WINTER 2014 AID F OR F RIENDS page 4 Aid For Friends 40th Anniversary FUNDRAISER ALDIE MANSION 85 Old Dublin Pike, Doylestown, PA Live Performance by duo from CURTIS INSTITUTE of MUSIC Catered by Moonstruck Restaurant Thursday, May 15, 2014, 6 PM to 9 PM Elegant Buffet, Silent and Chinese Auction Tickets $65 use order form on page 3 or call AFF at 215-464-2224 to order (Continued from page 1) I felt like I fell down a notch when I stopped visiting them, but working most evenings and many weekends at AFF required a break. Tom and Marge Price, an older couple from Our Lady of Calvary, took over. After Ms. Sooy passed away in 2005, they continued to visit the daughter. Looking back 40 years, I remember going to with piles of papers and stuff. The inside of her house was almost as cold as the winter day outside. She was totally unable to cope. The poor woman had been isolated for years and was very vulnerable. She did not bathe nor cook because she had many phobias. But dear Dorothy had neither food nor money. She received no support from her neighbors. She was utterly reliant on Mom for her physical and mental survival. The rat poison was on the table. Dorothy told Mom she was ready to end her life. The distressed elderly woman needed much more than meals. She taught Mom how important friendship was to an isolated homebound person and showed Mom the great impact Aid For Friends can have on a homebound person’s life. The lessons learned from Dorothy and other shut-ins shaped Aid For Friends. Everyone should have a friend. The personalities and situations of our cliour visitors what to expect. They decide whom, and where, they visit. For the past 40 years, our visitor volunteers have provided precious human contact to more than 14,000 isolated homebound persons. If you have never visited a shut-in, please consider it. just need food and friendship. It’s a good thing to do for humanity and it is a rewarding experience. Our homebound friends really do need your help! Steven M. Schiavone, Executive Director Thanks to all who helped with and attended (200 people) our 2013 Christmas/Holiday Party. The balloons were festive, the auctions were fun, the food was excellent, and the people were wonderful! www.aidforfriends.org Winter 2014 AID F OR F RIENDS Steven M. Schiavone, Executive Director 12271 Townsend Road, Philadelphia, PA 19154 215.464.2224 Fax 215.464.2507 VERY DIFFERENT CLIENT/FRIENDS While looking through a collection of Aid For Friends photographs on my computer, I came across pictures of an elderly woman I visited, Mrs. Sooy (and her special daughter). My mother was giving her presents as part of Aid For Friends’ 10 millionth Meal Celebration in 2001. I am sure Aid For Friends made a difference in their lives. Ms. Sooy’s chronic illnesses, including a severely under-active thyroid, had taken its toll on her body. The delicious homecooked Aid For Friends dinners made by our volunteer cooks were very important for the maintenance of her health. Mother and daughter were needy in some ways, but you would never know it. I enjoyed going to their home for visits. Their row home in Wissinoming was not in very bad condition. I remember a section of wall in the dining room covered with newer sheet rock. Ms. Sooy’s various health Rita Ungaro-Schiavone Awards Aid For Friends is a collaborative effort of many churches, synagogues, organizations; and many many teers at the 2013 Christmas Holiday Party. They are: Agnes Cifaldi – 25 years of volunteer service At the beginning of Aid For Friends, in the trailer at St. Jerome parish, she assisted Rita Knight in coordinating all AFF activities at St. Dominic’s in Holmesburg. Agnes has been preparing issues, family history, area history, distant relatives, prior jobs, and prior homes were topics of conversation. The good people of Wissinoming Presbyterian Church were a frequent topic too. They provided moral and material support. Despite being frail, Mrs. Sooy was never at a loss for words. I am more of a listener, so it worked well. Visiting the homebound gave me a newfound appreciation for being able to get up, walk, and generally move about. It made me realize that not everybody has this gift and what a great gift it is. Helping others who can’t get around seemed like the least that I could do. But I got more than do-good feelings. The Sooys made me feel important, accepted, wanted and needed. They never knocked me in any way. They always made me feel welcome. Who received more from the visits? In this case that was an open question. (Continued page 4) dinners with group cookings at St. Dominic parish for the past 17 years. For many