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WE are all “Warriors”
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A Resilient Warrior & His Resilient Wife
“God Style”
AACC International
Military Track
Oct ‘13
I
IVET @ Liberty University
Jan ‘14
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SUFFERING
“IN THE WORLD YOU WILL HAVE TRIBULATION….
Resulting From:
SELF
OTHERS
SPIRITUAL FORCES
INEXPLICABLE TRAGEDY
Greek “thlipsis”
Latin
squeezing
“tribulum” threshing
This Tribulation results in Trauma, Pain, Suffering, and Opportunity.
BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER,
I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.”
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16:33(NKJV)
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What does a “STORM” look like to YOU?
“At intervals between a bomb falling it sounded like church: voices from nearby slit trenches
all chanting the Lord’s prayer together- over and over again.
Louder when the bombs hit closer.”
Veteran Army Air Forces Bombardier and Olympic Runner Louie Zamperini as recorded in Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand, page 117
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RESILIENCE “GOD STYLE”
“We are often
troubled,
but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt,
but never in despair;
there are many
enemies, but we are
never without a
friend;
And though badly
hurt at times,
we are not
destroyed.”
2 Corinthians 4:8, 9
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RESILIENCE LIFE CYCLE©
LEARN & ADAPT
Before
During
After
Source: Resilient Warriors, www.ResilienceTrilogy.com
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RESILIENT WARRIORS
LEARN & ADAPT
Know Your Calling
Know Your Enemy
Know Your Friends
Know Your Equipment
Deploy with the Right Mindset
“Actions on Contact”
Call 911
Start the IV
Keep Breathing
Your Well of Courage
Remember Your Calling
Guard Primary Relationships
Choose Forgiveness & Gratitude
Grieve Well
Sing a New Song
Revalidate Your Calling
Comfort Others
SOURCE: Page 200, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees
www.ResilienceTrilogy.com
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Deploy with Right Mindset
“For Ezra had set his heart
to study the law of the Lord
and to practice it, and to
teach His statutes and
ordinances Israel.”
Ezra 7:10
“For the mind set on the
flesh is death, but the mind
set on the Spirit is life and
peace.
Romans 8:6
• “Mindset” is inextricably linked with “Heartset”
• King Jehosophat’s “deployment” (putting Levites out
front in battle formation) reflected both his mindset
and his heartset. 2 Chronicles 20
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“ACTIONS ON CONTACT”
“Stop, Drop and Roll”
Reflective Action
(Pavlovian Response)
 Infantry Term
 Immediate Action Drills
 “What if…”
 British Army EG




Deploy
Evaluate/Develop Situation
Choose Course of Action
Recommend/Execute
DURING
Call 911
(Ask for help)
Start the IV
(Nurture yourself)
Keep Breathing
(Maintain routines)
Your Well of Courage
(Past strengths)
Remember Your Calling
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SOURCE: Chapter 6, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees
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LEARN & ADAPT
AFTER
Guard Primary Relationships
Choose Forgiveness & Gratitude
Grieve
Well
Call
911
Guard Primary Relationships
Know Your Calling
(Mission, Purpose)
(Ask for help)
Choose Forgiveness
Know Your Enemy
Start the IV
& Gratitude
Know Your Friends
(Nurture
yourself)
Grieve Well
Sing
a New
Song
Know Your Equipment
Keep Breathing
Sing a New Song
Revalidate
Your
Calling Revalidate Your Calling
(Armor of God)
(Maintain
routines)
Deploy with the Right Mindset
Your Well of Courage
(Discern/Chart
the Future)(Discern/Chart the Future)
Develop/Rehearse “Actions on Contact”
(Past strengths)
Comfort Others
Comfort
Others
(Get Ready!)
Remember Your
Calling
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SOURCE: Chapters 7 & 8, Resilient Warriors, 2011, Dees
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Guard Your Primary Relationships
• First With GOD
– Don’t lose your first love
– Press into God
• Then With Others
– Avoid attacking inward
– Set example for others
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Choose Forgiveness & Gratitude
• “Don’t Take the Bait”
– Flee a “Spirit of Offense”
• Choose to Forgive
– Loosen Your Grip
• Choose to Be Grateful
– Raise Your Hands
REFERENCE: Choosing Forgiveness, Choosing Gratitude by Nancy Leigh DeMoss
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Grieve Well
• “Stuffing Grief” only prolongs and deepens
the impact of trauma on you and others.
• Grief is like waves of the ocean that roll to
our emotional shore… and then recede…
time and again until the waves become
smaller and less frequent.
• We never forget, but we do learn to process
it through the lens of God’s Word.
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Sing a New Song
“being renewed in body, mind, soul, spirit, and relationships
as we rise from the ashes of brokenness” (RW, pg 166)
• Jeremiah 29:11
– “For I know the plans that I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm
you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” (NIV)
• “Vital Optimism”
• The Power of “New”
• Singing in Prison???
• Hoping in Hope!!!
