TEMPLE BETH AHM YISRAEL VOL. XLXV NO. 9 JUNE 2015 Sivan—Tammuz 5775 Rabbinic Reflections Mark Mallach Senior Rabbi [email protected] Cecelia Beyer Associate Rabbi [email protected] Richard Nadel Cantor Emeritus Susan Blanco President [email protected] Tracey Shenker Executive Director [email protected] Julie Bernstein Early Childhood Director [email protected] Beth Sandweiss JFS Social Worker [email protected] Dana Langerman Bookkeeper [email protected] Ro Dobkin Administrative Assistant [email protected] Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 60 Temple Drive Springfield, NJ 07081 Phone 973-376-0539 Fax 973-376-5478 www.tbaynj.org (especially how long are we forbidden Are We Torah Jews? Calendar Unification for the Pilgrimage from eating Hametz) have not yet been Festivals with Israel – Part 2 resolved. Therefore, the next attempt to unite ourselves with Israel will be for the As a congregation we are exploring period of Sukkot, Shemini Atzeret (a how we can be more in solidarity with separate biblically mandated holiday the liturgical calendar of Israel. Your appended to the end of Sukkot) and feedback on this process is always wel- Simhat Torah (a separate rabbinical come. Last month we celebrated the mandated holiday appended to the end Festival of Shavuot for only 1 day. of Shemini Atzeret). The original reason for adding an extra day to Jews living in the Diaspora was communicating the exact date each of these holidays was to begin. However, the ability to easily insert calendar dates nullify this reason, but did not end the practice based on rabbinic politics. For the upcoming liturgical year 5776 the observances of Sukkot, Shemini Atzeret and Simhat Torah will occur as follows: Sukkot • Erev Sukkot – 9/27 • Yom Tov Sukkot One – 9/28 • Hol HaMoed Sukkot – 9/29, 9/30, 10/1, 2, 3 (includes Hoshannah Rabah) • Yom Tov Sukkot Seven – 10/4 For Jews living outside of Israel, and as a power move by the declining Palestinian Rabbinate in response to the growing dominance by the Babylonia Rabbinate in the period of the 4th Century C.E., it was mandated that in the Dias- Shemini Atzeret & Simhat Torah pora we add one extra day to each of • Erev Shimini Atzerert & Erev Simhat those three festivals. Torah (combined in Israel) – 10/4 • Yom Tov shel Shemini Atzeret As indicated in last month’s Bulletin, we (includes Yizkor) – 10/5 did try to do this for one year several • Simhat Torah – 10/5 years ago, but it became confusing and complicated to many, specifically due to Rabbi Mark Mallach Pesah. The issues surrounding Pesah TEMPLE BETH AHM YISRAEL MINYANIM Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael needs you to help assure our commitment to provide a Daily Minyan, every day, twice each day, 365 days a year. Monday-Friday 7:00 am* Saturday 9:30 am Sunday 8:55 am *Legal Holidays 9:00 am Sunday-Thursday 7:45 pm Saturday 10 minutes past candle-lighting Friday 6:30 pm or 8:00 pm Our minyan policy is that TBAY members are asked to attend daily minyan, morning and evening, on the date of their birthday each month, meaning you would be at minyan 12 days/year. Having a minyan allows members the opportunity to say kaddish for their loved ones. There is no dress code for minyan—come as you are, but PLEASE COME! Page 2 OFFICERS 2015—2016 President Susan Blanco 973-379-1744 Exec. 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Your response was humbling, and the Board and I thank you! To some of you, this may sound like a program reserved for “the 1%,” but in reality it’s not. What the committee and I learned from our training is that there are many ways that one can participate in this program, and participation doesn’t necessarily involve a big commitment. For example, you can choose to leave a small percentSo given what this community means to age of your 401K, IRA, life insurance, stock you, what if I told you that there was a way or real estate holdings. This program truly for you to help provide for TBAY’s future is for almost everyone. security, including items such as enhanced programming and improvements to our In addition, once you commit to a gift, you building that did not involve writing a will become a member of the Legacy Socicheck? ety. As a member of the Society you will be recognized both publicly (on our brick walk, The program I am describing is called Cre- website and Bulletin) and through special ate a Jewish Legacy (CJL), and it is the events, including recognition at our Instalmost accessible way to support Temple lation Shabbat service and a brunch with Beth Ahm Yisrael that we have ever em- our leadership and clergy. Yes, we will barked upon. CJL is a program funded by treat you like a “big donor” for your committhe Grinspoon Foundation to encourage ment now, to ensure the future of TBAY those in the Jewish Community to support later. Our first recognition event is coming our organizations. As we have previously up the weekend of June 12. mentioned, TBAY is one of 15 organizations in our community chosen to partici- It is not too late to be a part of the first Sopate in this program, which includes exten- ciety event. You can contact our chairman sive training and grant incentives. The Gene Gorrin to start learning how you can “hook” with this program is that we are be part of the Create a Jewish Legacy Solooking to you to leave something to TBAY ciety. Please consider participating -- it’s from your estate when you will no longer easier than you might think! need it. In return, we will honor you for that commitment now in a meaningful and public manner. Susan