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Introduction
“He doesn‟t love me... He doesn‟t talk to me... Why did he get married to me if he‟s going to treat
me like this?” I looked at the sister as she had tears rolling down her cheeks and thought to myself...
What can I do help you? How can I soften your pain?
Whilst at a seminar a sister approached me in hope that I will take her to the Shaykh and he could give
her advice. Much to my surprise, it was her mother in law who was pushing her to do so due to the pain
of seeing her son treat her this way.
SubhanAllah, at that moment in time all I could do was to reassure her that things will get better, as
well as offering her support by ensuring she was seen by the Shaykh, which alhamdulillah she was.
I have used my personal development background and research within this topic to ensure I have
presented this topic well with the best and most relevant information. Alhamdulillah, everything has
been referenced back to the Qur‟an and Sunnah in hope of ensuring you get the best and attain the
pleasure of Allah „azza wa jal in the process.
The material in this book is from my own experience, seminars and lectures with Shaykh Waleed
Basyouni, Shaykh Yaser Birjas, as well as personal development seminars with Shaykh Muhammad
Alshareef.
You don’t have to go through a painful marriage... Allah „azza wa jal wants you to be happy and so it
doesn’t have to be like this - you can learn this now and save yourself from choosing the wrong
direction in life.
“In Allah we put our trust, whilst doing our best to know the rest.”
Though, the main thing for me is being able to assist you in this journey. Hence, I hope you have a
great read, gain a lot from this book and may it be a means of moving forward to success.
...And Allah „azza wa jal knows best.
Alima Ashfaq
Founder of iamAlima
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Let the Journey Begin...!
Imagine someone came to you right now and
asked you to follow them, without thinking
about it; the awe of this individual led you to
get up from what you’re doing and follow them.
They look at you right in the eye, much to your
surprise the glitter in their eye’s leaves you
mesmerised... As they stretch out their hand in
hope that you will accept. You slowly, but
surely, slide your hand into theirs.
You know them, you trust them and you know
they’re not going to let you fail. As you follow
them out of the room, you’re led to the front
door. As you’re taking the steps towards the
unknown, your heart skips a beat and you think
to yourself; “I‟ve been waiting for this all my
life...” The person opens the front door and you
notice that it’s dark, not a ray of light in sight.
“This is strange... I‟m pretty sure it‟s supposed
to be light.” You mutter to yourself. As you
continue to follow, you see ahead of you two
roads, both long and winded - one tread upon
more than the other.
As you look on your left you see an array of cars zooming down and you’re surprised by the speed of
the cars. “They‟re going to have an accident if they‟re not careful!” You speak up and as you do, the
person looks at you with a smile and says: “Yes they will, in fact if they don‟t face the fact that it‟s
dangerous to continue the way they are, they‟re going to have to face the pain.”
Then you turn around to your right, this road has a softer and smooth feel to it, you can just sense the
serenity coming from it. Slowly you start to smile and you turn to the person and say; “Can we go down
that road? It looks so much nicer...” With a small chuckle, they turn to you and say;
“It’s your choice. The life you choose to lead is due to the choices you make. If
you make them right with intelligence then you won’t go wrong. If you’re hasty
and you go into a road without a calculated decision then you’re setting yourself
up for trouble”
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Suddenly you hear someone calling your name... “Wake up and stop dreaming! We‟re late, we need to
be there by 7pm and it‟s already six!” Shouts your sister up the stairs. “What are the family going to
think?! If you want to get married to this person, you better hurry up down stairs RIGHT now!”
“Oh man, I‟ve been thinking again... SubhanAllah, am I ready for the ride?!”
That’s where I come in... Alhamdulillah I have
been blessed to attend many seminars, lectures
and experience a lot of people who have
amazing marriages, those who are going
through tough times, as well as sisters who
aren’t married and not sure where they’re
headed. I have done my best to deliver this
topic in the best manner possible, focused on
the important topics in hope that you will
enjoy the read and move forward to study
further into this topic inshaAllah.
Either you get it right now, or you don’t. One
has a life of happiness, and the other has a
life of heartache. Do you have any choice but
to become the best?
Let the journey begin!
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What is this Mysterious thing called
Love?