years, St. Dominic had two cooking groups each week. Last year they prepared more than 12,000 dinners for the needy homebound. Margaret Kratowicz - 14 years of volunteer service Peg has supported Aid For Friends as a dedicated visitor volunteer to many shut-ins, bringing them meals and offering them compassion for years. unteer and donor. She and her daughter-in-law have donated many beautiful dolls to our Silent Auctions over the years. Many charities spend large percentages of donations on administration and fundraising and less on their program services. At Aid For Friends, 93 percent of each dollar donated is used to serve the needy frail elderly and disabled homebound. If you can give without hardship, please send a donation so that we may continue our free meals and services. AID F OR F RIENDS FOUNDER’S COLUMN “I looked up in wonder at God’s wonderful ways and thought how little we imagine what may be the result of listening and acting on a desire God puts into the heart.” St. Katharine Drexel Dear Friends, When I had started writing the column for this newsletter, I was really feeling good. The previous week my oncologist at Fox Chase Cancer Center had given me the news that there were no remaining traces of cancer from the Stage IV metastasized lymphoma. I believe God still wants me to serve. I said I was feeling good, but it was one of my “pain days” from arthritis and the injuries from the 15 falls I had experienced over the past several years. But I know I am blessed that every day is not a “pain day”, and my faith in Our Lord has taught me “to accept the things I cannot change”. (St. Francis of Assisi) I thought of the book I had ago, Faces on My Journey. I vividly remember the chapter I wrote after reading Dr. Victor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, which detailed his life while he was incarcerated for 2 ½ years in Auschwitz and three other death camps during WW II. During his imprisonment, this Austrian psychiatrist counseled other prisoners and gave them a “why” to live. (“He who has a ‘why’ to live can bear with almost any ‘how’”.) This brilliant Jewish man who led a “saintly life” had maintained faith and hope, and was an admirable, compassionate person who offered himself and his talents to the other prisoners in the concentration camp. He taught his fellow prisoners to courageously sublithe other prisoners - or for their religious beliefs. Just after WW II Frankl began using the nomenclature “self-transcendent” for the ability of an individual to rise above and beyond one’s self and commit one’s being in love to the service of others. I believe that during the seasons of Hanukkah and Christmas Dr. Frankl’s book is appropriate because theology tells us that God’s will is man’s wellbeing. If we choose to reach outside of ourselves and perform good works, perhaps we can turn our own misfortunes into something positive. I have often thought about this as a part of Aid For WINTER 2014 page 2 AID F OR F RIENDS WINTER 2014 Aid For Friends 2014 Lottery Calendar $25 Friends philosophy we have all experienced – in some manner – the depth of human suffering. Because of this, we can empathize and identify with the pain of others. And because the remission of our pain is so gratefully received, with God’s Grace, we can be motivated to mitigate the suffering of others. That is my philosophy and really, what Aid For Friends is all about. I looked through the different chapters of my book, each preceded by an appropriate quotation that related to the story of the homebound men and women I had visited. They have all gone home to God now. They were hungry and sick but through the Grace of the Lord, Aid For Friends, with the help of so many volunteers and donors, brought change to their lives. Home cooked dinners…weekly friendly visits…I really did learn to love each of these needy shut-in men and women I visited. I thank Our Lord and His Miracle of Aid For Friends’ free outreach services. Now…our charity is the only one that will provide free daily dinners to the disabled and frail elderly homebound at no cost for as long as needed – usually until the end of their time of earth - which is why we MUST continue to reach out to those who have no one. They…the homebound men and women NEED US – NOW AND TOMORROW - until their Father in Heaven calls them home. I pray for each of you: “May the Lord bless and keep you, The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you, The Lord look upon you kindly and give you peace.” Numbers 6: 24-26 Rita Ungaro-Schiavone, Founder, Chairman A recommendation: If you have not done so already, you may want to purchase a copy