Find your soul purpose and become fearless e-Workbook (Teal Swan’s work in practice) by Walk Fearless Have you found yourself taking many courses, experimenting with several selfimprovement and meditation methods, trying out different techniques, getting somehow a breakthrough of your life, transformed, and you still feel there is something missing? You might feel like things are getting better for some time but then fall back into the feeling that you are doing something wrong. Then you get stuck with either: » Blaming yourself and being frustrated, thinking “how come I got it already, and now I failed again?” » Stop believing in yourself and giving up, because it just seems you’re incapable to “get it”. When you “get it” next time, you already know you’ll fail again very soon. » Thinking that when you get a breakthrough, it is a fake one anyway. Do you want to know how to find this core problem of your life? Do you want to start feeling you are playing with life, and not just handling it like an amateur tennis player, trying to avoid being hit by the balls and get out of it alive? If your answer is yes, great! Shall we get to it? First, you have to know WHY you are dealing with one core problem - we’ll call it negative feeling imprint. It is because you chose your life experience even before you were born into this world. And that is what governs everything you do. Consider that your soul came to this life with a specific purpose. And to fulfill the purpose, it will be looking for the situations, events, relationships where it can experience the contrasts, the opposite to the purpose it wants to live out. The same as good can only be experienced by knowing the bad. In this workbook we (Agni and George) will give you examples on how the questions in this workbook could be answered: Agni For example, for the soul to experience full self-expression, it will be generating situations where it will suffer from supression and doubts in itself. It will attract circumstances, situations and relationships that are making it feel trapped and limited. In other words, for you to know which color is white, you have to know how the black one looks like. And if you’re missing this So what to do about it? It seems like no matter what you do, there is never an ending point. When one area seems to work, then another one gives you a blow in the guts. What if you would find out that in fact there is ONLY ONE CORE PROBLEM to deal with? Yes! There is one core problem around which everything revolves, and if you solve that one, you are able to solve the reason for all your unhappiness and not being able to be fulfilled. 1 particular piece of information - that your soul is intentionally creating these experiences you will perceive all the problems as enemies, a conspiracy against you, as something that shouldn’t be happening. Whereas in reality the problems are not your enemies at all. They are not sabotaging you, they are here to HELP you fulfil your soul purpose, to carve you into a person who is able to experience what the soul has predestined (has chosen before birth) to! How to find your soul purpose? Simply follow the steps in this workbook. We learned it from this amazing woman called Teal Swan: http://tinyurl.com/tealswan-soulpurpose 2 Before you start... Find a comfortable space where you can sit or lay down, and where nobody will disturb you. If you need to tell someone not to disturb you, do it. This is your sacred time and space. Observe your breath. Breathe deeply. Inhale fresh and relaxing air, and exhale hot and tense air. Breathe continuously, without pausing between inhale and exhale. This technique will calm you mind. Do it for a minute, or a few minutes if needed, so that you feel relaxed and centered. The breathing also helps your brain and body get enough oxygen to fully utilize its abilities. You will take yourself through series of questions, to remember things from the past. It is important that you don’t force yourself. Let your mind work on its own, it will give all the answers you want. Take your time and be patient while waiting for an answer. 4 STEP 1 | Relationships endings Look back through your relationships —romantic or not—, the ones that were the most significant for you and ask yourself: How did I feel after they ended? Feel the feeling completely. Surrender to it. Allow it to embrace your body. Feel it in every cell. Note: this will most probably not be a pleasant experience. Agni Guilty, like I was the one who screwed up. I was not good enough no matter how hard I tried to adapt and please my boyfriends, molding myself into something I thought they would like. George I felt deep doubt in myself, a rejection, that my desires with her are impossible to realize. I felt like there’s something profoundly wrong with me, feeling and thinking what I did. I stopped trusting myself, believing in me. I was desperate, in despair and deeply sad, disappointed with myself. When you feel ready, say: I’m completely here with you now. 5 STEP 2 | Connecting with the memory When you are fully in the feeling, ask yourself: When was the last time I had this feeling? Agni Yesterday, when we were speaking with Sam and I felt I couldn’t express myself. George Today, when I wanted to be intimate with Agni. How did it feel? Agni I felt suppressed, like I just couldn’t say what I really wanted. George I felt as though there is something wrong with me feeling what I want, and that she is rejecting me. Merge with this feeling again. 