SOBER LIVING: MEETING OTHER PEOPLE WHO ARE SOBER
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Sober Living: Where to Meet Sober Friends
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1. Sober meetups.
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2. The gym.
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3. The library or bookstore.
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4. Volunteering.
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5. Go online.
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