of the book, Faces on My Journey or my second book, Please Remember Me, as gifts. Please help spread Aid For Friends story. Donation: $7.00 each or two books for $10.00. S&H: $2.00 each: $2.50 for 2 books (100% of sales goes to Aid For Friends) A UCTION I TEMS N EEDED Aid For Friends Cooks’ Seminar that you no longer wear? Are you downsizing your home and have valuable artwork, vases, china, or silverware that you really don’t want or need? Their value could help Aid For Friends continue our free services to hungry, isolated homebound people. Do you have a vacation time-share or event tickets from a subscription that you can spare? These items can 320 East Swamp Rd., Doylestown, PA 18901 Chef Karen McGinn and Nutritionist (in clinical rotation) Felicia Porrazza will discuss ways to prepare tion, and lower salt content for our client/friends. Contact Karen at [email protected] or Tuesday, April 8th, 6:30 - 8:30 PM Doylestown United Methodist Church 215-766- 0372 for details. page 3 126 chances to win (March - December). Where else can you can get that? Choose a 3 digit number. PRIZES RANGE FROM $25 TO $300. Winning numbers are the PA Daily Number Lottery (7PM), straight. The days you can win are marked with a prize amount. If your number matches the Daily Number, you win that prize. Make your donation check payable to “Aid For Friends.” Credit Cards: call Tina at 215-464-2224 ext. 14. . Reserve your lucky number NOW! Name: Send to: Aid For Friends, 12271 Townsend Road, Phila, PA 19154 Address: City: Phone: I want Calendars @ $25 each: $ Email: Four alternate numbers: State: . Requested Numbers: Tickets For Aldie Mansion Fundraiser, May 15th, 2014: I want Zip: AFF 40th Anniversary Fundraiser Tickets @ $65 each: $ Rita Ungaro-Schiavone Awards (from page 1) . (see pg. 4) the gift room (to be given to other homebound) before each holiday. Evelyn Rogers – 30 years of volunteer service Evelyn has been coordinating Aid For Friends’ activities at St. Vincent de Paul for more than 30 years. St. Vincent’s parish now serves as an Urban Meal Center and Evelyn continues to Marianne McGuire - 20+ years of volunteer service work at serving the needy, Marianne began by visiting shut-ins in the Kensington disabled and frail elderly area, driving there from her home in Conshohocken, homebound in the Germantown area. Evelyn has often took her young daughter along on these voluncoordinated various means teer visits. Marianne is a Special Education teacher of support and activities for and brings her class of mentally challenged students Aid For Friends’ ministry to the Aid For Friends production kitchen (pictured in her parish and the two other local parishes that above) to help prepare and package dinners for our have closed and merged with St. Vincent. Evelyn needy shut-ins. graduated from college with a degree in Social Work, Dori & Jesse Michalak –13 yrs of service enabling her to work well with our shut-ins. Dori and her husband, Jesse, have championed Aid Al Savoni – 20 years of volunteer service For Friends’ activities at St. John Cantius Al (pictured with Rita) for many years. The parishioners at St. John Cantius, at Aid For Friends 20 years ago, when he retired from under the leadership of Dori and Jesse, have been his job. Al was an extraordinary volunteer visitor very active in serving the homebound in the entire who was a “jack of all trades”. He not only delivBridesburg area (where Dori also does evaluations for ered their dinners weekly but also cooked soups for possible new client/friends). She has organized group them, shopped cookings at her parish – which was featured in the and did cleaning Philadelphia Inquirer. Since the neighboring parish, and maintenance All Saints, closed, Dori has undertaken to serve those jobs in their needy homebound who had been served at the former house and yard, parish as well. and also took Ruth Polchek- 31 years of volunteer service home and did the laundry for Friends. She helped Rita when visiting one of the inisome shut-ins. tial shut-ins, Dorothy. Ruth traveled from her home He visited a total in King of Prussia into the Frankford area of Philaof seven shut-ins delphia to visit Dorothy. for many years, until they went home to God. Al reShe often purchased members a shut-in’s comment, “Aid For Friends and warm nightwear for her in addition to bringing as a visitor volunteer to the homebound as virtually the dinners to her. Ruth a full-time job. Al no longer volunteers regularly brought bags of items for because he is a devoted caregiver for his wife. AID F OR F RIENDS FOUNDER’S COLUMN “I looked up in wonder at God’s wonderful ways and thought