Blanco CONGREGATIONAL MEETING Wednesday, June 10 at 7:45 pm Please attend to vote on the Budget, Temple Trustees and a Constitutional Amendment creating a new standing committee *Deceased Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 3 From Our Associate Rabbi Last month I had the privilege of joining a mission of rabbis from the Federation of Greater MetroWest New Jersey to Israel. It was a whirlwind experience: I left on a Saturday night just before midnight, arrived Sunday evening, and was thrown right into programming in Jerusalem that didn’t stop until Thursday evening in Tel Aviv. We saw many parts of the country and met with many different people along the way. This was not a sightseeing tour, but rather, a “mission,” charged with engaging rabbis from our area with Israel, learning about issues facing the state and the people today, and meeting with people in different minority communities. We also spent a day in Ofakim, our MetroWest partnership town in the Negev, in which we got to see first hand the difference our federation makes in the lives of the people there. We met with current and former members of Knesset and discussed some of the challenges of being a “Jewish” state but also being pluralistic and democratic. We met with Israeli Jews of Ethiopian origin and discussed the current state of race relations and minorities in Israel. We met with Druze clerics near the border with Lebanon in the village of Horeif (also a partnership village) and learned about the life of the Druze so close to the border. We also visited the areas in the Negev that were hard hit during the war last summer, and saw some of the equipment used to disarm rockets and keep residents in the south safe. framed in its opening and closing with a reminder of the “dream.” We got off the plane and headed straight for the Herzl Museum in Jerusalem. Herzl, a dreamer who worked tirelessly in a very difficult reality, never gave up on his dream. He never lived to see it. He sadly died well before any of the modern state of Israel came to be. But, like the man who plants a carob tree knowing it will take 70 years to bloom and he will never taste of his fruits, Herzl planted the seeds anyway. He allowed himself to dream and simultaneously worked towards making that dream a reality. After a week of examining that reality, we ended our program with a trip to the Hall of Independence in Tel Aviv, in which David Ben Gurion, years after Herzl planted those seeds, saw them bloom on May 14, 1948, and declared the State of Israel into existence. For me, this frame surrounds all that is Israel. Israel is imperfect. Israel is still growing. There are many challenges to being a state just shy of seventy years old in the modern world. Yet the dream is still alive and growing. And as Herzl famously wrote, “If you will it, it is no dream.” What I take away from too brief a week in Israel is that there are challenges Israel faces and many things to overcome on the road to blooming into the best country it can be. But the seeds have been planted, and the dream still frames everything that happens there. And with that dream to guide us, we The trip was multi-faceted, and I look forward know that if we will it, it will no longer be just a to sharing so many things with you. But one dream. thing in particular I want to share is the frame Rabbi Cecelia Beyer of the trip. While we were exploring Israel the reality, on the ground, in 2015, with all the challenges she faces, the experience was Torah on Tap with Rabbi Mallach Thursday, June 11 at 7:45 pm Join Rabbi Mallach for Torah study in a relaxed, casual and comfortable atmosphere It’s Happening at TBAY in JUNE Early Childhood Program Pre-K Celebration ShabbatALIVE! Milestone Shabbat Congregational Meeting Torah on Tap Installation Dinner Installation Shabbat Legacy Society Recognition L’Dor VaDor Rededication Looking to Immerse, Interact, or Imbibe? Join Rabbi Cece for Legacy Society Brunch Miriam, Midrash, and Mojitos Miriam, Midrash & Mojitos A Modern Women’s Torah Study! Wednesday, June 24 at 7:45 pm (No need to RSVP) Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 4 PAVE THE WAY Campaign Have your personal brick installed in the entrance walkway to the Temple and the path leading into the Holocaust Garden to leave a lasting impression on the synagogue and the community. Recognizing and Honoring Our Legacy Society Members As the first year of our participation in the Create a Jewish Legacy program winds down this month, we are pleased to announce two special events celebrating those individuals who have made legacy gifts to the Temple and become members of the inaugural class of the TBAY Legacy Society. Our first event is the Recognition of Legacy Society Members and is part of the Friday, June 12 Shabbat Service, which also includes the installation of Temple trustees and Women’s League and Men’s Club officers and trustees for the coming year and the re-dedication of the L’Dor VaDor Recognition Wall. Each Legacy Society member will be thanked by name before the congregation and will receive his or her Legacy Society membership certificate from the bima. All are welcome to attend this joyous occasion. The second event is our first annual Legacy Society Recognition Brunch. The brunch is limited to TBAY Legacy Society Members and is on Sunday, June 14 from 11:00 am to 1:00 pm. There is still time to make a legacy gift this year and be recognized and honored. If you are interested in becoming a member of our Legacy Society, but are unsure how to make a legacy gift, please contact