FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - A Publication of the Mayflower Residents Association Welcome New Residents Photo by S. Lehman Photo by T. Evans FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - Volume 12– No.3 Entry by Marilyn Schuler S. L eh m an PATRICIA PITTS (Story on page 2) Derrick and Deb’s Butter Giraffe Ph ot o by Entry by Gail Greenwald Photos by T. Evans Entry by Betty Anne Francis Entry by Phyllis Goldman MARIE COMERFORD-MUNYON (Story on page 3) BEVERLY PARMENTER (Story on page 5 Photo by A. Sunday ALICE BREEMER (Story on page 7 Entry by Mamie McClelland The Photo Collage in this issue feature a few of the many winners at our Special State Fair NETA STOAKES (Story on page 9) DOROTHY and JOHN NOER (Story on page 10) MILDRED TURNER (Story on page 11) 2 - FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 FROM THE EDITOR T he munificent Mayflower Community. As a former English teacher, as well as your editor, I sometimes find myself looking for just the right word. The articles in this issue of The Log impress me with the bountiful generosity (to invoke two synonyms) that is so much a part of our life here. We seem to be about “paying it forward.” We have a history of giving of time, treasure and, above all, spirit to make things better. Countless volunteers inspirit the activities we all enjoy; individuals and groups contribute to the well-being of those who are in need, as well as helping to enhance the services and facilities we offer. woodworking shop, contributed by others; our library committee, as well as those who donate books and periodicals, provide resources for reading and inquiry. As announced in The Informer, the Mayflower is blessed by gifts that enable us to proceed with the “Dignity Project” in the Health Center, as well as a new entry and driveway from Broad Street to Pearson. At the same time, as Beryl Wellborn’s piece informs us, the Health Center staff goes beyond ordinary caring procedures to give special comfort and love to those whose health is declining. As we give our thanks for all this munificence, let us all offer our prayerful Gifts to our Gift Shop result in the thanks for all those amongst us who paying forward of resources that help all of steadily give of themselves to make the us. Thanks to Netia Worley and others, we Mayflower Munificent. have a craft room, as well as a Harley Henry WELCOME PATRICIA PITTS - HC 203 “T his is Carol…isn’t she cute?” Carol is a stuffed toy bear, wearing a red scarf. “Now watch!” Patricia wound up her bear and it danced. There were several stuffed animals sitting around the room sharing space with flowers and horses. Patricia’s collections keep her company. Patricia Reed Pitts was born and raised in Grinnell. She attended school in Grinnell and Malcom and, with her late husband, Tim, moved to Lawrence, KS in 1960. They had five children: Junior (Joyce), Sandy, Marjorie, David (Ann) and Mark (Charlene). All, along with eleven grandchildren, live in Kansas. During her active years, Patricia worked in Home Health. “In addition to raising my own children I ‘raised’ other children who were on the street having problems with drugs and were homeless,” she said with a sparkle in her eyes. “They needed a home and needed to get off drugs.” With a smile, she told me, “many of those children, now adults, keep in touch with me and their kids call me Grandma.” What a great tribute to Patricia. “When I was able, I crocheted and embroidered and continued my volunteer work. I like doing puzzles and, as you see, collecting. I am [now] most interested in collecting horses.” Beryl Wellborn FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - 3 WELCOME MARIE COMERFORD-MUNYON - Harwich Terrace South “M y pictures of scenes and family arrived.” Marie pointed to them as she spoke. “But some of them need reglazed.” She looked at me, smiling, and I thought why would one smile about that. “Oh, like Paul, you would say ‘they need new glass’.” Still smiling, she continued, “Paul and I have had many good laughs---two cultures separated by a common language manifest in daily interactions. I could tell you of many other situations where our common language doesn’t always convey common meaning.” Formerly, Marie Hebe Comerford, a ‘War Baby’ born in Dublin, Ireland in 1948, she became Marie Comerford-Munyon, on the 4th of June, 2012 and simultaneously a resident of the Mayflower Community. Formal schooling ended for Marie at age 15 so she could go to work. Working in a variety of jobs, in time, she migrated to London. Ended doesn’t really describe what really happened in Marie’s formal education: postponed or hiatus seem more appropriate. Marie earned a BA degree in Sculpture, a BS degree in Psychology and Cultural Anthropology