How Assertive Are You?
For each situation, check Yes or No to indicate what you would be most likely to do.
YES
NO
SITUATION
1.
When a family member makes a request that you feel is an imposition, do
you tell them no?
2.
If a friend betrays a confidence, do you tell that person how you feel about
it?
3.
If you share a home with others, do you insist they do their share of the
work?
4.
When a store clerk waits first on someone who came in after you, do you tell
them?
5.
Would you be comfortable asking a good friend to lend you twenty dollars?
6.
If someone annoys you with continual teasing, do you tell them that it
bothers you?
7.
If someone keeps kicking the back of your seat in a movie, do you ask them
to stop?
8.
If a friend keeps calling you at an inconvenient time, will you ask them to call
at a different time?
9.
If someone borrows twenty dollars and forgets to pay you back, will you
remind them?
10. If someone interrupts when you’re speaking, do you ask them to wait till
you’re finished?
11. In an expensive restaurant, would you return a dinner that was quite
overcooked?
12. If a repair person working in your home did a bad job, would you call the
company to report it?
13. If you buy a piece of clothing and find that it is damaged, will you return it?
14. If you disagree with a coworker about a work issue, will you let them know?
15. If your boss comes up with a stupid idea, will you point out the possible
problems?
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The more “yes” answers you gave, the more assertive you are.
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If you filled up the “no” column, then you likely could benefit from some assertiveness
training.