Seven
Pints
Lite
Conran Thomas discusses the prevalence of
Male/Male Mutual Masturbation, the secretive
world of Heterosexual Male Penis Appreciation, and
presents evidence to show that many Heterosexual
Men enjoy viewing Male Masturbation without the
association to their sexuality.
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Self-Identified
Heterosexual Men and the
Male/Male Masturbation
Fetish
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Index
Chapter One
Introduction
Chapter Two
Traditional Perceptions
Male Friendship
Appreciation of the Penis
Fantasy V Reality
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Chapter Three
New Opinions
A Parallel Sex Life
Masturbation as a Hobby
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Chapter Four
Evidence
Existing Research
Ingredients of Male Sexuality
Experiences
Comradeship or Sex?
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Chapter Five
The Surveys
Introduction
Survey One
Survey Two
Survey Three
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Chapter Six
The Changing Culture
Influences in Sexual Evolution
Gay for Pay
Criteria for Cheating
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Chapter Seven
Conclusion
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About the author
Links and Resources
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Seven Pints ‘Lite’ is a condensed version of the full Seven Pints ebook
available from BlokeToys.co.uk and MensSexAdvisor.co.uk. Several
sections have been removed, including survey three, the most thorough
of the three surveys. I hope you will enjoy this version, but I also hope
you’ll consider buying the full copy for complete data and full analysis of
the survey responses.
Chapter One – Introduction
Secretly, I am hoping that you are not one of ‘those’, y’know… gay.
In actual fact I am. By all accounts this is the label I have, if I conform to
the rules of our society that is.
Don’t get me wrong, I have not an ounce of self-loathing when it comes
to sexuality. I am neither ashamed nor secretive about my desires. I am,
however, increasingly annoyed with the use of the three defining titles as
the ‘only options’ available to people, and that each of those labels have
specific sexual limitations and no deviation is allowed, as though we are
required by law to subscribe to a tribe of those ‘just like us’. And I’m
more annoyed that people follow so willingly, denying any exploration
beyond the set title, regardless of their sexual desires, ignoring the
obvious diversities within these sections of society. The truth is no one is
the same. I am not like any of you, nor are you like me. We all have a
million and one things that makes each of us original, a one-off, an
individual. And our sexual desires make up a part of what creates a
unique human.
You see, I am a proud believer in the work of Alfred Kinsey.
Regarded as the father of Sexology, Alfred Kinsey published his first
scientific study, “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Male”, in 1948. It was
closely followed by “Sexual Behaviour in the Human Female” in 1953.
Through his research, Kinsey developed what is now commonly referred
to as the Kinsey Scale, whereby sexual orientation is no longer limited to
the three currently predominating compartments of Heterosexual,
Homosexual and Bisexual. Kinsey asserted the scale of 0 to 7; 0 equalling
Strictly Heterosexual, 4 equalling Bisexual, 6 equalling Strictly
Homosexual and 7 (x) equalling Asexual, thus showing that there are
spaces in-between where a person’s sexual identity can no longer be
considered as simply one or another. He also asserted his belief that
sexual desires shifted over time, that what one may find arousing now,
may not be so arousing in a year or two, and vice versa.
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Kinsey believed that no person should have to define themselves sexually
in the terms we now use. He suggested that the terms Heterosexual,
Bisexual and Homosexual should not be used to describe a person, but
rather to describe a sexual act in and of itself. This assertion was based
on the evidence that sexuality is far too diverse from person to person,
and also changes throughout one’s life; what one may find sexually
stimulating as a young man may not be so in later life.
I am certain that Kinsey would not be pleased with the way our society
now deals with sexuality; the way we prescribe sexual acts per externallydefined label and lifestyle. People make assumptions about others
through their actions. But in terms of sexuality, making generalised
assessments of sexuality based on a single act does not adequately take
into account the various factors which combine to create the decisionmaking prior. A man may not actually be bisexual if he has made the
decision to have sex with another male; it could be based on sexual need,
the result of intoxication leading to an altered state of mind, a curiosity
led by adventurous attitude... there are any number of reasons why a
self-identifying heterosexual man might end up experiencing some form
of same-sex act.
If a previously heterosexual male allows another male to perform oral sex
on him, that does not make that man now bisexual. It simply means that
he allowed the act, enjoying it or not, for whatever reason he chooses to
ascribe.
The assumption is that 100% Heterosexuality is ‘the norm’, that a small
section of society is Homosexual, and that an even smaller section is
Bisexual. The truth, if we are to trust Kinsey (and indeed, a lot of modern
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between and that those who are truly 100% Heterosexual or 100%
Homosexual are the true minority groups in society.
In the previously unpublished paper titled “SO YOU SAY YOU’RE
STRAIGHT: The one in five hidden homosexual heterosexuals” the Late
Dr. Neil McConaghy, previously Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the
University of New South Wales until 1992 observes that Kinsey’s results
and assertions about the prevalence of same-sex attraction amongst selfidentified heterosexuals had been largely ignored by the scientific
community, while non-anonymous research, typically depicting much
lower numbers of same-sex desires (almost zero) were widely supported,
quoted and used as a basis for further discussion.
To reconcile the difference between non-anonymous and anonymous
results by the Kinsey group and others since, respectively, Dr. McConaghy
and colleagues conducted their own research with anonymous student
participants, all self-identified as heterosexual. Perhaps predictably, these
results more closely matched Kinsey’s previous findings of 50% having
experienced same-sex attraction, feelings or desires, and completely
exposed the falsehood of all non-anonymous sexuality research conducted
since, and that which is used widely as a benchmark for the study of
Human sexuality.
Moreover, Dr. McConaghy and his group conducted this same research in
two subsequent years and found similar results.
Therefore, it is clear that, since Kinsey, no adequately accepted or
properly represented research into same-sex desires and homosexual
attraction amongst heterosexual men has been conducted. Where such
research has been conducted, it has been ignored by the wider field.
The majority of people are not at point 0 or at point 6 on the Kinsey
scale, but somewhere between them. Whether that is evident in their
sexual desires and fetishes or in their actual sexual lifestyle, the majority
are certainly not at either end of the spectrum.
That is what I intend to present to you throughout this book.
Where everything good begins these days… the internet.
I suspect I am the same as many of you when it comes to guys, I like
them straight. Annoying though it is, I seem to find that a
disproportionate number of those who turn my head also turn out to be
chasing clitoris rather than cock. I have no real explanation for this other
than to blame mathematics and probability. Despite my extensive list of
straight guy crushes – and the resulting humiliations, catastrophic and
not so – I have recently begun to wonder if all is as it seems.
