Communicating in Stressful Situations Dan Dreves & Kathleen Roebuck Houston Financial Aid Conference 2016 March 3rd & 4th 2016 Today’s Objectives • Discuss effects of stress on processing information • Identify methods of effective communication • Review techniques for dealing with stressful communications • Delve into financial aid case scenarios using these methods Is Financial Aid in itself “Stressful”? • In the Financial Aid World, we have an acronym for everything • Speaking about finances is extremely personal and uncomfortable • The process, no matter how simplified it is, is complex • Rarely do students read the specifics- so there is a knowledge gap Ability To Retain Info When Stressed • Stress can reduce the ability to process information by up to 80%. • When people are stressed, they… • tend to remember most what they hear first and last • understand information at four grade levels below their educational level • actively look for visual/graphic information to support verbal messages • Need 3-4 positives to overcome 1 negative Dr. Vincent Covello as reported by Forbes on 10/03/2013 http://www.forbes.com/sites/kenmakovsky/2013/10/03/1159/ Communication is more than just words Effective Communication Skills • Emotional awareness • Managing one’s own stress • Nonverbal communication • Engaged listening Lawrence Robinson, Jeanne Segal, Ph. D., and Robert Segal, February 2014. http://www.helpguide.org/mental/effective_communication_skills.htm Trust • They want to know that you care before they care what you know. • Caring = 50% trust determination • Judged in the first 30 seconds • 75% of information about trust is communicated nonverbally. • Trust • Listening/Caring • Competence/Expertise • Honesty/Transparency Trust Factors in High Stress Situations The Art of Delivery in High Stress Situations • • • • • • • Prepare yourself Put yourself into a customer service mindset Actively listen Empathize Keep your cool Identify some solutions Be positive, if possible Communication Is Easier When We Are Calm Listen to Yourself • Make a conscious effort to hear how you speak. • Are you communicating positively? • What is your tone of voice? Bridging Statements 1.AnswertheQues.on 2.UseaBridge 4.Supportthe Message 3.DelivertheKeyMessage Bridging Statements Examples • Before we continue, let me take a step back and repeat that... • And one thing that is important to remember is.. • If we take a broader perspective, .. • What all this information tells me is... • Let me put all this in perspective by saying... Scenario 1: Loans are Not Financial Aid Scenario 1: Loans are Not Financial Aid Response: If we look at the big picture, loans help you to bridge the gap between your grants, work-study, and what you and your family can afford out of pocket. The federal loan programs have low interest rates. No payments are required while you are in school and most often the government actually pays the interest until the student graduates. 27.9.3 • 27 words (total of 27 words for all three key messages, with each key message averaging 9 words in length) • 9 seconds • 3 messages Scenario 2: SAP Notification Scenario 2: SAP Notification Response: You have not met the SAP guidelines. You have two options – complete the SAP appeal process to reestablish eligibility or pay for next semester out of pocket. Compassion, Conviction And Optimism • Use when asked a question with high-emotion • Compassion • Conviction • Optimism • Examples: • I am very sorry to hear about... • I believe that... • In the future, I believe that … Scenario 3: Loss of Job Scenario 3: Loss of Job Response: I am so sorry to hear about your dad’s job loss. Before you consider leaving school, can I walk you through an appeal process to explain your change in situation so we can consider your family’s change in income to consider awarding more financial aid? Our office has helped other students with like circumstances to award more financial aid to keep them in school. I Don’t Know Template • Repeat the question the person asked • Give the reason(s) why you don’t know or can’t answer • Indicate follow up with a deadline • Consider some of these responses • I don’t have enough information to answer your question, but I will certainly get the information you need. • I don’t have the data at hand, but I’ll get it to you later today. • Good question. Let me connect you with… • I’d like to consider that question and get back to you… Scenario 4: No VA Benefits Yet Scenario 4: No VA Benefits Response: Sounds like you are asking about when your VA benefits will be disbursed this semester. I wish I could answer this on the spot, but we need to check with the Registrar’s Office to confirm the enrollment certification has been sent. Since their office is closed for a staff meeting currently, I will contact you via email this afternoon. False Allegation Template • Use when responding to a hostile question, false allegation, or criticism • Paraphrase the question without repeating the negative • Use neutral language • Demonstrates the underlying value • Indicate that the issue is important if possible • Indicate what you have done, are doing, or will do to address the issue • Examples: • You’ve raised a serious question about “x”... • “x” is important to me... • We have done the following to address “x”. Scenario 5: Change in Aid Scenario 5: Change in Aid Response: I understand you are concerned about the amount of financial aid your student receives. At our college, we value every student, including your child. When we reviewed your financial aid last year, we used estimated year income because you were not working at the time. This created eligibility for the Federal Pell Grant, FSEOG, and FWS. Since you have reported a new income, we are now using your current income. I would be happy to discuss your financing options if you like. Handout Communications Template Practice Makes Perfect • Consider practicing these techniques • Create a group of 2 or more • One person student • One person administrator • One person observer(s) optional • Use or create student/parent statement • Decide what technique you might use, formulate your response, and perform scenario • Gather improvement feedback Email? • Before you sit down and bang away at the key board sending a flaming email, take a breath. • Wait a day • Consider drafting it in word first, rather than in your email program • The condensed version is usually more effective than the novel • Watch your address book Additional Tips • Remember where you are (people are watching) • Speak softly • Control your reactions • And remember, one important point, If possible end your conversation on a positive note Dan Dreves [email protected] Kathleen Roebuck [email protected]
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