Living in today's society you’ve probably
seen a movie based around love. Perhaps
you’ve read a story that clicked with you, or
maybe you’re a dreamer just hoping to feel
this mysterious thing called love? To drown
in it, feel the powerful emotion that you’ve
dreamed of all your life. Or maybe you’ve
experienced it... Or feeling this emotion as
you read this book?
...Wake up! Wake up! Let me bring some
reality into it... (Hey, at least give me a
chance?) Ok cool, I’m ready when you are...
Bismillah, let the love ride begin, I mean
the ride begin.
:Steps on the Ship:
Love and Lust are two different things and they both exist. The main issue arises when you get one
mixed up with the other and due to this, many problems can occur. Though hey... At least we know
that it exists right!?
Love is a mystery. It cannot be defined rather it’s an emotion that you feel. The Prophet salAllahu
`alayhi wasallam when speaking about his wife Khadija radiAllahu `anha said, “Verily, I was filled
with Love for her.” From this hadeeth we learn that love happens and when it does it’s nothing to be
ashamed about.
Allah `azza wa jal says in the Qur’an: “And among His
signs is that He created for you mates from among
yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with
them and He has put love and mercy between your
(hearts). Verily in that are signs for those who
reflect.” [ArRoom 30:21]
The key words in the verse are - “Mawaddatan wa
Rahma” - which translates as Love and Mercy. Allah
`azza wa jal created us to love someone, feel loved and
be happy. He „azza wa jal created this love within
marriage, as real love can only grow and be maintained
within a marriage.
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Lust;
this is generally what we see around us in the movies,
it’s a fabricated imaginary type of love that is portrayed
through two ‘perfect’ individuals who passionately fall in love.
They look great and when they’re in each other’s company
they feel great (and they have no arguments at all!). We
usually have no idea what happens at the end of their lives
because the movie finishes when they’re in their early twenties
at the prime of their youth. :rewind rewind: We need to get
real! Life is not perfect and at times you feel an emotion
towards someone but this shouldn’t blind you.
In this life when you experience love it’s extremely
strong and its not a sin as long as you don’t act upon
it in the incorrect manner. The emotion may be
something you’re unable to control, but your actions
are in your control.
There are two types of love as defined by the
Scholars. Hubb is the Arabic word for love and Ishq
describes the other type.
Ibn alQayyim rahimahullah said both were unique.
He said Hubb was pure and noble, whereas Ishq was
a forbidden, beyond the limits type of love and this
is when someone will go to haraam measures to be
with the one whom they love.
...Your heart is precious and you have an amazing
future ahead of you.
Whoever you allow to enter into your life will take you in
one direction as adverse to another, one of good or one
of evil. I have discussed the criterion set by the Prophet
salAllahu `alayhi wasallam, so your aim in life should be
- to be this person and get married to the type of person
who the Prophet salAllahu `alayhi wasallam
recommended. If you’re already married - become this
person now, and make du`a that Allah blesses your
spouse to do the same.
If you still don’t understand what love is, then as I
mentioned it’s rather mysterious! It just happens...
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Marriage in Islam
Either you’re married, looking to get
married, or dreaming to get married and for some it’s not happening anytime
soon! Whoever you are, marriage is a
topic that Allah `azza wa jal has spoken
about highly and it’s essential for us to
learn what marriage involves and the
importance of it.
The Prophet salAllahu `alayhi wasallam
said, “Whoever has married has
completed half of his religion;
therefore let him fear Allah in the
other half!” [Bayhaqi]
The concept of marriage has been
present from the beginning of creation.
Allah `azza wa jal says, “And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates...”
[Surah ArRoom 30:21]
Islam encourages marriage in many places in the Qur‟an and Sunnah. We are taught by Allah „azza wa
jal that men and women enter into marriage to earn three things; tranquillity, love and mercy.
The Messenger salAllahu `alayhiwassallam said: “For those who love each other, nothing has proven
as good as marriage.” [Sunan Ibn Ma’jah]
In Islam, feeling something is not haraam and if you do have such a feeling for someone and it’s done in
the best manner, than marriage is the next step for such individuals.
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“I want you... But I fear Allah!”