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I spend a lot of time surfing the internet, it is part of the modern life of a
writer. Many of us long ago abandoned the people-watching, hill-climbing,
experience-seeking traditions of great literary folk in favour of steeling
ourselves away from internet porn, lolcats and social networking just long
enough to write a few lines.
One of my favorite little islands in this digital sea is a forum where men –
and a very few women – discuss sex. It’s a fun place, as I’m sure you can
imagine, but it’s also an odd one where self-identifying straight guys
defend their right to enjoy watching – and playing with – each other.
I know, I was surprised too.
While discussing with these men, I quickly realized that it wasn’t as
simple as wanting to have sex with other men. More specifically, their
attention was on other men’s genitalia. The majority seemed entirely
focused on, and fascinated with, the idea of masturbating with another
man.
Some limited their explanations of their desires to watching porn with
another male while masturbating, but more were eager to experience
doing this for another and receiving it in kind.
Many of the men share experiences. While the majority seem to have had
experiences with male friends as a young man and wish to experience this
again, many of them do discuss their recent experiences with male
friends. A lot of them are specifically interested in finding a new male
friend to experience this with. How many of them would actively seek
such a meeting is uncertain, some of it would undoubtedly be a
masturbatory fantasy.
I shouldn’t have been so surprised by what I was reading. You see, I have
a close male friend who I often wondered about. He makes statements
and comments that completely baffle and befuddle me.
I’ll save his blushes and we’ll call him Danny.
Danny is in his early 20’s, and is a dangerously good-looking, athletically
built, masculine guy. He’s had several committed relationships with
women, has a young son, and is one of the most butch men you’d ever
meet. When I first met him he had that air of possibility about him. He
has changed a lot over the years that I have known him, and I’m not
entirely sure now why I thought that he was bisexual when we met, but
I’m glad that I did, and that I stuck with it.
When I was first getting to know him, he admitted (the circumstances of
our conversation elude me, but drink was involved) that he’d
experimented with a school friend as a teen. Nothing unusual there, and I
was pleased that perhaps my instincts had been correct.
Unfortunately he seemed certain that it was just a period of exploration.
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But we quickly became very close friends and have been for almost a
decade.
Over the past year he’s told me that his current girlfriend has given him
permission to fool around with other guys. Again, how this discussion
between them came up, I have no idea.
On a recent night out at a bar, my friend and I went outside for a smoke,
we came back and another friend at our table commented that it had
taken twenty minutes. Danny then replied that “a good blow job takes at
least twenty minutes”. Everyone immediately looked at me suspiciously
(they know my sexual preferences of course). What could I do but nod
and smirk, casting a few more doubts their way and creating a little more
mystery?
I have no doubt that he says these things to cause a reaction, just as I
stay silent or appear coy in response for the benefit of our audience;
Danny and I are like a suggestive double-act. But I also wondered if the
right circumstances would lead him into making these suggestions and
comments a reality. I wondered what it would take, and what I would
need to do to progress our friendship to this point.
So, after briefly weeping at the idea that all the straight men I’ve ever
fancied would have just needed some subtle encouragement, appropriate
porn and a beer or two (or equally intoxicating substance of choice), I
started to wonder what the figures would really be like, generally. It’s all
very well accepting the opinions of a couple of “straight” guys on an
internet forum, or taking the light-hearted comments of a straight friend
a little too seriously, but how does this possible widespread curiosity or
bisexuality exist below the veneer of the straight label? Is there an
underground club I’m not aware of? A covert society where the secret
handshake is a tug on the others manhood?
Are the members of various sites each supporting another’s false fantasy
that straight guys do get a little fruity sometimes? Are they all closet
bisexuals? And who can argue a guy’s sexuality is anything other than
what he states it to be?
I also wondered if Kinsey would find some very different results if he
conducted some of his research now, and via the anonymity of the
internet.
And so my first little survey was born.
But before that, we’ll go into the realms of what modern friendship
means, what a modern straight man is, and how so many aspects
combine to create the perfect confusion in male sexuality.
It should be noted that while I may use the term “Heterosexual”
throughout this book, I am of course pertaining to men who view their
own sexuality as heterosexual. It is always down to the individual to
determine and describe their own sexuality. I make no assumptions and
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state no guarantees about the respondents who participated in the
surveys. I cannot state, any more than you can, that another male is
heterosexual or bisexual. We simply have to trust, as we do in everyday
scenarios, that a person believes their sexuality to be as they state.
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Seven Pints ‘Lite’ is a condensed version of the full Seven Pints ebook
available from BlokeToys.co.uk and MensSexAdvisor.co.uk. Several
sections have been removed, including survey three, the most thorough
of the three surveys. I hope you will enjoy this version, but I also hope
you’ll consider buying the full copy for complete data and full analysis of
the survey responses.
Chapter Two – Traditional Perceptions
We have all been raised with an understanding about the society we live
in. We all develop social interaction skills in our early years, and continue
to develop these all the way through to our sexual awakenings and
beyond. Through the years we build an understanding of what others are,
what sexuality is, how others engage each other and relate to each other
intimately. During our adolescence we’re working out how our bodies
function on a basic level, and we compare to see how we match our
peers. The majority of us follow somewhat pre-destined paths based upon
what society expects of our gender.
But what if what we have been led to understand by society is actually
wrong? What if, as a lot of research suggests, sexuality in particular isn’t
as simple and specific as we are persuaded to believe?
We compete in society as a means to procreate. Men compete for the
attentions of a mate, fighting off competition just as occurs throughout
the animal kingdom. Society tells us that physical violence is wrong, but
basic natural urges to continue our own genetic structure through
procreation tells us that when we see a potential mate being taken from
us by a competitor, we should fight them.
Society tells us that it is immoral for men to have children with different
women, but nature feeds us the urge to experience new sexual partners,
and the creation of new life is very often an inevitable result.
We have societal rules and moral codes telling us one thing, and instinct
telling us the complete opposite.
So, what if, like this deep natural urge to fight our competitors for a
mate, there is another in which we are required to be sexually interested
in other males? It could be to enable us to learn, to gather knowledge of
what we are competing against, “intelligence gathering” if you will. It
could be to deepen the bonds between peers which may increase our
chances of survival. Or it could simply be that male-male desires are
subconsciously there to enable us to continue with the desire to procreate
while access to a female partner is absent.
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“Situational Homosexuality” is the suggestion that normally heterosexual
men may engage in homosexual acts when female partners are not
present. This proposal has been suggested in the past by scholarly groups
to explain why prison inmates turn to homosexuality while incarcerated.
All males have a sexual desire (with the exception of a very small
minority), built primarily on the very specific drive to breed, so it has
been proposed that the strength of this drive, encouraged by the
immense pleasure of intercourse, encourages men to continue to practice
sexual intimacy even when there are no women to engage with.