me. Gene Gorrin Legacy Committee Chair 908-686-7686 or [email protected] Your donation for each 4X8 engraved brick is $180. Each brick can have up to 3 lines of text in Hebrew and/or English. Any additional brick dedication after the first is $136 each. Your support is greatly appreciated and will be a lasting tribute. Come to the TBAY lobby and see some of the bricks people have ordered. For more information contact Dana Langerman at 973-376-0539, ext. 12 or [email protected]. To order online, go to www.polarengraving.com/TBAYPavetheWay SAVE THE DATE SUNDAY EVENING, OCTOBER 18 TEMPLE BETH AHM YISRAEL and RACHEL COALITION host MARISKA HARGITAY star of Watch your mail for more details Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 5 Please join us for the 2015 P r es i d e n t’s D i n ne r Friday, June 12 at 6:30 pm followed at 8:00 pm by Shabbat Services and the Installation of Trustees of the Temple and Officers and Trustees of Women’s League and Men’s Club with Recognition of Legacy Society Members and L’Dor VaDor Donor Wall Rededication Adults $18 Children $9 The service is open to all, but an RSVP for the dinner is necessary. RSVP to the Temple Office by noon Wednesday, June 3! Questions? [email protected] or 973-376-0539, ext. 11 Send check payable to TBAY to 60 Temple Drive, Springfield, NJ 07081 INSTALLATION 2015 Friday, June 12 at 8:00 pm Temple Trustees 2015—2018 David Biebelberg Matt Glass Janice Reznick Debbie Neher Paul Teller Men’s Club Officers & Trustees Co-Presidents Marvin Bram David Glass Ken Melman VP Good & Welfare Bernard Flashberg VP Membership Elliot Merkin VP Programming Matt Glass Treasurer Steven Taub Recording Secretary Jack Matalon Trustees: Alan Braunstein Gene Gorrin Paul Teller David Chait Warren Frank Robert Modlinger Paul Peyser Joseph Tenenbaum Sam Wenocur Women’s League Officers Co-Presidents Helen Jenys April Modlinger Programming VPs Jane Lakritz Sharon Kornspan Membership VP Julie Scherzer Fundraising VP Ilene Shewitz Treasurer Lynn Haliczer Financial Secretary Esther Avnet Recording Secretary Jill Aroeste Dues Secretary Beth Hersh Social Secretary Debbie Shai Corresponding Sec’y Irene Goldie-Petras A VERY SPECIAL SHABBAT FRIDAY, JUNE 12 at 8:00 pm I N S TA L L AT I O N Temple Trustees Women’s League Officers Men’s Club Officers & Trustees L ’ D O R VA D O R Dedication of Recognition Plaque for all Donors Update of Wall of Recognition LEGACY SOCIET Y Recognition of Legacy Society Members (also at Brunch on Sunday, June 14) JOIN US IN CELEBRATION! Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 6 Opportunities For Congregants To Lead Services The summer presents a great opportunity for our congregants to participate in services both by leading liturgical sections and doing divrei Torah (a sermon/thoughts on the weekly Torah or Haftorah portion). Preparatory help is always available. Here are the various roles to be taken on and some general guidelines. • • Friday evenings: Lead services – give a sermon. Sermons are not always linked to the weekly Torah portion Saturday mornings: Lead 1 or more sections of the service: chant from the Torah, chant the Haftorah or give a d’var Torah (a closer link to the weekly Torah or Haftorah portion) Guidelines for giving a Sermon or d’var Torah Focus on only one topic. If you try to deal with the entire portion, the message can get lost in the ocean of Torah Length is ten to twelve minutes maximum. Professor Rabbi Neil Gillman taught his students that if you can’t get your message across in 10 minutes for a Shabbat d’var Torah, then your message will not get across in a longer period of time. If you are interested, please contact Rabbi Beyer, [email protected], for the liturgical sections and Rabbi Mallach, [email protected], for the divrei Torah. CONGRATULATIONS!! The Temple family extends hearty congratulations to these families on their recent life cycle events and other special occasions Lisa Harris Glass and David Glass on the Bar Mitzvah of their son Jonah Julie Kravetz and Ron Eibschutz on the Bat Mitzvah of their daughter Mia Jean Maloratsky on her 100th Birthday Susan and Daniel Preston on the engagement of their son Jared to Stephanie Drexel Join us for the Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael Annual Summer Shabbat Barbeque Friday, August 7 at 6:30 pm followed by Services Under the Stars at 7:30 pm $12 per Adult $6 per Child (Ages 3—13) RSVP by sending in your check and the names of those attending to TBAY at 60 Temple Drive, Springfield, NJ 07081, or contact the Temple office at [email protected] RSVP Deadline is Tuesday, July 28 Special thanks to Fern and Jerry Steinberg for organizing this event KIDDUSH SPONSORS Thank you to those who sponsored a Saturday morning Kiddush Julie Kravetz and Ron Eibschutz, in honor of Mia’s Bat Mitzvah Lisa Harris Glass and David Glass, in honor of Jonah’s Bar Mitzvah Lois and Larry Horwitz, in honor of the naming of their granddaughter Lyla Horwitz, daughter of their son Stephen and his wife Joanna Hazak, in honor of Hazak Shabbat Page 7 Early Childhood Program We have had such a wonderful school year. I am so blessed to see all these children each day. I enjoy watching the children play, learn and interact with one another. A few of the children entered our program in the Almost 2s class and a few joined us this past September. As they get ready to leave our program and head off to kindergarten, I know they have grown into kind and loving children. Dear Julie, We wanted to let you know what a great day Hunter had on his "class trip" to Israel. After