8 When was the first time I felt this? Optional: When you remember an event, ask yourself.... Don’t force yourself to remember. Trust that your memory will eventually bring up an event Did I ever experience this feeling/emotion before that? from your childhood. It might come up as an image, as a sound or maybe just as a feeling you had, not knowing exactly what happened. That’s OK. You might find an earlier event. If you don’t, keep in mind the event that came up in the How old was I? What happened? Agni beginning. Dive into the event when you first experienced this feeling/emotion. I was 1 or 2 years old, and I put a whole hot dry chili into my mouth. I was screaming, my parents were upset and angry, like “how could you do such a stupid thing”, and they didn’t How do I feel? know what to do to calm me down. I felt guilty for having such a stupid idea, so I thought to myself “I’ll never risk following my desires again. I better adapt to others opinions and keep If you are having a hard time describing the feeling, check out the bubbles of feelings on the playing safe in life. Otherwise people can get upset with me and not love me anymore.” next page and identify with one of them. This is your negative feeling imprint. George I was 5. I remember my father telling me in front of my uncle to just shut up, devaluing my Agni I feel judged for what I did and for who I naturally am. desires. I wanted and expressed to do something what I felt like fun and I was laughed at. He also said: “Little one, just shut up! You are messed up.” They were both just smurfing at me. I felt ridiculous and ashamed. 9 George I started to feel a huge headache, unbearable pain. I felt I cannot do anything right. That all I feel rejected, that I don’t matter. I feel I can’t do anything right. That I feel, think and want my opinions, my desires, my feelings either don’t matter or they’re stupid. something I shouldn’t. That there is something wrong with me. 10 N F- W Underestimated Labeled Beaten down Disrespected Inferior Worthless TICE | T RUTH JU S Cheated Disbelieved Guilt-tripped Judged Interrogated Lied about Lied to Robbed S A FE T Y Misled Punished Insecure Intimidated Abused Over-protected Afraid Scared Attacked Terrified Defensive Frightened Threatened Under-protected Unsafe TRUST Pressured Trapped Cynical Skeptical BUBBLES of NEGATIVE FEELINGS Suspicious Guarded Untrusting Untrusted O | VE N CO NEC TION | IMPO Abandoned Brushed off C Alone Confused Disapproved of Unloved Unsupported Unwanted Ignored Unimportant Unheard RT AN Unknown Uncared about Rejected E Falsely accused Restricted Powerless Suffocated Dehumanized Teased Blamed Imprisoned Lectured to Mocked Put down Stereotyped Manipulated Over-ruled Cut down Insulted Inhibited Forced Over-controlled Resentful Embarrassed Accused Invaded Obligated Invalidated OL Imposed upon Controlled Offended Humiliated O M | CO N T R Bossed around TH Criticized Ridiculed Ashamed OR F ED RE L G DI | IT Y RESPEC T | SEL Discouraged Insignificant Invisible Left out Lonely Misunderstood Neglected Uninformed Violated Data from: http://eqi.org/cnfs.htm STEP 3 | Inner child healing Agni You know what, Agni? You did the right thing. How could you know that this chili will make You are in a situation with your inner child. Validate the child’s feelings and emotions in this your mouth burn? You couldn’t! You came to this life to explore the world. And until you try situation. Tell them that everything is OK with how they feel, i.e. the opposite of “this feeling something new, you don’t know how it is. You learn with each experience. Some experiences shouldn’t be here”. are going to be painful, some are going to be beautiful. So just continue exploring! Have fun with it! Also, you can understand that your parents were upset. They were in panic, not knowing how Agni to help you. They were afraid! They probably felt guilty for leaving you to wander around and I understand how you feel. Of course, you don’t want to upset people. It’s understandable. putting chili in your mouth. They must have thought that if they had had you in their lap, all this wouldn’t have happened. Remember one thing: whatever you do, you don’t directly affect other people’s feelings! They are always reacting from their own concerns they have George It is ok that you feel hurt by what your father said. However you feel is normal. You are feeling what any child would feel in this situation. about themselves. In any case, you are a free human being and continue exploring the world! And remember, you can not make a mistake. Everything you do is ok. It will be a new enriching life lesson. Allow you to express yourself. You are amazing. I love you. What would I, the grown up and wise “I“, do or tell my inner child to make them feel safe in the situation, to make them feel better? George There is nothing wrong with you, nor with what you said or wanted to do. They are saying this If you feel the child needs a hug, needs you to hold their hand, or just stand next to them, do it. and laughing at you because this is how they see the world. They are judging you through Say whatever will make the child feel safe. You can speak directly to the child, or to the people their life experience. What they are saying has nothing to do with you, it is what they would around, if they are right