I grew up in college learning many lessons about the importance of al`Affaf, alhamdulillah I started
practicing Islam at 14, so as you can imagine, I observed my surroundings learning lessons, rather than
getting involved. I would see good brothers and sisters being led astray by their emotions because they
didn’t take the correct steps to protect themselves they fell into problems which caused them pain
later on. If only they had learnt the concept of Al-`Affaf, they would have been protected... All in
good time, I will explain what this all important concept is!
...Have you ever heard someone say; “Living in
the West is tough! There‟s haraam
everywhere!” They may be referring to the
billboards, their interactions in the work place
or University, or perhaps in their home on the
TV and Internet. Your eyes, ears and thoughts
are constantly exposed to indecency wherever
you go. In fact, if a person doesn’t strive to
control what comes in, there is a fear such
indecency appearing in their actions.
The Prophet salAllahu „alayhi wasallam said; “There are seven whom Allah will shade in His Shade
on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the
worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two
men who love each other for Allah's sake, meeting for that and parting upon that; a man who is
called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but he says: 'I fear
Allah', a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his
right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allaah in private and so his eyes shed
tears.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Many of us have grown up in the West, so we know how valuable a person is who protects themselves.
The reason behind this is because it‟s tough! Not only are we exposed to it daily, rather its human
desire to want to be loved and when someone gives you attention –f or both men and women, it’s
natural to want to receive it and give it in return.
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So... What should I be careful of?
Where you’re at – Your location
Your environment determines your actions. It
either strengthens you or opens the doorway to
the whisperings of Shaytaan. Ultimately, if you
spend too much time in the wrong environment
you will become accustomed to certain
actions. I remember back in College on the one
hand we had the common room, which was the
pinnacle of haraam (...trust me when I say
everything happened there!) on the other hand
we had the prayer room, a small room yet cosy
in its own right (when they put the heating on
that is). Back then, I chose the quiet prayer
room over the buzzing common room due to
Al`Affaf and I spent the next two years sitting
there contemplating where I wished to go and
alhamdulillah due to this sacrifice, I believe
He jalla wa `ala has blessed me to be where I
am today.
You have a choice in where you wish to spend your time, so make your choices wisely.
The people you love – your Friends
You are on the mindset of your friends, so
watch who you befriend, as they will either be
a means of success, or a means to failure. A
good friend gives you the strength to abstain
from that which will harm you, they advise
you to do good and remind you to fear Allah
„azza wa jal.
So ya... Choose Your Companions Wisely!
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You’re went too far bro! - Exceeding the bounds
This is when you exceed that which is lawful, in other words - you go too far! You either talk too much
to the other gender and your thoughts escalate and feelings develop. Or you look too much and then
love at first sight becomes common. Perhaps you hear way too much for your own good! This may be in
the form of listening to the opposite gender and elongated discussions, or even in the form of listening
to haraam such as music; which causes you to desire that which is unlawful according to the Shari‟ah.
Allah „azza wa jal warns us of the tricks of Shaytaan. He says: “Satan promises them and arouses
desire in them. But Satan does not promise them except delusion.” [Surah Al-Nisaa, Ayat 120]
He just wants to distract you from your real purpose of life. His mission is to destroy you and lead you
to the hellfire, so don’t let him win.
So... How do you protect yourself? (Do you even need to ask?)
Marriage - One of the best ways to protect yourself in
this society is to get married. If you get married to the
right person for you, you’ve struck gold! If you can’t get
married, then you should fast as recommended by the
Prophet ‘alayhissalaatu wasalaam.
The Prophet salAllahu „alayhi wasallam said: "O young
people! Whoever among you can marry, should
marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and
guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from
committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and
whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting
diminishes his sexual power." [Bukhari]
DhikrAllah - Busy yourself in the remembrance of Allah „azza wa jal and if something comes up that
is indecent or will lead you on a slippy road say; “A`udhu Billaa Himminash Shaytaanir Rajeem” and
seek refuge in Allah from this act.
Avoid free mixing and Khalwah - If you want to
protect yourself, be weary of where you spend your time.
Prophet Yusuf „alayhissalaam was tested by „Aziz‟s wife,
in her desire for him she tried to seduce him. Yusuf
„alayhissalaam was emotionally strong hence he was able
to say “no” to her. This was due to his amazingly strong
connection with Allah „azza wa jal. He ran away from her
and he did this with stamina! We need to have stamina like
this in our lives. We need to run away from anything which
will cause us to disobey Allah „azza wa jal and with this
we will attain happiness in this World and the Hereafter.