coming back from Israel, he then went to my school. All he could do was talk to my students about his incredible trip!! Riding a camel, going on the airplane (and having a snack), seeing both the Negev and Dead Sea were definitely some of the highlights of his trip. He told everyone that he even put a message into the wall asking for a cleaner world!! One of the things I enjoy as an early childhood educator is seeing the changes in the children from year to year. Much more than just receiving the strong beginnings of a Jewish education, they have learned about themselves as confident responsible school children. I will miss the smiles and beautiful faces. I will miss all the help they gave me each Shabbat, by helping me sing. I will miss hearing their voices in the hallway. We can't thank you and his teachers enough for such a wonderful school year. Hunter has learned so much, is always happy to go to school and absolutely loves his teachers. Thank you for instilling the love of learning and exposing him to so many new and important concepts that he will need as he begins kindergarten next year. I want to share a letter I recently received. It sums up the great program we have at TBAY. Julie Bernstein, Director Though he has so many wonderful memories of his years at TBAY, the Israeli trip will definitely be one that tops his Mazal Tov to the class of 2015! Best of luck to Brandon list!! Now Mason can't wait to go on his trip and see the Baron, Emma Blank, Julia Brendell, Charlotte Caggiano, same sights Hunter has been talking about! Jonah Callahan, Ariel Epstein, Jake Haber, John Hart, Jack Kessler, Abigail Munshine, Shawn Niederhoffer, Hunter Thank you again for all the love you give to our grandchilRaymond, Jacob Rosenfeld, Lyla Siderman, Emily Tiger dren and all the children in your school. You are all the and Jesse Weinberg. May you grow from strength to best!!! strength. May you always experience the best life has to Fondly, Sharon and Louis Weinstein offer. Come by and visit us. Come Follow the Band! With these words, P.T. Barnum, in the musical of his life story, encourages each and every one of us to let our “feet beat time to the drum” and let our hearts “go rat-a-tat-tat!” Barnum knew the importance of color, music, and the pure joy that comes with joining in a live musical celebration. On a certain level, the circus master may have been encouraging each of us to find joy in the every day and find color in the monochrome of our routine lives, but he was also a fan of actual bands. ties to join our Friday night Shabbat ALIVE! Band! The more the merrier! And so it is in P.T. Barnum’s legacy that I ask you to join us! Come follow the TBAY band! Do you play an instrument? Do you sing? We are looking for musicians, percussion players, and singers of all shapes, sizes, colors, and abili- Don’t be shy – raise your baton high, grab your sousaphone, and join the TBAY band! All are welcome, grade six through adult. For more information contact Rabbi Beyer at [email protected] In the ancient Temple in Jerusalem, the Levites formed an orchestra, playing instruments and harmonizing to heighten the prayer experience of the pilgrims who came to worship at the holiest site. We, too, can bring music to our prayer experience to heighten our prayers and bring it that much closer to God’s Holy Presence. But we can’t do it without you! Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 8 Religious School & Teen Institute seeing you all again in the fall! I would also like to take a moment to thank all of those who have helped make this year in the Religious School so fabulous. Truly, we are a team, and together we do amazCan it really be the end of the school year already? And ing things. what a school year it has been! I can honestly say that I have thoroughly enjoyed each moment in the hallways of ♥ Thank you to the teachers, whose combined talents our school, learning and conversing with our students! Our and dedication make this school a special place. theme this year, celebrating the ruach (spirit), lev (heart) and ometz (courage) of each one of our Shorashim stu♥ Thank you to the teen madrichim: Elana Neher, Ari dents has opened our eyes to the ways each of us can be Scherzer, Ben Scherzer, Alanna Margulies, Lexie a mensch and the different ways our Jewish heart, mind, Brooks, Ethan Blanco, Zach Blanco, and Matthew and spirit impacts everything we do. Goldstein for all the work they do behind the scenes, from cleaning the office, running copies and supplies to And boy, did we do a LOT! As a school we’ve celebrated each classroom, assisting in instruction, helping make the holidays together, prayed together, performed skits and a minyan, schmearing bagels and setting up the Purim schpiels together, sang, danced, and learned in so “starbucks” store – we couldn’t run this school without many ways. you! I’ve enjoyed singing and dancing with each of you, answering your thoughtful questions, and finding ways to “do Jew- ♥ Thank you to our team of mini-minyan leaders who ish” together in everything we do. I’ve enjoyed hearing help teach and lead our youngest students in prayer about your trips to museums, the Jewish books you’ve each Shabbat morning: Justin Cohen, Ari Scherzer, read, the way you’ve welcomed people into your homes Ben Scherzer, Alanna Margulies, Josh Friedman, and and learned family chicken soup recipes. I love all the silly Elana Neher. photos I’ve captured of each of you doing Jewish (and doing “silly,” too). To my students I say: Thank you for all of your energy, humor, and enthusiasm. I