There is the additional argument of “why not wait?”
In everyday life, it is fair to wonder how this applies to instances where
heterosexual men have sexual relations with men when there is little
limitation in regard to the availability of female partners. There is rarely
occasion when females are not present in our lives, and if we are honest,
if the drive is that strong, finding a willing female partner is not so difficult
for the majority of men, if you leave your specific predilections at the
door, are willing to lie about your desires for commitment, or are even
willing to pay a fee. I dare say that, if one is not too specific, any man
could locate a woman willing to participate in some sexual activity.
In response to this slight quandary, I would like to propose that this may
simply be due to the desire for immediate gratification during arousal.
When we are aroused, our natural instinct is surely to locate a mate. This
is when we are at our peak in terms of capability to procreate. Basically, if
we’re horny, and there are no females around, doesn’t it seem likely that
sexual release and gratification of any kind, even with another male, is
preferable to nothing?
Given that the male sex drive is often compulsive and causes displays of
immense impatience when not immediately satiated, it could be
suggested that the same rules apply even in the shortest time span of an
hour or two.
There are always new things to discover, things our parents discovered
and never told us. But that’s part of life, and we enjoy it because it is full
of these little surprises. We learn things along the way, we discover that
not everything is as simple as we were once told. We discover that we are
different in lots of little ways, how we find these things out, and to what
level of knowledge is another matter...
Male friendship
As a teen I had one male friend who I was closer to than any other
person. I could tell him almost anything, and nothing I could do would
really damage our friendship. We were inseparable; if I was ever missing
from home I’d be with him, and vice versa.
We got into trouble together, skipped school together, smoked together,
drank together; I guess we were just typical unruly teens together.
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The role shifted to another friend in my late teens and there was perhaps
a period in my 20’s when my closest friend was female. But now, as I’m
in my early 30’s, I have another specifically close male friend, much like
when I was a teen.
While we are not inseparable (adult life gets in the way, relationships,
work commitments and the like) when we do socialize we consider the
other first and foremost. We communicate a few times a week and meet
for a drink a few times a month. I feel that I can tell him anything. He’s
carried me home from the pub when I drank far too much, and I have
returned the favour. We can ask the other their opinion on anything and
know we’ll get an honest response when we want one, or that they’ll lie to
save us from unnecessary pain.
We both have other friends, we do socialize in larger groups, but each of
us seems to automatically prioritize the other.
I believe this to be normal; I don’t think our friendship is any different to
those of men around the world. But I also believe this to be deeper than
merely friendship. I have no doubt that if he were so inclined we would be
sexual partners also. We have almost everything in common, we never
argue, it’s almost like the perfect marriage.
In many Western countries we have denied these kinds of friendships for
centuries, while other societies include them and accept them.
Writing for Charismamag.com, J. Lee Grady discusses the lack of such
close male-male friendships as it is associated to the Christian faith.
“In my travels I've noticed that men in other
countries feel perfectly free to be affectionate. Men
in Africa hold hands; in Latin countries they kiss
each other on the neck. Sociologists say male
affection was once more common in this country
(North America) —but it waned around the same
time awareness of homosexuality increased.
Nowadays, many straight men are afraid to offer a
consoling embrace to a friend lest it be viewed as a
sexual advance.” “Meaningful Male Friendship in a Disconnected Age
“ 2009
While the article does go on to include some predictable mentions of
homosexuality from a typically moderate Christian viewpoint, this one
statement is, I believe, an accurate explanation of the differences
between societies and the causes of the loss of this relationship from our
own social landscape.
We (and by “we” I mean predominantly Western European and American
culture) have lost the prevalence of male-male friendship, over the last
century at least, due to religious influence. While Mr. Lee Grady may put
this down solely to the fear of Homosexuality, that fear of Homosexuality
is directly related to the oppression of sexual communication (and
therefore acceptance) created by religious doctrine. We both blame a fear
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of being labeled as homosexual for the loss of such close male friendship
in our societies, but blame for the creation of that homophobia lies solely
at the feet of the religious leaders who have spent decades desperately
trying to convince people that a natural desire is not natural (this is an
oxymoron. If something is “unnatural” it cannot exist in nature. Therefore
if something exists, it is natural. A more accurate statement would be
that something is not “socially accepted” in the majority of the population,
and this is something that has never been open to public vote or opinion
poll sans religious involvement).
While Mr. Lee Grady points out that this decline in male-male friendship
correlates to the awareness of homosexuality, it will also correlate to the
rise in homophobia created by the religious right in response to that
increased awareness of homosexuality. The persecution itself could just
as well be the defining reason for the loss of this form of male friendship.
Perhaps society would have moved on after a brief struggle, were it not
for the religious in society condemning all those who are “other” to an
eternity in hell.
So, we agree on the causes, but not the catalysts.
Thankfully, the stranglehold religion has over our societies is weakening.
Baptism rates fell in America for the third consecutive year in 2007 based
on data gathered by LifeWay Christian Resources (data not found for
2008 or 2009 at time of writing).
A 2006 BBC article on the declining numbers attending religious services
in the UK and a resurgence of attendance by diverse ethnic groups stated
that:
“Churches in England have been in long-term
decline since the 1950’s; with an estimated one
million people giving up regular churchgoing in
the 1990’s alone. Overall, congregations are
generally older than the average age of the
population.”“Minorities Prop Up Church-Going” BBC 2006
It is a fact that more churches close each year than are opened, and
those that remain are either struggling to operate or attracting
predominantly ethnic minorities in regions where immigration and ethnic
diversity are high. But this reported upsurge in attendance by ethnic
minority groups is also going to be temporary. Traditionally they hail from
nations where religious teachings are vehemently pushed by each faith
group with assistance from the government in power. It is the current
numbers coming to the UK and continuing their practices which are
boosting the figures; it is fair to assume that the generation to follow
them will not be so inclined due to our existing social environment where
such religious following is already in general decline.
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As unfortunate as it is to state it, I think that this can only be a good
thing for society in general. For the mental well-being of society we need
to remove the stigmas attached to sexuality and we need to increase
discussion and the associated education such discussion can offer.
Religious organizations have traditionally shown a vehement, and
sometimes violent, response when challenged on the issues of sexuality,
and this is simply not conducive to a free and open society.
In short, religious organizations have failed to move on and reflect the
opinions and the diversity of our society, and as such they are doomed to
fail. In England at least, there are indications that the Church is moving
forward, begrudgingly. But they have, in my opinion, left it too late and
allowed too much debate over the simplest of concessions. If they had
embraced the sexual diversity of the people when the people were clearly
accepting such, they would have had a more secure future.
