ISSUE 3
FEBRUARY 2012
DEAR MS. ROSENFELD
CANDLEBROOK ELEMENTARY SCHOOL
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Dear Ms. R,
A friend of mine keeps
picking another girl in our
class to be her partner.
Me and my other friend
feel left out. What should
we do?
try not to cry in front of
my friends because I
don’t want to be embarrassed. I don’t even want
to cry in front of my best
friend. What can I do to
feel better?
Left Out, 3rd Grade
Missing
Mom, 2nd
Grade
Dear Left Out,
Dear Missing Mom,
It’s okay to feel sad and
maybe a little mad that
your friend is spending
time with someone new.
You might even feel a little bit jealous that your
friend isn’t making
enough time for you. Try
to find a game or activity
that all four of you can
do together. You can
also let your friend know
how you are feeling. She
might not realize how it
makes you feel when she
chooses to play with
someone else. If you try
to talk it out, you might
find that your friendship
will get stronger!
You are really brave for
sharing how sad it makes
you when you don’t get
to see your mom. Maybe
you and her can talk
about ways to be in
touch even when she is
at work. She might be
able to send you an email
or call you during a
break. If you miss her
when you are at home,
try to find something in
your house that reminds
you of your mom. Even
though you don’t want
your friends to see you
cry, sometimes talking to
a friend is the best thing
you can do. Your friends
might be able to make
you feel better, or they
might even be having the
same problem. You’ll
never know until you try
to talk to them! Good
Sincerely,
Sincerely, Ms. R
Dear Ms. R,
I don’t get to see my mom
because she works a lot,
and I really miss her. I
luck!
Sincerely, Ms. R
Dear Ms. R,
I broke my favorite
present and I’m sad.
My parents said if my
dad can’t fix it I will
have to earn the
money to pay for a
new one. It really
hurts and I don’t like
it. What can I do?
Toy Trouble, 2nd
Grade
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Dear Toy Trouble,
Your parents are trying to teaching you a
great lesson about being responsible for
your things. You can
try to help your dad
fix the part of the toy
that is broken. You
can also ask your parents if you can help
out around the house
to earn the money. It
might not be fun now,
but you’ll feel really
great when you’ve
worked hard for the
toy you are playing
with!
Sincerely,
Ms. R
Inside this issue:
Feeling Left Out
1
Missing Mom
1
How Can We Help?
1
Interrupting
2
Tackling Teasing
2
Don’t Bite the Hook
2
DEAR MS. ROSENFELD
Page 2
More Ms. R...How can we help?
Dear Ms. R,
A boy in my class keeps bothering me. He always jumps
into the conversation when I
am talking to a friend and I
don’t like it. What can I do?
Sincerely,
Interruption
Frustration, 3rd
Grade
Dear Interrupted,
It sounds like you are very
frustrated with this person.
You can start by letting him
know that it bothers you
when he interrupts. Try to
explain to your classmate
that one rule for having a
conversation is people taking
turns with one another. You
can also show him how it
feels to be interrupted. Try
acting it out or practicing
with him so that he understands what it feels like
when someone interrupts
him. If that doesn’t help, be
sure to talk to your teacher
about it. He or she might
be able to speak to your
classmate as well. Good
luck!
proud of who you are and
how you look! Remind
yourself (and maybe tell
those that are teasing
you) that everyone is different and that is what
makes us all special. You
can ask the people teasing
you how they might feel if
you teased them about
something they couldn’t
change. Remind your
classmates about the
Golden Rule, “Treat Other
the Way You Want to be
Treated.” You can also
use some of the teasing
strategies that are listed
down below. If the teasing still doesn’t stop, let
your teacher or Ms.
Rosenfeld know. Stand
tall (in spirit!) and be
proud of the way you look!
Sincerely, Ms. R
Dear Ms. R,
Everyone is calling me short.
I know I am small but there
isn’t anything I can do about
that, can you help me?
Sincerely,
Small Problem, 4th Grade
Dear Small Problem,
No one likes to be teased,
especially if it’s about something you can’t change. Be
Sincerely, Ms. R
Words to the Wise by Ms. Rosenfeld: Tackling Teasing
Dear Ms. R gets a lot
of notes about kids
teasing other kids.
Teasing doesn’t make anyone
feel good. When we are
teased we either think that
something is wrong with us,
or we thing that the other
person is trying to be mean
to us. There are lots of reasons WHY someone might
tease, but here are some
things to try if it happens to
YOU:
•
•
Don’t bite the hook.
When someone teases
you, they are trying to
reel you in! Don’t bite.
Be a Free Fish. If someone starts teasing you,
you can try to walk
away, spend time with
other friends, make a
joke, or come up with a
line to let them know
that the teases don’t
bother you. Just remember that even if they are
teasing it doesn’t make
it okay to tease back.
If you have teased someone:
•
Think before you speak or
act. “Sorry” doesn’t take
away the teasing words
that were said. Next time,
think about the consequences or
how someone might
feel BEFORE you
do or say
something.