Courtesy iClipArt.com
“as we obediently seek to sing a new song in our recovery from trauma,
we will soon find that the Creator God starts refilling us” (RW, pg 167)
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“The Hope Diamond”
John
3:16
Psalm 31:24
Romans 15:4,13
Psalm 38:15
Romans 5:2-5
Psalm 42:15
Psalm 71:5
“For God
1 Corinthians 3:12
so loved the world
That He gave his one and only Son,
Colossians 1:27
that whoever believes in Him
Hebrews 6:18-20
shall not perish, but have
1 Timothy 4:10
eternal life.”
He Loves
We Believe
&
&
(NIV)
He Gave
We Live
Courtesy Max Lucado, 3:16: The Numbers of Hope, page 8.
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“Gaining Altitude” with HOPE(1)
Verse
Ps 31:24
Quote
“Be Strong and let your heart take courage,
All you who trust(hope) in the Lord.”
Comment___________
Ps 38:15
“For I hope in you, O LORD; you will answer,
O Lord my God.”
PETITION
Ps 42:15
“Why are you in despair, O my soul? And why
have you become disturbed within me? Hope in God,
for I shall yet praise Him, The help of my countenance
and my God”
Ps 71:5
“For You are my hope; O Lord GOD,
You are my confidence from my youth?”
CONFIDENCE
Rom 5:2-5
“… we exult in hope of the glory of God. And
not only this, but we also exult in our tribulations,
knowing that tribulation brings about perseverance;
and perseverance, proven character; and proven
character, hope; and hope does not disappoint,
because the love of God has been poured out within
our hearts through the Holy
Spirit
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TRIBULATION,
PERSEVERANCE,
CHARACTER,
HOPE
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COURAGE & STRENGTH
ANTIDOTE TO DESPAIR,
PRAISE, JOY, CHEERFUL
COUNTENANCE
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“Gaining Altitude” with HOPE(2)
Rom 15:4
“For whatever was written in earlier times was
written for our instruction, so that through perseverance
and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might
have hope.
I Corin 3:12
“Therefore, having such hope, we use great
boldness in our speech” (not like Moses…)
BOLDNESS
Col 1:27
“… the riches of the glory of this mystery among
the Gentiles, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory.”
MYSTERY
Heb 6:18-20
“… we who would have taken refuge would have
strong encouragement to take hold of the hope set
before us. This hope we have as an anchor of the soul,
a hope both sure and steadfast and one which enters
ASSURANCE,
ANCHOR
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Comfort
Others
Comfort Others
• “Walking with a Limp”
• Stewardship of Pain
• Healthy Dependence
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“…God of all comfort, who comforts
us in all our affliction, so that
we will be able to comfort
those who are in any affliction.”
(2 Corinthians 1:3,4)
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Healthy Dependence
“Bear one another’s burdens and therefore fulfill the law of Christ.”
“For each one must bear his own
load.”
Galatians 6:2
Galatians 6:5
Which is it???
BOTH!
Healthy Balance between being
comforted and comforting others.
Accept help, but pull own weight
as soon as possible.
“BAROS”
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Avoid unhealthy dependency and
associated co-dependency.
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Learning from the Past to Build for the Future
Use this tool to analyze and learn
from your life experiences, building
resilience for the future.
?
1.
2.
3.
4.
My “Body Slam:” ___________________________________
My Reactions: _____________________________________
My Thoughts: _____________________________________
My Feelings: ______________________________________
BEFORE
1.
2.
3.
DURING
Was I Prepared for
1.
this life experience?
_______________
How could I “Get
Ready” for this?
A. __________
2.
B. __________
C. __________
Did I have “Actions
on Contact” prepared
in advance? _______
How did I “Weather
the Storm?”
A. __________
B. __________
C. __________
What/Who were my
“life preservers?”
A. __________
B. __________
C. __________
AFTER
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
LEARN & ADAPT
Did it get worse?
1.
Did I grieve the loss?
(D,A,B,D, Acceptance)
Did I get stuck?
A. Guilt?
2.
B. Anger?
C. Bitterness?
Am I still stuck?
How do I get unstuck?
3.
A. New Song?
B. Forgiveness?
C. Renewed Purpose?
What did I LEARN?
A. Before?_________
B. During?_________
C. After?__________
Did I GROW? How?
A. __________
B. __________
C. __________
Did I ADAPT in order to
“Be Ready” for future
life traumas?
____________________
REFERENCE: Resilient Warriors Advanced Study Guide, pages 13,14, 36-39
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RESILIENCE SUMMARY
• TRAUMA is a Reality… RESILIENCE is a Necessity
• Invest now in yourself and others…
• Before, During, After
• Not merely about human strength or grit
• Resilience God Style leads to greater Readiness
• JESUS was the ultimate Resilient Warrior & Leader
• The Author and Finisher of our Faith
• Our Rock, Fortress, and
Deliverer
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Jesus: Ultimate Resilient Leader
“Do your ‘troops’ know your voice in the dark?”
“Do your ‘troops’ know that you need them?”
“Do you know your ‘troops?”
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Time to Lead!
Selfless Service
Over Time
From A Platform
Of Character
And Competence
Psalm 78:72 -- “So he (David) shepherded them
(selfless service)
According to the integrity of his heart,
(character)
And guided them with his skillful hands.”
(competence)
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SOURCE: Page 44,45, Resilient Leaders, 2013, Dees
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“One Boot in Front of the Other”
Holland
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