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“I like her... I like him not.”
Choosing the Right Spouse
Imagine if you got married to the right person? :Like
seriously: They were right for you, not perfect - though
when you thought about it, they were perfect for you! Not
a Hero ready to cross an ocean to save you (even though
that would be nice I guess), nor an unbelievably beautiful
damsel in distress waiting to be rescued by you (but hey,
you can dream). Rather, someone who is willing to do
those small things which mean something special to you.
Now imagine if you got married to the wrong person. ....Yikes! Marriage won’t be perfect. This is why
it’s essential to choose a partner who will help you achieve a breakthrough in the times of trouble,
rather than someone that will be the cause of your break up!
Now hopefully you are aware that choice matters! Hence, the question arises what do you look for?!
Brothers - your turn to choose...
The Messenger of Allah salAllahu „alayhi wasallam said: “Life is a form is pleasure; and the best
form of pleasure in this life is a righteous women.” [Muslim]
You need to look at it from various perspectives and one is the Ummah. The Ummah is made of various
nations, each nation is made of various communities, in each community there is the family and the
core of the family is the woman. She is the cornerstone that will take this Ummah to success as she is
the mother of the future generations. Keep this in mind and let’s look at the criterion. (Though, hey...
Who said you can‟t have fun?! It‟s all parse in parcel of a happy family!)
“A woman is married for four things; her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religiosity. So
go for the one whom is religious, may your hands be filled with dust.” [Muslim]
This hadeeth shows that there are various reasons a person gets married and it doesn’t disregard them,
rather it makes religion the priority. However, when it comes to beauty Imam Ahmed rahimahullah
recommended that you ask about her beauty first and then her religion, because if he was not pleased
with her beauty, he would reject her based on this rather than her religion.
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Religious Commitment and Good
Character
Your future spouse needs to have fear of Allah,
they should remind you to remember Allah „azza
wa jal and uphold your religious obligations.
She’s gotta look good! - Beauty
You need to be attracted to the woman whom
you wish to get married too. Islam is practical
and it addresses the physical needs of a man.
Allah „azza wa jal wants you to have a beautiful
wife, because He jalla wa „ala wants you to be
content. However, everything is best received in
a beautiful package and without the correct
contents you will face problems later on. The
true winning is the religious commitment of the
woman, so make the basis of your final decision
her religious commitment, whilst ensuring
physical attraction is present.
Oh yeah... Don’t forget beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
Virginity
This is not a condition for marriage, however it’s recommended by the Prophet salAllahu „alayhi
wasallam to Jabir radiAllahu „anhu and example for others.
He salAllahu „alayhi wasallam said: “Should you not have married a virgin girl so she could play
with you, and you could laugh with her and she could laugh with you?” [Bukhari & Muslim]
She’s like me... She’s like me not! - Compatibility
Look for someone who is, well kinda like ya! These are the factors you should consider; age, language,
background, financial status, family status, social status, and whether you share the same goals and
objectives in life. ...The same sense of humour would help too!
Sisters - your turn to choose...
For women the Prophet salAllahu „alayhi wasallam gave some advise that is pertinent to your Wali, he
salAllahu „alayhi wasallam said:
“If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you, to marry your
daughter, them marry her off to him. If you don„t do so, there will be tribulation on the earth and
the great deal of evil.” [Tirmidhi]
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This hadeeth demonstrates the importance of religion and good character in a man, as well highlighting
that men shouldn’t be rejected on trivial matters if their Deen is up to scratch. Hence, for a women
it’s essential she knows what she wants in her future husband, so she can make this decision based on
what she needs to ensure she can give the best return and have a happy marriage.
When Musa „alayhis salaam fled from Egypt, he headed to Madyan, during his journey and thirst he
came across a well. Here he met two women who were waiting shyly on the other side for the men to
finish taking water, so they could feed their animals. Musa „alayhis salaam took it upon himself to help
these women. The women were so humbled, they requested him to meet their father and in turn,
through their interactions with him - we learn a lesson about what a man is.