there in the situation. You can also give the child a reliable parent think about themselves if they were you. figure or explain the situation objectively to the child, so they don’t take it so personally. Don’t And you should trust yourself, trust in what you feel, want and think. This is the one stop talking to the child until they feel completely at peace. thing you will always have in life and something you need to learn to rely on. Others might not like what you say or ,think or feel sometimes, but this doesn’t mean that what you feel is wrong. Sure you can fail other people’s expectations or not meet what they believe should be or is the right thing, but you will never fail yourself by trusting in you. We each need to trust ourselves. Others will never know what is best for you, what is the right thing for you. And you will become better and better by learning to trust in yourself. Confidence is what will bring you closer to what you want and you can never fail, just learn. 13 14 How does the child feel after that? Agni I feel complete and at peace. I know I can trust myself that whatever I do is right, because I feel it in my heart. George What my dad said has nothing to do with who I am. I can trust myself because that is the only true thing I always have, me. I cannot fail. And I know that when I am confident, I can do anything I always wanted. I remember being confident and doing that. And I don’t need to feel fake when I am confident, because this is when I am the most connected to myself. How did this negative feeling imprint reflect in my life? What were the consequences of living with this negative feeling imprint? Agni I was suppressed and worried about what others will think of me. I was not standing for myself and for what I believe in. I was pleasing people and doubting myself and my own choices. George I was waiting to take action. I had a clear idea, even others would say how great it is and I wouldn’t follow it. I would hesitate until I was already upset with myself and started hating others and the world for being against me. I would feel there is something wrong with me. I accepted every thank you or praise as pity, as if they are just saying this to me but they really think I am loser, a nothing... I kept creating relationships where I would experience rejection, especially sexual one, and I would feel devastated afterwards. I would drink a lot of alcohol for a long period of my life because I felt like I don’t belong here and there is something wrong with me. I would postpone positive actions in my business until a point where the business would fail and I would be the loser again. 15 STEP 4 | Searching for your soul purpose Look for a contrasting feeling of your negative feeling imprint. This might be the feeling the inner child feels after the process you just did on “How does the child feel after that?”. You will know when it is the right one when you feel at peace, complete and that there is nothing more missing than that. It might not be a direct opposite but something close or similar. You might still have an upsetting feeling towards other people, who have previously triggered your negative feeling imprint, or might do so in the future. In that case, look at what you would need to bring into existence to make you be at peace with them (e.g. forgiveness, acceptance, understanding). What is extremely helpful in order to understand them is that you ask yourself: “Where am I like this?” or “Have I ever been like this?” or “Am I capable of being like that as well?”. Be honest :) Agni Trusting myself and being fully self-expressed. Understanding towards others. George Trusting myself and in my actions. Being forgiving and accepting towards others. You can also Google search or for the antonym. Note that maybe the exact antonym is not your soul purpose. Use this only as extra guidance for finding what feels right to you. Remember: the feeling/emotion you get the most connected with is your soul purpose. Agni guilty - innocent / judged - accepted / suppressed - expressed / ashamed - proud. George rejected - accepted / unimportant - important and valuable / messed up - whole and perfect. 18 STEP 5 | Reflection Write down in a notebook what you got from You can even write it somewhere to remind the process. yourself of it. This will be an access for you to go through the Write it on a piece of paper and keep it in your process again, reflect, and understand what wallet, or as a background on your computer or happened even deeper. You will also remember your phone... or make a tattoo ;) your soul purpose easier. Things to print into your heart This is very important to understand: THERE IS REALLY NO ENEMY OUT THERE. Every situation, event and person are just messengers, actors in the game for your soul to play out. They are there to assist you in what you need to experience to fulfill your soul purpose. Once you have distinguished your soul purpose (and your core life problem), you will keep on getting a series of tests. Agni My dad wrote an email to me, saying he is disappointed by the way I live my life. I felt confronted by his opinion of my life and of me. George She said that she keeps feeling like I want something more. I felt rejected because I didn’t know why she is saying this. We both were supposed to have the desire of being intimate and loving towards each other. The tests are there for you to learn from