how little we imagine what may be the result of listening and acting on a desire God puts into the heart.” St. Katharine Drexel Dear Friends, When I had started writing the column for this newsletter, I was really feeling good. The previous week my oncologist at Fox Chase Cancer Center had given me the news that there were no remaining traces of cancer from the Stage IV metastasized lymphoma. I believe God still wants me to serve. I said I was feeling good, but it was one of my “pain days” from arthritis and the injuries from the 15 falls I had experienced over the past several years. But I know I am blessed that every day is not a “pain day”, and my faith in Our Lord has taught me “to accept the things I cannot change”. (St. Francis of Assisi) I thought of the book I had ago, Faces on My Journey. I vividly remember the chapter I wrote after reading Dr. Victor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning, which detailed his life while he was incarcerated for 2 ½ years in Auschwitz and three other death camps during WW II. During his imprisonment, this Austrian psychiatrist counseled other prisoners and gave them a “why” to live. (“He who has a ‘why’ to live can bear with almost any ‘how’”.) This brilliant Jewish man who led a “saintly life” had maintained faith and hope, and was an admirable, compassionate person who offered himself and his talents to the other prisoners in the concentration camp. He taught his fellow prisoners to courageously sublithe other prisoners - or for their religious beliefs. Just after WW II Frankl began using the nomenclature “self-transcendent” for the ability of an individual to rise above and beyond one’s self and commit one’s being in love to the service of others. I believe that during the seasons of Hanukkah and Christmas Dr. Frankl’s book is appropriate because theology tells us that God’s will is man’s wellbeing. If we choose to reach outside of ourselves and perform good works, perhaps we can turn our own misfortunes into something positive. I have often thought about this as a part of Aid For WINTER 2014 page 2 AID F OR F RIENDS Friends philosophy we have all experienced – in some manner – the depth of human suffering. Because of this, we can empathize and identify with the pain of others. And because the remission of our pain is so gratefully received, with God’s Grace, we can be motivated to mitigate the suffering of others. That is my philosophy and really, what Aid For Friends is all about. I looked through the different chapters of my book, each preceded by an appropriate quotation that related to the story of the homebound men and women I had visited. They have all gone home to God now. They were hungry and sick but through the Grace of the Lord, Aid For Friends, with the help of so many volunteers and donors, brought change to their lives. Home cooked dinners…weekly friendly visits…I really did learn to love each of these needy shut-in men and women I visited. I thank Our Lord and His Miracle of Aid For Friends’ free outreach services. Now…our charity is the only one that will provide free daily dinners to the disabled and frail elderly homebound at no cost for as long as needed – usually until the end of their time of earth - which is why we MUST continue to reach out to those who have no one. They…the homebound men and women NEED US – NOW AND TOMORROW - until their Father in Heaven calls them home. I pray for each of you: “May the Lord bless and keep you, The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you, The Lord look upon you kindly and give you peace.” Numbers 6: 24-26 Rita Ungaro-Schiavone, Founder, Chairman A recommendation: If you have not done so already, you may want to purchase a copy of the book, Faces on My Journey or my second book, Please Remember Me, as gifts. Please help spread Aid For Friends story. Donation: $7.00 each or two books for $10.00. S&H: $2.00 each: $2.50 for 2 books (100% of sales goes to Aid For Friends) A UCTION I TEMS N EEDED Aid For Friends Cooks’ Seminar that you no longer wear? Are you downsizing your home and have valuable artwork, vases, china, or silverware that you really don’t want or need? Their value could help Aid For Friends continue our free services to hungry, isolated homebound people. Do you have a vacation time-share or event tickets from a subscription that you can spare? These items can 320 East Swamp Rd., Doylestown, PA 18901 Chef Karen McGinn and Nutritionist (in clinical rotation) Felicia Porrazza will discuss ways to prepare tion, and lower salt content for our client/friends. Contact Karen at [email protected] or Tuesday, April 8th, 6:30 - 8:30 PM