from the University of London, an MA degree in Psychoanalytic Studies and a two-year Postgraduate Training in Art Psychotherapy. In her spare time she read for a PhD in the same field as her MA degree. She is continuing work on her PhD. Photos by S. Lehman Marie’s professional work includes teaching fine arts, sculpture in welded steel (her specialty), Clinic Secretary in the National Maternity Hospital Dublin, Research Assistant at University College Dublin, and twenty years as an Art Psychotherapist for adults with severe and enduring mental health difficulties in the English Public Health Service. Beginning in 2006, Marie has presented the results of her research in psychoanalytic studies at several international conferences in Holland, Sweden, Spain, Denmark and Australia. “I met the love of my life, Paul, at one of these conferences,” Marie confessed. “And we met again at another conference [and] well, you know, I retired so I can spend the rest of my life with Paul.” “Future activities?” I inquired. “I’m enjoying my wonderful new neighbors. I will be resuming academic writing and making sculpture.” The US Government’s paper work giving her legal status in her new homeland also adds to her busy schedule. Hopefully, this process won’t take too long. On behalf of us all, I say, “Welcome to the United States, Marie, and to the Mayflower Community.” Beryl Wellborn The Gift Shop is located in the Lower Level of Pearson 4 - FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 WHERE TREASURES ARE OFFERED Thirty-Seven Years of Paying It Forward: Gift Shop is a Treasure I f you happen to need a skillet --or picture frames, or pillows, or fine china, or jigsaw puzzles, or a lamp, for instance--- this is the place to come. And if you have things you now find you don’t need, it’s also a place to donate them and add to the shop’s gifts to all of us. Photo by S. Lehman It is the Mini Gift Shop, downstairs in Pearson. If you haven't been there recently, a quick look at the variety of goods for sale may astonish you. And it's all clean, orderly and wellorganized, a shining example of the continuing vitality of the contributions of a host of Mayflower residents. A managing committee works to insure both the quality and efficiency of the shop. volunteer shopkeepers are scheduled by coordinator Eva Story. Each works a twohour shift one day a month. The history of the shop is quite a saga. The room it occupies was originally an art room which, in 1975, was turned into the Mini Gift Shop, chiefly to sell craft work made by residents. Gradually it added some outside lines---note paper, gift items, and jewelry, and managed to donate small sums to the Mayflower Equipment Fund. In the early years, the shop was open all the time without supervision; buyers were asked to take what they wanted and leave their names and the price of the item tucked under the blotter on the desk. In 1979, the shop was The committee consists of taken under the wing of the six dedicated residents; Mayflower Residents each serves a three-year Association and the term. Some may return to the work after a managing committee was set up to put the year's break. The two now serving their shop on a business-like basis. third year are Nancy Reinecke and Where do the profits go? One year, the Jeananne Schild. Those in their second shop paid for a commercial-size mixer for year are Gail Greenwald and Gretchen the Buckley kitchen; another year, the Isenberg, and the first-year managers are profit went to the piano repair fund, and at Judy Kuehl and Robin Estes. Robin has other times it has paid for needed new returned after serving a previous term. drapes, for reupholster, and other costly These managers meet each Wednesday afternoon, to evaluate newly donated goods, see that they are clean and useable, price them and set them out on the sale tables. The two third-term managers have the most responsibility and report to the MRA. In addition, the thirty invaluable household repairs and decorative items. These days, most of the profit goes to the Human Needs Endowment Fund which helps residents in need. In January of this year alone, the shop was able to give $1,400 to the dining services computer (Continued on page 5) FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - B 5 WELCOME BEVERLY PARMENTER - Beebe 104 everly and her late husband, Gary Parmenter, came to Grinnell in 1963. She worked at the local telephone company, GTE, for 26 yrs. “I took a 10 yr. leave of absence to raise my family,” she said. manner, Beverly said, “they don’t have children, but have four dogs and two cats.” Beverly was raised and went to school in New Sharon, IA. She was a star basketball player on her high school team. Husband Gary grew up in Gilman, IA. Beverly is