As it stands now, at least in England, the majority of open society freely
accepts homosexual lifestyle. We watch gay characters on TV with
fondness, we laugh at openly gay comedians, we accept equality (in
theory if not always in practice) in employment, we accept our friends and
family for the most part without taking sexuality into consideration. The
Church has been slow to reflect the opinions of the people.
If you don’t have an audience, you don’t have a show.
So, as traditional religious power bases weaken, it is understandable that
people will feel more able and free to express their desires and emotions
without the fear of being branded as a “sinner”. And in conjunction with a
growing acceptance of diverse sexuality, more will become less fearful of
being branded as homosexual when they offer a hug to a male friend in
need of a shoulder to cry on.
And we have the birth of “bromance”.
It is believed the word “Bromance” was coined in the late 90’s by persons
unknown, but its arrival into popular culture is truly marked by the
release of the film “I Love You, Man” (Bernard Gayle Productions 2008)
Peter Klaven (Paul Rudd) becomes engaged and suddenly finds that he
has no male friends close enough to be his Best Man. To rectify this, he
embarks on a series of “dates” to find a man suitable to fill this role. After
a series of disastrous meetings he gives up on the idea only to meet
Sydney Fife (Jason Segel) shortly after, and the two hit it off.
There’s a lot more to it, and I won’t spoil the ending, but needless to say
it is an affirmation of a deep male-male friendship.
It seems that shortly after the success of this film the word picked up
steam in mainstream culture and is now used commonly as a humorous
description of close male friendships.
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Seven Pints ‘Lite’ is a condensed version of the full Seven Pints ebook
available from BlokeToys.co.uk and MensSexAdvisor.co.uk. Several
sections have been removed, including survey three, the most thorough
of the three surveys. I hope you will enjoy this version, but I also hope
you’ll consider buying the full copy for complete data and full analysis of
the survey responses.
Chapter Four – Evidence
Existing Research
Sociologist Dr. Eric Anderson of the University of Bath, England, previously an
American high-school sports coach, is a preeminent academic focussing on male
gender issues as they relate to sport and masculinity.
He has penned several remarkable works, notably the award-winning In the
Game: Gay Athletes and the Cult of Masculinity.
In a recent study Dr. Anderson asked a sample of 47 previous high-school
sportsmen their experiences of same-sex activities. The young men were
all aged between eighteen and twenty-three, and had been American
Football players in high-school and then subsequently not been chosen to
play at the university level. Instead, they became cheerleaders.
40% of those asked admitted to having engaged in acts intended to
sexually arouse other men. These acts included kissing, mutual
masturbation and oral sex.
He also found that these instances were not limited to encounters
involving two males and a female, but that they included experiences
between two men.
He also seems to agree with my opinions about the decline of the
“homosexual stigma” and the increasing acceptance of diverse sexual
desire in self-identified heterosexual men:
“Men have traditionally been reluctant to do
anything associated with homosexuality because
they feared being perceived gay,” he said. “There
has been pressure on them to conform to the
notion that being male is about having traditionally
masculine traits, in terms of dress, behaviours and
sexual activities.
“But as more men are open about their varieties of
sexuality, it becomes less stigmatized to be gay or
to have sex with men. It is increasingly not a
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(Source: University of Bath)
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In the article “Is ‘Heteroflexible’ the new Gay?” gay writer Brent Hartinger
discusses the increase of male same-sex intimate relationships in modern
media. Specifically, he discusses several examples of male same-sex
interactions depicted in media involving heterosexual characters.
In the article he discusses the possibility that men are quickly discovering
that things are not as simple as they seem, and that sexuality is
extremely complicated and not able to be confined to “gay”, “bi” or
“straight” for the majority.
Personally, I believe that this is an accurate portrayal of how society is
diversifying when it comes to sexuality. Perhaps due to increased
exposure to same-sex relationships in media, the public are beginning to
understand these complexities and diversities a little more.
We are seeing a resurgence of attitudes that existed prior to the creation
of the word “Homosexual”, and media is playing a large part in waking
people up to the reality that we did create this term, and before that, men
had sex with men or women, or both, without requiring any label.
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Seven Pints ‘Lite’ is a condensed version of the full Seven Pints ebook
available from BlokeToys.co.uk and MensSexAdvisor.co.uk. Several
sections have been removed, including survey three, the most thorough
of the three surveys. I hope you will enjoy this version, but I also hope
you’ll consider buying the full copy for complete data and full analysis of
the survey responses.
Chapter Five – The Surveys
Survey One
After filtering the responses, we have 143 Heterosexual men as the
remaining respondents.
Q1:
What is your age?
Teens21
20’s 61
30’s 30
40’s 19
50’s 10
60’s 2
None answered as older though the options were given up to 90.
It’s interesting to see the numbers drop as age increases from 20’s, and I
think this is to be expected. It’s interesting to see that there are more
men in their 20’s responding to this survey than there are those in their
teens. I don’t think that this is indicative of internet usage or presence,
but perhaps more likely a measure of the supervision of parents and a
limited ability to partake in such sites where the survey was posted.
Relationship status
Single
Married
Dating/relationship
74
40
29
Masturbation frequency
Daily
Several times a week
Weekly
77
21
29
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Monthly
Never
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0
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Again I think the above responses are to be expected. At the very least
they’re unsurprising.
Types of pornography viewed
Female masturbation
Heterosexual sex
Male masturbation
Lesbian sex
Gay sex
90
88
83
78
72
This is where it becomes interesting. You’ll notice that 83 out of our 143
respondents admit that they watch pornography of men masturbating.
When broken down into age groups, the differences in what guys watch
are quite interesting. The responses are sorted by value:
Teens
Lesbian sex
Heterosexual Sex
Female Masturbation
Male Masturbation
Gay sex
14
12
10
7
6
20’s
Male Masturbation
Female Masturbation
Heterosexual Sex
Lesbian sex
Gay sex
48
42
41
34
29
30’s
Heterosexual Sex
Gay sex
Female Masturbation
Lesbian sex
Male Masturbation
21
17
16
16
14
40’s
Gay sex
12
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Male Masturbation
Heterosexual Sex
Lesbian sex
11
9
8
5
17
50’s
Female Masturbation
Gay sex
Heterosexual Sex
Male Masturbation
Lesbian sex
8
7
5
5
5
60’s
Female Masturbation
Lesbian sex
Heterosexual Sex
Male Masturbation
Gay sex
2
2
0
0
0
Note that of the 61 respondents in their 20’s, watching other men
masturbating was the preferred type of pornography. I checked these
results several times to ensure that they were correct.
In addition, men in their 30’s chose Gay sex as the second most preferred
pornography to view, over and above heterosexual sex.