them! So that when you are challenged again in the situation, you have an opportunity to overcome it in a new way. 22 Agni I realized I always reacted as a victim to such comments. I’d justify and try to convince my dad (or someone else) to see the good in me and in what I’m doing. Seeing it as an opportunity to fulfill my soul purpose, I wrote him an email, saying that I understand that he has his opinion. Then I shared that I am actually proud of myself and what I do, and I told him why I do it, so that he had an opportunity to put himself into my shoes. If he puts himself into my shoes is his choice. I just gave him an opportunity, and I am complete by whatever he does with it. I did my job by expressing myself. George I saw that something was off, so I wanted us to be completely honest with each other. I asked her about her feelings and how she sees our relationship. She said that she feels just a friendship and care towards me, but not a loving and intimate relationship. This was a shock to me as before we would talk about sex and the deep feelings of love we had for each other. I realized that in my life I want people I can trust, so I told her that she doesn’t have my trust from this point as I don’t know what is true for her. And that I don’t hate or resent her. I also said that I take my responsibility for not being more direct with my questions about our future and what she wants. I said I was afraid to lose her as I had this deep doubt in myself and complete lack of confidence. I already forgave her, but I also know I need to see her represent the level of honesty and actions if we are to have any kind of closer relationship with each other. I have never been so straight and respecting, and clear about what I want. Life is giving you an infinite number of situations, and in each situation you will be faced with the same problem - unless you have already learned how to live your soul purpose there. Whenever you have a problem, just observe. Remember what your soul purpose is. Is the problem related to your soul purpose? Most probably it is. Thank the situation for giving you this problem: “Thank you thank you thank you for this gift! This is an opportunity to fulfill my soul purpose”. So, when you are given a test from a life situation, you can heal it through healing your emotions. 23 The transformation after finding your soul purpose WHAT TO DO WHEN I GET STUCK AGAIN? SOUL PURPOSE | THE STEPS (Printout) 0. Prepare Sit or lay down. Breathe. Whenever you experience an unpleasant emotion in the future, it is important that you don’t resist it. There are two things you can do: 1. Relationships ending How did I feel after they ended? 1. Sit for around 10-30 minutes and just observe the feeling or emotion within you. Feel the feeling completely. Let it be inside your body. In one moment it will shift, and then it will shift again into I’m completely here with you now. something else. You can stay in the process until you start having a pleasant feeling. 2. Do an emotional healing. To do it, go through steps 0, 2, 3, 5 on the next page. 2. Connecting with the memory When was the last time I had this feeling? How did it feel? HAVING A HARD TIME FINDING YOUR SOUL PURPOSE? Merge with this feeling again. When was the first time I felt this? How old was I? What happened? We know not everyone will be at ease doing the exercise on their own. Be patient with yourself. How do I feel? It takes practice. 3. Inner child healing Validate child’s feelings and emotions. If you need any help or guidance write to [email protected] For more information about our work visit http://www.walkfearless.org What would I do or tell to my inner child to make them feel safe? How does the child feel after that? How did this negative feeling imprint reflect in my life? To find other useful healing modalities and shadow work, please visit Teal Swan’s website: http://www.tealswan.com 4. Search for your soul purpose Look for a contrasting feeling of your negative feeling imprint. You can also Google search for antonym to the negative feeling imprint. 5. Reflection Write down in a notebook what you got from the process. DISCLAIMER This e-workbook is made for educational purposes. The content is taken from Teal Swan’s free video trainings, with added guideline, completed with real examples to enhance effectiveness and easiness of the exercise. george and agni take no responsibility for how the reader uses its content and any results they might achieve or not. The e-workbook was created with the best intentions to make the exercise of finding your soul purpose an easier task. We are not Teal Swan official representatives, so this material should be taken as an approximation to Teal Swan’s great work, as her skills are in our belief far superior. This license allows you to distribute, remix, tweak, and build upon our work, even commercially, as long as you credit us for the original creation. CREDITS Content by Teal Swan’s free source of content intended to share her work http://www.tealswan.com Agni and George’s transcript, added guideline, summary and examples http://www.walkfearless.org Design and layout by Ruth C. Morata Gil (and her loyal dog Scrib) [email protected] This e-workbook was created in collaboration between partners in Slovenia and the city of Barcelona (Spain) and was finished in November 2016.
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