Doylestown United Methodist Church 215-766- 0372 for details. WINTER 2014 page 3 THERE ARE NO LOTTERY CALENDARS AVAILABLE Aid For Friends 2014 Lottery Calendar $25 NOT AVAILABLE 126 chances to win (March - December). Where else can you can get that? Choose a 3 digit number. PRIZES RANGE FROM $25 TO $300. Winning numbers are the PA Daily Number Lottery (7PM), straight. The days you can win are marked with a prize amount. If your number matches the Daily Number, you win that prize. Make your donation check payable to “Aid For Friends.” Credit Cards: call Tina at 215-464-2224 ext. 14. . Reserve your lucky number NOW! NOT AVAILABLE NOT AVAILABLE NOT AVAILABLE Name: Send to: Aid For Friends, 12271 Townsend Road, Phila, PA 19154 Address: City: Phone: I want Calendars @ $25 each: $ Four alternate numbers: Email: State: NOT AVAILABLE . Requested Numbers: NOT AVAILABLE Tickets For Aldie Mansion Fundraiser, May 15th, 2014: I want Zip: AFF 40th Anniversary Fundraiser Tickets @ $65 each: $ Rita Ungaro-Schiavone Awards (from page 1) . (see pg. 4) the gift room (to be given to other homebound) before each holiday. Evelyn Rogers – 30 years of volunteer service Evelyn has been coordinating Aid For Friends’ activities at St. Vincent de Paul for more than 30 years. St. Vincent’s parish now serves as an Urban Meal Center and Evelyn continues to Marianne McGuire - 20+ years of volunteer service work at serving the needy, Marianne began by visiting shut-ins in the Kensington disabled and frail elderly area, driving there from her home in Conshohocken, homebound in the Germantown area. Evelyn has often took her young daughter along on these voluncoordinated various means teer visits. Marianne is a Special Education teacher of support and activities for and brings her class of mentally challenged students Aid For Friends’ ministry to the Aid For Friends production kitchen (pictured in her parish and the two other local parishes that above) to help prepare and package dinners for our have closed and merged with St. Vincent. Evelyn needy shut-ins. graduated from college with a degree in Social Work, Dori & Jesse Michalak –13 yrs of service enabling her to work well with our shut-ins. Dori and her husband, Jesse, have championed Aid Al Savoni – 20 years of volunteer service For Friends’ activities at St. John Cantius Al (pictured with Rita) for many years. The parishioners at St. John Cantius, at Aid For Friends 20 years ago, when he retired from under the leadership of Dori and Jesse, have been his job. Al was an extraordinary volunteer visitor very active in serving the homebound in the entire who was a “jack of all trades”. He not only delivBridesburg area (where Dori also does evaluations for ered their dinners weekly but also cooked soups for possible new client/friends). She has organized group them, shopped cookings at her parish – which was featured in the and did cleaning Philadelphia Inquirer. Since the neighboring parish, and maintenance All Saints, closed, Dori has undertaken to serve those jobs in their needy homebound who had been served at the former house and yard, parish as well. and also took Ruth Polchek- 31 years of volunteer service home and did the laundry for Friends. She helped Rita when visiting one of the inisome shut-ins. tial shut-ins, Dorothy. Ruth traveled from her home He visited a total in King of Prussia into the Frankford area of Philaof seven shut-ins delphia to visit Dorothy. for many years, until they went home to God. Al reShe often purchased members a shut-in’s comment, “Aid For Friends and warm nightwear for her in addition to bringing as a visitor volunteer to the homebound as virtually the dinners to her. Ruth a full-time job. Al no longer volunteers regularly brought bags of items for because he is a devoted caregiver for his wife. WINTER 2014 AID F OR F RIENDS page 4 Aid For Friends 40th Anniversary FUNDRAISER ALDIE MANSION 85 Old Dublin Pike, Doylestown, PA Live Performance by duo from CURTIS INSTITUTE of MUSIC Catered by Moonstruck Restaurant Thursday, May 15, 2014, 6 PM to 9 PM Elegant Buffet, Silent and Chinese Auction Tickets $65 use order form on page 3 or call AFF at 215-464-2224 to order (Continued from page 1) I felt like I fell down a notch when I stopped visiting them, but working most evenings and many weekends at AFF required a break. Tom and Marge Price, an older couple from Our Lady of Calvary, took over. After Ms. Sooy passed away in 2005, they continued to visit the daughter. Looking back 40 years, I remember going to with piles of papers and stuff. The inside of her house was almost as cold as the winter day outside. She was totally unable