Directions for Writing out your dialogue scenarios:
Rules: No swearing. No weapons. Don’t be fakey-make your dialogue realistic. Must
have 10 lines.
Choose a scenario from the front of this sheet, or make up your own conflicting situation (no real
names please!): Write both table partners names on a piece of notebook paper:
First, write out a 10-line dialogue with
the teenagers being aggressive, and
using poor conflict-resolution skills.
Try any of these wrong tips: Second, write out the same scene, but
this time have one teenager assertive
rather than aggressive, and using good
communication skills: Try any
of these assertive tips:
Use words like “always”, “never”, “every time
Stay calm
Blame them
Respect the other person
Shout, yell, name-­‐call, threaten, intimidate
Put yourself in their shoes-­‐see their side
intimidate, Interrupt
Use “I” statements, say how I feel in a kind way
Don’t listen to their point of view
Look for a compromise, use bargaining power!
Bring up negative stuff from the past
Want to resolve it, not just get your way
Attack their personality
Want to maintain the relationship
Whine, complain and be judgmental
If you disagree, do it with respect
Don’t believe what they say Use good examples to prove your point
Disrespect the other person
Be creative with solutions
Start sentences with “You…”
Before you speak, ask yourself if you’re Be hard-­‐headed and don’t give in
Question to clarify what’s wrong before arguing
Be positive, patient and kind
Spread rumors and gossip
Push, shove, hit, resort to physical violence
Take “the law” into your own hands
Don’t believe the rumors and gossip –search for the truth
Go get adult help if it’s needed
Be arrogant and egotistical, you're better than them! Clearly let others know your boundaries and stick up for yourself with assertive words, not violence Be out of control, lash out in anger, force others Be in control, problem-­‐solve and stand up for to do what you want yourself Copyright © The Best Health Curriculum 2012 Dialogue Worksheet: RESOLVING CONFLICT BY BEING AGGRESSIVE (the
WRONG WAY) -VSBEING ASSERTIVE (the RIGHT WAY)
Real-life scenarios:
1) A teen really wants to go to a party but their parent is saying “no” because they’ve
never met the family and they’ve heard rumors that this family lets their kids have
alcohol at their parties. This makes the teen so mad because they let his/her older
brother go to any party he wanted to. The teen is on their way to ask the parent what’s
going on…
2) TEEN #1 accidentally bumped into Student #2 in the hallway. Student #2 who got
bumped thinks TEEN #1 did it on purpose, and now Student #2 is challenging TEEN #1
who bumped him to a fight-right here, right now. A crowd is gathering…
3) Student #2 starts accusing TEEN #1 (who used to be a good friend) of spreading
rumors about them. Student #2 is yelling and blaming TEEN #1 and saying TEEN #1
wrote stuff about them on MySpace. TEEN #1 is actually innocent; they didn’t say any of
those mean rumors.
4) TEEN #1’s mom always babies their younger sibling and they’re sick of it. TEEN #1
wants their younger sibling to do the dishes before their mom gets home, even though it’s
not the younger kid’s night to do the dishes. TEEN #1 feels the younger kid gets out of
way too much work and the teen doesn’t feel like doing the dishes tonight.
5) Person #1 was going out with TEEN #2, but they just broke up. Right away TEEN #2
starts dating Person #1’s best friend. That best friend is now being really rude to Person
#1 and ignoring them, and saying mean things in front of others to get a laugh. Person #1
wants the rude behavior to stop.
6) Come up with your own conflict scenario… (no real names please!)
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