the mother of a daughter, Jill, “I am so glad Beebe is here in Grinnell. I who is deceased, and a son, Mark, who am so well taken care of, I can’t believe lives in Cedar Rapids, IA with wife Lisa. it,” she told me as we walked to her door. Shaking her head in a ‘why-I-don’t-know’ Beryl Wellborn value are priced reasonably, but in accord with that value. On special occasions, really fine things -- jewelry, silver, recently an unusual pewter set -- have been donated. For these the shop advertises and holds silent auctions which allow the community to arrive at a fair price. Photos by S. Lehman (Continued from page 4) The inventory comes chiefly from residents and their families, but also from the broader Grinnell community. Many local residents, having seen the shop's array of goods, come in often both to buy and sometimes to donate. Donations are always welcome; items that cannot be accepted include furniture, humidifiers, air conditioners, wire hangers, food, drugs, some cosmetics and cleaning supplies, and a few more. What can be accepted, in general, includes clean, saleable household and gift items. When a Occasionally, when the shop has been donation is not sold in a reasonable time, it bulging with goods to sell, special sales may be given to a charitable organization have been successful. Townspeople as or, if it has special value, may be sold well as Mayflower staff often stop by to see through a local shop. what is on offer -- bargains that would The shop is open from 9:30 to 11:30 never be found in town. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Friday and In the early days, the shop had a policy Saturday mornings, as well as from 2 to 4 of charging no more than $8 for anything p.m. on Thursdays. sold there. Now, articles that clearly have Sue Chasins program; $2,700 to the Health Center remodeling program, and $4,700 to the Human Needs Endowment Fund. The total funds earned and donated by the shop, from its inception through January, 2012 is $150,745.90. Hardly “Mini.” 6 - FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 EXPLORING THE MAYFLOWER: Find the Craft Room and Your Creativity C lass is about to start; is everybody ready? If you are interested, or even just curious, the first step is to find the place. At the least, Netia Worley says, there will Go to Edwards, walk to the first corridor be classes in jewelry making, constructing and find the elevator on your right; go down to the bottom floor, then head left tray favors for hospital patients, and and you're there. Netia advises against making greeting cards this fall. Where? In using the staircase, which is unusually the Craft Room in Edwards! She has teachers ready to impart those skills, along steep and has tall steps. with others that may be offered later. As to classes, she says lessons in almost any art or craft can be provided, and those The Craft Room itself appears ready for who come do not need to be able to draw. anything. Netia started it, with great She herself will be glad to teach a class in cooperation by Mayflower management, drawing or any other when she moved here. medium, such as She brought her whole watercolor, oils, pastels, studio from the basement acrylic, even block of her home -- books of printing or building with instruction, special balsa wood. She favors papers, stamping the idea of classes, since equipment, a sewing all such activities are apt machine and cutting to be more fun when table, even carpentry friends are working at tools and a printing them together. press. And the Mayflower provided twelve big fluorescent lighting fixtures so that even elderly eyes can see what they're doing. Particularly useful here, Netia says, will be Photos by S. Lehman a timely class she hopes to start in making greeting cards. Anyone can do it, she claims. She has a promise The Mayflower built shelving and that Jo Meyer, who lately moved her cardcabinets and provided some tables and making business to the Marketplace on chairs to add to the ones Netia brought. Main, will teach this skill in the Craft Room; There is also a microwave and coffee or, if Jo should be delayed, Netia can teach maker, and an ironing board -- you name it herself. You can use pictures from old it! cards, as well as stamping or block prints. Netia says that anyone who wants to use There are many resources available and these things, or get help or advice on a there is no question that everyone loves to craft project, may stop in any time; she will send and receive cards. be there to help. Having left her job as Considering all the many crafts that can Mayflower Activities Coordinator, she now be taught in this wonderful facility, Netia plans to spend much of her time there. (Continued on page 7) FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - 7 WELCOME ALICE BREEMER - Pearson 211 “R etirement has a different corporations and government for curricular meaning for different people” projects and other faculty needs.” Alice suggested. “I still have my own When a mutual acquaintance and former business---AB Communication. On a boss learned from me that Alice had limited basis, I help with grant writing, and moved to the Mayflower Community, he consulting for local projects.” said, “She was great to have on staff and Alice and her late husband, John, came an excellent writer of grants. Tell her to Grinnell in 1967. She is the mother of Hello.” three daughters: Andrea Frantz (Michael), In her mid 50s, still working full-time, Storm Lake, IA and their daughter, Alice earned an MA degree from Iowa Hannah; Karen Whitaker (Timothy), Iowa State University in rhetoric and City, IA, and Sarah Tanzosch, St. Alberts, professional communications. “It was one Edmonton, Canada. of the most wonderful experiences in my Alice’s career path began with her life.” Alice continued, “I hope I can use my teaching for Head Start in Grinnell. She writing skills to benefit the Mayflower also worked in Personnel at Donaldson’s, Community in the future.” Inc., Grinnell, as Deputy Poweshiek And now? Alice continues to be active in County Recorder, and in the Development the Democratic Party. “I served two years Office of Grinnell College. as Chairperson of the Poweshiek County During her tenure at the College, Alice did institutional research and worked with the college’s annual fund, planned giving, and grant writing. Later she transferred to the Dean’s Office. “I also wrote grants for bricks and mortar,” she recalled, “and other grants seeking support from foundations, Democrats. Now, I’ll continue to serve as a volunteer.” Alice enjoys good books and good movies. “I hope to get involved in Mayflower activities. I’m very happy I came here to live.” Beryl Wellborn supplies they may use; but that will be said, only clay is not available now, though their only cost. All the tools and she hopes it may be possible in the future equipment are available for any resident to if the necessary equipment (wheels, kiln, use at no cost. etc.) can be acquired. There’s a roster of Just one small section at the back of this teachers available for just about any other wonderful room is reserved as Netia's own craft, including quilting and sewing. studio, off limits since she herself is likely Classes will be announced in The to have works in progress there. Informer, beginning with one in making Sue Chasins tray favors and another in jewelry making. Participants will, of course, pay for any (Continued from page 6) 8 - FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 Mayflower’s Retired Chaplain, The Reverend John Saxton, Reflects On His Years With Us T he year is 2000. Ted Mokricky is CEO at Mayflower. The Reverend Orlan Mitchell, a Mayflower resident, is Chaplain and also engaged in long-term fundraising for Mayflower and plans to devote more time and attention to this latter ministry learning community. Most of the residents are engaged in some type of learning [in] small groups, large groups, courses, whatever. And I learned by watching and listening.” Photos by S. Lehman “Mayflower residents were always ready “I was asked to apply for the position. I to help each other. There were volunteers knew about the Mayflower Community from for everything---work to be done, providing having worked to raise funds to complete entertainment, driving your fellow resident Beebe Hall,” John to the doctor, you recalled. “There name it.” were some other “Like all ministry, opportunities, but there were days of becoming the pain as well as days Chaplain at of joy. The maturity Mayflower was at of the residents and the top of the list. the staff was a real Not only was the asset for a position most Chaplain. Being inviting, the asked by a resident Grinnell community group to lead a offered many discussion on The opportunities for Beatitudes, for my wife, Pat and example, was a day her music, and in of joy. Of course, education for our we all know of children, Caroline events which bring pain to our day.” and David. To make a long story short, I “I [also] worked with local clergy and was was offered the position and I accepted.” included as a staff member at Mayflower John’s experiences as a minister of 40 which meant I would contribute to a team years prior to coming to Mayflower helped effort in the day-to-day duties. Cultivating him in his new position. “Not only was I healthy relationships with families of Chaplain for residents but also for staff,” Mayflower residents remains crucial for the John recalled. ongoing good of all involved. Hospice care, When I asked John to reflect on being for example, may frequently include the Chaplain at Mayflower community. He ministry of Chaplaincy by a resident or responded: family.” “I soon learned that Mayflower is a (Continued on page 9) FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - 9 WELCOME NETA STOAKES - Harwich Terrace North M y knock on the door caused an “Arf! Arf!”