to cope. The poor woman had been isolated for years and was very vulnerable. She did not bathe nor cook because she had many phobias. But dear Dorothy had neither food nor money. She received no support from her neighbors. She was utterly reliant on Mom for her physical and mental survival. The rat poison was on the table. Dorothy told Mom she was ready to end her life. The distressed elderly woman needed much more than meals. She taught Mom how important friendship was to an isolated homebound person and showed Mom the great impact Aid For Friends can have on a homebound person’s life. The lessons learned from Dorothy and other shut-ins shaped Aid For Friends. Everyone should have a friend. The personalities and situations of our cliour visitors what to expect. They decide whom, and where, they visit. For the past 40 years, our visitor volunteers have provided precious human contact to more than 14,000 isolated homebound persons. If you have never visited a shut-in, please consider it. just need food and friendship. It’s a good thing to do for humanity and it is a rewarding experience. Our homebound friends really do need your help! Steven M. Schiavone, Executive Director Thanks to all who helped with and attended (200 people) our 2013 Christmas/Holiday Party. The balloons were festive, the auctions were fun, the food was excellent, and the people were wonderful! www.aidforfriends.org Winter 2014 AID F OR F RIENDS Steven M. Schiavone, Executive Director 12271 Townsend Road, Philadelphia, PA 19154 215.464.2224 Fax 215.464.2507 VERY DIFFERENT CLIENT/FRIENDS While looking through a collection of Aid For Friends photographs on my computer, I came across pictures of an elderly woman I visited, Mrs. Sooy (and her special daughter). My mother was giving her presents as part of Aid For Friends’ 10 millionth Meal Celebration in 2001. I am sure Aid For Friends made a difference in their lives. Ms. Sooy’s chronic illnesses, including a severely under-active thyroid, had taken its toll on her body. The delicious homecooked Aid For Friends dinners made by our volunteer cooks were very important for the maintenance of her health. Mother and daughter were needy in some ways, but you would never know it. I enjoyed going to their home for visits. Their row home in Wissinoming was not in very bad condition. I remember a section of wall in the dining room covered with newer sheet rock. Ms. Sooy’s various health Rita Ungaro-Schiavone Awards Aid For Friends is a collaborative effort of many churches, synagogues, organizations; and many many teers at the 2013 Christmas Holiday Party. They are: Agnes Cifaldi – 25 years of volunteer service At the beginning of Aid For Friends, in the trailer at St. Jerome parish, she assisted Rita Knight in coordinating all AFF activities at St. Dominic’s in Holmesburg. Agnes has been preparing issues, family history, area history, distant relatives, prior jobs, and prior homes were topics of conversation. The good people of Wissinoming Presbyterian Church were a frequent topic too. They provided moral and material support. Despite being frail, Mrs. Sooy was never at a loss for words. I am more of a listener, so it worked well. Visiting the homebound gave me a newfound appreciation for being able to get up, walk, and generally move about. It made me realize that not everybody has this gift and what a great gift it is. Helping others who can’t get around seemed like the least that I could do. But I got more than do-good feelings. The Sooys made me feel important, accepted, wanted and needed. They never knocked me in any way. They always made me feel welcome. Who received more from the visits? In this case that was an open question. (Continued page 4) dinners with group cookings at St. Dominic parish for the past 17 years. For many years, St. Dominic had two cooking groups each week. Last year they prepared more than 12,000 dinners for the needy homebound. Margaret Kratowicz - 14 years of volunteer service Peg has supported Aid For Friends as a dedicated visitor volunteer to many shut-ins, bringing them meals and offering them compassion for years. unteer and donor. She and her daughter-in-law have donated many beautiful dolls to our Silent Auctions over the years. Many charities spend large percentages of donations on administration and fundraising and less on their program services. At Aid For Friends, 93 percent of each dollar donated is used to serve the needy frail elderly and disabled homebound. If you can give without hardship, please send a donation so that we may continue our free meals and services.
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