look forward to ♥ Thank you to Heather Lowy, our new school administrator who keeps me on my toes and makes sure the sharing it all with you next year! school runs smoothly every day. And speaking of next year, I want to congratulate the graduates of Kitah Zayin for an amazing year – I’ve en- ♥ Finally, thank you to the parents who help schmear joyed watching many of you become b’nai mitzvah, and I bagels, pick up project supplies, make Costco runs, look forward to watching you grow as you continue your and help out with all the things that make our school Jewish journey in Teen Institute and USY in the coming great. I am so blessed to know all of you. years! I wish everyone a relaxing summer full of all the little moAnd to the teens of Teen Institute, Amy and I wish you a ments that bring you joy together with your family. To those fantastic summer filled with incredible learning (and relax- going to camp – have a great time at camp! Send me your ing!) opportunities. We hope you continue to “do Jewish” address so I can send you a note! I look forward to hearing and remember to “validate” those around you. Any time all about your summer adventures! See you in September! you’re faced with a “tough Jewish question,” know you can turn to us for advice and resources. Lastly, never forget the Rabbi Cecelia Beyer power of your kindness and your smile. We look forward to Going to Camp or on a Teen Program? Send Us Your Address! Who doesn’t love getting mail? Let us know where you’ll be and when you’ll be there so we can send a letter! Both Rabbi Mallach and Rabbi Cece would welcome the opportunity to send a note. All you need to do is forward the address (email or snail mail) and the dates you will be away to Rabbi Mallach at [email protected] and Rabbi Beyer at [email protected] Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 9 Congregational Nurses such as disappointing or unwanted. While not positive, these words can lead to discussion about what’s happenWe all can smile at cartoons of a small ing and what decisions need to be made. child like Dennis with an apologetic expression and a report card behind If you can, use the term “useful news.” This connotes comhis back saying something to a parent fort and is empowering. Routine use of friendly but truthful like ”My teacher says I have a large language may prevent unnecessary distress. Truth sets potential for improvement.” This car- one free, even if at first it may be upsetting. It may toon expresses something that even strengthen fortitude, courage and hope, all good things with children know: less than wonderful which to approach a problem. It will work in families and in news can be delivered in “user friendly” language. the wider community. HOW YOU SAY THINGS MATTERS Think of the medical fields. A patient is told her scans are Subtle changes in language can help keep peace in famiclean. Could she think that other scans are dirty or vulgar lies and in the wider community. Let’s internalize this skill or polluted? NED is sometimes used. That means “no evi- and model it for our children. dence of disease.” NED can jumpstart the fear of recurrence. An alternative might be “clear scans.” Unlike “clean,” Jaclyn Herzlinger, RN and Andrea Cook, RN the antonyms for “clear” are fairly harmless and bring to mind a fresh start or a clear path. Call us if we can help you at 973- 376- 0539, ext. 27 If things aren’t going well, instead of “bad,” think about inserting an adjective for news that taps into shared emotion, Caring Committee This is a note written by the daughter of one of our visitees following a visit from a member of the Caring Committee and myself. I omitted the names to respect confidentiality. The committee member knew the daughter and her father many years ago and renewed the acquaintance at our visit. In Memoriam The Congregation extends sympathy to those who have sustained a loss in their family Renee Berkowitz who lost her beloved mother Bessie Katz "I just got off the phone with my dad - he is SO HAPPY! He enjoyed your and April's visit. He said you were so nice--gave him hugs and kisses. I'm so appreciative for your visit and the Caring Committee. Thanks for the Purim goodies, as well. What a mitzvah. Thanks so much." That says it all! Please let us know if you are aware of someone in the synagogue community who is in the hospital or might benefit from making a new friend. You can call me or the Temple office. Paul Berkowitz who lost his beloved grandmother Bessie Katz May the spirit of love, which is everlasting, bring solace to the sorrowing hearts of our congregants and their families. April Modlinger, Chair 973-715-3457 Baruch Dayan Ha’Emet Praised be the true Judge MILESTONE SHABBAT On Milestone Shabbat you have an opportunity to observe a milestone event in your family that occurs in that month: a birthday, wedding anniversary, bar/bat mitzvah anSaturday, June 6 niversary, memorial commemoration, by co-sponsoring a Saturday morning Kiddush. With your donation of $36 you will be listed in the Shabbat program as a Milestone Shabbat sponsor. You and your family are encouraged to attend services that morning and be recognized from the bima. You may list as many milestones as you wish. It is $36 for each one. Send in your information to the Temple office or contact us by Tuesday, June 2 to participate. What a great way to support our synagogue and acknowledge important milestones in our lives! Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 10 Oneg Shabbat Sponsors We sent a Jewish Welcome to the World package to: Thank you to those who sponsored a Friday evening Oneg Shabbat Leah Rose Cohen, great-granddaughter of Wally Werner, granddaughter of Elise and Robert Goldblat, born to their daughter Jessica and her husband Matt Julie Kravetz, in honor of Mia’s Bat Mitzvah Lisa Harris Glass and David Glass, in honor of Jonah’s Bar Mitzvah If you would like to share a simha or just share with your friends at Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael by sponsoring an Oneg Shabbat, Contact Executive Director Tracey Shenker at [email protected] or 973-376-0539, ext. 13. B ’ N A I M I T Z V A H S P O T L I G H T Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael is proud to announce this Bat Mitzvah Becca Smith, daughter of Tracy and Michael Smith, Saturday, June 13, 2015 at 9:30 am All are welcome to attend services and share this simcha! Pardes Beth Ahm Yisrael ~ The Grove of Beth Ahm Yisrael A Cemetery on the Grounds of the Menorah Section of East Ridgelawn Cemetery in Clifton, New Jersey Member Prices 1 Plot 2 Plots 3 to 5 Plots 6 or More $ $ $ $ 1,800 1,600 each 1,500 each 1,350 each Non-Member Prices 1 Plot $ 2,150 2 Plots $ 1,900 each 3 to 5 Plots $ 1,800 each 6 or More $ 1,600 each Other Cemetery Pricing* Beth Israel $ 3,500 Mt. Lebanon $ 3,500 King Solomon $ 2,300 B’nai Abraham $1,800 – $ 2,300 * For comparison, prices as of April 2015 Only those of the Jewish faith as defined by the Conservative movement may be buried in this cemetery. Final determination for eligibility is under the direction of Rabbi Mark Mallach at Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael. For more information or to obtain an application contact Tracey Shenker at [email protected] or or 973-376-0539, ext. 13. Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 11 Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael Gratefully Acknowledges these Donations Sam Eisenberg by Lewis Eisenberg Thank you for your minimum donation of $10 RABBI BEYER’S FUND In Appreciation of Rabbi Beyer by Kim and Joshua Braun ADULT EDUCATION FUND In Memory of Lillian Eisenman by Marvin Weisman Martha Hazen by Julie and Lawrence Gelb Norman Alexander by Kathy and Howard Alexander Arthur Kantrowitz by Gloria and Norman Starr TEMPLE DONATIONS In Memory of Naomi Warner by Miriam Carchman Harry Chetkin by Deborah and David Chait RABBI MALLACH’S FUND Eileen Eglow by In Appreciation Barbara and Alvin Eglow Susan and Allen Todres Clare Gerstein by Laurie Gerstein and David Graber In Memory of Sabina Rubin by Edward Fischbein by Laurie Gerstein and David Graber Ella and Stephen Fischbein Thelma Graber by Fannie Rabinowitz by Martha Lefkowitz Laurie Gerstein and David Graber Seymour Schimmel by Betty Schimmel Helen Davis by Abraham Miller by Laura and David Goldberger Lynne and Howard Guss David Silver by Carol Jacobowitz Lillian Simons by Ann Rapport by Philip Malvin Sandra and Joseph Simons Isidore Mauer by Steven Mauer Nathan Kulpe by David Pustilnik by Sandy and Stanley Bruder Mimi and Bob Pustilnik Laurence Lefkowitz by Martha Lefkowitz Bob Shrank by Barbara Shrank Epstein Regina Weinberg by Ron Mazur by Ilene and Peter Shewitz Rose Widom Goldman and Sam Samuel Friedman by Goldman Leah and Alfred Stein Pauline Silver by Morris Ashin by Claire Todres Gina Russomanno and Ron Silver Joseph Todres by Claire Todres Harry Allinson by Martha Ashin by Claire Todres Myrna and Jules Wasserman David Zurav by Frankie Zurav Seymour Cutler by Clarice Cutler Gertrude Goldberg by Pearl Nadler by Clarice Cutler Marilyn and George Zapolitz Estelle Lasky by Clarice Cutler Robert Roth by Elaine Roth and Family Bruce Cohen by Brenda Cohen Yetta Jacobs by Ada Jacobs Louis Dultz by Brenda Cohen Martha Sherman by Barbara Pivnick by Eileen and Richard Sherman Sheila and Jack Usdin Rose Horowitz by Fanny Barnes by Meri, Keith, Robert & Jill Kurzner Sadha and Robert Barnes Harold Samuels by Diana Blum by Janice and Alan Prefer Geri and Joie Babrowsky Samuel Eisenberg by Ilene and Lou Perl Laura Rabinowitz by Eleanor Manders Kenneth Sklar by Helen Cooper Anna Laufer by Charlotte Goldstein In Memory of Wolfe Goldberg by Sandra and Joseph Simons CARING COMMITTEE FUND In Memory of Rose Kesselman by Irma Zeller Gladis Danon by Arlette Cohen Gladis Dannon by Rosy Benno Florence Alexander by Kathy and Howard Alexander CONGREGATIONAL NURSE PROGRAM In Memory of Arthur Goldie by Irene Goldie-Petras COLLEGE CONNECTION FUND In Memory of Anna Laufer by Babe and Sy Greer EARLY CHILDHOOD FUND In Memory of Barbara Halper by Sonia and Curt Rosenberg Jean Friedman by Helen Scharf HAZAK In Memory of Minnie Stiller by Edith Stiller Marilyn Laster by NJ Dep’t of Transportation Staff HOLOCAUST EDUCATION ENDOWMENT In Memory of Hyman Steller by Rita Linder Gertrude Levine by Irwin Rochlin Steven Schneier by Sara and Rich Kurtzman Jack Schwartz by Arthur Metz Lillian Kappstatter by Bobbie Goldman PRAYER BOOK DEDICATIONS In Memory of Isadore Gold by Ellen and Stephen Fischbein Dora Cohen by Rita and Harold Cohen Aaron Grossman by Stanley Grossman Ingrid Neubauer by Anita, Jeff, Alex and Matt Neubauer RELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND In Memory of Minnie Steinberg by Barbara and Marvin Steinberg ROSALIE MILLMAN MEMORIAL FUND In Memory of Morris Ashin by Bobbe and Phillip Pomp Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org YIZKOR DONATIONS In Memory of Lena Eagle and Theodore Eagle by Max Feldman Selma, Fannie,Sol and Bennie Feldman by Max Feldman Beim, Levy and Millinger Families by Harriet Beim Page 12 Mazal Tov to Our Graduates We take special pride and