Just over 78% of the guys in their 20’s enjoy watching other guys jerking
off. And when compared to Teens (33%), guys in their 30’s (46%) and
those in their 40’s (47%) there is a clear difference. But even those
differences and lower numbers for other age groups are fascinating. Why
exactly are ANY of these men enjoying porn of guys masturbating?
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There could be many reasons for this difference in figures, not least of
which being relationship status combined with opportunity. While it has
been shown that masturbation frequency is not necessarily affected by
frequency of sexual intercourse (Source – StateUniversity.com) we can
assume that being in a relationship may limit the opportunities to view
adult material, especially if such material may cause feelings of confusion
within that relationship, for either party.
As mentioned, teenagers are increasingly being restricted in their internet
usage by ever wary parents (and perhaps rightly so). While living at
home, it’s likely that net-savvy parents are more inclined to restrict and
monitor their teens on the net. It could also be a matter of economy; men
in their 20’s have the income or financial abilities to facilitate access to
pornography sites on-line beyond the capability of teenagers. Young men
in their 20’s are more independent of their parents, they usually make
their own choices and begin controlling their own finances.
It is also generally accepted that by the time a man reaches 30, he is
more likely to be in a committed relationship, settling down. His sexual
explorations are deemed to be relatively controlled by this point. Perhaps
this decline in percentage is simply due to men in their 30’s being less
able to view porn in private and without fear of being discovered? Perhaps
it is more about the availability of sexual intercourse by this age and with
a regular partner? There is also evidence that a committed relationship
doesn’t actually affect a males masturbation habits, although it probably
does affect their ability to view porn while enjoying the act.
But this change could also be due to opinions and observations. It could
simply be that men in their 20’s are more inclined to experiment and
explore because the opportunities to do so have increased with growing
access to the internet. Perhaps they are just in their 20’s at a good time
for same-sex exploration? Maybe the media exposure of alternative and
diverse sexualities since the 1990’s has helped them to accept their
same-sex desires?
I tend to believe that it is ‘all of the above’ and that no single factor is
necessarily more influential than another. It certainly seems that men in
their 20’s are less likely to be in a relationship where their porn habits
would be under scrutiny by a partner. And even if they were in a
relationship, there is a good chance that their female partner would be
equally open minded about such things too, or at least allow him to enjoy
it without argument.
Whatever the explanation for the differences relating to age, it raises
questions about the view we have of heterosexual men in general.
Although I realize I only have a small number of respondents to work with
here (there will be more later), all of these men state their sexual
orientation to be heterosexual. If you were to meet any of these men in a
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pub or at a football game, they would surely, if asked, state that they
were straight.
So what are so many straight guys doing watching other guys
masturbating?
This makes me consider the impact of fetish on these men’s sexual
desires, and it’s something I’ll discuss more later on.
Pornography watched or scenarios imagined while masturbating
(Placed in order of popularity)
Straight sex
Male Masturbation
Female Masturbation
Female friend/s
Female stranger/s
Lesbian sex
Male friend/s
Male stranger/s
Gay sex
114
80
78
73
64
62
37
33
24
Interestingly, for those in their 20’s the responses to this question give a
little more detail, showing that perhaps while the majority enjoy watching
other guys masturbating, it’s only a part of their porn selection.
20’s (Placed in order of popularity)
Straight sex
Female Masturbation
Male masturbation
Female friend/s
Female stranger/s
Lesbian sex
Male stranger/s
Male friend/s
Gay sex
52
41
38
37
33
32
17
17
11
So it seems clear that a lot of guys who identify themselves as
heterosexual enjoy watching other guys masturbating.
I wondered if these guys have had any experience. Most of us are aware
of the evidence that most men have had a homosexual experience by the
end of their teenage years, and this is widely accepted as being an
exploratory stage of sexual development and more about comparison and
the lack of access to a female partner during this turbulent time, so I
wanted to see just how this appeared in the survey respondents, and
perhaps if this would link with viewing habits.
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Have watched another guy masturbate
Allowed a guy to watch them masturbate
Have let a guy masturbate them
Have masturbated another guy
Have let a guy suck them
Have sucked another guy
54
48
35
32
19
13
20
37.7% of our heterosexual men have watched another guy masturbating.
It seems there is a steady pattern of them not being the aggressive
partner, perhaps being the one to receive predominantly from others. Of
course, the acts they perform with other guys seem to follow a scale of
being in the receipt of pleasure first, perhaps moving on to being the
giver when the stakes are raised higher. There is also the clear escalation
of sexual acts while the number of men engaging in it drops. This shows
that viewing a male Masturbating is more acceptable than physical
interaction, and that this physical interaction is more acceptable than oral
sex.
Would you masturbate with a male friend if they suggested it?
(Placed in order of popularity)
Probably
Absolutely
No
Maybe
57
44
22
20
Out of the guys in their 20’s only 13% would definitely not join their male
friend if he suggested them both masturbating together. 30% would
without hesitation and 39% probably would. Again, this shows the
appreciation young men now have for this act and their willingness to
share it with another male. I have no doubt that it probably also depends
on the friend in question, their level of trust and what boundaries are
already in place between them.
Which if the following is acceptable for a heterosexual guy to do?
Watching a guy masturbate
Masturbating a guy
Watching gay sex
Sucking a guy
109
73
62
46
It’s fascinating to see that more guys think that performing a sexual act
on another guy is more acceptable than watching gay sex. This leads me
to suggest that guys fixate on anal sex and associate this with being gay,
more than they would view masturbating another guy as a gay act.
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It also suggests that the research conducted where men were monitored
for erection while viewing gay porn is indeed not indicative of sexual
desires. Simply viewing men having sex (especially if it is anal
intercourse) might not encourage a man to become aroused, but
masturbating another guy seems to be more accepted. Perhaps the
results of previous research would be different if they substituted the
imagery of gay male intercourse with imagery of men masturbating
together?
It is clear that masturbation, either watching it, doing it or even helping
another man to do it, is accepted more than simply watching gay sex.
This suggests that masturbation among men is not necessarily viewed as
a sexual act at all, and it certainly doesn’t seem to denote sexual
orientation.
It’s surprising to see that so many of our straight guys think that
watching another guy masturbating has no bearing on their sexual label.
Survey Two
I feel I keep having to remind the reader that these are all self-identifying
straight men. Given our current perceptions of straight men around the
world, when considering what we are told about sexuality and the
associated desires, there should be no results to show any of our
heterosexual respondents even remotely interested in another guys
manhood. This clearly isn’t the case, and I feel obliged to constantly
assert this fact as it is the primary focus of this book.