Religious commitment
He is a Muslim and has TaqwAllah, fear of Allah. As a woman you have the right to refuse marriage to
someone who doesn’t fulfil the rights of Allah „azza wa jal, in terms of belief in the correct Aqeedah
and acting upon religious obligations.
Good Character
He needs to have good manners and his Emaan has to exemplify his outward experience. A woman who
marries someone with a good conscience who cares about others and their feelings will never lose out.
If she’s happy, it will please him and if things don’t work out at times, he will respect her feelings.
AlHasan bin `Ali was asked: “If I have a daughter
whom should I marry her to”. He replied, “Marry her
to the one who has Taqwa (fear) of Allah. If he
loves, he will honour, and if he doesn‟t like her he
will not abuse her.”
Musa „alayhis salaam was alAmeen; when he saw the
two women, he respected the fact that they were
sisters and lowered his gaze. This teaches us if a man
doesn’t go about his affairs correctly, especially in
regards to marriage in an honourable manner, then he
will run away the first chance he gets. (...and a guy like
this is not worth it).
A Hardworking Man
You don’t want to get married to someone who is lazy! Rather, your marriage should be based on
energy. Musa „alayhis salaam was a strong man. This was shown through his strength in helping the
women and in the process getting more water than they needed. In those times it was tough work and
Musa „alayhis salaam excelled in it.
Compatibility
Look for someone who is, well kinda like ya!
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Men are from Mekka & Women are from Medina
So you’re wondering... What do Mekka and Medina have to do with Men and Women?! (Surely there is
no comparison?). Ok, let me amaze you... Are you ready? (...And give me a chance - let’s analyse the
people around us to see how true this really is). :Steps foot into sunny Mekka:
Marriage will only flourish if you understand who you’re getting married to. Men and women are not
the same and once you understand the differences between you both - you can move onto a happier
marriage. So... What’s Mekka and Medina have to do with it?
The Land of Mekka & Medina
Mekka is a hard, dry land - Much like this, men are
generally dry and don’t know how to cry. If they do,
they don’t want to show it and instead keep all the
pain within them under the guise of masculinity.
Medina is soft, with water flowing beneath it and the
rain is consistent throughout its seasons - Which
reflects women who can easily cry and they’re not
scared to show their emotions. In fact, under the
guise of femininity they display their emotions
regularly.
Mekka has a harsh climate; it’s rough and known to be a mountainous area - Men’s beauty lies in their
masculinity, power strength and ruggedness. This is what makes them attractive and allows them to
lead effectively.
Medina is lush, full of splendour and serenity - Women are known to be peaceful, full of serenity and
their femininity makes them beautiful.
Mekka’s main emotion is `izzah, they are full of honour and will do anything to protect it. They like to
be respected and acknowledged, this is what motivates them to excel as individuals.
Medina is full of sukoon, the people are known for their softness. Women are generally more loving and
caring, they’re soft by nature and will generally give more than they receive.
Differences in Qur’anic verses
Mekkan verses are short, straight to the point and general.
Medinan verses are long, detailed and at times they keep going on, and on.
The above are very broad generalisations though I hope you get the point, they’re different. The
Qur’an is composed of both types and they’re both eloquent in their own beautiful way. In fact,
without one or the other the da’wah wouldn’t have succeeded and the Muslim community wouldn’t
have flourished. We need both verses in the Qur’an, as they add beauty to it and both are unique in
their own ways.
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Are Men and Women different?
There is no doubt that Men and Women are
physically different and the same applies to them in
a variety of aspects. Aadam was created for Hawaa
and she was created from his side illustrating the
need for each other and life would be incomplete
without the presence of the other.
Allah „azza wa jal has created us different and when
this is misunderstood, friction can occur between
husband and wife, or even in general interaction between both genders. Happiness in a marriage will
come from understanding the nature of the other, complimenting their differences, enjoying them,
reacting to them correctly, appreciating the diversity and accepting them for who they are.
How does this apply in the Western Society?
In most current societies, every man has some elements of Mekka present and some elements of
Medina within him. The same applies to women. Just like Mekka is overwhelmed with an influx of
Hujjaj every year, its flexibility allows it to cope with the stress and then bounce back to its normal
self. Similarly, men do cry and women do become less soft, they both show elements of masculinity
and femininity at times and this is acceptable. The only time Islam discourages this is when it’s taken
to an extreme.