joy in extending good wishes to those in our Temple family who are receiving college and graduate degrees. Sara Berkowitz, daughter of Marcy and Robby Berkowitz, BS in Biology and Sociology and Certificate in Public Health from University of Colorado Sean Berkowitz, son of Leisa and Glen Berkowitz, BS in Neuroscience from Duke University Jared David Kaplan, grandson of Roslyn Bernstein Charnes, BS in Exercise and Movement Science from University of Vermont Leighona Bernstein, granddaughter of Barbara and Al Eglow, BA in Business Agriculture from Oklahoma State University Rebecca Frank, daughter of Sheri and Warren Frank, BS in Elementary Education and BS in Special Education from Syracuse University Adam Frank, son of Sheri and Warren Frank, JD from New York Law School Ronald Herman, son of Tamar and Leonard Herman, BA in Criminal Justice with a minor in Judaic studies from SUNY Albany Eric Kerstein, son of Karen and Gary Kerstein, and grandson of Selma Ross, BS in Business Administration from Drexel University, Bow College of Business Jamie Stagl, granddaughter of Halina and Leon Kleiner, PhD in Clinical Psychology from University of Miami Kevin Lakritz, son of Jane and Jon Lakritz, BS in Accountancy from The College of New Jersey Heather Langerman, daughter of Dana and Peter Langerman, MBA from Duke University, Fuqua School of Business Matthew Neubauer, son of Anita and Jeff Neubauer, BS in Engineering with a major in Computer Science and minor in Mathematics from University of Michigan Noah Peyser, son of Diane and Paul Peyser, PhD in Molecular Pharmacology from the University of Pittsburgh Kaitlin Petras, granddaughter of Irene Goldie-Petras and George J.Petras III, BA from Savannah College of Art & Design Matthew Shenker, son of Tracey and Jordan Shenker, BA in Philosophy and a minor in Psychology from University of Virginia Jessica Tenenbaum, granddaughter of Muriel and Joe Tenenbaum, BA in Government from the College of William and Mary Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 13 WOMEN’S LEAGUE Co-Presidents’ Message Summer is fast approaching (yeah!) and our Women’s League programming for this year has come to a close. We’ve had some wonderful events and saw many new faces this year. We want to thank everyone who planned, coordinated and attended our events, fundraisers and meetings and hope to see you again in the fall. Thank you again to everyone on the Board and to all our members for your hard work and support this past year. If you would like to help with any programs or committees, please call Lynn, Beth, Helen or April and we will be sure to get you involved! Enjoy your summer and look for next year’s membership mailing in July or August. Our Donor Dinner, the last event of the year, was well attended and enjoyed by all. We had a delicious meal and visited with friends while enjoying some soothing jazz entertainment. All had a lot of fun! Thank you to everyone who worked so hard all year to earn their donor credit and for supporting Women’s League. Many thanks to Esther Avnet and Julie Scherzer for putting this evening together and to Susan Teller for recording all our donor credit. Remember to buy vouchers and tribute cards over the summer to begin earning donor credit for next year’s event. Mark Your Calendar SAVE THE DATE . . . Upcoming Meetings: Final Board Meeting: Thursday, June 11 Temple, MC and WL installation: Friday, June 12 Earn your donor credit: GIFT CARDS: We now have Costco, Whole Foods and Trader Joe’s in addition to Shop Rite and Kings Temple Office Irene Goldie-Petras (908) 964-0998 Ilene Shewitz (973) 376-7418 Our annual Ad Calendar is coming up. Look for this year’s TRIBUTE AND TAPESTRY CARDS: information in the mail. PLEASE HELP by getting ads from Lori Citrin (973) 912-8022 (for bulk last year’s supporters and finding some new ones for 2015and regular cards) 2016. This is our biggest fundraiser of the year and we April Modlinger (973) 218-9174 need everyone to help. With 75% donor credit, this is a Lynda Goldman (908) 378-5168 Marlene Moss (973) 379-1788 very easy way to accumulate your credit for next year. Contact Ilene Shewitz, (973) 376-7418, with questions. Beth Hersh Next year we will have a new Board. See the Installation page for the incoming officers. [email protected] or 973-564-8130 Lynn Haliczer [email protected] or 973-376-0451 Co-Presidents WOMEN’S LEAGUE SUMMER BOOK CLUB TUESDAY, JULY 21 at 7:00 pm CERTAIN GIRLS by JENNIFER WEINER SUSAN TELLER’S HOME 1003 CHIMNEY RIDGE DRIVE, MOUNTAINSIDE LIMIT 20 people RSVP to Susan Teller, [email protected] or (908) 233-0092 Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 14 WOMEN’S LEAGUE Please call any of these people to Claire and Marc Allinson, Loss of send Tribute Cards or Tapestry Cards. Elisse Lori Citrin Lynda Goldman April Modlinger Marlene Moss 973-912-8022 908-378-5168 973-218-9174 973-379-1788 Buy Tribute Cards to mail yourself. Ten cost $20. Contact Lori Citrin at [email protected] or 973-912-8022. Myrna and Jules Wasserman Shelley Nord, Loss of Rose Parish Helen Cooper Charles Beyer, Father of Rabbi Cece Beyer Martha Lefkowitz Jack Usdin, Loss of Sister Barbara Lynn and Howard Guss Irving Lubman, Loss of Sister Marlene Moss Riva Windnew’s Daughter Sally Elissa and Yale Greenspoon Rose Goldman, Happy Birthday Barbara and Al Eglow Kathy and Kenny Boosin, Bat Mitzvah of Granddaughter Margerie Debbie Freeman Mr. and Mrs. V. Mendelson, 50th Anniversary Marlene and Bob Freeman Memorial Jackie Gershman, Loss of Sister Ilian Rose and Sam Goldman Golden Jerry Zering, Loss of Wife Sandy