We can expect a few here and there to show some interest maybe, but
they would surely be viewed as “confused”. We could argue that some
would be bisexual by nature, but in denial about it, even though that
option was given in the initial question.
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The fact that so many of our self-identifying straight men admit to
enjoying watching other men masturbating as a part of their pornography
material is enough to make this question of “closet bisexuals” irrelevant.
And even then, how do you assess a man as being heterosexual, bisexual
or gay other than by what he states his sexuality to be? Short of
strapping him into a chair and forcing him to watch specific material while
gauging the response of his genitals, there isn’t really another guaranteed
method of knowing another mans sexual desires aside from what he
describes them to be. And even then, he may not display any sexual
response to this visual stimulation, but be quite willing to engage in such
acts with others for reasons of curiosity, or simply for fun.
When we consider how straight men are portrayed and how we are
expected to view desire for each sexual orientation, how do results like
these support that common perception?
The truth is, they don’t.
But how is this transferred to everyday life?
Having been on several dating sites in the last year or two, I can confirm
that there are many heterosexual men out there wishing to meet the
same. Of course, when I say there are plenty of Straight guys out there, I
mean that this is how they describe their sexuality to be, it’s not defined
by any grand decisive tool, no series of tests and no superior being
dressed in a lab coat.
More often than not they are seeking another male for “casual” activities,
“no strings” fun.
But I wonder how many of these guys are following what seems to be a
trend. I wonder how many of them are simply looking for another penis to
grope other than their own. I’ve no doubt that most of them have little
interest in penetrating another guy, and even less interest in allowing a
guy to penetrate them. But clearly there is a large section of straight
male society who have a desire to see or touch another guys manhood.
If you’re like me (and I think a lot of you are) then you’ll have a general
wondering about how common it is for seemingly straight men to have
secret sexual rendezvous with other guys. When guys tell their partners
that they’re going to see a friend, to help them with DIY, play cards,
down some beers, are they sometimes kicking back, watching a porno
and whacking off together?
I don’t think it happens as much as I would like to imagine, but I do think
it happens more often that society and the “label police” would admit or
discuss. And I certainly think that a much larger number of heterosexual
men would want to do this but have never had the opportunity.
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I would suggest that the main stumbling block for this activity is men’s
fears of other men’s opinions. It’s the stigma attached to such activity
that holds men back from following their desires and acting on them.
While it seems that many men would willingly do this with each other,
and while many believe that many other men would too, there is the
concern about what their friend might think of them if they were to do
this or if they were to suggest it.
Although so many of our men state that they enjoy watching other guys
jacking off, and would probably do so with a friend if they were given the
chance, most feel that they might face ridicule or suspicion. So,
regardless of the numbers who would do this, and those who think their
friends would too, they still fear what the perceptions of their friends
would be.
Because of the general acceptance of sexual identity being limited and
specific to gay, bi and straight, these men believe that while a lot of men
would want to share sexual experiences together, they know that most
other men would immediately assume their sexuality to be something
other than heterosexual, which then traditionally places them at a
disadvantage amongst their peer group.
The perception that this is somehow strange or that this desire makes
them ‘less-than straight’ (supported by the rules of labels and the myths
spread throughout society of what heterosexual means) might be the one
predominant factor preventing men from actually sharing sexual activities
with each other; it all comes down to a fear of what their friend might
think.
The most likely way I can imagine that two straight guys would come to
this stage is through watching porn together, which many do. But going
beyond that and getting your member out to stroke has risks attached to
it; insecurity over body image, competition with a peer, fear of negative
consequences, fear of increased desire to do more and so on.
But I would state again that the predominant fear would be the
perception of the friend, and what they might feel is an ‘appropriate’
response to such a scenario. The friend might enjoy it and want to do
this, but the socially accepted assumption would be for them to laugh it
off, ridicule their friend or make judgments about their sexuality. So while
most men would probably enjoy it, and they think their male friends
would too, their gut response is to follow the collective perceptions, deny
all desire and maintain complete heterosexuality, in case their friend
didn’t reciprocate either through a genuine lack of interest or (more
likely) their own fears and the influence of common stigmas.
In a separate survey from the first one, but one with fewer respondents, I
asked a few specific questions about their sexual views of other guys.
There were 51 straight respondents in total for this short series of
questions. I know that’s not many, and not really a great way to assess
general trends, but after consideration I have decided to add them. You
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can disregard them if you wish, I am simply offering them as a small
snapshot of opinions amongst a small collection of heterosexual men.
36 believe that the majority of men check out other men in locker
rooms, urinals and showers.
70.5% of these guys believe that most other men check out other guys
when the opportunity is there. Is it safe to assume that these 70.5% do
this, thereby expecting other men to do the same? It seems unlikely that
they would think other men do this if they don’t do it themselves.
Either way I think they are right, but perhaps it is through curiosity and
comparison more than sexual desire. We all know that Humans seem to
have a reflex to see things that they perhaps feel they shouldn’t. It’s like
driving past a car wreck; we know we don’t actually want to see it, but
there is a subconscious urge to.
I think most guys do look at others in the locker room and showers, but
many probably don’t know that they do it, or they do it because they
can’t help it.
If it is because of a sexual desire, do men become aroused too? I don’t
think arousal is necessarily a problem in such scenarios even if desire is
present, because of the perceived risks of what other men would do or
say in response.
I recall times when I have become aroused in a locker room, and I have
no doubt that this was due to physical desire for my team mates, but I
kept this hidden well for fear of ridicule and suspicion. It never lasted long
because of such fears.
16 of them also think that guys think about these other guys later
while jerking off.
Interesting to see that 31.3% of these heterosexual men think that most
guys also masturbate while thinking of these other men and what they’ve
seen. So, two thirds of them believe that men only look for curiosity and
that there is no immediate sexual desire to see other men’s genitals, or
that even if it is sexual, it’s not necessarily enough to be arousing to
them.
14 of them state that most guys get an erection at one time or
another in a communal/team shower.
27.4% believe that most guys become aroused at some time in such an
environment. I think this is a modest response. Surely more men have
experienced this at some time in their life?
I think the remaining 37 are underestimating the ability of the male
member to spring to life at the most inconvenient times. But we also have
to consider what men decide is an erection. Men know when an erection is
in the very first stages, we can feel it starting. So it can be limited to a
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semi-hard state, and an erection controlled. It would be interesting to see
if this response changed if the wording was altered to include semi-erect.
36 of them say they wouldn’t mind if they saw another guy
masturbating in a communal/team shower.
70% wouldn’t mind. This says something about male acceptance of
masturbation. Surely this response flies in the face of what we think is
socially acceptable for heterosexual men?
Men know what it feels like to have an erection at inconvenient times, and
often the desire to masturbate is a powerful one. I think most of these
men might simply be understanding of what it feels like and forgiving of
the guy in question.
