarati ... Hu tumney prem karu chu
Say I love you in Hawaiian ... Aloha wau ia oi
Say I love you in Hebrew ... Ani ohev otah (to female)
Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Say I love you in Hiligaynon ... Palangga ko ikaw
Say I love you in Hindi ... Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hai
Say I love you in Hmong ... Kuv hlub koj
Say I love you in Hopi ... Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Say I love you in Hungarian ... Szeretlek
Say I love you in Icelandic ... Eg elska tig
Say I love you in Ilonggo ... Palangga ko ikaw
Say I love you in Indonesian ... Saya cinta padamu
Say I love you in Inuit ... Negligevapse
Say I love you in Irish ... Taim i' ngra leat
Say I love you in Italian ... Ti amo
Say I love you in Japanese ... Aishiteru
Say I love you in Kannada ... Naa ninna preetisuve
Say I love you in Kapampangan ... Kaluguran daka
Say I love you in Kiswahili ... Nakupenda
Say I love you in Konkani ... Tu magel moga cho
Say I love you in Korean ... Sarang Heyo
Say I love you in Latin ... Te amo
Say I love you in Latvian ... Es tevi miilu
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Say I love you in Lebanese ... Bahibak
Say I love you in Lithuanian ... Tave myliu
Say I love you in Malay ... Saya cintakan mu /
Aku cinta padamu
Say I love you in Malayalam ... Njan Ninne
Premikunnu
Say I love you in Mandarin Chinese ... Wo ai ni
Say I love you in Marathi ... Me tula prem karto
Say I love you in Mohawk ... Kanbhik
Say I love you in Moroccan ... Ana moajaba bik
Say i love you in Nahuatl ... Ni mits neki
Say i love you in Navaho ... Ayor anosh'ni
Say i love you in Nepali ... Ma Timilai Maya
Garchhu
Say i love you in Norwegian ... Jeg Elsker Deg
Say i love you in Pandacan ... Syota na kita!!
Say i love you in Pangasinan ... Inaru Taka
Say i love you in Papiamento ... Mi ta stimabo
Say i love you in Persian ... Doo...set daaram
Say i love you in Pig Latin ... Iay ovlay ouyay
Say i love you in Polish ... Kocham Cie
Say i love you in Portuguese ... Eu te amo
Say i love you in Roman Numerals ... 333
Say i love you in Romanian ... Te iubesc
Say i love you in Russian ... Ya tebya liubliu
Say i love you in Scot Gaelic ... Tha gradh agam
ort
Say i love you in Serbian ... Volim te
Say i love you in Sioux ... Techihhila
Say i love you in Slovak ... Lu`bim ta
Say i love you in Slovenian ... Ljubim te
Say i love you in Spanish ... Te quiero / Te amo
Say i love you in Surinam... Mi lobi joe
Say i love you in Swahili ... Ninapenda wewe
Say i love you in Swedish ... Jag alskar dig
Say i love you in Swiss-German ... Ich lieb Di
Say i love you in Tagalog ... Mahal kita
Say i love you in Tahitian ... Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Say i love you in Taiwanese ... Wa ga ei li
Say i love you in Tamil ... Naan unnai
kathalikiraen
Say i love you in Telugu ... Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Say i love you in Thai ... Chan rak khun (to
male)
Say i love you in Thai ... Phom rak khun (to female)
Say i love you in Turkish ... Seni Seviyorum
Say i love you in Ukrainian ... Ya tebe kahayu
Say i love you in Vietnamese ... Anh ye^u em
(to female)
Say i love you in Vietnamese ... Em ye^u anh
(to male)
Say i love you in Welsh ... 'Rwy'n dy garu
Say i love you in Yiddish ... Ikh hob dikh
Say i love you in Zimbabwe ... Ndinokuda
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