. Then I heard a pleasant voice say “Come in.” I was greeted with much tail wagging and inspection. Neta and I introduced ourselves to each other then Neta introduced me to Missy, her dog and companion. Neta told Missy to lie down; so, quietly she found a comfortable spot by Neta’s feet. President of United Methodist Women. “And, of course, we were busy with church activities, fund raisers, funeral lunches, all that kind of work,” she recalled. “It is nice to have part of my family close by,” Neta said with a smile. “I have a granddaughter living in the Grinnell area as well as son David.” said I would tell one of the women who knits about her interest in Sit –‘N – Knit. Then we visited about the other activities available at Mayflower Community. “Yes, there seems to be a lot to do. I’ve already been to a neighborhood dinner and a ‘Welcome’ party.” The Stoakes family traveled extensively in the United States. “I’ve been in every state--all 50---and Puerto Rico.” Today, she likes to read, knit, care for Missy, and visit family and friends. Neta came to the Mayflower Community Commenting on living on the south shore from Reinbeck, IA via Clear Lake, IA. Her of Clear Lake, “I so enjoyed looking at the late husband, Kenneth, was superintendent water and the activity on the lake,” Neta of the Reinbeck Public Schools for 45 yrs. reminisced. “Oh yes, gardening, I’ve Her children are son David (Jackie), always had a garden. Sadly, I had to leave Grinnell, IA; daughters Linda, Mason City, my tomatoes when I moved here.” IA and Kathy in Des Moines. Neta has Missy was asleep after having a treat. three grandchildren. As Neta and I enjoyed a cup of coffee, I During her active years, Neta worked at the University of Northern Iowa for 18 years. While living in Reinbeck, she was active in the Methodist Church, serving as Beryl Wellborn take some courses at the Community College and read some books that got put “I must confess that there were times aside. He travels some and enjoys a lively that I wished for an additional Chaplain. I correspondence. Son David, who lives at was so glad when Rev. Christine Tinker The Homestead in Des Moines, is thriving. joined our ranks. A female and male Daughter Caroline enjoys her work at Chaplain are both needed.” Grinnell College. The three of them continue to enjoy considerable time “Finally, I must say again how thankful together, especially on the weekends. As I Caroline, David and I are for the extreme generosity of Mayflower staff and residents was leaving, John was saying “I’ve got to during Pat’s illness. I am most grateful for water those flowers and, by the way, say hello to all at Mayflower.” my years at Mayflower.” (Continued from page 8) John is still busy, busy. He is going to Beryl Wellborn 1 0 - FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 WELCOME JOHN AND DOROTHY NOER - Edwards 14 “T he telephone rang, I answered. The caller asked me for a date! I didn’t know him... how did he get my name and number? My Mother was in the background saying, ‘Say yes.’ I’m glad that 48 years ago I said Yes,” Dorothy said as John smiled and nodded. John continued, “She was a student at Elmhurst College. There was a party at this minister’s home. We were both there. I asked the minister Dorothy’s last name and telephone number. He wouldn’t give me her last name, but I got it.” How it all happened, who knows for sure; but the result is they became Mr. and Mrs. John Noer. organized, I’m ready to do things,” Dorothy said. “I like gardening, walking, bicycling, reading and helping kids read, and volunteering.” Dorothy was a stay-at-home Mom until the children were grown. She worked as a school aide, did office work, and worked with Faith groups. “Ping-pong, singing, reading, bridge and other card games, playing all kind of games, walking,” John volunteered as activities he enjoys. They have traveled extensively in the United States. John is a resource person for those who need ideas for parties, etc. Dorothy and John were walking, met a The Noer’s have three children and three gentleman connected with the Grinnell grandchildren. Their children are Linda Newburg school and she was invited to help (Charles) Peart III, Macomb, IL; Mary Noer in the local elementary school. (William Terry), Benbrook, TX; and Robert Dorothy grew up in St. Louis … a Noer (April Newmann), Park Forest, IL. Cardinal fan. John’s a native of Chicago… John’s