If you were to go to the gym tomorrow, would you risk jerking off in a
busy shower room in the hope that 70% of all men there wouldn’t mind at
all?
No, I wouldn’t either, I’d be too worried about the 30% who would care
and what influence their negative response would have on those who
otherwise wouldn’t mind.
23 stated that they would watch.
45% of these heterosexual guys would watch another guy if he was
jerking off in a locker room or shower. Again, this doesn’t suit what we
are expected to believe about male sexuality in society, but it shows that
it’s not just about knowing how awkward a boner can be and forgiving a
guy for acting on it. We’ve already discussed how masturbation is more
accepted between men and not always viewed as a sexual act, and this
seems to support the idea. It also supports the responses of men who
believe that there is nothing sexual in observing other men naked in such
an environment. With 31.3% of men believing that other men jerk off
thinking about what they’ve seen in such an environment, we can assume
the perception is that some would only watch for curiosity rather than
enjoyment.
15 said that they would join in.
29.4% would join another guy jerking off in such an environment. If this
is the case (and it appears to be so) I wonder how often this actually
happens? I think it is extremely rare indeed, but it’s an interesting
response nonetheless.
Isn’t it a shame that there are so few gyms where such a clause is
included in the membership contract?
15 would stroke in a communal/team shower if they knew other
guys would join in.
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29.4% would jack off in a locker room or shower if they knew other men
would join them. This accurately reflects the response to the previous
question of whether they would join another guy if they saw the same.
20 believe that if one or two guys were masturbating in a
communal/team shower most other guys would join in.
The perception amongst 39.2% of our men is that most other guys would
join in if they saw a guy stroking his dick in such an environment. This
doesn’t match those who state that they would, so we can assume that
some of them believe others would while they personally wouldn’t. It is
interesting to see this, as I had thought that most men believe they are
different or alone in their desires. Clearly, some think that other men are
more sexually open to this than they are personally.
8 of the 51 have seen
communal/team shower.
another
guy
masturbating
in
a
15 believe that this environment is sexually charged.
29.4% believe that a communal space with other naked men is a sexually
charged environment.
27 would stay and watch or join in if they saw a guy masturbating
in a secluded area.
I can only assume that this differs from the number who would watch a
guy in a shower room because of the risks of being confronted by others,
or the risks of feeling exposed. In a secluded area, a guy is less likely to
be caught watching another guy by his peers I suppose. Still, it is
interesting to see that 52% of these heterosexual guys would stay and
watch a guy jerking off or would even approach and join him.
Finally, I asked what the guys would do if, with a guarantee of no
negative consequences, a male stranger approached them and
suggested going somewhere to masturbate together.
Only 15 out of 51 said they’d turn him down. 36 out of the 51 would
consider going with him, or would without question.
70% of these heterosexual men would either consider jerking off with a
guy if it was offered, or would do so without hesitation.
26 of these 51 guys also think that most guys enjoy looking at
other men’s penises regardless of their sexuality.
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23 think that most men would jerk off with a friend if they had the
chance.
45% think that most other men would masturbate with a male friend if
they had the opportunity to do so. Again, can we assume that these 23
men would, or just that their perception is that other men would?
21 would choose a threesome of two guys and a girl.
Discuss Survey One & Two
I’ll focus here on what I’ve already discussed, what several interesting
areas of the survey might suggest. I’ll take each interesting answer in
turn and elaborate on it where possible.
Fist, the very interesting response to the question of what porn these
guys enjoy;
To recap, here are the responses:
Female masturbation
90
Heterosexual sex
88
Male masturbation
83
Lesbian sex
78
Gay sex
72
Specifically, remember that of the men in their 20’s, Male Masturbation
gained the highest response.
I’ve considered why this is. And at the moment the only thing that I can
assume is that it is generational, but not in relation to sexuality, more in
relation to technological knowhow. There is no doubt that, in general,
those under roughly 35 have a better grasp of the internet than those
over that age, and that the internet, along with an increased presence of
male sexuality in media generally, encourages men to explore different
aspects of their sexuality with anonymity.
Long gone are the days of building up courage and going into an adult
book store or movie theatre to satisfy a sexual urge, where buying a gay
porn film or a copy of playgirl would make the guy behind the counter
look at you with a suspicious sly smile. Now men can just turn on their
computer and find any sexually stimulating material they like and not
have to see a person making unspoken assertions about them.
There’s also an aspect of acceptance in this too.
Previously, men would think that if they liked looking at other dicks there
must be something ‘not quite right’ about them, they’d keep it secret,
bury it. Now they can go on the internet and find that, in fact, they’re not
alone at all. I think there are still a vast majority of men who think they
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are alone in their desires, or they have suspicions about what other men
enjoy but can’t prove it, but this number is diminishing every day, with
more and more men finding similar men with similar desires on the
internet.
Something that confused me for a while as a teenager, was why
seemingly straight men focus on a guys ejaculation in any adult film.
When I was about 17, I was watching a porno with a friend, who I do
believe was straight. While he obviously enjoyed the majority of the film,
the part he rewound and watched again to climax to was the guy stroking
until he shot. Of course I didn’t mind this at all.
But this did force me to wonder why straight men love watching other
guys in films to begin with. As I’ve mentioned, if a guy is 100%
heterosexual, why is he interested in such imagery?
There’s the argument that guys enjoy watching other guys having sex
because they understand the pleasure, they can see themselves in that
position; like guys watching a good footballer I guess!
But still, to appreciate another guy ejaculating surely means there is more
enjoyment specifically for seeing another man climaxing than appreciating
how it feels?
Next, we’ll look at question 6 “What kinds of male activity have you
experienced?”
33% of our straight guys have allowed another guy to watch them jerk
off, whereas 37% have watched another guy. We can assume that this
was either as part of a threesome, through webcam encounters or
through teenage exploration. I’m willing to bet that the majority will be
through teenage experimentation.
But as I mentioned before it is interesting to see that the numbers
decrease. To me this shows what guys are willing to do before they see it
as questioning their sexuality.
For instance, those who have given another guy oral sex, had also done
everything preceding that, but not all who have received oral from a guy
have necessarily performed any act on another, or allowed it to go any
further. Some have allowed only the receiving of pleasure, or stopped at
touching another guy’s manhood.
I believe this shows the “practicalities” associated with this kind of sexual
encounter between heterosexual men. It’s likely that their partner was
either gay or bisexual, or that he simply had a specific fascination or
fetish for another man’s genitals, and that the recipient allowed this act to
continue with limitations because they were not required to do more than
enjoy it. But it seems to be a process of bartering; one guy wants his
buddy to suck him, so he concedes to jerking off his friend in order to
achieve that.