Andrea and Glenn Wohl, B’nai Mitzvah Esther Avnet of Janna and Brandon Renee Berkowitz, Loss of Mother Lois and Stan Kaish Bessie Katz Sally and Michael Zuckerman, Good Esther Avnet Luck in New Home Golden Jill Aroeste Lois and Stan Kaish Marilyn and Dan Garlen, Daughter's Aimee and Ira Perlman Rabbi Mallach, Birthday Wishes Engagement Kim Ashton, Loss of Grandmother Helen Cooper Rose and Sam Goldman Natalie Rabbi Mallach, Complete Recovery Fern and Jerry Steinberg, Grandson Jill Aroeste Martha Lefkowitz Ari's Engagement Deborah Schneider, Loss of Mother, Rhea Feldman, Granddaughter Rose and Sam Goldman Grandmother and Great-Grandmother Emma's Bat Mitzvah Blanche and Phil Meisel, Solomon Jill Aroeste Helen Cooper Schechter Honor Beth Softness, Loss of Kevin's Father Rose and Sam Goldman Debbie Freeman Memorial Andrea and Glenn Wohl, B'nai Mitzvah Joan Cummings, Loss of Husband Jim Neil Share, Loss of Elisse of Janna and Brandon Marlene and Bob Freeman Myrna and Jules Wasserman Ilene and Peter Shewitz Rebecca Alexander, Loss of Father Esther Avnet Cecile Fern gtÑxáàÜçVtÜwá gÜ|uâàxá Women’s League Now is the time to begin work on the annual Ad Calendar, one of our largest fund raisers. This project is coordinated by Women’s League. You will receive ad blanks and cover letters in an upcoming mailing. As always, it is your active participation that guarantees our success. Ilene Shewitz & Lois Kaish, Co-Chairs Sally Zuckerman, Honorary Chair Judaica Shop 30% Off In InStock Items! Mezzuzah parchments & memorial lights are excluded from sale. NO DONOR CREDIT ON SALE ITEMS If you have an upcoming Wedding or B'nai Mitzvah we can order Kipot, Talit & Tefillin Purchases from our Judaica Shop earn Donor Credit! (Except sale items and mezzuzah scrolls) Call Caren at 973 973467 4679058 or Marlene at 973 973379 3791788 SUPPORT WOMEN’S LEAGUE AND TEMPLE BETH AHM YISRAEL Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 15 JUNE 2015 Sivan— Sivan—Tammuz 5775 5 Friday Shabbat ALIVE! Service Candle Lighting 6:30 pm 8:07 pm 6 Saturday Shaharit Milestone Shabbat Babysitting & Blessings Havdalah 9:30 am 9 Tuesday Men’s Club Meeting 13 Saturday 10:30 am 16 Tuesday 9:07 pm 19 Friday 7:00 pm 10 Wednesday Congregational Meeting Temple Board Meeting 7:45 pm 20 Saturday 7:45 pm 11 Thursday 7:45 pm 8:00 pm 21 Sunday 12 Friday Women’s League Bd. Mtg. Torah on Tap Shaharit 9:30 am Bat Mitzvah of Becca Smith Babysitting & Blessings 10:30 am Havdalah 9:11 pm Religious Affairs Comm. Mtg. 7:45 pm Shabbat Service Candle Lighting 8:00 pm 8:13 pm Shaharit Babysitting & Blessings Havdallah 9:30 am 10:30 pm 9:13 pm Father’s Day President’s Installation Dinner 6:30 pm 24 Wednesday Shabbat Service with Legacy Society Recognition and L’Dor VaDor Wall Rededication 8:00 pm 26 Friday Candle Lighting 8:10 pm 27 Saturday Executive Committee Mtg. Miriam, Midrash & Mojitos 7:45 pm 7:45 pm Shabbat Service Candle Lighting 8:00 pm 8:14 pm Shaharit Service Babysitting & Blessings Havdalah 9:30 am 10:30 am 9:14 pm Men’s Club 50/50 Raffle Sponsored by the NJ Federation of Jewish Men’s Clubs: Please buy a book of raffle tickets for $18, or even an individual raffle for only $2. This is one of our most important Men’s Club fundraisers this year. If you need more books contact Marvin Bram at 908-6885993 or Elliot Merkin at 908-884-4754. Men’s Club Softball: The season for the TBAY Men's Club softball team is underway. New players are always welcome as long as you are at least 18 years old. We play Sunday mornings from late April until early August. Please contact softball program director Warren Frank at [email protected] or 908-598-0172. We wish our team a successful season! High School Holocaust Scholarships (May 28, 2015): Each year our Men’s Club provides two scholarships to Jonathan Dayton graduating students who have taken a Holocaust-related course and written an essay on a topic that we provide. Our program chairman, Bernie Flashberg, and several of our Men’s Club trustees have reviewed many student essays. This year’s winners are Daniel Bas and Julia Rechner. The scholarships were presented at the awards event on May 28, 2015 at the High School. This year we also presented a special award to Mary Cokeing, the Jonathan Dayton teacher who has supervised this program during the past 10 years. The two award winners read their essays at TBAY at the conclusion of the Friday night services on May 15. Men’s Club Dues – Last Notice: We are in the final stage of wrapping up our current year dues campaign for the 2014 /2015 fiscal year. Thank you to those who already joined. For others, please pay your $30 annual dues now. Next Men’s Club Meeting is Tuesday, June 9: Our meeting starts at 7:30 pm with an optional dinner at 7:00. Call Elliot Merkin at 908-884-4754 for food reservations no later than Sunday, June 7. Marvin Bram, David Glass, Ken Melman Co-Presidents Temple Beth Ahm Yisrael 973-376-0539 tbaynj.org Page 16 • Unsure about how secure Israelis, Americans, and our allies will be if the current agreement is signed? You're invited to attend this meeting to hear the facts from experts and learn how you can impact the outcome. Tuesday, June 2 • 7:15 p.m. Alex Aidekman Family Jewish Community Campus • 901 Route 10, Whippany, NJ • Concerned over the apparent disconnect between Israel, our Arab Allies, the U.S Congress, and the Administration? · Confused by the barrage of differing opinions in the media? For more information, contact [email protected] or (973) 929-3064. Free and open to the public. 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