career has been equally divided a Cubs fan. I told Dorothy that the between the grocery business in Chicago Cardinals could be seen on Ch 40. John’s and that of being a UCC Minister. Ordained not-so-serious response was “I wish you at Pomeroy, IA, John has held pastorates would not have told her that.” at Marengo, Chicago Heights, and OnawaTheir telephones were ringing. Children Blencoe, IA. While in Chicago Heights he and friends were checking-up on them. was a founder of Public Action to Deliver So, I said, “Thank you” and slipped out the Shelter (P.A.D.S.), a program to help door. homeless people. Beryl Wellborn “As soon as we get the apartment BEYOND MEDICAL THERAPY C heck the vital signs; treatment, Xrays, scans, medications. We have all heard of or experienced the litany of necessary procedures to restore an ill body to a healed body and/or an ill mind to a healthy mind, and we are grateful that all these possibilities directed toward healing exist. But do we always recognize that there might be something more that brings comfort and healing? The staff at Mayflower’s Health Center adds its unique characteristics to provide this something more, the non-medical healing for the residents they serve. Tender Loving Care---TLC---is also always at the forefront of their care; but going beyond their expected ‘daily duties’ is also important in what they share: helping a spouse prepare to surprise his/her spouse (Continued on page 11) FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 - “T 11 WELCOME MILDRED TURNER - Buckley 301 ime to milk the cows! Get up, Mildred,” Mother or Dad would call. “Didn’t make any difference, summer or winter. Oh, how I hated to get that call when the weather was bad,” Mildred recalled. Milking cows was only one of many chores Mildred helped with while growing up on a farm in neighboring Jasper County. “I helped pick corn, shock oats, feed livestock. You know, the usual farm chores.” discharge, they came to Grinnell. “While our children were growing up, I stayed home. I was busy tending garden and canning the produce from it. I sewed clothing for the children. Being Mother and housewife and church activities kept me busy.” Later, Mildred worked at a local jewelry store and at her church. “We vacationed at the Iowa Regular Baptist Church camp where everything was provided. It was a real vacation for me; I didn’t have to make my bed or wash dishes!” Mildred remembered. Mildred went to a country elementary school and then to Grinnell High School. The love of her life, her late husband Don, and she were parents of Pastor Calvin (Diana) Turner, Reinbeck, IA; Kimberely Turner, LeGrand, IA; and David Turner, Grinnell, IA. There are four grandchildren. She and Don wintered in Texas for several years. When asked if any event stood out in her mind while they were there, she replied, “Well, we had a good time with other residents in our complex. We played a variety of games. And on one trip we took to Mexico we crossed a river on a ferry which was hand-drawn. The men Mildred met Don at a PX in Colorado Springs where they both worked. Don was got to provide the ‘power’ to get us across in the US Air Corps. Sixty-one, yes, sixty- and back.” one years ago they were married in In retirement, Mildred enjoys visiting Colorado Springs. While Don was in the with friends and her brother, and does a service, they lived in Georgia, South lot of reading. Beryl Wellborn Carolina and Florida. Following Don’s (Continued from page 10) on their wedding anniversary; taking a resident out to the garden so he/she can touch a flower or a vegetable or set a hanging basket in the resident’s lap to dead-head the old blossoms are all part of care and healing. Often a staff member or members surprise a resident with a birthday party. Sometimes a resident has few clothes and no money or no one to supply them. A staff member steps up to provide some needed clothing or toilet articles from staff members to surprise a resident in need. Staff members join a “Walk” to cure a disability out of their concern for a particular resident, or staff members buy T-shirts supporting a particular cause in which a resident is interested. Residents are encouraged to attend programs and chapel services. And so it goes… Regularly, there are many unnoticed but generous acts of caring performed by the staff of the Health Center which are very, very meaningful to both residents and staff. As Mahatma Gandhi observed, “Where there is Love, there is life”. Beryl Wellborn 1 2 - FALL 2012 - Volume 12/3 Entry by Dot Anderson Entries by Roxanne Wozny “Mo on O ver Stat e Stre et” Photos by S. Lehman Nonprofit Organization U.S. Postage PAID Grinnell, IA Permit No. 130 Robert G. 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