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And now for question 7, if a close male friend wanted to masturbate with
you, would you do it?
Probably
Absolutely
No
Maybe
57
44
22
20
This is fascinating to me, and makes me weep in the memory of all the
guys I’ve ever wanted to see naked, and not dared to try.
A whapping 95% of teenage guys wouldn’t immediately say no. In fact
38% wouldn’t even hesitate.
Of those in their 20’s, 86% would also consider it, with 32% of them
eager to drop their pants without hesitation.
When we get to those in their 30’s, 70% of guys wouldn’t necessarily turn
a guy down on this offer, with 20% of them absolutely eager.
Now, a good thing to try here is to write a list of all your male friends,
and try to work all of them out. What would their response be if you
asked them this question, and are you so sure?
I’m not suggesting for a moment that you call them on it, but to consider
how they act around you; whether they’ve shown that they’re comfortable
being naked around you, if they would feel close enough to feel
comfortable around you in this new sexual way.
Consider yourself too. Have you ever shown them the same? Have any of
them seen you naked? What was their response?
Personally, I have caught a straight male friend admiring my manhood
when the opportunity was there. It was funny to watch him stealing
glimpses every few moments, and then adjusting himself subconsciously.
I didn’t expect this from him at the time, but after conducting the
research for this book I do now understand it. I fully believe that he fits
into this category of “heteroflexible” (for want of a better word). I expect
that he may have been open to some male-male sexual friendship,
probably limited to sharing masturbation and the admiration of another
penis.
Given the numbers above, I would suggest that a lot of us would be
surprised at the reactions of our male friends were we to suggest such a
thing or find ourselves in such a situation. I guess it depends on the
circumstances too though; beer, porn, length of friendship etc. But still,
only 15% of guys (in total of our guys asked) would decline the
experience. If 85% of heterosexual men would at least consider it,
perhaps it’s more possible than most of us believe?
Perhaps this says something about friendship. Most guys have close male
friends, but are they someone you’d want to see naked?
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If you have that trust and friendship with a person, surely seeing each
other naked is no problem. Maybe it’s just more about being in good
company, and both enjoying something together?
I personally don’t see how it would damage a male friendship, but is it
worth the risk?
So, my assertion?
Most guys like seeing other men naked; penis that is not their own.
Maybe it’s about comparison, competition or masculine aggression, but
they do enjoy it, even if the predominant perception of society is that
they don’t
The advent of the internet has allowed guys to explore this fascination
without it risking the perception others have of them, and therefore not
forcing them to question it themselves. The internet has also allowed a lot
of them to communicate with each other, showing them that they are
certainly not alone in their “strange” desires. They are slowly beginning to
find that they are actually normal, and that most other men are just as
sexually diverse as they are.
In short, they are increasingly finding that society has lied to them when
it comes to the specifics of sexuality.
Later on I’ll explore the internet a little more, offer a few links and
suggestions to show some more evidence that not all heterosexual men
are what they seem to be.
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Seven Pints ‘Lite’ is a condensed version of the full Seven Pints ebook
available from BlokeToys.co.uk and MensSexAdvisor.co.uk. Several
sections have been removed, including survey three, the most thorough
of the three surveys. I hope you will enjoy this version, but I also hope
you’ll consider buying the full copy for complete data and full analysis of
the survey responses.
Chapter Seven
About the Author
Conran Thomas is a British Writer and Social Observer. He regularly writes
articles and books tackling male sexuality as it is observed in our current social
climate, body modification (as it relates to male sexuality) and general male
sexually related subjects.
He also currently writes articles, product reviews and male sexuality guides for
the BlokeToys.co.uk male sex shop and is a member of the B8M8 Network.
Links and Resources
(All information correct at time of writing)
www.bloketoys.co.uk
UK adult shop exclusively for men. Suppliers of Fleshlight/Fleshjack toys,
lubricants, anal probes, butt plugs and masturbators. Includes an extensive
articles section covering various subjects from penis enlargement to increasing
ejaculation volume. Sign-up required to read some articles, but it’s totally free.
www.b8m8network.socialparody.com
UK Social Network for men to discuss and share masturbation without the labels.
Members join regional clubs within the group, share experiences and arrange
social outings and meets. Events can be both social and limited to discussion, or
intended for shared masturbation.
www.xtube.com
Massive site with user-generated content and sponsors showing previews
and clips of mainstream porn. Easy and free membership with no limits
on viewing. Complete community with groups and profiles which are
searchable.
www.gaytube.com
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Extensive site of gay streaming media, both user-generated and
mainstream. Basic search functions and member profiles allowing for
sharing of media with others.
www.rockettube.com
Gay streaming media site with everything the others offer. Mostly
mainstream porn but some user-generated. Extensive database of many
different fetishes from masturbation to uniforms to straight guys.
www.fucktube.com
Seems to be entirely professional clips of mainstream porn. Minimum
user-generated material. No real communication tools between members
that I could find.
www.pornhub.com
Mostly professional clips, not much user-generated material. Poor search
function. Does have facilities to communicate between members, but it
seems everything is limited depending on whether you’re a paying
member or just have a free account.
www.xxxstash.com
Again, more professional clips than user-generated, but a good collection
of everything. It seems they have a forum for members but I couldn’t
access it. Membership is easy.
www.jackinchat.com
Interesting site focused on masturbation with a chat facility and an
extensive forum used by thousands of members. Membership is free and
the site attracts men and women of all sexual persuasions.
www.solotouch.com
True accounts, fictional stories and techniques all related to masturbation
with separate sections for various pairings. Extensive archives going back
to 2002. Free to read and participate.
www.jerkoffbuds.com
Aimed at men, this site celebrates male masturbation with user-generated
galleries. Includes other sections for chat, stories and so on. Free and no
membership required to browse galleries.
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A fun site all about masturbation games, where users can challenge
others in some interesting and bizarre ways. Completely free to join.
www.advancedmasturbation.com
Complete resource site containing everything a man or woman needs,
tips, tricks, methods, experiences, stories, images, video clips... Appears
to be completely free.
www.jackinworld.com
Male masturbation resource; very educational.
www.masturbationpage.com
Large site with both premium services and a free to join forum with lively
and active discussion on everything masturbation related. There is a lot of
discussion and debate about sexuality and men’s issues.
Thank you for purchasing this ebook.
Seven Pints ‘Lite’ is a condensed version of the full Seven Pints ebook
available MensSexAdvisor.co.uk. Several sections have been removed,
including survey three, the most thorough of the three surveys. I hope
you will enjoy this version, but I also hope you’ll consider buying the full
copy for complete data and full analysis of the survey responses.
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