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The Languages of Love
How Love is Interpreted Differently
So... Do you drive? Or are you taking driving lessons? If you have no idea what I‟m talking about, then
I‟m making an assumption you‟re too young to be reading this... :Back to the topic at hand: When you
first started the engine... How did you feel? A tad bit intimidated? ...Thought so! If I asked you; why
did you feel intimidated? The answer would have been: “I didn‟t know the language of this beautiful
machine! It‟s so complicated...”
Now once you’ve got the hang of it, if I asked you
to take the bus you’d be flabbergasted. In fact,
some of you can’t live without it now! The main
reason for this is because you learnt the language
of the car and once you mastered it, your love for
driving hit the roof top! For those who don’t
drive... Your time shall come... Your time shall
come inshaAllah.
Many problems occur in marriages because men
and women try and communicate with their other
half the way they communicate with their male or
female friends. At times they feel like they’re
speaking a different language to each other.
We need to understand what love is and how it is expressed and this is done by understanding the
languages of love. Once we know the languages of love, you can understand how one side gives love,
and how they wish to receive it.
So... What are these languages of love?
Spoken word
Have you heard of the statement; “Actions speak louder than words?” In
marriage this isn’t always the case. Actions don’t speak louder than words,
rather it’s your language of love, the random compliments, nice words,
appreciation for them as a person that matter to your spouse. Words like; “I
love you” do have an unbelievable effect and can bring positive changes in
your marriage if they are said consistently. That being said, many brothers
are too shy to say this to their wife and what they don’t realise that a woman
needs to be reassured over and over again that she is loved.
Take note of what you say to each other and take time out to say nice, loving statements to each other
consistently, and sincerely.
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My time, your time... Our Quality time
There is nothing better for the success of a marriage than good quality time with their spouse, it’s
something they desire and need. In fact, nothing screams out; “I love you” more than your undivided
attention for your spouse and nothing is more critical and hurtful for your spouse when you spend time
with everyone except them.
`Aisha radiAllahu „anha narrated that it was the custom of the Prophet Muhammed salAllahu „alayhi
wasallam, that he would speak to her from `Isha until late into the night, when it was dark as they had
privacy and no-one would disturb them. This was narrated to us in Saheeh Bukhari. Look how the
Prophet salAllahu „alayhi wasallam would spend time with his wife, he made her feel special. A woman
wants her husband to listen and they love him for it. Listening is a great tool to have and if a husband
wants the best out of their wife, by taking time to spend talking and in turn listen to her, he’ll gain her
love.
Gifts
Hold up... Hold up - Don’t mistake this language of love for materialism,
the one on the receiving end of the gift wants to know that you love
them, they thrive on effort you put into it and the fact that you were
thinking of them to buy them something in the first place.
The Prophet salAllahu „alayhi wa sallam said; exchange gifts, as that
will lead to increasing your love to one another. [Bukhari]
In Islam we are encouraged to give gits to each other. This hadeeth
shows that the purpose of giving the gift is to build the love between us
and who better to gain the love other than your spouse’s love?
When you give a gift to your spouse, it shows you want the other person
to be happy, even if it means spending your money and giving away your possessions in the process. It
also shows you have thought about the person and this has a great effect on the person receiving the
gift.
So, if you want to increase the love... You know what you have to do!
Physical touch
Commonly when people think of the physical side of marriage they always think of the bedroom, this
isn’t the case, in fact, for a women it’s far from it. A woman wants to be constantly reassured that she
is attractive and this is done by non-sexual physical gestures such as; a hug, holding hands, a touch by
her husband that is thoughtful, whether on the hand, shoulder or face. For women it shows that he still
loves her, whereas for a man - he loves his wife and at times may not see the importance of such
actions. If you understand the language of each other and this is something that applies to you or your
spouse - then acting upon it will help strengthen your relationship and thus your marriage.
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Conclusion
There you go, the all important 6 topics you need to know about marriage. However, there are many
more, this E-book is just a summary to get you started for the real journey, inshaAllah.
...Now the real journey begins... Bismillah!
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